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tobeezman:
I met this fine geh at a tech event in Lagos.
Before the event started, we had a little chit-chat and mehn, she was exactly my type. Beautiful, intelligent, confident, and we just clicked. You know that kind of connection that feels like you’ve known someone for years? Yeah, that was it.

Throughout the event, we kept vibing, laughing at the same jokes, sharing ideas, everything just aligned.

At the end, I asked for her name she said Linda.
Cool name.

Then I asked where she was from, she said Anambra.
My eyes lit up. I’m from Anambra too!

So I got curious and asked, “What village?”
She mentioned it and boom, it’s in the same local government as mine. I was like, “This is fate.”

Everything was lining up perfectly.
She was single, I’m single, we shared interests, goals, and background… until one tiny moment changed everything.

She gave me her business card and I didn’t see a single Igbo name on it.
Both her first and last names were English.

When I got home, I texted her, I asked, gently, “Don’t you have an Igbo name?”

Her reply?

“I don’t like my Igbo name, and I don’t like speaking Igbo either.”

That one message drained everything I felt for her.
Instantly.

It wasn’t about tribal pride or anything dramatic, it was just the realization that we might see identity differently.
Because for me, being Igbo isn’t just where I’m from, it’s who I am. It’s the rhythm in my thoughts, the tone in my laughter, the root of my values.

And when someone rejects that part of themselves, it feels like they’ve rejected a part of me too.

So yeah… I ghosted her.
Not because she wasn’t amazing, but because something in me went cold.

Dalohad:
The truth is that Northerners don't like Wike. They insisted that Atiku should not pick him.

It's all common knowledge.

Victorious1000:
Hello Nairalanders! I must admit I'm not one to run to the internet seeking advice on relationship matters as I'm obviously an unrepentant introvert with the mindset of always capable of single handedly finding solutions to any seeming challenge when I shut everyone out and channel all energy in our usual self isolation mode, but I'm afraid this very issue would seem a daunting task just too high for one person to manoeuvre around

I will try and succinctly go straight to the point symmetrically in other not to bore you all to death about my apparent inability to make a right marital choice

I am in a state of absolute quagmire in a period where I should have logical clarity in making a choice concerning a life partner, this is so because I'm in a relationship with two ladies who admittedly on their parts go out of their way to shower love, affection, care and unbelievable level of understanding toward my person. I mean the choice could have been far easier if one of them was found wanting in delivering desirable wife duties but NO they're equally as lovable just as they're deserving of becoming ladies who should be dolted upon by an absolute faithful man

Just like every other lady they both have their distinct strengths and weaknesses but the catch in all of this is that they complement each other's weaknesses astutely, Wish they could both be moulded into just one person , I met the first one about 2 years back having just returned from NYSC duty,she is 22 and comes from a vulnerable background economically and as such just have the solitary WAEC certificate to show for all her efforts but my goodness! she is caring and kind, she cooks so good, does my laundry, calls 24/7,always the first to say sorry even when not wrong.. etc, simply put she is undoubtedly a good girl but I fear for the mismatch socially and educationally with me, I have a Master's degree in view and don't even know if my parents will entertain such union as I'm clearly levels above her in qualification even though she is currently acquiring tailoring skills

The other I met quite recently, earlier this year to be precise, she is 30, done with tertiary education and working, I first chatted her up as normal acquaintance in January and further escalated proceedings to relationship status when I had a major fall out with my first girl(largely due to my fault) I must add, she calls just as much and hinges little financial responsibility on me,she has even gone as far to informing her parents about me and wants so much commitment from me when I'm not so sure what to even do right now even though I plan to settle when I complete my Master's program

Now I need two form of solutions on what next to do, both short and long term, my birthday comes up next month and both literally intends to spend all day with me for obvious reasons, I'm absolutely flummoxed as to what decision to make, none of them deserve to be hurt by me, they haven't remotely done anything to warrant such treament from me, but what exactly can I do?

Please I will so much appreciate if this gets to FP as I can do with a broader scope of advice and help! Thanks.

MrCork:
Yes..
me & siofra stop fukkkkin after covid sir.....she now my ex but want me back. She say she cant cope!!!

Heavens1stson:
https://x.com/thecableindex/status/1881636176055914516?s=19[/quote]rascals, who dont know anything, doing rating

So, OAU ife is No 18?

na where all man know say this an rubbish be dis

Dshocker:
Tik Tok is a Chinese app, but somehow, the United States Of America wants to force them to sell it.

Richtaiwo:
Personally, I don't like cash, and that 20k daily max cash withdrawal is just okay. I sometimes go for several days without further cash withdrawal after a day of 20k withdrawal.

I'm comfortable with this because I don't go to the market to buy tomatoes, meat, onions and all that where most of the market women don't have bank accounts. Even some that have may not agree with the idea of transfer.

But the concern here is that how do POS operators source for funds to meet cash requirements of women who are majorly involved in these types of shoppings? Generally, banks should provide acceptable alternatives without imposing additional undue hardship on people.

castins:
I currently work with a multinational company here in Nigeria, I have a son and my wife to take care of.

My wife is a registered nurse.

I want her to travel abroad for further studies, I have some savings already. And I eat. #1.5 m+ monthly.

Please can you suggest best countries she can go for studies and also with prospects of getting permanent residency soonest.

emkz:
I read Atiku's submission and extracted the following:

(1) Atiku never condemned insurrectionists who waved the Russian flag.

(2) Atiku never dissociated himself from those who asked for regime change and asked Tinubu to resign and hand over to Atiku.

(3) Atiku was speaking tongue-in-cheek against the violent protesters. The fact is that the majority were rioting in Kano, Kaduna and Jigawa.

(4) Atiku issued a subtle threat against the military and said they'd be brought to book. Atiku Abubakar, no sensible commander in chief openly censures his troops. If the troops mess up, he takes the fall. Atiku also called on UN and ICC to closely monitor the situation in Nigeria and hold the leadership and security accountable. Time and time again, Atiku proves why he is unfit to lead any country. You don't undermine your own country like that.

(5) Atiku has not commiserated with the families of the dead and has not even visited to pretend to show concern.

(6) Atiku has not joined the rioters to show solidarity.

Someone made a comment about Atiku on his statement reproduced as follows:



Former Vice President Atiku, I highlighted Paul Ibe from professorPABX's submission because you'd recall on your birthday November last year and in May this year, I suggested to you as follows:



I had to reproduce this to remind you that what I said earlier about some of these people are now seen by others. These people need to guide you properly. Your media appearances and some of your tweets have only shown you as desperate.

You had no business threatening our armed forces. That was taking buffoonery too far.

MoonWater:
The problem here isn't actually the hunger but people are living without purpose and ambition.
The government needs to create certain programs that will incorporate giving people ideas, purpose and ambition.

I wish I can work with the government to achieve this. I have so many ideas I have well drafted

Ginaz:
you must be very stupid. I mentioned my friend to show you I'm not an arrogant person. this girl moved heaven and earth for me, all I did for her is not enough to show how appreciative I am.

I'm not feeling like a god over anyone and I would never do that. Loyalty is a character I've learnt early in my life which has benefited me.

I have stayed with a friend for 7months. I reduced myself to a housegirl , both the senior daughters and her mother was sending me errands left and right I never complained but when I left , I was gifted 500k and the senior brother gave me 100k cos they came from a rich family and my family is not rich o. imagine if i had felt too big to run errands for them, would I have benefited? does it mean their love isn t genuine? I got admission into school, dem still help me. infact my parents didn't pay school fees.

see even davido get loyal men wey dey follow am and enjoy from the loyalty. comot pride from body for this life cos you never can tell where your help will come from. Tinubu became almost like a slave to the north to gain power.

I'm a loyalist to the core and I've benefited from it. One mama i dey always dey around , she owns a plaintain farm. I don't buy plantain in the market cos once I call mama she sends me all cos I've paid my dues.

As for calling my friend to send her child to me, we call on phone ok? when she wants to send her child to me she would call to know if I'm home. so we talk on phone for quicker access.

well I've left them so it doesn't look I'm turning them to my slaves or feeling big for them but I want her to stop calling me. I am not interested in any friendship again.

As I am here, I'm a girl- girl to a lot of older people and it's benefiting me. I will never raise shoulder in my life. where I am today in life is as a result of humility and God's grace.

Offpointng:
I did this and that for her, Oga shut up.

If na ur children dem dey send anyhow like that, u go like am? You feel entitled to it cuz you gift them things??

You're Rude and she should even be the one to cut you off

CoronaVirusPro:
Why I am being inquisitive!

Its a well known fact that celebrities always celebrate with their gang members! You will never find the likes of Durk, Bobby Shmurda and Youngboy celebrate without their gang members present. You will always see traces of them.





Its like denying everything Korofo has done for him!

siofra:
Very wrong. You have no idea about the HUGE number of Nigerian women choosing to stay single in 2023 than deal with men. You truly have no frigging idea.

jieta:
This election is something else, today all the churches in this our small village came together to pray for peter obi. Nkst, catholic all came together for one man and to think this is happening in northern Nigeria beat my imagination.

KingKO22:
Game over for Atiku 🤣🤣🤣


Emefiele has failed already


El-Rufai they press their neck back to back


It's crystal clear that Asiwaju has won the election already
Time to celebrate

DaddyFreeze2020:
Except the election is rigged to favour another Northerner, the poll result below is closest to how the Presidential election will play out.

CANDYDADDY:
Keep roaming, u are going no where

derecho:
Kikikiki... OBIdients are not pessimists.

OBIdients have already seen that PO will win even when many were talking about "structure" and were in the minority.

I doubt you are OBIdient.

Is it now that it's visible to the blind, that you are talking about Atiku?

Atiku ko, Akuti ni

Indispensable85:
The results from these states will tell us who did what not these being present or absent in rallies. People can show up at your rallies to escape certain sanctions and deal with you on election day. Politics is a game of betrayals.

onatisi:
one by one, they will all pull out from wike , that is politics. atiku and PDP knew this would happen which is why they never engaged wike in verbal insults.
the next will likely be seyi makinde , only if he is wise and smart

donphilopus:
The people of Lagos are not complaining. Even if the treasury is depleting they're seeing the works on ground unlike in Anambra where a sitting governor distributes four litres of kerosene to win elections. In Abia women who put to bed in govt hospitals are given 500 naira each but that's none of your business.

Meanwhile, this campaign rally isn't for the whole of Niger State. This is just a senatorial district campaign. But some people are trying to make us believe northerners have dumped Tinubu for Atiku. 😂 I wouldn't blame them though! If such propaganda makes them sleep well at night they should continue. On election day they would come to their senses.