₦airaland Forum

OnyeAshuaUru:
The mor.on likes to present himself as a frontrunner in this election, but the fact remains that he's not even popular in his own state, and is only propelled by a horde of hirelings and political jobbers.
Kwankwaso remains far more popular than this bleaching grandpa in the north. And if by now this kleptomaniac has not realised that the closest he could ever get to winning the presidency was in 2019 when he partnered with a wildly popular Peter Obi, then he is sickly delusional.
Ailing Tinubu might even do better than this clown with face like a week old wrap of akpu.

Peter Obi is the next president of Nigeria

Dumbest nigga who ever lived. You sre a total illiterrate snd ignoramus..to even think your clown called pobi can even win a local govt ekection in nigeria noe. Even in anambra he cant.

You think this is amichi town union election? Clown

You are cursed and so is your lineage down to your unborn children you wont vomit the bile you spewed on here.

You choking on your bitterness and you die a dudden death from frusrration

Mumu stewwwpid man

jeromestarks:
Those who know me know that I say the truth and nothing but the truth.

I'm here to tell you the truth once more.

ATIKU CAN NOT WIN 2023 presidential election.

He will be close, he will be almost there but he will never get there. That man is under a curse. ATIKU can not win.

If you support PDP, fine. But supporting atiku is a bad new.


Hit like if you believe.

Hear this cursed fellpw..from a cursed lineage

POVoice:
Maybe you weren't born before 2014/15.

Atiku deserves the worst treatment than he's getting.

A sitting President traveled all the way to London to beg him and he refused. Dey play

Mumu...
Na you dey play. You and your candidate for amunze town union elections

Jozibrainz99:
This one knows nothing.....
You are under rating someone that went head to head with Buhari in previous elections.
Wait until the election day and your eyes will open to see things.

He is a big phooolll...who is an ignoramus

OnyeAshuaUru:
Atiku the clown.
He is the only top contender who's not sure of winning two States.

Dumb Ass Clown....you are.

You know nothing about politics

With your borrowed data

Your candidate will be beaten before 12noon on election day

Ednut03:
LoL. You have no reason debunking what I'm saying because you ain't in the US. I am. And I've been here for over 10 years to have an idea of the dating market here, including Canada.

Smiling when they see you doesn't mean sexual attraction. Most white chicks will smile when they see a black man, but that is because they're scared of you hurting them

You dont know anything about US bros. You wont get laid? As a guy? Come on naw...wey girls full everywhere

Where in the US do you stay. Even if you dont get white girls(how many people like white girls anyway) you wont get black girls?

Akata wey full everywhere? Who cares about white women? Pull up in any walmart.for an hour, .you will leave with atleast three numbers. Drive through any hood, you will get atleast three. Go to any park...you will have two..pull up qt the club?

Tha mess are you taking about? You is weak man!!!? Escorts are all over on craigslist and other lists.

Whats wrong with you?

And anyway...in america, everyone dates along racial lines in the cosmopolitan cities- chinese fvck chines..latinos fvck latinos, Africans fuvk blacks, akatas inclusive. So whats this gripe about black dick and white girls? How many times have you seen Latinos or chinese with white women. Why shd black be different.

You dont know anything- talk about Canada where there are no people..not America

Where that fvk do you live in America?

PrinceOfLagos:
Afamed, you still carry your tears enter new year?

From Abuja, through Nassarawa (karu) to KAduna (through Gidan mai) to Jos and Plateau (through Forest), back to NAssawara through Akwanga, Lafia and then Benue (through Makurdi) Otukpo and unto Enugu- a distance or more than 1200km..no single Po billboard anywhere.

But he wants to win Middle belt

Gbam

ogbiwa:
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-manchester-62588504

Im really sorry for this nigga.

He played himself. I never liked him anyway.let him do time

abc115:
Over 2,000 PDP Members in Shanga Local Government, Kebbi State Join APC

https://twitter.com/Imranmuhdz/status/1553797875708186625/photo/3

This person is a hired hand, propagating fake news from twiiter. The Seun/moderators look into this? paid mercenaries sharing fake news from unevrified sources

hmmmm...this your pregnancy so..how are you sure it will not be a deformed child too? Another case of cerebral palsy? Do you know if it runs in his genes? thats what you should be more concerned about. before you divorce, give birth and get stuck with a child with medical conditions you cant take care of alone, because you left and he wont have you back

H0711:
Thank you . Right now he can't afford that 200k monthly , his younger sister has refused to come and help taking care of the child. Me too I can't kill myself in my condition and I will leave next month.

Fancygurl23:
Hi. I started having big breasts even before I clocked 16. They kept getting bigger and bigger as I aged. I'm 23 now and my breasts are bigger than I want them to be.

My breasts get in the way of the lifestyle I want to live. As a young child I always wanted to be an athlete but my big breasts became a hindrance.

I also have an interest in modeling cos I'm tall but my big breasts prevent me from wearing most dresses. Even wearing normal dresses are a problem for me. Breasts are always shooting out making me appear slutty when I don't want to be.

And then there is the unnecessary attention. Men always starring at me like I was an alien. I want to be approached because I'm beautiful and smart, not because I have big boobs

I hate my boobs and I want to reduce them. I inquired about surgery but the payment is in the range of over a million naira. I don't have such money.

Is there any local herb or something I can eat or drink to reduce my breasts? Are there medications I can take?

Please this is a serious question and I had to create a new account for it cos I don't want people trolling me w
ith my main account.

Me that can die for big brezz. Pls send me your number

Okay, following

Cornelbasil:
Hello Guys, I got an invite at the Federal Ministry of trade and logistics. I don't know how much they pay because I currently have a job that pays me up to 100k a month. Please an advice would be appreciated

Scam..there is nothing like Federsl Ministry of Trade & Logistics. It is federlw ministry of industry, trade and inveatment.

www.nid.fmiti.gov.ng.

Dont be duped. Google is your friend

Rebuke:
What?! Bros, please just shut this crap yhu are typing here.

How many rich Nigerians do yhu even know and where do yhu live that yhu are running yhur mouth?

You are foolish-abroad has 205 destinations as countries. spending 3weeks abroad doesn't mean living in one penthouse on porchester terrace. it could mean business trips to 4 or 5 different cities over a 21 day period. Is that living abroad?
dangote lives in Parkview, Ikoyi
Otedola lives in B/Island
Adenuga lives in B/Island- this one doesn't even travel anywhere
Mai deribe lives in Maiduguri
Foloronsho Alkija, Ikoyi (the husband every evening is in Ikoyi Club, where he is now banned)
Abdulsamad Rabiu- Maitama/Ikoyi
etc etc.
Davido is presently in France. A fool like you will say he lives in France. He has a house in Atlanta, but he is hardly ever there? Wiz kid has a house in LA, he is always in Ghana. Burna nko? PSquare, with a condo in Buckhead, Atlanta, and doesn't even go there? except on tour

What do you know? People that can leave Nigeria, spend three weeks abroad, hopping from city to city, then return, this foolish guy living in isele Ukwu or Boki saying they live abroad. Is abroad a single place or comi=bination or more than 205 countries?

Dumb. Die in your ignorance

Newboss:
Oga, they LIVE there. They do business here. It's not actually hard to figure out. Nigeria does not have what it takes to support their lifestyle.

It's not worth it. Where will you drive your Rolls Royce and Lamborghini? In those gutters in Lagos? Oh, then they kidnap you.

Baba, it's very simple. They DO NOT live in Nigeria. They only do business here, or visit friends and family. They are always in a hurry to hop on their jets once they're done.

Where are you writing this jargon from? which part of Nigeria? because obviously, you don't live in any of the big cities where we are neighbors to these people and see them everyday- on their way to work, when they come back, in the club or at seminars they attend. What do you know about the Ote's and dangote's you mention here? and say they live abroad? Dangote has repeatedly even said he does not have any house abroad, you are here typing drivel just to feed into your narrative of you wanting to go and live abroad. Who is stopping you?

Just Shut it abeg and believe whatever you wish to believe.Simplicita.

All these impressionable children

Newboss:
They live there and do business in Nigeria. That's what I just said.

Not everyone abroad is working 9-5.

They don't live there, ogbeni. They vacation there. Simple. Believe Ote's Ig life at your own peril

TheABOMINATION:
Moving from USA to Nigeria would make a person run mad. I have seen a lot of people like that. I don't know why but it the sad reality.

I nearly ran mad when I came back for reasons I don't care to mention here now. It took me two years before I got a job and started getting back on my feet. Now, I am happier here than there.

Now lemme tell you about America.

America is good, depending on your level and state before you got there. If you were jobless, doing POS or selling rat poison in traffic, getting to America will seem like heaven for you and you cant stop thanking God you got there. If you were doing good, living the good life in Nigeria, and then relocated to America, America is only a slight upgrade. There is nothing an American can enjoy there, you wont enjoy here (with your money ofcourse).

If you were using iphone11 and you got bumped to iphone13, will you go thanking God and be freaked that you are now using iphone13? No. But if you were using techno or itel and then got gifted 1phone 13, its a whole new game altogether.

That's how it is-so it depends on your status on Nigeria really and then how you got there- your path to citizenship. If you go as a student on full tuition, you are good. If a spouse or parent won a green card and you go and you don't even have an idea how rent is paid, you are good too. You don't worry about insurance, taxes, etc etc. Someone has already made the sacrifice for you.

But if you go on a visa, overstay and hope to make good? You are on a long thing, and your experience will be one of stress and near bitterness. Your path to citizenship determines everything.

In America, someone must have made the sacrifice for you, for you to come and start enjoying the good life. If you are the one to make the sacrifice? Only your children will enjoy o, not you- you are the pathfinder, the sacrificial lamb- you won't enjoy your life- others would.

Las las..if you are earning good in Nigeria, you have a better life balance- money, family, social network, sense of community etc.

There, its a lonely society out there, so cold it can make you miserable in old age due to loneliness.

My two kobo

When this gets to front page, i will comment. Not now

Poshriel:
if you check or spy on your spouse's phone and you dont find him or her guilty of anything, pls that person is a rare gem.
i wil keep saying it try to find out what your spouse does on social media. it will shck you. especially whatsapp and facebook messenger.

my love story ended two weeks ago when someone from nairaland here helped me hack my man's whatsapp. what i saw and read made me walk out of a relationship of two years. i loved him yes but i dolged a bullet by leaving.

pls check them out before saying "i do".

the tech guy is here on nairaland. i can drop their contacts if you wish.

this is my mail dami.ojo@yahoo.com

Is he marroed? Did he impregmate someome?/ so waht actually did u see?

Danielomisco:
Damn bro,some hard stuff this girl is my ideal lady i loved her alot everything was tyt she jst left me in a day,stopped pickin my calls n all forever.Broke me bad...im so so hardened now

Tell.us what happened bros

SeunDobo:
You are very stupid paddy mi ... No dey spend money on your girl friend or fiancee you no go hear ..sholo mad ni .... naira Marley said if you have girl na just your turn .. tomorrow if see better over she go leave you ... you no go hear .. anyway sorry shaaa ..you go don wise now

Alaye calm down....i have tried to understand this his situation..and this is my conclusion, based on, he dodged replyng my last post.

They were in an open relationship. He coukd fvck anybody he wanted where he was, she also could fvck anybody shw wanted where she was. In other words, she was a runz girl, of which he knew.

Then he moved to her town ans they.started cohabitting because he was spending on her. She started looking fly and was cool, with the cash, but she now wnated exclusivity.

Baba agreed because he was now in love and for her it was convdnient, because he would only be spending on her now. After awhile,she felt bored and wanted her freedom perhaps cos ahe is atill young, the 22ish range, by which time, baba had already fallen in love.

She started looking for excuses or faults to leave him then she stumbled on a message, and she ended it, then later acceeted to come back, but no sex(perhaps she was now seeing another man she was having sex with and wont want to sleep with another man)

She left him and he is still heart broken, which has happened to me too, happens to many of us

RavagedHeart:
I'm not going to mention the job to avoid pointing fingers to my real self.
And she didn't school in a small town. But I won't mention that too.
I think her pride made her stand by her decision, and she's got other richer men coming her way. I just don't know.
You haven't met girls with excessive strong head

My brother, i am saying this because i have been in your same exact shoes, i am still.in those shoes, even as we speak...almost a year on, and mine too held hands on a very flimsy reason to leave(we were also co habitting) but if i was making just a quatter of what you were even making,she would have gone nowhere.

Most of our issues, if you traced the root, they were money related. A woman you being with a for four of 5yrs? Jusr because she saw a message?

Like mine, that was just the excuse..

And except she is an out an out runz girl, who shags any married man that comes along, how many men can she meet who earn 600k monthly.

Na so the rich men full nigeria

Bros..you are not telling us the whole truth. How can a woman leave you when yku are are earning 600k a momth. A student for that matter and one you have been with for four years?

Just on suspicion? Not that she even caught you. And walk away from you while still ewrning money and taking care of her in a small town that is not abuja, lagos or PH.

That your dream job..what is it yahoo abi? Even at that, she wont still leave you. Tell us the truth. weo go beat you

kay29000:
I guess we are alike. I totally understand you. I'm also a fiction writer...I have 30 stories on Nairaland literature section, and 11 novellas published across Amazon/Apple/Barnes and Noble...but yet nothing. I wasted 3-4 years writing Nigerian style novels and trying to sell on Amazon and Apple. All the while, mk82 kept telling me to stick to non-fiction, but I wouldn't listen. It was just hard for me to stick to non-fiction when everyday I wake up to a new fiction story idea.

After a while, I started out writing erotica with a female American pen name. It was much better when it came to earnings compared to my Nigerian stories, where I made just a few dollars monthly at my peak. But even at that, after about 25 short erotica stories written, I still make very little. An embarrassing $10 a month at my best month. My books are on Kindle Unlimited and they are mostly read by people on the unlimited program...so about 200 page reads of my stories only amounts to $1. Pitiful.

I went ahead to write one gay short story when I read how profitable the market for gay books was, but although that did better than all my other erotic books (3-4 sales monthly with no promo), I just couldn't write another. Writing that story took a toll on me.

With all that said, I will advise any newbie to stick to non-fiction. Please don't make the same mistake I made. I wrote a total of 60 stories in 5 years and made very little from it. Imagine if I had invested that time into writing non-fiction. I remember a time in 2015 when I dedicated some time to writing short 'How To' books and I was making an average of $100 monthly. I wish I had stuck with non-fiction, but the writer in me wouldn't let me. I was slipping slowly into depression cos I had this uncontrollable urge to write fiction. I guess the ability to write fiction is both a gift and curse for me.

Long story short, please stick to non-fiction.

By the way, my stories on nairaland were posted with my other account. I have noticed some people going through my posts because of this comment. I have a split personality...this is my more flexible account...not my serious account.

When pride goes before a fall.

You posted blurbs of your book here around 2015. Somebody gave you quality advice. You were very aggressive in shutting him down, told him he knew nothing and you were going to blow. He even told you to change this your funny sounding name, but you refused.

You said it was for mindshare and recall. You wanted your name to be popular, bestselling author, valid aspiration. You forgot that once your book blows, that pen name gets blown, the real writer becomes known.

But you wanted your name out there, befoe the book. Now, four years later, you have come around.

When children dont listen.meanwhile, your books still carry your real name on kindle.

To your books- you write okay. But you dont paint vivid scenarios, your stories lack synopsis, and they dont kick quick enough.

Without a good synopsis, without a quick hook on page one or two, why would anyone keep reading your book?

One was about an Abdul coming into a house, one about some kindergarten school kids playing love. One story just 13pages long. Your longest story was 79kindle pages, meaning the source file in word was only like 25 or 30pages.

The guy who adviced you told you to write more quality and longer fiction, you said you will do low content novellas and series.

Why would anyone pay you a dollar to read a 30page novella set in nigeria. If i saw a 300page kindle book, well written and set in Nigeria or siberia at 4.99 or even 9.99, i will buy.

People buy a good story, not location. Things fall apart was written in an african village, set in pre colonial times but white people,even loved it more than blacks.

The problem with most people on this thread and i have read more than 100pages so far, is that they mercenaries who are looking for a quick buck.

You are even a decent (just decent) writer, so you even stand a chance. Most of these other people will not get a dime from kindle as this thread has proved. They are just desperate to make quick money, without a story.

Thats why the nonfiction yarn as promoted by MK82 kicked in. If its non fiction, all you need to do is copy and paste, rejig, change words, pass the plagiarism test and you are on kindle. You have your How-To book or recipe, getting you $30 a month.

If its fiction? How do you do this with someone's story? Rejig? You'l be found out

There are no genuine, natural born writers here, just business men.. Even MK82 himself is just a business man who hires ghost writers for his kindle books. But atleast he has a strategy.

Many of the books written by writers here should be flushed out of amazon. They are making the whol place a mess with their low quality poorly written books- 20page recipe books, plagiarised stories sold as self help and motivational.books.

You will see the occassional $100, $300 or even buy a car, as MK82 always says of his mentees, but long term, you wont make anything out of this.

I have been a writer since i was 8years and i can tell you confidently that you cant write a well researched 200page, MS Word manuscript in under a month. No matter how fast and inspired you are. That is almost 300pages or more on kindle.

Just writing o- you havent editted, you havent proofread, you havent published and (now marketted on kindle), yet people are here saying they write 5books a week. How? Ghostwriters. If they were that good, they will be challenging for a spot on the kindle bestseller list.

With all these 10,000word efforts, you havent written a book, you have written a pamphlet. You think its without reason that the likes of Clancy, Ludlum etc wrote barely a dozen or two dozen books over a lifetime and writing career spanning 65years?

Someone even came here, saying he wrote a 198,000 word book in two days. Almost 200k word book fa. In kindle that is almost 1,000pages in two days. Atleast MK82 shut him up.

What manner of fuckery?

Thats why the enthusiasm on this thread is dying down, because they all thought, writing a book and being a bestseller is mashing up material on the internet and publishing a pamphlet as a book on kindle, littering the whole place with junk and bragging i have 100books, i have 200books.

Rubbish.

Research your niche, write a quality story that should be atleast 50,000 words long or 250pages on kindle and do your marketting.

If you get 5,000downloads of that book every month you are good- fiction or non fiction, location Nigeria or American(but pen name shd be foreign). Frederick Forsyth wrote Nigeria themed stories.

If you want, write junk 20word recipes or nooks on weight loss or how to books, you will just be wasting your time on Amazon.

There's a difference between a writer and a publisher/businessman. MK82 is a publisher cum business man who curates other peoples writing and publishes it as his, making his cool money.

You are writer who writes, but can now throughAmazon, publish your work too, and make money. But you must have talent, do this or just bring out money and get ghost writers , to atleast write you high quality content, so you can be publisher business man too.

Choose your hustle, properly.
White people are very smart, they now know better.

OP, thanks for this thread by the way. God will bless you

45k for 32' tv. Thief.
Go sell..for ladipo na..u no knw where ladipo dey again?

You come be liar join

Acmepreneur:
Lol, I finished my masters 1year, 8months ago at age 22.
I have many skills that I have a business plan on. Currently, I'm planning to launch my business very soon but I have no money to do that. I'm planning my travelling to Canada, I'm applying for scholarships because I made a an excellent grade in both Msc & Bsc and was the best student in my class in both. I can start a business with my little skills, but that would be too low of me since I have siblings who are on my neck for me to travel out to Canada, just that the process is too slow. My life plan is set, which means once God answer my prayers, I would rise in a very high speed. I want to marry him before travelling so I would just process his own easily

Ehe..you are everything your boyfriend is- and worse, you are entitled.

You have the same masters, but without a job. You are pressuring him to do masters, nigga wants to make money.

At 24, you should be entry level executive or Program Officer or Technician.where u work. Why are you not all these, if life was so smooth? Alll these impressionable women who see life through rose tinted glasses.

You dont know where your mates who are 24yrs are? They are already on level 9 in federal civil.service.

She assumes that at 24,she is a small girl. Self delusion.

You have many skills and many business plans. Which of the many skills have you made a success of? Be calling business plan upandan like one big thing.

Wetin be business plan? Something wey akara women dey use tie kwese. Can you even understand a proforma balance sheet? She dey intimdate us with business plan since.

Your skills, haidresser, programmer, eye lash technician or make up artiste, which of them have earned you even a farthing? Be here poaturing that you have many skills when half your life is almost gone(since you are the one putting people under pressure na)

You plan to launch your business very soon. What every Tom, Dick.and Harry says. Eveeybody alwats plans to launch something. How are you different from any of these people?

Yoi dont have momey to launch..is that not your boyfriends complain too? That he doenst have money to start a business. Are you unserious too?

You want to go to canada. The dream of every lazy and defeated Nigerian. The preffered escape route.

You cant use your skill to start business because it is too low for you. Pride. Sidon there. In 10yrs, you will.still be here writing this epsitle.and going to shilloh looking for husband at 34.

Continue..we wish you luck

Acmepreneur:
I don't earn anything substantial for now. I don't work. But I do teach online and earn little PayPal through my online skills, and I am building some business underneath which I plan to launch. I'm also applying for scholarships for my PhD, applying for jobs, and processing Canada

This is the part i was looking for since.. I just saw on page 3.

You are jobless, earn nothing, gallivant about posturing that you teach online, online enterpreneur, meanwhile thats just to make u seem like a serious person, with a job.

Just from reading your post, i just knew your situation- a woman with no tamgible.value asides what she feels is advice or psychological support.

This is not even a crime, except that you are so entitled and narcissistic. Only few have seen through you.

Why havent you put all this advice on yoursef in making yoursef better asides been a jobless masters holder with a boyfriend who ahe hopes to be her meal ticket?

All that whole advice use it for yourself na. You, you cant get job? Is it not.your mates that are working for MTN, GT, UN, Gates Foundation.etc? Dem get 4breasts?

You like developing innovations, big plans,ambitious etc. Which innovation you don ever develop, even if its just an app that recharges fones from with nepa meter. Or a water and sanitation (WASH) solution for impoverished communities.

Nonsense and ingredients. Looking for a meal ticket or a man to save her from generatiomal poverty.

Your boyfriend get enough fvk ups on his own, but you are his major fvck up sef.

Go hustle o, no be every problem, nyash go solve this year

Yeye dey smell

cooooooks:
Are you making money yourself?

Not everybody is interested in killing themselves for Masters/going abroad/making more money.

As long as he is working and keeping up with his responsibilities, reduce the pressure. Marry him for who he is not who you are molding him to be.

IF you don't like him as a person, not as a number or a degree, leave him. IF you do, think about what you're doing. Love, real sustainable love is hard to come by.

I think she has conveniently dodged this question which i have also put to her.

Leeches who havent a clue how to live their life but want to tjink they can puah another.

Her push and suggestions are only valid if she has something going for her too. But i doubt

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

Haaanty, with all your big, big grammer, big on ideas, big on this, big on that, what do u do? What are you bringing to the table.

I giess nothing. If you have a job,whats your pay and level? If you have a business, whats your income and what problem do you solve? Or you are all these girls dat sell shoe and bag online?

If you are a student,whats your cGPA. What are yoi reading? And by 21, you shd have graduated.

What do you do for a living? I guess nothing because you never mentioned what you do,an initio, and you are here talking crap.

Answer these first, them we will treat your boyfriend Bleep up too