greatiyk4u: HOW A LAGOS DRIVER CONNECTED ME TO MY WIFE 😍❤️
Going to work everyday from Bariga to Island is not beans. If you know, you know. The traffic, the rush, the conductors shouting "CMS CMS O PAY O!"
That Tuesday morning, I entered a danfo as usual. The bus was full. Just one fine lady beside me. Complete spec. The one wey if you see am, you go say "God really took time."
We got to Obalende and wahala started. Change.
Driver no get 100 naira to give us. I no get. She no get. The driver just looked at me and said, "Oga, take 200 naira share with my sister for back."
I was still calculating how to share 200 naira for two people, when this damsel looked at me calmly, smiled and said, "Don't bother, Sir. You can have it. It's fine."
Ha! In this Lagos? Where person fit fight you because of 50 naira change?
It wasn't just the money. It was how she said it. So respectful, so kind. Her words melted me. For a city where everyone is angry and rushing, her calmness stood out.
I couldn't let that kindness go just like that. I said, "Ah, no na. Give me your number let me do transfer, or at least let me reciprocate tomorrow."
She laughed and gave me her number. Happily.
One thing led to another. Chat turned to calls. Calls turned to dates. Dates turned to love.
From a stranger in a Bariga bus to my peace of mind.
Today, we are not just lovers. We are partners. And by God's grace, this January before election - because nobody knows where this country will go after election - we will be walking down the aisle. 😊
Moral: Kindness still exists in Lagos. Sometimes your destiny is sitting right beside you in traffic.
Lagos driver, thank you. You shared more than change that day. You shared my future wife.
Happy Sunday all Ladies can you do same?
Love can find you in the most unlikely places.... All the best in January!!!
zoghys: That out of place and inappropriate to such a legend, whom have done and given to the film industry. Inasmuch I don't personally agree with his assessment of the present economic situation under the ruling APC which is within his right to either critic or agree with, your outburst and insult is needless and not in tandem with the omoluabi ethos.
Most times, when I try to blame Israel for going too far in their war against Hamas... Looking at the stupid horrfying act of Hamas on that day makes me think otherwise!!!
Goo0dHardDick: Guys, I have come to realize that I'm extremely stingy, especially with money.
Don't get me wrong, I do give but before you can eat or get my money, it's obvious you must have probably worked extremely hard for it.
I don't know, I have this mindset of calculating my money after daily, weekly and monthly expenses. Anywhere I discovered I misspent I'll get angry with myself. Before I buy anything, I must have calculated it thoroughly and accurately before dashing out to the market or boutique. I can't just be walking on the road and see something beautiful and then purchase it without first going home to plan thoroughly about it.
As for women, lol. They call me stingy and aka gum. I don't use money to prove anything to anyone.
I am so stingy that before I do anything with money, the purpose of it must be crossed check over and over again and again to ascertain if it worth it.
Does anyone feels the same way or is it just me?
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You are not stingy... You are just an accountable person and frugal with spending.
ManLikeL: Brothers, What Will You Advise a Brother?
I'm currently confused about my relationship journey.
I haven't really been the type to consider a serious relationship for a while now. It's just been a couple of sex partners here and there. We do it safely and keep things on a superficial level.
Now, recently, there have been demands and questions here and there about starting a family, especially considering that my immediate junior brother is done having children. His lastborn will be three next month, while the lastborn of my family is also done having kids. Her firstborn is already 10 years old.
I seem to be the only odd one out in this regard, even though I'm arguably more financially settled than all of them. Not to brag, please; I'm just trying to paint a clearer picture of the situation.
I clocked 35 in May, and it was as if everyone in the universe agreed to centre their birthday wishes around God providing me with a wife and family. Ever since then, the reminders from my folks have been pretty loud, persistent, and disturbing.
For the first time in years, I decided to seek a proper relationship, unlike my usual superficial flings and sexcapades.
Come to think of it, I can barely go three days without proper sex. This detail should be useful later.
I met this very beautiful babe from my state. She's 27, a first-class graduate (I am too, actually), and I'm naturally attracted to every facet of intelligence, especially communicative and academic intelligence. She has both, and I'm superbly into her.
She can hold a very reasonable conversation without leaving you mentally exhausted. She's become an integral part of my life, and at this point, I think it's safe to say I'm deeply attracted to her and genuinely like her.
Worthy of note is the fact that I've enjoyed a very unusual level of peace with her over the past three months, which is absolutely unlike me.
I get correct anger ish, although I've learnt to manage it well. I'm not a violent person, but I pick offences easily, and most times, I walk away when provocations get too loud. More often than not, my walking away is goodbye. I'm so good at it.
But since meeting this babe, we've not had any ugly disagreements over these past few months. She's very calm, calculated, and receptive. These qualities have made me like her even more.
She has a reasonably good-paying job, but that's not even an issue. I earn well enough to cater for everything, but she's also financially independent. Gifting seems to be her thing, too, as she's spent quite a sum on gifts for me without expecting anything in return. I haven't even matched up to a quarter of what she's spent on gifting though.
For the first time in my life, I agreed to a no-sex-before-marriage relationship because she's a virgin.
I still dey run my games on a low, so this didn't really look like an ish.
Here lies the rub.
Just last week, she said she had a confession to make, and she opened up about being SS. Mind you, I'm AA, so, by the usual norms, this shouldn't be an issue.
But during one of our previous conversations, she had claimed to be AS and asked if I would be comfortable settling down with someone who was SS. I almost freaked out.
I'm sorry, but I've always wanted to have AA kids. With apologies to those affected, I've always believed that if I ever have children, I owe them the best possible chances at life, including heightened intelligence, beauty, and a sound genotype. I believe I have a reasonable degree of control over who complements my genes to bring these qualities to fruition.
I'm honestly very good-looking and intelligent, so why not get someone who possesses these qualities, too?
Call it insipid or vapid, but I could swear that life has already dealt some people heavy blows by limiting their options in their quest for a future partner. Unlike those of us with AA genotypes, who can consider partners across all the common genotypes without the same risk of having children with sickle cell disease, they don't always have that freedom. I wanted my kids to have that freedom and an avalanche of options, too.
So, when she asked me that question, I sincerely freaked out and couldn't hide my disdain.
This, in turn, stopped her from opening up until last week, when she could no longer hide it.
Funnily enough, I already like her to the point where I don't mind if she's SS, BB, or iPhone.
But the fact that she lied is what actually turned out to be my ish. She's been a very straightforward person so far, and this particular issue has upset our fashioned norms.
I proposed that the no-sex-before-marriage agreement should be off if we were going to be together, and she agreed. But now, I'm beginning to think it might look as though I'm trying to take advantage of her at this point.
Brothers, what will you advise a brother? Am I being unreasonable? Considering the emotional supports people with SS need, how challenging can it be? What is the possibility that she lives long enough?
All insults, curses, and whatever are welcome. T for grateful.
Chikispilot: Goodmorning Good people I will keep this brief
I have a brother he's the eldest and about 28 years old, he's a heavy drug user, he takes everything, all types of weed including Kolos, Ice, and Crystal Meth, we've tried everything possible to stop him but I don't think he can turn back at this point he's heading to his grave
However the actual reason am making this post is not I love him anymore or wants to change him rather it's for out own safety, my parents lives in the village I usually visit them, I am the third child and second son, I am 22 years old.
This boy don't sleep anymore after taking those drugs he will talk till morning everyday, he will threaten my parents and everyone including his children and wife ( he impregnated one girl Like that)
Last week he almost killed his wife if not that my parents were around he was hitting her with stick and my parents intervened
Fast-forward to this week he fought me, I didn't even do anything to him I just came back and he rushed me with Cutlass by the grace of God I overpowered him and gave him a nice beating
Yesterday night I was sleeping and I started hearing a shout I woke up and came outside only to find him fighting my parents this boy was using all kind of weapon on my mum I got very upset and descended on him with wood, I beat him till he got weak, now he's threatening to kill everybody in the house
Like I said I live in the city and will be going back soon, I can't live home Like that cos this boy will definitely do something stupid, I don't even want to go far back on to start counting what we've done and the countless money spent on that slowpoke
I want him arrested and taking out of out family house I don't want to lose my parents at the age of 22, we can't afford a Rehabilitation center now, we're poor, I just want to get him arrested to make sure everyone is safe
I don't really know how the constitution works but can police hold him for us? If yes for how long ? Please 🥺 my parents already have High BP because of this god forsaken boy I need serious advice
I would have said you should charge him with attempted murder but that would be too harsh... That's the only way to have him apprehended and locked up by the law... Just know that when he eventually gets out of jail; he will come for everyone!!!
A more humane advise is to try get the money needed to send him to a psycho hospital.
I went to a bachelor’s eve party thinking it was just going to be a normal night with the boys.
Music, drinks, jokes, and everybody catching cruise before the wedding.
At some point during the night, some of the guys decided to bring a few escorts to the party. I wasn't involved in the arrangement, and honestly, I wasn't comfortable with how the night was suddenly going.
Then something happened that I still haven't been able to process.
One of the ladies walked in.
I looked at her.
She looked at me.
And my heart literally stopped.
It was my fiancée.
Not my girlfriend.
My fiancée. The woman I was planning to marry.
For a few seconds, neither of us could say anything. She looked just as shocked as I was.
I didn't ask questions. I didn't cause a scene. I didn't even wait to understand what was happening.
I just walked out.
Since then, my phone hasn't stopped ringing.
She's been calling me all day. Our friends have been calling too. Some have been begging me to at least hear her out before making any decision.
But honestly, I'm struggling.
I keep asking myself: What exactly was she doing there? How did she end up at that party? Was this some terrible coincidence? Was there something she wasn't telling me?
And the hardest part is that this isn't just about a girlfriend anymore.
This is the woman I was supposed to build a life with.
I haven't answered her calls yet because I know that if I pick up while I'm still angry and confused, I might say something I'll regret.
Maybe there is an explanation.
Maybe there isn't.
But one thing I know for sure...
Trust is easy to break and incredibly difficult to rebuild.
Right now, I don't know whether I need to hear her explanation, walk away completely, or simply take some time to process what happened.
If you were in my shoes, would you hear your fiancée out before making any decision?
She might have a good explanation.... But the trust is broken already!!!
Lovelink1991: There was a show of shame among lovers that made people gathered because of the way a lady took over the riding seat of her boyfriend's keke insisting they must continue with the relationship but the man say he nor do again
Tunzdomains: Dear Nairalanders and well-meaning Nigerians on this great platform,I am writing this to cry out for assistance and to create a public record regarding a transaction with a well-known moniker on this platform, Bigkoko, who also runs Calm Travels. In June 2024, I contacted him based on a thread he posted here advertising services for a German Sponsorship Letter (Verpflichtungserklärung). After our discussions, I paid him the sum of €1,000 (One Thousand Euros) in July 2024 to execute the service.Unfortunately, he failed to secure the sponsorship letter. After he confirmed he could not deliver, I requested a full refund. The Issue:Since March 2025, he has given me a continuous series of broken promises, shifting dates, and unfulfilled deadlines to return my money. At one point, he completely changed his WhatsApp number, leaving me unable to contact him for months until I managed to source his new number back on this platform. To date, he is still holding onto my €1,000 and giving endless excuses.I have complete records of our WhatsApp conversations spanning from 2024 to present, bank proofs of payment, and all relevant transaction details. [b]My Request:[/b]I am appealing to the Nairaland community, the moderators, and anyone who knows Bigkoko (Calm Travels) to prevail upon him to return my hard-earned money. If you have successfully recovered funds from him before or have advice on the best legal/administrative steps to take against his business entity, please share it with me.
So i got my first car however, the former owner told me he was using Total Quartz 20-50 Which is the oil i have just changed to. But then i just decided to google it and every Ai is saying thats the wrong oil. That it should be 5-20
Zyxsc: You are going through a phase. Don't fight it.
Soon, you would know when to be this man you're becoming or be the kind-hearted man you used to be (depending on who you're dealing with at a given moment). That, my friend, is where the real strength lies.
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