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ProphetAjasco:
I see, I saw.... I see a wedding day, I see this poor boy smiling and looking handsome in a suit and the other destiny killer frowning in her wedding gown. The poor boy will attempt to carry his bride but end up breaking his spinal cord and the destiny killer will abandon him to go and look for her next victim.....

So I have seen and So shall it be.

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

zazawaga:
Just like the 280 lot of MTN employees or should I say former employees, life throws us punches and most times it’s where we least expect; in the face.

A job loss is an undeniably excruciating punch in the face. I mean, a slap would have sufficed; maybe a query, a warning email, anything but a sack. It's surreal for some, there's a bit of denial initially but as reality dawns, you realize you've been hit really bad.

As you digest the information that has been handed to you either by mail, word of mouth or public announcement, the news that you’re no longer on the pay roll gets you thinking of how much you could have done your job better. How you shouldn’t have snoozed the alarm every time it went off or how you should have taken that career advice you read on discovery seriously.

Let me break it to you, half of the time, just like in the case of these 280 MTN employees, it’s not your fault. In their case the company gave an excuse of the need to bring in professionals that’ll bring a fresh perspective to things and to avail the scaked employees other career options. Amazing opportunity, right?

“It was designed drawing on feedback from employees and following consultation with elected employees representatives. It provides a financial incentive and opportunity for employees who have worked with MTN for over 5 years to pursue other career interest and personal ambition full-time, while increasing opportunities for professionals with a fresh perspective wishing to join the MTN family.” — MTN Nigeria
But we all know MTN just paid 30 billion naira out of the 330 billion naira they were fined by the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC). So like I said earlier, there’s usually a cover story, a quote for the public, but more often than not, it’s not your fault.

If you’re like me, you’re probably thinking “even if it wasn’t my fault that I got fired, the point remains that I’m out a job” and that’s what we’re really here to solve. So let’s not waste more time discussing companies who are gradually going out of business.

1.First of all, give yourself some real time to figure out your next step.

And that may mean weeks, not a few hours! Don’t feel compelled to jump right back into the work force. You will feel some shock—the same way you would feel shock after any loss. Take some time to deal with that. When you are ready to jump back in, keep your options open, you don’t have to apply to Globacom or Airtel alone. Actually, this might be a good time to explore a new field that you’ve always wanted to try but never had the time to, start a business, or if you’re still young at heart, go back to school.

2.Let go of the way life should have gone.

Resisting the job loss causes more pain. Sometimes you know why you were fired, sometimes you just don’t. Don’t waste any time figuring it out. Be mature about anything you feel may have contributed to it. See the difference between reality and illusion (reality is you lost your job, illusion is you’ll never find another job.) Take a moment to go inside yourself, get silent and listen to your intuition. Some of your best ideas will come when you slow down enough and tune in.

3. Looking for a job is now your job.

It may take a lot longer to find a new job than you think it will. For some people it took them six months and for some others it took them more to find a new job. You might have to settle for less. We’re in a tough economy and the dream job you want might not be available for the next few years. Some jobs leave the market and never come back, and you may be facing that reality. Don’t get discouraged. Remember, even in a bad economy, there are always jobs for good people.


4.However, get a grip on your online image:

Your reputation and your online persona play much more of a role in getting you a new job than your resume or your cover letter ever could. Your profiles on Facebook and LinkedIn should be spruced up and optimized as much as possible to make you as attractive as you can be to a potential employer. And don’t forget to Google yourself to see what comes up.

5. The next job you take may be a transitional one.

Whether it’s full or part time, embrace it. It’s like learning to walk again after a terrible accident. Every experience is a valuable one and you never know where it may lead. It’s very okay to freelance or find part-time work to get some cash flow until you find the perfect new position. In fact, you may find that you don’t need a full-time job as much as you thought you did to be happy and secure.

On the whole, please don’t blame yourself. For some reason, I keep reiterating this. And it’s not in a bid to encourage you to throw a pity party for yourself but because blame never accomplishes anything.

Don’t get addicted to your story of why you got fired or how unlucky you are, because it will hold you back. There is no shame or embarrassment to be had. Every successful person has lost a job at some stage. Instead of feeling shame, honor this as just a life change that will make you stronger. Work hard, be true to yourself in self-development, stick around optimistic people not victim circles and the best will come.


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gimakon:
Which stupid law? Fulani just day fine scapegoat way them go use freeze account and direct access to arrest people who want to leak the rot in their animalistic behavior and system of government, nothing like law. It only shows, they have another Islamic agenda we are yet to see...

2023 far o, no reasonable person should think of remaining in this shithole. If you like yourself, even if na Benin Republic, enter, you can love Nigeria with your full chest when you in the abload (abroad)

Fulani,one of the most useless tribes in West Africa and Africa as a whole. Na now I see why they were sent away from Algeria and several other African Islamic nations with the same Islamic thinking as them. Very useless people.

OlawaleBammie:
Oga is anythin wrong??


My gf dey wear my swimming pant not to talk of shirt, and a dey wear her clothes wella

Wetin concern us

praiseneo:
See as you disgrace yourself
If your wife sees this she would divorce you straight up

FalseProphet1:
I see your marriage collapsing before the end of March due to immaturity on your path. This I have seen.

Burgerlomo:
High heels

CalliDora1:
Huh??
You hate your wife wearing your shirts? **Which kind husband be this?**

Na wa oooo.. people dey marry Sha!

Bola146:
God forbid your type in my life You are just so dull Why hate that, I don't understand

Ashibelieve:
I don't think so. It's just regulation and bottle neck comes with regulations.

calcal:
It is possible to arrest him but the consequence to those that will arrest him is the problem.

Vardanes2:
1. Thank you for calling me gullible, good sir.

2.Basically, to summarize, cryptocurrency is one of the many ways Nigeria loses millions of dollars. Losing dollars has bad impact on the Naira

3.Also, we are not earning enough dollars from oil, what with the fact that oil prices have been too low for some time now.

4.So, CBN restricts dollars.,

5.If CBN does not take measures to restrict dolalrs, but allows everyone, the value of the naira by now would have fallen to something like N5000 to one dollar. And our economy would have been in an even worse state.

6.Closing crypto is one of the ways.

7.Before you start, there have been measures over the years to stop looting. But many of you Nigerians don't want your favourite poltician to be arrested, that's why most anit corruption measures fail. Also, Buhari is not Buhari of 1984.

post=98792022:
U sef talk am?
It's alarming reading some comments from some dumb people on cyberspace.
CBN Governor shut down crypto because of one Igbo whatever in a village in Oyo State?!
Some fraudulent naija youths are a huge disappointment sha, very mumu fraudsters.
But thank God that, the good, honest and hardworking youths are more than the dumb ones.
Do they even know how so dumb they sound with the stupid theory? Na because of one Sunday CBN governor shut down crypto?
Mad, Lazy people everywhere.
This is so appaling!

Lawd
Why is Crypto Not affecting Economies of DEVELOPED COUNTRIES?

How I wish I can send audio message to you people with this negative lowlife mentality!


Dem dumb no be small.


You have said it all sir.
We have learnt to ignore some foolishness we read online.
Those corrupt and evil politicians have succeeded in turning these youths life upside down, that anything they think about is hatred for the country and ffighting, cursing other tribes all over the country.
They still have a long way to do this anyways.