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BuddhaPalm:
Jesu!

So what are the signs that someone is not interested in you?

Ignoring you I'd suppose.

Every normal person who has been a relationship and no longer wants to be in a relationship would often tell the other person to stop contacting them. Or to move on with their lives whilst they move on with theirs. But to just simply ignore a girlfriend (or bf) and respond to her periodically in the positive is a bit misleading, don't you think?
Especially for a 17/18year old! We are talking about a teenager. She was barely an adult. People that age often need things spelt out in black and white.

Remember ...ranging hormones and all...maximum infuation stage...

So he should have been very clear and made it crystal that he no longer wanted the relationship. There is nothing in the email that informs me that he drew a defined line so yes...it could be argued that ignoring someone who is clearly infuatued with you (or responding once in a while) is an act of 'keeping them sweet' and still making them think you are interested.

I'm sure some grown as3 guys still get this kinda treatment from girls they are trying to 'chyke'but don't know he has already been friendzoned. She doesn't tell him either as she wants to keep him as 'backup'!!! Ever heard of this before?! I'm sure you have. You don't think its a form of control?

Y'all should remember this was a teenager writing this (at the time). An infatuated teenager....nonetheless


I see some form of 'Stockholm syndrome' where the victim feels almost on the side of the abuser/attacker. Prolonged Abuse victims are often able to be abused due to the love or supposed love the have for their abuser. They often remain attached to the abuser emotionally even after having gone through unthinkable horrors...why else would a woman battered blue and black keep going back to her abusive husband.

Think about it!

****
Besides. Even if she is lying about the rape (which I highly doubt), wasn't she 17years when they slept together (which he has admitted)...is that not illegal here...or at least in 2008? (Unless of course you are married to Sanusi or Senator Yerima!) ...It becomes rape by default for him regardless of whether she consented or not.

The emails are obviously selective. She made reference to him accusing her of lying and being unfaithful and flirting with his friends. He obviously hasn't posted those emails.

He behaviour in the emails he posted are also classic abuser bevaiour where he has clearly lost his physical 'control' over the girl (as she was in the US) and he resorted to psycohological control (by constantly refusing to respond to her or being 'cold')....and making her admit all faults. He better get great lawyers sha.

Y'all should remember this was a teenager writing this (at the time). An infatuated teenager....nonetheless


I see some form of 'Stockholm syndrome' where the victim feels almost on the side of the abuser/attacker. Prolonged Abuse victims are often able to be abused due to the love or supposed love the have for their abuser. They often remain attached to the abuser emotionally even after having gone through unthinkable horrors...why else would a woman battered blue and black keep going back to her abusive husband.

Think about it!

****
Besides. Even if she is lying about the rape (which I highly doubt), wasn't she 17years when they slept together (which he has admitted)...is that not illegal here...or at least in 2008? (Unless of course you are married to Sanusi or Senator Yerima!) ...It becomes rape by default for him regardless of whether she consented or not.

The emails are obviously selective. She made reference to him accusing her of lying and being unfaithful and flirting with his friends. He obviously hasn't posted those emails.

He behaviour in the emails he posted are also classic abuser bevaiour where he has clearly lost his physical 'control' over the girl (as she was in the US) and he resorted to psycohological control (by constantly refusing to respond to her or being 'cold')....and making her admit all faults. They both better get great lawyers sha.

BTW: Just because her mum was aware of the relationship doesn't mean she wasn't abused. Some of our sisters and mothers are in an abusive relationship currently, but how many do we actually know! Smiley faces on instagram and cute Facebook messages go a long way to disguise turmoil.

Cc TonyeBarcanista

Y'all should remember this was a teenager writing this (at the time). An infatuated teenager....nonetheless


I see some form of 'Stockholm syndrome' where the victim feels almost on the side of the abuser/attacker. Prolonged Abuse victims are often able to be abused due to the love or supposed love the have for their abuser. They often remain attached to the abuser emotionally even after having gone through unthinkable horrors...why else would a woman battered blue and black keep going back to her abusive husband.

Think about it!

****
Besides. Even if she is lying about the rape (which I highly doubt), wasn't she 17years when they slept together (which he has admitted)...is that not illegal here...or at least in 2008? (Unless of course you are married to Sanusi or Senator Yerima!) ...It becomes rape by default for him regardless of whether she consented or not.

The emails are obviously selective. She made reference to him accusing her of lying and being unfaithful and flirting with his friends. He obviously hasn't posted those emails.

He behaviour in the emails he posted are also classic abuser bevaiour where he has clearly lost his physical 'control' over the girl (as she was in the US) and he resorted to psycohological control (by constantly refusing to respond to her or being 'cold')....and making her admit all faults. He better get great lawyers sha.

WoleJibbs:
Please is there any grave consequence for going to camp a day late. Like camp for stream II Batch B opens 25th but one wants to go on 26th. Is there any consequence for that?

No massive consequence except Triple registration stress

I highly doubt it. ...but if you say so.

Abdul4trust1:
choice of states work. SomeOne will only miss his/her choice of states as a result of either of the following:

1. if he or she pick more than one state from a geo-political zone.

2. If only one state is picked.

3. If the states picked are occupied i.e when there is romour that some states are no longer available for selection. If someone pick them when they eventually resurface, you might not be posted there.

IghravweIG:
Thanks for the good work @Dark chocolate. My question relates to; The issue of choosing from 3 states. Can one chose a state from his geopolitical zone and probably as much as two states from the same zone? I would really appreciate ur answer.

I believe you can choose any state you like as long as its available. Choosing a state does not by no means guarantee you being posted there. Its probably all a Russ by NYSC to make people think they have some sort of influence in where to serve when they probably don't. ..except by God or man-made connections obviously!!!
Goodluck though

holuwatoseen22:
Who wants to win a galaxy s6 edge?

What phone do you use? If it ain't a galaxy 6, iPhone 6 or that Samsung with curved edges, feel free to gerrarahia!

omosi81:
Pls if one graduate's at 27 and doesn't want to go for nysc can i apply for exemption.

You are only exempted if you graduated at 30 (first degree).you should have just prolonged it for 3more years

SylarsMcQuins:
After paying a bride price of 500k for one Nsukka gal she come dey tell me no?.

Her papa der

You join the ranks of Ediss...equally disgusting. Be cause you paid bride price means you can rape her and have sex with her against her wish!

Ediss:
Make she say no first, na slap go make am open up

So you would happily rape you wife? Disgusting sorry excuse for a man!

Sooo...had 3 corps members come to my work place today as their ppa. Expecting more! Well...first come first serve.

So exciting being the one to make the decisions on who stays and gets rejected...this time last year, I was in their position trying to beg those directors at special duties ...

Kbs468:
yes! My pranks on you actually worked!
When you told me that you are shy behind the scene, that you wont answer me but I made you fell for it as you have just responded and even waiting to hear me out

Awww...well done for luring me out of the shadows where I was lurking. You did well. Bravo!

steady986:
My good friend, there's this thing we call 'LONG THING' in this country of ours. That's exactly what you're on.

Abi ooo :DD Correct OYO

omoeniyan09:
Please help me house... I need to track down a guy he collected som money from my bro for a deal which he did not do he has been forming busy since then. He doesnt pik calls Any more and he does not come to d office dey met any more....
Please help how do we track him

Dis wan na long matter

Kbs468:
Helo sweet, I dont think i am guilty of your accusation else I would have just mentioned biotechshola on that thread and lay my complaint.I also choosed to answer him here for the benefit of others too, so I actually meant no evil ok. However I must say that I felt embarrassed by your 'Dont mind him joor' comment

Oh dear...pray tell what exactly embarrassed you about the comment?! I'm all ears or eyes!

biotechshola:
thanks bro, never walked away...infact i check in on daily basis, as for d qstn, i jst hapnd to b here wen it cam to my mind.

Don't mind him joor

Kbs468:
Minister of Health, this is the kind of questions you should have been asking on Batch A16 thread so that any response you get can be beneficial to others but you rather choose to walk away.
By the way, you will have to print your call up letter online only when you pay the #3000 fee else you will have it from your skul

Ah ah...why are you chasing him away naa...other people are benefiting from it being here too

Bafunso:
Pls i collected my call up letter at my school. But i don't knw if its only the call up letter that will be needed @camp or they will demand for the green card @reg unit in camp. I only hav d call-up letter, hope there won't be any need for the green card since we that did not register or pay for online reg cannot printout the green card. Ur advice pls. Thks.

Please go to nysc website or their tweeter account and ask this question. Or better still, head to the nearest secretariat or camp and find out. Goodluck

utenwuson:
I had an accident and my left hand is affected! after d surgery I don't want any1 to c d scarf which means I don't put on short sleeves! so can I wear white longs sleeves polo on camp?

Long sleeve are not allowed. You can wear your khaki jacket though...should give you plenty of cover. goodluck

Alvin1:
Greetings to every one here, and a very big thank you to the creator of this topic, please I want to ask where is the best office to serve as an economics student and what state would you prefer I do that too? thanks

Lagos Lagos Lagos and in a ministry.

benjaminiyke:
Wow! Highly detailed explanation. I could visualize this flawless article you posted while I was going through it.Very very insightful. Thanks a lot.

That one was copied ooo...lol

Atiloszy:
Please I am in stream but couldn't meet up with registration. What can I do to follow stream 2

Stream 2 is not a backup for people who couldn't register for stream 1. Think of it as being the other half of people who couldn't get into camp due to numbers. If you were meant to be in stream 1 and you didn't register, unfortunately you will be deferred to the next batch.

To be on the safe side, go to secretariat and ask if it is possible to join stream 2.

whizqueen:
Please is it possible for me to have a successful redeployment from benue state to ogun state. I dunno anybody, am not married and I don't have any medical condition

But I Want to redeploy

You'll probably have a better chance of walking through the eye of a needle but never say never. Anything is possible. See how much connections you can make during your camp and utilise it.

xpac01:
Hi Darkchocolate and the rest, nice job so far.
My worries still remain the age 30 yrs and above disqualification. I clocked 30yrs last month and am so much interested in going for service. What are your takes on this issue Any hope of making come February/March with the age ish
Thanks in anticipation...

Please read NYSC website on exemption rules. If your first degree was obtained whilst you were below 30, you are eligible for nysc at anyage. If not, you can apply for exemption.

EstyBle:
Thank u somuch dear Darkchocolate,u re wonderful. Pls i wanna ask.
That 4am to 4:30,so am expected 2 bath,brush,get dressed and b @ d camp ground? The time short o.
2ndly,if during the day,i feel sweaty and want 2 shower,do i have the liberty?
Lastly,wat is the duration like for the breakfast,lunch and dinner,wat other free time can i have? And how crowded can the hostel rooms be?
Thanks somuch 2 u all answering our questions,am grateful

Yes...you have to wake up by 3am to shower. That s the time most people. wake up. You can always wait till after PT but water may have run out by then.

Showering is whenever you have free time..

Hostels in Lagos was 26 per room.

Goodluck

walad4yhu:
DC ain't an NYSC official...She's just helping base on her capacity.

I think some of the questions is better u ask NYSC handle on twitter. They reply instantly.

DC, I wish u well in all ur endeavors and may ur hand neva get tire of typing...

Abi ooo...lmao!

cheaphost:
I'm getting a bit worried. I'm a foreign student and was posted to Imo. I uploaded two O level results to cover the 5 credits in two sitting thingy. But the problem is that one is GCE while the other is NECO. I hope it's OK to combine GCE with NECO.

Don't worry, I was in the same situation. Its ok to combined. Just look at it as two different exam bodies.

Chrisilo:
Honestly I cant realy decode wot d guy said, wil both the 1st & 2nd month alawi be paid in camp?

Second, which day wil posting letters be dispatched, is it the same day we wil hav to leave camp or a day before?

Third, I'm stil interestd in ur lips

You are just being silly re asking the same questions check the long post I made on the page.

And thanks for the compliment.

ubizle:
@Darkchocolate.I have a white short that is slightly above the knee, will i be allowed to wear it or it must be knee level and below.

If it is no more than 1inch above then you are fine

Chrisilo:
Babe, I don show again...
Pls for som1 in stream 2, will the first & second month alawi be paid together, i mean once?

This has just been answered some few pages back

Okemulla:
I lost my school ID card and am wondering if I will be registered at the camp without it. Any idea please ?

See post above