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Lolaabokoku: A friend of mine just got married and she told me how she asked her husband about his salary and how much he earn monthly but the husband stylishly waved the questions with another topic.. After then, my friend starts feeling bad and she tells me her husband does not loves her.. Nairaland pls advise on this serious matter. pls no insults.

ronkebp: Dayo please read No 4 again of Tgirl's post.... if a woman treated a man, in this manner apart from the beating part, and has been doing it for a longtime, would you blame him if he starts to see another woman who treats him right?

Tgirl4real: 3. I suspect she could be emotionally attached to someone else, but I know she isn't seeing anyone. She is a principled person and her husband is domineering. She can't be caught dead cheating.lol

4. Their issue has to do with emotional/psychological stress. At d early stage of their marriage, hubby wasn't treating her well. Talks to her anyhow, sometimes in public. Compares her with his mom, sisters, friends wives and d likes. He doesn't assist her at home esp when she was preggers and at the early stage after delivery (she had twins and dey hav been married for close to 5 years). He doesn't appreciate her. He believes she is lazy and stuff like that sha. And deosn't spend tym with her. Which wasn't so before marriage. She is the out going type. He also cut her from the outside world. Wasn't allowing her attend functions, even family and church functions. He is also aggressive and impatient. She lived in awe of his cos she doesn't want to cross him. He has a very lousy tongue and sometimes use her past to taunt her.

Long story short, I guess all the accumulated stress started affecting her emotionally and she was losing interest in se.x. It was an unconscious thing though. She discussed it with hubby n he waved it aside. She decided to speak out when she noticed it was fast becoming an issue. Her husband got a hang of it and beat her. That added to her wounds and it became more difficult for her. Eventually, it got out of hand and a 3rd party was involved and issues were addressed and they were both counselled.

Here she is, totally not loving or feeling her husband again, but she is committed to the marriage.
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porka: Questions for Femi Gbaja (or Femi Gbajabiamila)

1) What is the name of the paralegal? We need names at this point.

2) Did he report the case to the police in the US?

3) If he did, are there proofs? Police report, newspaper cuttings etc.

4) If he didn't why admit guilt for something he knew nothing about? Big question...

5) Name change is common in Nigeria as every where, but is he aware that using two different names interchangeably is rare and criminal?

6) Does he know that when you change your name you ceased to answer the former name while all other documents remain valid?

7) If he does, why is he still Gbaja on his passport ( a legal document) and Gbajabiamila on INEC records (another legal document)?

Does it take over a year (more than 3 years in this case)for letters to get to a forwarding address from the US to Nigeria?

9) Did he disclose this allege scam to his constituents before the election, to show he has "nothing to hide"?

10) Borrowing the logic of some people here questioning why they waited for him to move the motion for impeachment before bringing this out, can Femi Gbaja (or Gbajabiamila) tell us why he waited till last month to publish this allege scam? Or is he just remembering he has nothing to hide by disclosing an allege crime that took place over ten years ago?



11) And then what does the LEADER OF THE OPPOSITION in the House of Representative stand for? Is it the same thing as the Minority Leader officially recognized?

dedeike: The thief stayed almost 3 years before realizing he made a "mistake". So funny. These guys just thinks us all to be fools without common sense.
This is a clear case of embezzling a client's money. It is criminal. And he knows hence the change of name.
Imagine a lawyer saying he is at liberty to change names at will. What happens to his credentials and official documents?
Like every crook, the day for Gbajabiamila's judgement is here. I can only laugh in Igbo

Arjen Robben has lauded his colleagues in Netherlands national team after its narrow win over England.

The 28-year-old bagged a decisive brace for the Oranje on Thursday night, including the winner, which condemned Stuart Pearce to defeat in his debut at the helm of the Three Lions.

Speaking to Dutch radio station NOS, Robben revealed his joy at being able to train with players of such high quality, and hailed the atmosphere in the Netherlands' camp.

"I do not always get passes like that," Robben said. "Even yesterday at practice I had so much fun, I really enjoyed being together with the guys. I really like training on such a level, and developing understanding with one another, we have so much footballing quality in this team.

"It was also pleasant to be two-three days away from Germany and to play well here."

Van der Wiel has come out and admitted that he was not impressed by Robben's contributions to the team.

"If you give Arjen the ball and he has two opponents in front of him, he'll still try and get past them," the Ajax defender stated to NUsport. "He's not the type of player to sacrifice himself for the wing-back and cut inside to create space for me, or tracks back to help me out when I'm dealing with two opponents.

"I was the one sacrificing myself for Arjen, and that's not something I'm used to. I prefer to do things together, both defending and attacking. It was a bit frustrating how things went."

http://www.goal.com/en/news/462/netherlands/2012/07/27/3268957/robben-not-the-type-of-player-to-make-sacrifices-says-van?source=breakingnews

Revolva: Dbanj is in deep shit who ever told him america will welcome his music even mr endowed sef did not even get recognition in american chats like billboard and other mega media only saw it on BET where I only watched it- the problem is dbanj thinks america is nigeria - if you aint boorn there and school there noting for you if you like pally wit top notch artist over there - look dbanj should come back home and make music here what else is he looking for at the peak of his career - he ran to kanye and saw kanye is a veeerry busy conscious man - now he is sneaking back home to elevate more and more jsleek which is good .

Well as for -IDJA - he is a masterpiece anytime solar plexus may not be a hit house but he is a guru in beats - dat take banana song by dprince smashed dat yeye oyato song hands down -oyato sounds like an advert song for tomato sauce "+" lol weak lyrics and I appluad sleek for the beat dats all

Stop tribalism ok especially igbos n yorubas plss ok

Don jazzy anytime is d highest

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I expect their usual cursing and deployment of their gutter language on me...

Fhemmmy: This one aint going nowhere anytime soon . . . Cos it does make sense to me and i think it is fair.
I guess you support how the man in Nigeria will just chase the woman out with the kids and "Marry" another woman, the woman now become the responsibility of who? her parents/Another man.

Fhemmmy: No matter who you marry, once there is a break up, all that was made and achieved while married will be divided without Prenup

Fhemmmy: In a normal setting, if Tosin was making more money than Fhemmmy and made Fhemmmy to get used to some kinda lifestyle, when they break up, Fhemmmy will ask for spousal support and he will be awardrd . . . However, let us bring this home, as my own Fhemmmy, since i am not lazy, i will be aiight without her money, but if na Halle berry

Fhemmmy: I will advice that someone like you make sure you sign a Prenuptial before you marry oh, or should i just pray you dont divorce, cos all these you saying might come back to bite you in the rear

Fhemmmy: In a normal setting, if Tosin was making more money than Fhemmmy and made Fhemmmy to get used to some kinda lifestyle, when they break up, Fhemmmy will ask for spousal support and he will be awardrd
. . . However, let us bring this home, as my own Fhemmmy, since i am not lazy, i will be aiight without her money,X

chaircover: Dont mind dayo oooo! emi ni oomo buruku yen ba wi. Yes Mr CC is buying that X5 whether he/you or anyone else likes it or not
Besides with all those qualities that he has mentioned that he is looking for in a wife, isnt it clear that he will be the one enjoying the marriage. No one has thought to ask him what he (dayo) is bringing to the marriage All I can see him and sagalulu bringing to any marriage is big big grammer and arguing skills to drive the poor woman mad. Never seen 2 men that can argue like this before in my life

Back to the question - the person; be it husband or wife that enjoys the marriage most is the one that married the right partner for the right reasons end of.

Barack Obama had some advice for the single men of America today - seek out a woman with good genes, and then marry her.

'For the gentlemen out there who are not yet married, let me just explain to you: Your goal is to improve your gene pool by marrying somebody who is superior to you.' The crowd laughed.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2136470/Obamas-advice-single-men-You-goal-improve-gene-pool-marrying-somebody-superior-you.html#ixzz21pzN9Yxi

greatgod2012: @ dayokanu, thanks 4 d qualities u stated, but its like u're not being sincere with ur previous responses, because, with d qualities u stated, who told u dt its not their hubby dt benefit more in their marriages?
1st, in whose name do u just address them?is it not in their hubby name, dont they have their maiden name,or have u seen man changing his surname to his wife's name?
2ndly, who is acclaimed d head in d marriage, even when its d woman that is d sole provider in d house can she be reffered to as d head?
3rdly, who bring forth d children and create time 4 them most, and in whose name do the children addressed?
D list can go on and on, but let me stop here, i just want u to do something, be sincere wth dis question. Thanks.

Fhemmmy: From what i have read so far from your contribution, you are probably residing in Western world and married, but never worked out and the woman left with half of the household value or you are not married yet, and probably not into business at all, cos if you are married and in business, you would agree with me that no matter how smart as a man you are, when the home front is not well, your business will suffer and no amount of money could reward the value of a "good" woman in the house.

davidylan: Lesleen, Omo eko, pataki... now those were bloody fighters.

Fhemmmy: This is not about my view being shared by a man or a woman but being fair and real
I could say that your view of a woman leaving the marriage with only what he came into it with, but would that make it right too?
How about the man leave the marriage with only what he came into it as well, then, what happened to what was made why they were both in it?

ronkebp: Oh!!!! here we go!!