I work as a third party in an organization (firm A employed me to work for firm B). After the interview by firm A I was posted to firm B to work and I was told by firm A how much my salary is. I was happy that I have gotten a place to always resume at though the salary wasn't much.
After working in firm B for about 4 months I realised that firm A have been under paying me to the tune of almost 20,000 per month. I was short and my morale went down. I discussed it with one of the workers in firm A and he said I should wait for a perfect time to bring it to the notice of firm B.
It continued till I got that perfect time and it was about 8 months later. the moment I brought it to their notice (firm B) the manager was furious and called the manager of firm A that they must pay me back all my arrears and also with immediate effect place me on the salary on the contract.
To cut the story short, they placed me on the salary scale of the contract and they have also paid the arrears completely.
The moment I got the alert the manager of firm A called me to come over. I got their and he was telling me how the management have agreed that I should return part of the money with plenty stories. I told him I will get back to him if to return it or not.
I am so confused on what to do. If I decide to report to the manager of firm B they might decide to cancel the contract with firm A and everybody will go home. But the manager of firm B might decide to absorb me in the next contract because of the relationship I built with him overtime.
Still viewing from this other side of firm A, if I don't return the money they might decide to sack me and give nonexisting reasons though it will still jeopardise the contract.
Please I need your advice on what to do...... should I return the money or I should keep it and report to firm B on the plans of firm A?
Nairalanders pls help.....
Keep the money. The truth is when the contract ends in June, firm A will not retain you (they will always want people they can control and shortchange). Firm B may or may not retain.
So just keep the money and enjoy extra 20k every month till June
What do you think guys? I will be arriving from Enugu. I plan to leave the day of the accreditation on 5th, if I arrive the accreditation venue by 3pm, hope it will still be on and I can still be attended to. I also plan to leave the next day immediately after the interview as long as I finished before 3pm.
Kawlingz: Your international passport data page should have appeared on the pdf version. Maybe you should look for a way to go around that. but it should be the data page of your international passport showing your picture, not just an ordinary passport photo.
I uploaded the data page of my international passport during the application. Yet, as has been reported before, it didn't appear. In fact before submitting the application, when the pdf version came up and I didn't see any pictures on the image side, I had hold on submission and went back to the pages to be sure there was no place I skipped where my photo should have been uploaded.
My question is fellow applicants, did your own come up with the data page of your passport or none. If yes, I will know how to attach it on the pdf before printing copies for the interview.
And so we we did this small project for a course mate during my university days. Her husband built the house, having seen our works on Facebook, she insisted we paint the house.
Please I need candid advises on my family issue, I had to bring it here because I am totally shocked and confused.
I am married with a kid, I got married in December 2016, so my marriage is just a year+. My husband is a cleric, and I am out of job presently, we thank God we are doing okay. I had a job before I got married, but after conceiving , the hormones kicked in and I couldn't keep up with work regularly. I was even hospitalized at some point. It was a private company so they had to terminate my appointment.
I am yet to secure another job till date , though hubby have plans of setting up a biz for me, but the plan hasn't yielded due to financials. I also make confectionery(chin chin ), cream and soap only when ppl place order.
I used to work as a contract staff in a bank for 2 years, the contract ended and I had to wait for six months before joining d private firm as stated earlier. While working in the bank, my pay was 70k which was half of what a full staff gets, and I had to pay rent of 200k annually for a self con in Lagos Mainland. It wasn't easy for me as a lady, taking care of my bills, rent, transportation and all. I still strive to save at the end of the month, and in all ds, I was sending money to my parents and siblings, not every time, but most times or when they contact me. I paid my younger brother's school fee once and was mandated by my dad to send stipend of 5k to my younger brother monthly. I only got the chance to do that once, before I stopped working with the bank. Apart from the 5k and school fee that my dad knows about, I still send him money which wasnt made known to them.....
The main issue now is that my dad instructed my younger brother to contact his elder sisters(3) and ask us for the amount we would be sending to him monthly (he is still a student). I was angry when he passed the message to me via whatsapp. He was even rude in passing it, didn't say "hi or "hello" ,he just started with "your dad said". I addressed d way he passed it, told me he was sorry, and I told him I will get back to him on d money issue, also told him I know things that needed to be done by me when and if I have the means, and clearly I once had d means and I was contributing then. I called my elder sister to confirm she got the same msg , and she told me that her Husband said d message was wrong since our dad is still alive. I also discussed with my husband, and he said he understands and it's not a big deal when there is enough to go round, but right now we are still trying to stand right which is true cos all d burden of our family is still on him.. He also has ppl he renders financial help to (family, friends, strangers), and he does for my family too when need arises. He has also given my parents money not once not twice.....
Well, hubby called my dad today to greet him only for my dad to address the issue of my younger brother. He told my hubby he and my mum trained us academically so that we can pay back when we start working, said its my husband's responsibility to send money to my younger brother since I am not working and married.
Haha, I was sad hearing ds because I don't understand how training of one's children academically equals financial payback, and how my family's responsibilities becomes my husband's cos he I am married to him.
I forgot to mention that my mum invited my hubby about 3 weeks ago to address issue of us not giving her money regularly and me not working yet. She told my husband that they all know we are comfortable, Shoo, these ppl don't even know how we live, they believe we are doing extremely fine cos we've Neva asked for loan or help. My mum just retired from a government job last year, she's doing okay and dad still works too, also doing okay.
Please, how do I go about this? How do I make them see its not mandatory, but voluntarily (my brother's finances)? Or am I being wrong, is it their right?
I apologize for the long post,please.
Awaiting responses....
Let them know how u live, that it is not easy for u and your husband at the moment.
Secondary, your dad still works, and your mum just retired... Do they still have dependants apart from your brother?
Their mindset is totally wrong. Good a thing you are sane enough, else it would have wrecked your home. Because u would side your parents n not your husband.
Stick with your husband. You guys have a family to build. If your parents who have the means cannot take of themselves, let them leave it.
ItzChinnex: So I stopped replying her messages on WhatsApp because she was too over demanding.
I once met this Girl in the room of my guy when she came to charge her only God knows what, then I fell partially in love with her. I collected her number and I started courting her on WhatsApp which she consented.
In the space of 1weeks, she demanded for airtime which I innocently sent her an amount of N1500. I believed we where flowing not until she asked again in a space of 5days, not that I hadn't the cash to send but I was just trying to use my common sense by telling her I will send but not immediately.
It was during this time I had a rethought about this and stop replying her messages on WhatsApp. We didn't communicate for about 2 months not until yesterday, she called me and said that she was angry with me for not contacting her for a long time. She said I should come to her hostel to see her.
I decided going to the hostel because I had in mind that after I see her, I will go to my guy's lodge around that area.
Before i reached her hostel, i branched to a bank around my area but the crowd was enormous, I had to see her like that because I can't wait. When I reached her hostel, i entered, she was on bum-short. She was like, where is my Valentine gift, I told her when I would be going home, we will branch to the bank, that I had no cash right there with me. Her mood suddenly became gloomy but she didn't wanted making it oblivious. She asked if I would eat, I said no, she started using indirect means to make sure i lavish on her. Our conversion was like
She: My phone is really bad Me: oh, really? She: yea.. It's a techno phone Me: oh, nice phone. She: but I can't use it because it's bad, I need a new phone Me: No response* She: you can get it for me as a Val gift. Me: lol.. Yeah sure. She: please let go to the bank now, Diamond bank is very close Me: The line is to much, I can't stand under the sun She: You will wait here, I will go for you Me: C'mon I can't give you my Atm She: OK, you have Mobile App right? Please transfer some money for me so I will buy the phone Me: I don't have a Mobile App She: OK.. What about your sim? I can transfer with your sim, hope you registered your acct with this sim? Me: no, I didn't
I waiting for like 5min, and all she was talking was Money Money Money. I felt some uncomfortable And I told her to be ready That on Saturday, I will send her the money and even take her out. I Collected her account details and boom, off I go. I think, today would be the very last day I would chat or even communicate her again.
She is not ready for a relationship. She sees u as a Maga. Keep off.
Saw a girl in Lagos that I liked, but I had only three months to stay in the city. I was not about starting what I couldn't finish, and NYSC was month or two away.
She was beautiful and had all I could ask for. However she looked too young for me to make a move yet. She was probably 16 or 17 from her looks so I shifted. She likely did not notice me or the fact that I existed.
I left the city, for Port Harcourt and later Anambra where I am currently serving. After leaving the city, I never thought of her, don't know anything about her to use in remembering her. Had no pictures of her, I didn't have her contact, hell I did not know her name.
A few weeks later I saw a friend request from her and a message. My heart jumped, I searched the profile to be sure am not being pranked on. The profile was real and I saw her pictures that she posted when she was less than 15 years.
I responded calmly and diplomatically, didn't want any sign that I was madly in love with her. We chatted here and there for over 3 weeks and then she made a statement. "I don't want your girlfriend to beat me". Then and there I knew she was IN for me the way I was OUT for her. I went for the killer move and the girl was mine.
Doubted her for some time even after we had promised ourselves to each other. She was young, she was exceedingly beautiful and she was intelligent. Why is she singling me out of the thousands of guys that will be disturbing her? I am not rich, am just promising. I am not handsome, just an average guy in every measurement. Why is she planning to stick with me. I never believed her. Hence I still developed emotional attachment to ladies who came around, after all I was miles away from her.
But since the last three months (starting November), I stopped paying attention to girls coming my way. Despite her physical absence, we speak and chat everyday and last two weeks something happened that made me no longer consider myself single. Something that your girlfriend will never do.
SHE GAVE ME HER FACEBOOK PASSWORD.
I realized that she is from the category of girls that have fallen truly in love and I was mad to find out. All the guys that were messaging her she ignored or told them to get off her lane. She was for me 100% and I was ashamed that I doubted her love. We are now logged into each others account and I am apologizing everyday for one nonsense chat I had in the past (them plenty).
Guys she is for real. She has never asked me for money for one day. That is one of the hallmark of true love, it doesn't come with a price tag. I have found that the best things in life are free and unconditional;
1. A mother's love
2. Air to breath
3. Land (Nature's free gift)
4. Life
5. God's Love for man
They are all free
(If your relationship has a price tag or is based on money guys na prostitute you dey date)
Am officially signing out of the SINGLE AND SEARCHING CLUB. Thanks for reading through.
Conclusion 1. True love still exist in Nigeria
2. Not all girls are the same
3. Catch them young
Shebi we dey here... No cum create another thread here about how girls ain't loyal. Dat Bae still blind n naive... Wait till she go uni... Unless u are marrying her next year... Else, shebi we dey here
cuteoly: I have been a member of this forum for long but hardly comments on posts but I do read to learn from people. Please I need your advice as to know what to do. I got married in 2013, my hubby is a civil servant. We didn't date. It happens that I finished my NYSC and worked in Lagos for about 6 months before coming down to Enugu because my Dad was ill and I came to take care of him. He later died 11th September 2012. My hubby after coming to see my Dad at home(that's before his death) took interest in me and asked for my hand in marriage which I refused but he kept insisting, my mom wanting me to stay close to our home town insisted I must marry him. She cried to me that she knows the guy and his family since he was little and that he is trustworthy. When my Dad died my hubby participated in his burial very well that the whole family started saying he will make a good inlaw. Sept 2013, we wedded and I gave birth in 2014. My problem started in 2015 when I saw a text message in my hubby's phone by a lady telling him they won't be seeing each other again because her circulation started that night. I woke him up that night and showed him the text, he pleaded that he was sorry which I forgave him. Few weeks later, I got another text by another lady on a sunday telling him that if he doesn't come to see her now, that she will leave the house. I kind of chatted the lady as if it was my hubby and was saying stuff like she didn't cook anything that she was waiting for him to come. I still wiped the whole text and pretended I didn't read anything. Most times he comes back with hotel receipts and when I ask him, he says he just hanged out with his male friends. On wednesday this week, I saw 2 condoms in his pocket and when I asked him, he said I don't have any right to ask him that I should know that "ofu anya ikpu n'egbu amu" it's an Igbo adage which means that sleeping with one woman kills the penis. That if I don't like it I should pack out of his house. Meanwhile, I didn't say I learnt sewing after our wedding and am very good in it. This man doesn't give me money, he started building his house in the village last year and I asked him to just channel whatever he gets to the house so that we can move in there soon and stop paying rent, since I get little money from sewing and his work place is close to his village. But since I discovered he can't do with women I begged him to buy me an industrial sewing and weaving machine so that it will make my work faster. He refused that I should wait till he finish his house. On thursday I waited for him to apologise for the condom I saw in his pocket, he said it's not possible. So when he left for work, I took his car keys and the land property and hide it in the house. And when he asked for them, I told him that he should buy me those machines and then continue whatever he has with women since I have seen that he is not willing to change. I must confess that this is the first time I raised my voice so hard on him. The next I heard was slaps on my face and am 7 months pregnant and my mom was in my house that day and all she could do was to go into her room and started crying. He later got dressed and left for work. He saw me wiping my nose with his singlet because blood was gushing out from my nose and yet he left. In the evening he came back and locket my and my daughter out. I later called one of my aunties who called him and he opened the door and said he was leaving the house for me that night. But my aunt asked me to hold onto him and plead with him not to go out that night which I did. When I tried to beg him, he said he ll make sure he beats my baby out of my womb if I touch him. I just took the bag he packed and hide it. That's why he stayed back that night. I went for scan yesterday and I was told my baby is breech that I need to see a Doctor. I haven't registered in any hospital aside a maternity home run by a woman. I have been begging him to give me money to register and that if he says I should leave his house that he should buy my the sewing machines so that I can atleast be using the money to take care of his kids but he refused. He is doing all this because he knows I have nobody to fight for m and I don't want to involve my kinsmen because they will mock my family and my mom is hypertensive. Pls do not mind the long post I didn't add that I later give hhim the documents after the beating because he swore he will kill me and go to jail if I dont
You were wrong to seize his car keys n hide his landed property documents. He never said he won't buy the machine, but asked you to wait until he completes his house.
You went out of line. U crossed the boundary. Am sure he has not slapped you before except that day. U went out of place by your action.
If your husband cheats, show him love and pray he stops. Ask him what he wants you to do to spice up your marriage.
Forget the idea of you won't sleep with him again. It's a lie, you will give him sex or he goes out to get it.
Don't leave your marriage. People who have not married before will be here forming advisors, font leave your marriage.
Show him love, be more respectful n submissive. Your hubby will come around.
I have said my own, it's left for you to do whatever you want o
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