₦airaland Forum

Is important to 20% of us that IT is our source of income

Donlamzy:
Of what importance is this information to us here in Nigeria ?

Do you still have Exam Voucher?
I need for CCP

You're the greatest fool after bubu

kingthreat:
These are the same clowns that refused to negotiate with FG and insist that the youths block the tollgate despite the anarchy looming.
They knew the police will come. Unfortunately, it was the military came to clear the tollgate, but these guys were chilling in their homes at that time.
Now they are rejecting a peace walk organized by the constituted authority of a governor.
Social media has really made these ones important. if not for it, I can bet you Macaroni the skit actor will be doing stage plays in an unsheltered theatre.

Thunder fire anybody wey mention me to insult me. I am entitled to my opinion.

Can you do the killing, ode

Leybari:
They'll soon kill them for refusing to be cowed.

awon werey ti de oooooo oponu

I can't blame them...they have the worst ever governor in the whole North

What you need urgently is SPIRITUAL ATTENTION...NOT SOCIAL MEDIA ATTENTION

Hello Nairaland, for sometimes now, we haven't hear from our great country lying machine? is our lying machine at fault or what?

These are the strategies they used to fool the fools....

HMMMM

Real Madrid to win

Nigeria Pastors are more corrupt govt officials. They will use their alter to announce candidates because of money? Any Pastor that announce any politician or allow any politician on the alter again, the anointing on his head will dry off.

There is no butterfly in Nigeria again because of Buhari

Let do proper research about this country Nigeria, are we sure that Nigeria is not originated from Sodom and Gomorrah? God created the world out of void, Nigeria is now back to void...

This is one of the useless youths that will make those old ones to tell us (Youths) we can't rule Nigeria....

Corporate Affairs Commission is another problem in Nigeria....Just to register a business name has become rocket science. Nothing is working in Nigeria anymore....What kind of error nation is this country....

He's becoming an irresponsible man that will become an irresponsible husband and raise an irresponsible child as well

. Even my wife alone can price that's why I don't like following her to market at time

I can see that your head is empty of brain...

seunmsg:
He will not rest until the mission is accomplished. Nigeria need him now more than ever before. He’s experienced, competent, nationalistic, educated and influential enough to lead the country and set her on the path of greatness and shared prosperity.

With Tinubu as president, every region can go to sleep with their eyes closed because a nationalistic leader who will carry everybody along is on the throne. He will unite the country and give every region a sense of belonging. Even Kanu will drop Biafra agitation and accept a role in government once Tinubu strikes a deal with him. Tinubu’s presidency will be a win-win for all Nigerians.

Sanwo Olu the errand boy....am very sure if youths can unit together like the day of #EndSars, Tinubu will not get there

Please run away from short people....this man is wicked

Like father, like son.....they don't have brain

Nigeria Arm robbers - EFFC

I trust this man for the job

The contents of the message will not allow me to do anything

I so much love this man....We needs someone like him to put pressure on them...

Am sure your dad is one of them

Onyi22:
Marry a womanizer at your own risk
Nigerian guys are Useless, All of them

Are you advertising yourself to us

KillMNKnow:
When you here internet scam and ritualism. Put your money on

Afonja Christians

I will be glad if Prof. Osh will go for it.....

Are you the judge? If not keep your mouth safe

YungMillionaire:
I know this man.? He was not a good man. He treated his district overseers very poorly. One of the district overseers died and his family was never catered for under this useless g.o. No RIP to him. May he rot in hell where he belongs.

Hmmm...first let me tell you one this, no one has the call of God on his head that doesn't face tough times. Devil uses this to bring men down from Grace to grass...but if you determine to remain and trust God, he will never let you down....please pick the lady and settle down. And don't allow the devil to condemn you.

Secondly, don't give you. To have a fruitful and successful marriage doesn't base on material things. God who created you knew you will face a lot.

I will advise you to take her and marry her if you want God to bless you...accept that you've sinned against him and he will never reject you. The devil calls you by your sins but God called you by your name.

B

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl I met at a theological college where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have an intimate relationship with your coursemate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline, and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.