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[quote author=whogoscam post=44415274][/quote]OMG! Nature was cruel to your mama


If you had sat down and think without biased influences from Hollywood, American music videos and porn, you would have seen the stvpidity in this write-up

Sacked or retired?

Too lenient joor

keyman0007:
the funny part is the way everyone keeps bashing me like i am a child abuser na wa o.


Her parents never mentioned for ones that their daughter is too young and they know their daughter better.


She is from a well to do family. I went to her house to see her parents, both mum and dad and they were very nice, and we talked . Told them am seeing their daughter, You need to see the drilling i got from her mum, all manner of questions, where do you work? where are your parents? how old are you? hw did you meet her? alot of question ohl!!!

she even gave me some books to read about courtship and preparing for marriage and went as far as reading some part of the book that talked abt requirement for marriage like financially emotionally and spiritually matured.

And since then I have been communicating with them and they have spoken to my folks as well.

She has met my parents too and they know her age and they never for ones said she is too young.

Maybe when i mention marriage to her folks the game may change.

You are not a child abuser. We are asking you to be considerate

Drilling is normal joor

Tell her folks

Smellymouth:
I trust my mama..
Whether na for Green card ,Red card or Pink card, she go scream like this ::


"Chai!! , my enemies don succeed ooooooo "

keyman0007:
lol! it depends on the kind of man that comes to ask for her hand in marriage.

I disagree with you

If you were a father, you would know. Trust me.

keyman0007:
Bro i think i hv waited enough, finished uni when i was 20 did[b] nysc 21, masters 22[/b] and i hv worked for 5 years now, this year i will be 28.

Really? Masters at 22?

If you had a child and you knew you could offer her a better education for a year or two, would you be happy if she threw it away for an arrangement that would cost her partner next to nothing?

Chizzy759831:
Everyone needs to understand that he even suggested she did it here in Nigeria. buh she no gree. ya'll think 22 is early to marry huh? this i d same reason y at 30 no man don "price" any girl because she go dey feel say she don pursue degree. ur mother got married n reproduce u. y at 22 marraige dey fear u...later u go dey go all d church dey disturb all una village witch whereas na u hold ursef. i have an aunt who is 45 n cant marry. na di type tin she do sef.

If you have money, opt for mediocre things over quality things

slyrone:
money wey una suppose use start business after wedding she wan go use do masters. on a serious note its obvious she isn't ready for marriage yet but wants u for insurance. she nor wan loose u but she nor wan marry yet. dude u r being used wise up

Did she tell you that she wanted business? Na your money she wan use for masters

All these desperate shallow minded guys sef

bennymark:
Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are shallow minded.

Maybe you are 22 too.

Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are illogical and irrational

Maybe you are desperate, selfish and easily influenced too

Daremee:
When she is busy doing photo shots and 24hour makeover pictures advertising her butt, why won't her husband be busy enjoying himself with someone who is not so self obsessed at a restaurant?
There is something missing in this mans life which she is too vain and self centered to provide. The man simply needs companionship and she is too busy in front of the mirror or posing in front of the camera for her next IG self promotion pix.

There is nothing missing

EgunMogaji:
And the unfortunate thing is that everybody else knows this except for her.

She knows. Most of them do

lastpage:
If this is supposed to be "sarcasm", you did a very bad job at it!

I never said men dont cheat..... infact, men have a preponderance to,...and do cheat more, than women!
.... because to men, cheating is just an act of "conquest", emotions are not deeply invested.
They just do it .....like they "speed" on the Motorway!

What l tried to do is point out the difference between " Men cheating" Vs. "Women Cheating".

Women cheating goes beyond the "physical act" of "Wam-bang, get-up and go"!

Have you ever wondered why "men dont remember" the lady that deflowered them....

.....while Women keep such memory for the rest of their life (even having a soft spot for the man for the rest of their life, whether both are married or not)?

Its got to do with "emotions and the brain".



Lastpage!

It is still not an excuse

Emotions or not, the question remains, does it affect their relationship? Does it change how they are going to feel about their marriages and men?

lastpage:
This is very true....... but women dont want to accept it, just as they dont want to accept that "men and women" though complimentary in nature, are DIFFERENT and therefore NOT EQUAL (two different things cant ever be equal!).
I am not saying Men are "superior", mind you, l am saying they are "different" from women.

X chromosome is not the same as Y chromosome otherwise, X will be equal to Y!

We just need to observe other living things (especially primates closer to the human race) and see the territorial behaviour of the male, compared to the female.

The physiological make-up of women determines how they engage in 'shex', for maximum pleasure while that of men also determine theirs as well.
Even Scientist have factually demonstrated that it is a different part of the brain that gets triggered in men when they get the urge, compared to women.
There is a reason creation 'recessed' women's shexual organ while that of men is "protruding"!
Women take shex more seriously than men! To them, it is an "act of total submission to domination" and a lot of emotion is invested in reaching such decision.
For a man, it is an "act of domination and conquer" ...... and like al conquest, it is the "next challenge" that matters! No emotion involved!
One party (woman) accepts fluid inside her .....while the other (man) is protected from such violation, by the make-up of his organs, which are external and not receptive to accepting any fluid!
Everyone should think about these things for a moment
All these "facts of life" are not mere coincidences.


Once you are sure your wife is cheating, your best action is to "quietly leave her" for her lover........ if you still love your own life. .
Dont even attempt to keep sleeping with her anymore.
Just "dash her out" to that person she thinks she loves and engages in shex with, more than you.
Dont get annoyed, dont get dismayed but take it as a challenge that some-how, some-where, you are still found 'wanting'!

Just take time and work on yourself!
But "woe betide that Man" whose wife cheats when he was still "wanting"...... and takes her back when he has stepped-up in life.
There are tens of other women, who are "more set" than her and would eagerly marry you, so what's the big deal?

As for the kids, l think a time will come when at every birth, a DNA TEST will be a pre-requisite for putting a name on a birth cert.
We are getting there..... slowly though.



Lastpage!

If I hadn't seen anything, I would have agreed fully with you

Women CHEAT. It may not be as high as men but they cheat.

I see you are a married man, you must really have high morals if not you would know that married women cheat!

GANJAFARMER:
If she can help me lure the men she's been cheating with to a location where I can sodomize them under her watch after then I'll shut her up forever.

You won't know na

look at them

Who are the husbands of those cheating married men?

Or Are they married to stones?

Don't worry you will never know

goldbim:
lol..stop being harsh.

It is true na

Some moro.ns will start hailing her now without feeling the emotions in her story.

She likes what she is getting from it. Obviously, she can stand it

jabojafa:
dont take dis personal: but wen u marry urs u can allow her travel overseas to do master n even to PhD before she come back. Why marry a woman n b living lik a bachelor again? Op if she rili wana to go do her masters abroad, allow her go and look for a lady dt is frm 25yrs n above start sometin serious. This ur 22yrs old girl is nt yet matured for marriage, becos she is still allowing her parents to control her.

When you marry, lock your wife in the bedroom because you are no longer a bachelor

By the way I don't argue with cave men.

Swerve!

keyman0007:
you are right, however masters starts in september, i can only start counting down after then which is roughly 2 years

How is it 2 years? What course? Which of the unis?#

Either way, it is for the good of both of you.

goldbim:
Eyahh...tales of a hurt wife..its glaring she's being hurt emotionally...even when she tries loving the man with his flaws.money get power sha..cos It seems that's what she appreciates in him..its well.

You can feel the emotions

If she is so unconcerned, why is she telling us

Inasmuch I believe a woman's has a right to stay in such marriage, she is no fvcking better than those that have decided not to.

They are all strong women but we no wan hear stories sha

To me, i believe there are two different typers of marriages

1) Different goals
2) Mutual goals

1)She is able to say this because she got something in return. Lots of ego, kudi, owo . She knew what she was getting into. Don't be surprised if you catch with a man old enough to be her son. She has accepted that her husband can cheat. Her husband has accepted albeit unconsciously that she is a young woman that needs tending every now and then.

2) Unless your wife do not give a fvck about you, try it and watch her ruin your life. You can be as rich as Dangote for all you care. She will either leave you or ruin you.

crismark:
eiiiya.....den u met grown babies

Nah, I learnt that it is not good to judge based on age etc

Everyone has his/her weak points. This babe here is not confused nor is she immature. The op is lucky to have a woman who is willing to balance both lives!


Oops! I also forgot to mention the number of dvmb 25 and above men I have also met?

Deepfreezer:
hahhahahaha you guys can say what u want to say. Young pablo is a boss. and he is rich ASF.

Yes sir

crismark:
yh sure u can see a gal of dat age dat is very matured but u cant compare her maturity 2 a gal of 26-28yrs....dnt 4get dah In this marriage context, experience goes wit age..especially for d female folks

I am sorry but I have met more immature 26-28 ladies than mature ones

keyman0007:
I started this talk last year and we had a big fight on it already.

but bros you mean i shd wait 2 years for her?

Introduction still means no sex, kisses.

how is a man of 28 year who is sexually active suppose to hold himself for like 2 years



I stopped seeing other ladies all for her. it is nt as easy as you think it is.

Even being in a distance relationship is painful enough.

You keep giving us a one-sided view

You seem to be more concerned about the sex part than what her own personal and professional advancement

Masters is usually a year programme

[quote author=AreaFada2 post=44405343][/quote]Whatever she is feeling is not relevant

I think keyman0007 is the problem in that relationship


If he is getting married because of his family when he knows that his woman is ready to do introduction to seal their relationship, I wonder what else he would do because of his family instead of logic.

He has had years to be what he is now. The babe only needs a year to get a masters and come back for marriage. She is not running away.

She is not just doing it for herself, her certificate will also raise the family's earning potential.

She is doing because she thinks he is worthy. Op should be proud of himself

He has succeeded in painting her black.

She is better off without him. he does not deserve her!






To think this is the same Nairaland, men insult women becaus eof marriage

Mor..ons have already started with submissive argument

okay na

Keneking:
This is serious...

[s]The size of pad in the attached is for toddlers. The girls in this case would be wearing adult size with pockets for CD just in case.

By the way, what is the disposal method for sanitary pads, i thought you have to destroy it with scissors and burn it like condoms after use or seal broken.

I blame the girls for this problem as they have violated manufacturer's recommendation in this case. Even if the ritualist wants to retrieve the spots on the pad, how would he/she access it? I imagine it will be dapped and soaked in the pad.[/s]

This would be an exercise in futility just like sucking fuel from the tank of a 2016 model Toyota SUV.

I am sure this is goal bound even Peter Cech can't stop it.

But where is lalasticlala sef

When you do not know something, you ask

AreaFada2:
For every one you see that has returned, I have also seen many who did not return. And that over a period of 25 years.

So don't sound as if you are an authority in this area.

I am not saying I am an authority

I believe that the possibility that she will return is higher

Why are we over-flogging a non-issue?

She is young. Should she wait till forever to get a masters degree?

This is the moment she would be a ble to set herself up for her family and her career. It is only going to take a year

The op have had lots of years to build a life of his own. Sacrificing a year for is future partner won't kill him

AreaFada2:
Are you married? Have you lived away from your wife for a year or two before?

Do you know how many people go abroad to study and then decide to get work experience first AND eventually decided not to come back at all?

After some years in the West, this kind of indecisive girl will change her mind again.

She would probably start dictating to the guy: come abroad or forget the marriage.

if they would already have a child before she goes, it would be a different thing.

Move on dude. Let her sort her education out first.

If they got married, she would come back

I meet married and newly weds almost every time, so what are you talking about?


I don't think she is indecisive. I think she doesn't want to lose him. She is trying to balance both!
besides this should serve a lesson to guys that go for young girls

[quote author=keyman0007 post=44403054][/quote]6 months?

Well, Agree on her father sponsoring her

Your church should be willing to make exceptions. You can do it while being married.

Marriage might take a long time but I don't think it is something you can't pull off within a month unless you are planning a talk of the town marriage.

Also, she could come home for the marriage during one of the breaks.



IMO, I don't think there is an issue per se. They are fixable provided you can agree on marriage before school or after school. Once you do, you should be able to smash every other hurdle.

pinceprinz:
Now you're talking

He doesn't want her to leave after marriage

I don't understand him.