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Ogt1:
Good day Nlers?

I have a teaching job which pays 30k monthly for now. I am not paying for an accommodation as I have a free accommodation presently.

I got a contact who connected me to a proprietor in cote d'ivoire who needs teachers. He said the pay will be 90,000cfa monthly. He offers to allow me stay in the school residence for a period of 6 months till I find my own . residence.
I want to know if 90kcfa will be enough to live comfortably in cote d'ivoire after paying for house rent which I inquired is paid monthly and can be as high as 30k-50cfa monthly.

Will this be a better move than the 30k job I have presently?

How much is 90kcfa in naira?


Kindly advise.

Thanks.

officialmario:
Good morning Nairalanders

I want to use this medium to seek for your advice..

Me and my wife has been together since 2014, although we have not done marriage as we only did introduction, but we planned having our marriage this year, we had two kids, but I think right now I'm not comfortable living with my wife.

I am not enjoying this relationship anymore, she keeps beating me whenever there is quarrel between us, she is fond of slapping me and giving me punches, at times she makes use of wire and and broom to scatter my head.

The one that happened on Monday is really giving me much concern, she checked my phone and saw a friend I was chatting with and instead of her to ask me about the lady, the next thing she did was to slap me and she started beating me to the extent of having right hand dislocation.. It's not as if she can beat me if I decided to fight back, I don't want to raise my hand on a woman, it's a curse and I don't want to do that, this is getting out of hand and I am not living comfortable at home again, we sleep on different bed, she doesn't allow me touch her again.

She is even planning to get a room by ending of this month when she gets her salary..
I told my sister about her behavior, the advice she gave me is that I should beat the hell out of her whenever she raises her hand to beat me.

I have pleaded with my wife to let us continue the way we have been doing before but she wouldn't listen to me.

I am really confused and I don't know what to do right now..

I need your advice my great people of Nairaland.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

sweetshisha:




Judaism is from Moses the true Prophet of Yahweh, and one of the few to see Jehovah in physical form.. it's based on the principles of Laws God revealed to Moses

Christianity is from Peter the friend of Jesus who denied him on the cross before death, son of Mariam, and Roman Emperor Constantine of Roman Empire, the murderers of Jesus son of Mariam.. principles of Christianity is based on European Paganism and devil worship... Like December 25 X-Mas or Easter

The only thing i respect about Lamidi Cownu is the fact that he knows Christianity is European slave masters bullshit and sticks only to Judaism like the true Isrealites

4 people to never allow in your ancestorial land

#1 Ibos. Aka No man's Land

#2 Fulanis. aka all lands belongs to Allah and Uthman danfodio

#3 Jews refugees from Europe, aka God gave us your land so leave the land to us and go away

#4 Chinese, aka we now own your land because some people took loan from us
You obviously know nothing about history. Stop misleading people please.

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Zeion422:
Come rain come sun i remain gunner's for live....if i no support arsenal which club i won come support

TonyeBarcanista:
By TonyeBarcanista

One of the major problems bedevilling the society is the collapse of relationships, courtships, marriages and family system. Although people in these failed relationships do credit their partners as those responsible for the collapse, but I believe that most marital relationship collapse due to the failure of men to be men! Being a man comes with some burden of responsibilities that nature in her wisdom has placed on male folks. The way and manner men, as family heads, realise and discharge these responsibilities will ultimately determine the fate of the relationship/marriage, and the beginning of this start at the foundation of the relationship. To have successful relationship, men should note the following;
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Starting A Relationship:
Before starting a relationship, it is expected of the man to determine his life's vision, as well as and his expectations from himself first and his would-be partner. He has to also determines physical and non physical features of his would-be partner in terms of beauty, physique, character, medical, ethnicity, faith, age, education, ideology, etc. Every man must determine his according to his heart desire and must not be coerced or bullied by societal or peers narratives to accept any standard other than his.

The next stage is to approach/woo only ladies that appeals to them and also pass character test according to their expectations. The character of a would-be partner is the very key as it determines the happiness or otherwise of the budding relationship/marriage/family. This is one step that no man can afford to gamble with. The ideological, faith, medical, and others must not be gambled with. The truth about relationship is that good character is not enough qualification for a man to decide to settle with a woman. A woman's ideology, perspective towards life, family, genotype, faith, culture, tradition, family, sex and other sociocultural issues goes a long way to determine her compatibility or otherwise with the man. For instance, a man that believes in the traditional hierarchial headship of a husband has no business getting married to a woman that doesn't hold such ideology sacred. Partners with fundamental ideologies different from each other have no business marrying each other. Doing so will only be laying foundation for an inevitable doom era. May I emphasize that NO MAN should relegate his ideology in order to accommodate any woman for any reason.

Set Ground Rules And Stick To It
Every man should lay basic ground rule governing the relationship from the onset and ensure strict compliance. One important area that should not be overlooked is the subject of privacy. There is no privacy between a pair as long as relationship is concerned. Each should have unrestricted access to the other, including knowing passwords of phones; it is not a sign of insecurity contrary to what society would want to make one belief, it is simply a testament of oneness. As a man, any woman that doesn't believe in "No Privacy" relationship is most likely hiding something from you and should be a no-no.

Post-Proposal/Marriage Stage
With all the aforesaid in check and confirmed, men in relationship should proceed to take only women that match their criteria and meet their respective physical, character, ideological and other fundamental requirements to the "village" and altar, and do the needful. The purpose of courtship is not just for "free sex", it is a platform for would-be couple to confirm compatibility.

Once married, men should be prepared for greater task as family head, and ensure he leads by example, while their partner (and kids) also live by the family standard. Men shouldn't be slow to assert authority, appropriate sanctions and discipline on whoever that derails from the path, including himself.

Some Key Responsibilities And Expectations For Men
Having established the above, a man must recognise that as the hierarchical head and burden bearer of the relationship and marriage, he is saddled with greater responsibilities and expectations than his partner and/or any other member of the household.
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Some key responsibilities/Expectations include;

Fairness: Being head of family doesn't mean the man is a higher human to the wife or the children. It only put him at the top of authority within the family. He must be fair in his dealings with his wife at all times, knowing that he is accountable to God and nature. In fact, a man that isn't fair in his dealings will never know peace in the home.

Leadership: As a man, you can't flout rules and regulations and expect the woman to abide by it. It doesn't work that way! Leadership is by example, and men who aren't living exemplary lose every moral justification to address err by his woman or even his children.

Independent Mind: A man should have an independent mind that is not influenced by peers or societal narratives. He must realise that issues that concern relationship and home affairs are unique and he doesn't need popular opinion of relatives and strangers (on and off social media) before taking decision.

Openness To Ideas; Although a man is expected to possess independent mind, he is bound to open his mind to opinion and ideas of his woman on virtually all issues without having an impressionist mind. Though a man is the head and final authority, he is not omniscient. He may not even be the most knowledgeable between the pair. Even if he is the most knowledgeable, he may not be the most knowledgeable on the issue in question. Also, there is a wise saying that no idea is a waste, this applies to relationship. His final decision must be in the overall interest of the union irrespective of whether it comes from him or his wife.

NB: Without prejudice, a man must insist on decisions and actions that he is of a strong conviction that is of the benefit of the union/family even if his partner insists otherwise. But he should be prepared for the consequences should the action/decision yield unfavourable outcome.

Responsibility: A man must be first be responsible to himself and the woman in his life. A responsible man is one that knows his onion and live a life worthy of emulation. An irresponsible man cannot lead a woman not to talk of family.

Accountable: Although his woman is accountable to him in all things, the man is expected to first account to himself and the woman in his life. That way he shows a pathway for the woman to follow.

NB: A woman that is not prepared to be accountable to the man is a no-no irrespective of other factors.

Financial Stability: While no one expect a man to be very wealthy or live in affluence before meeting a woman, it is expected that he should at least have source of livelihood that to be able to cater for his needs and that of his partner/family. Any man that is yet to have good source of livelihood should suspend the idea of marriage altogether until he is ready. It is not a crime to be broke, but it is a sin for a grownup man without anything doing to be talking of relationship and marriage. The reason is simple, the woman is not meant to take care of financial any burden! It is the man's responsibility to cater for the woman and the home while the woman gives helping hand. I repeat, the woman is meant to give helping/supporting hand and not to inherit the main burden.

Chief Planner: The man in the relationship is chiefly responsible for making short and long term plans to ensure that his relationship and home doesn't suffer; and ensure that he sticks to it. This is very important as those who fail to plan end up losing it. Although a woman is expected to partner her man, it is still the man's responsibility to ensure things work as the Planner in Chief.

Physical/Mental/Emotional
/Sexual Fitness: Every man should always take priority of physical, mental and sexual fitness. A man who is weak physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually is not appealing to a woman. In fact, no woman wants, deserves nor desires one who is physically weak, emotional wimp, mental retard and one who cannot perform sexually (not saying men should start using drugs). Men that fall short in these areas will have serious problem in their relationship/family. It is the duty of the man to work on his weaknesses!

Discipline: A man should discipline himself as by doing this he creates precedent for his partner and children to follow. No man should tolerate or forgive indiscipline in his home, not from himself, his woman/wife/girlfriend or children. Discipline is one of the way of expressing love.

Godfearing And Godly: All said, this is the most important. Any man that fears God will love and honor His Words, and will want to live godly life; and thereby be the best man any family would have. By this I don't mean outward religiosity (like many) or mere churchgoer, but for one to have reverence towards God Almighty and to follow His word.

Finally, marriage is not a bed of roses but it is a union ordained by God meant for human pleasure and not for humans to endure. But it is the duty of the man to seek and insist on woman that meets his desires and matches his expectations to have his dream home.

May God Bless Us All...

fairfora:
This is a serious matter. I have a cousin who always complains of itches in her private part. She came visiting us the other day and she was scratching her private part so much that she's opening up her legs wide apart. It happens only when she feels severe heat around that place. She said the more she scratehes it, the more it sweetens her

Shes been to hospitals, run series of tests. But nothing could be said to he happening to her. The doctor only said she's reacting to something. Shes still on medication as I speak. She's not the wayward type and she doesn't mess around from what I have studied so far about her. Her husband was forced to run series of tests too and nothing threatening was found.

ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life. Love u bro!

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

nony43:
Is he a Muslim? Why is he answering Paul?

ELVISHOT:
Likes for Ronaldo.

mssrosa:
Hello Fam!

This is something I wish I wouldn't have to do but I am left with no option as I am at the crossroads.

My brother started smoking lets say about 6-5 years ago, I only got to find out 3 years. He is my immediate elder brother so we are pretty much close, we are also from a Christian family and I can assure you that we were brought up very well. We have other elder siblings (boys).

From his story, I found out he started smoking when he got into University. He got into the federal university in my state and since we weren't based there, he lived alone in the family house.

This is someone who got into school and for his first year studying engineering, he had a very strong 2.1 and bagged Agbami scholarship. Fast forward to 3 years later, he dropped to a 2.2(which he later graduated with) and lost his Agbami scholarship. This same year he came home for hols and started being all by himself. One way or the other, my parents caught him smoking one day, dad scolded him, mum did same but later on went to plead with him to stop. He promised he would but still went back to smoking.

Right now before he goes to someone's house to maybe spend few days he would ask questions like: is there a backyard, is there a lone time in the house? Privacy etc, just so he would smoke.

He smokes weed EVERY single DAY!!!
And now he is getting really slim, anytime I try to talk to him about it he gets angry and walks away.

Just few days ago I noticed he has been drinking something he calls "purple"(he mixes it with maybe coke or ChiExotic). I went into his room and saw a bottle of tutolin which is obviously his "purple". I asked him why he was drinking it, he said he felt like and I told him I was gonna tell someone in the family.

NOW TO MY QUESTION

Should I go ahead and tell a family member/all or I should keep talking to him?

Mediapace:
Na your christmas

I don't know why many are pained about christmas being celebrated on 25th

Is it your christmas .

So you want to tell me you believe that the earth came into existence 2016 years ago and you really believe january 1 is the beginning of new year ?

If your answer is no then gerarahia


We picked a day to celebrate the birth of our lord Jesus christ and we agreed on 25th since calendar wasn't in existence during the era of Jesus.

If you don't like it,you can celebrate your own christmas on october 1

max001:


https://www.google.com.ng/amp/punchng.com/abuse-the-naira-face-imprisonment-cbn-warns/amp/

Bolustical:
I am very happy Prof Tunde Adeniran is losing out,

Because the region that desperately wants the VP slot in 2019 will have to forfeit it.

The SW is too relevant for the PDP to maltreat and believe me or not, the VP seat is that compensation.

ivolt:


No career is as lucrative as Pastorpreneurship.

normaljenny:
16 YRS WAS ENOUGH TIME TO DO JUST THAT AND THAT COULDN'T EVEN GIVE US LIGHT.

PDC SHOULDNT WORRY, WE CAN TAKE CARE OF OUR CHILDREN'S SCHOOL FEES. WE DON'T NEED A FREE EDUCATION, WE JUST WANT YOU PEOPLE TO STOP BEING PEN ROBBERS

temitemi1:
my role model is at it again

tosyne2much:


http://www.tosyne2much.com/2017/01/10-nigerian-jobs-that-may-turn-female.html

Ifexxy:

It looks like grabbing of butts is the latest trend....

http://thearticleng..com/2016/12/another-husband-to-be-grabs-wife-to-be.html

awomike4u:
After 16 solid years of fruitlessness,fraud,corruption etc.. My people, this agbaya no get shame o. Bye bye to People Dejected Party(PDP)

9janewsarena:
Emma Nyra says ladies should stop blaming the other woman when their men cheat..Instead, blame the guy..
Meanwhile, most ladies prefer to blame the other woman especially if she is aware of the man's relationship status.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BEjeTTAhMPF/

Sweetlemon:
Ok. Now that Baba has started fighting his own kinsmen for Nigeria I wonder the next excuse wailers will churn out for hating him. Maybe they will start asking him to come and help them solve their family's issues

Sai Baba a million times!
Nigeria willl work wether some elements like it or not.

jchima14:


Aside from the religious bill, he is doing great things for kaduna

jchima14:
Although this might be to early, this list is necessary to give kudos to state executives that have hit the ground running and are performing according to the expectations of the electorates. This list also serves as a wake up call to governors who are yet to get a grasp of their duties, to start in earnest to deliver the dividends of democracy to their people. The list also aims to encourage the governors listed so they can continue their good works and know Nigerians are watching. Lists of five governors who deserve a second term based on their performances so far...



1. Nasir El Rufai (Kaduna): The diminutive former minister of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), is replicating the sanity he brought to public office in the nation’s capital in Kaduna state. From his costs cutting measures, to his tax reforms and his open budget policy, El Rufai is showing that transparency is achievable in government in this part of the world.

2. Akinwunmi Ambode (Lagos): Ambode has shown that he is capable of surpassing the achievements of Fashola. He has focused more on the suburbs in Lagos which is endearing him to a large section of the populace in Nigeria’s mega city. The rehabilitation of major roads like Ejigbo–Ikotun, Okota-Cele and Acme road in Ikeja has opened up the state. The light-up Lagos project and the refurbished Lagos state security trust fund and the civil service reforms are also worthy to be mentioned.

3. Udom Emmanuel (Akwa Ibom): Among his achievements so far are the commissioning of a led factory at Itam and an automobile assembly plant at Itu. He has also embarked on laudable projects like the dualization of Ikot Oku Ikono – Etinan road with flyover at Ekom Iman, construction of Ikot Ebekpo – Ikot Ebidang road in Onna and the urbanisation of Oron and drainage control system.

4. Aminu Tambuwal (Sokoto): His government announced a policy that will criminalize refusal to send children to schools and followed the policy immediately by recruiting 500 teachers to address the shortfall in teaching personnel in public secondary schools in the state. He has also registered 25,000 youths expected to benefit from a skills acquisition scheme over a two year period.

5. Dr Okezie Ikpeazu (Abia): The inauguration of the Ibeme, Awom-Ukwu, Umusokoro Ikwuano and Ohiya electricity projects shows that the governor is in a hurry to deliver the dividends of democracy in the state. The reactivation of the Umuahia water works and technical and vocational educational training is also a commendable move. The setting up of Aba Urban Renewal to restore sanity in the commercial city.

DO YOU AGREE WITH THE LIST?


SOURCE: http://thesummary.com.ng/index.php/news-categories/politics/item/6676-5-governors-that-deserve-a-second-term-in-2019

jchima14:
Although this might be to early, this list is necessary to give kudos to state executives that have hit the ground running and are performing according to the expectations of the electorates. This list also serves as a wake up call to governors who are yet to get a grasp of their duties, to start in earnest to deliver the dividends of democracy to their people. The list also aims to encourage the governors listed so they can continue their good works and know Nigerians are watching. Lists of five governors who deserve a second term based on their performances so far...



1. Nasir El Rufai (Kaduna): The diminutive former minister of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), is replicating the sanity he brought to public office in the nation’s capital in Kaduna state. From his costs cutting measures, to his tax reforms and his open budget policy, El Rufai is showing that transparency is achievable in government in this part of the world.

2. Akinwunmi Ambode (Lagos): Ambode has shown that he is capable of surpassing the achievements of Fashola. He has focused more on the suburbs in Lagos which is endearing him to a large section of the populace in Nigeria’s mega city. The rehabilitation of major roads like Ejigbo–Ikotun, Okota-Cele and Acme road in Ikeja has opened up the state. The light-up Lagos project and the refurbished Lagos state security trust fund and the civil service reforms are also worthy to be mentioned.

3. Udom Emmanuel (Akwa Ibom): Among his achievements so far are the commissioning of a led factory at Itam and an automobile assembly plant at Itu. He has also embarked on laudable projects like the dualization of Ikot Oku Ikono – Etinan road with flyover at Ekom Iman, construction of Ikot Ebekpo – Ikot Ebidang road in Onna and the urbanisation of Oron and drainage control system.

4. Aminu Tambuwal (Sokoto): His government announced a policy that will criminalize refusal to send children to schools and followed the policy immediately by recruiting 500 teachers to address the shortfall in teaching personnel in public secondary schools in the state. He has also registered 25,000 youths expected to benefit from a skills acquisition scheme over a two year period.

5. Dr Okezie Ikpeazu (Abia): The inauguration of the Ibeme, Awom-Ukwu, Umusokoro Ikwuano and Ohiya electricity projects shows that the governor is in a hurry to deliver the dividends of democracy in the state. The reactivation of the Umuahia water works and technical and vocational educational training is also a commendable move. The setting up of Aba Urban Renewal to restore sanity in the commercial city. U must be a big fat fool to hv included El,rufai

DO YOU AGREE WITH THE LIST?


SOURCE: http://thesummary.com.ng/index.php/news-categories/politics/item/6676-5-governors-that-deserve-a-second-term-in-2019

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