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So you dont want to screw me why did you now mention screw?

I wont mind a lip job from you sha

Cuddlemii:
Its ok. We all agree to disagree once in a while . As for the cuddle, take!!!

Oya lets find one corner to go and do more than cuddle

afam4eva:
This mofo has nobody to compete with. He's a in world of his own. After Alao Akala and Ikedi Ohakim lst their election. He's now the numero uno worst governor in Nigeria. Igwe i salute you. Anumanu na fulu ndi Abia uzor.

Never, I cant agree,

Even though Akala lost elections, he is still the worst governor currently and for the next 2 decades, He did enough harm in 4 yrs to cover for 25yrs

So dont deprive my townsman of that honour pls!!!! Alao Akala is it

horny4u:
A woman will not just start beating her husband just like that,
the man must have been very naughty,
The neighbours should intervene on his behalf next time ,
so she can reduce his punishment to kneel and face the wall, eyes closed and arms up.
The man is always wrong.

Ok I get in some cases the man deserves beating, Can you tell in which cases the woman deserves beating?

Go ACN

kandiikane:
^^You have a few screws loose

You want me to screw you or you want to screw me?

blank:
@ Dayo, we don hear. Pls marry your wife let her work from 5 to 9pm (cos of the traffic). If that works for you, no qualms. If someone else would rather stay at home and manage her house maybe run a business by the side, it’s her choice. your calling the person lazy is too mean. It’s her and by extension her husband's choice. I always remember the feeling of wishing my parents were more at home. It was me and my diary cos i only saw my parents’ weekends until my mum got a ministry job. Days spent listening to one yeye househelp telling us of her s excapades and of her talking dog is enough to reduce someone's IQ.

My problem is that you are romanticizing your early childhood. If the women choose to do that, don't call them names. Like someone said, as a woman, once i had my kid, my priorities changed. I used to be so ambitious and career driven. Once, during a discussion i had with colleagues, i said that having a husband is good but having ICAN is better. Now, i am the one wanting to give up work so i can stay with my baby.

Ok, Blank what happens in the case of a divorce, How would the woman cope, I have seen mant women suffer a lot cos they were full time housewives. Especially in Nigeria when Child Support, Alimony and Spousal support are virtually non existent.

No one prays for divorce but lets not pretend it doesnt exist. Ideally speaking, Most people would want to just sit at home and go vacatoning all year round

Would you advice your sister or daughter to be a Housewife if she comes to you for advice?

I called them lazy Yes. I would call any adult who depends on another adult for upkeep lazy. Same way i would call any healthy person who depends on govt handout lazy. I am sure some of them would say they are avoiding work to stay with their kids and make them better citizens

Cuddlemii:
@ronke

That was very rude of you to refer to me as 'that one" like I am some entity or thing. I only made a comment and didn't even read your post or comment on it. I know where my priority lies and don't need you to analyze that for me. I said me being a working class lady would not affect my role as a home maker or a good wife and mother. I will like to pitch in my own quota to the family expenses and spendings. I believe you were dealing with Dayo and not cuddlemii.

As long as my goals are accomplished, I don't need to derive the method others but find what works for my whole family and off course my hubby would also be part of that decision.

Please madam, mind you grammer.

Pls don't be annoyed, I am sure she doesnt mean it because she isnt a rude person.

I caused all these, In the meantime come and cuddle me and lets make out I mean lets make up

If true I can say Fresh air.

if false I can say TRIBUNE AGAIN!!!

Yes I agree

Ronkebp is married, I am single and yet it would work between us.

Kandikaane is albino, I am dark yet it is working

MsPotato is a Yeye fowl, I am Dayokanu yet it is working

Upendo likes to talk, I am all round action yet its working.

Babe is studying "MELESIN" and I sell spare part yet it is working

Ok I get you,

Surely if all things were equal we would be sitting side by side on the beach in Bahamas

Another example of tribunes irresponsible Journalism

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-703451.32.html

edoyad:
Dayoooo ? you too de ezajarate. How could a human being mistake somalia for yankee ? That's just like someone mistaking the Bundesliga for the EPL now.

You nefa "saw" anything, The way things are going you go see burnt tyres and call it trophy. You go see Arsenal think say na Obuasi Goldfields.

You still think say I dey ezajireight? Cesc Going, Nasri going Clichy going, Bendtner to be Captain?

I laff in Gurumaharaji

chaircover:
@poster first of all please dont give people especially loved ones ultimatums unless you have a good plan B to follow through if the other person calls your bluff otherwise you end up with egg on your face.

From what you have said, you dont trust your husband even though you havent caught him. You therefore have a problem because even if he stops communicating with the ex you will still have other sleepless nights; the busty girl in his office, the pretty girl serving him at Mr Biggs, next doors younger sister on holiday from UNI and so on.

I will say leave the ex for now (she will most probably fizzle away into oblivion in time) and focus on your relationship with your husband and both try and work out why you dont trust him & both work on the these trust issues.

Please Dont speak to the ex because you will only end up giving your husband and her much more to talk about & you are leaving avenues open for them to gang up against you; calling you the mad wife.

What you do need to do is making your husband understand that he is married now and it is in all your best interest for you both to select and keep only beneficial & relevant relationships.

All the best

Spot on.

From what you have said, you dont trust your husband even though you havent caught him. You therefore have a problem because even if he stops communicating with the ex you will still have other sleepless nights; the busty girl in his office, the pretty girl serving him at Mr Biggs, next doors younger sister on holiday from UNI and so on.

ronkebp:
Dayo, abeg stop talking onbehalf of the women, please, Do you think it is easy for a woman to take her child to daycare  and have other people care for them all because she wants to make money. it is because you are a man and don't know what real mothers go through, Am telling you, if not because of money palava (since that has been your point) Women (good mothers) would want to care for their children. In Nigeria, thank God the kids start kindergarten very early, so we kind of assume the kids are in school too, Just say that for you personally, you don't want your wife to sit at home, and stop generalising that women that sit at home and care for their kids are lazy, abeg, everybody have their own priorities, for you, job/bills and money are your priorities, for others', like me, my family, is my top priority,

Probably it might be a good idea for you to just take care of the child from home through Nursery, primary secondary and even University. Good mothers in your world should care for their kids When sitting at home with them till they finish their education.

I would assume its not easy for women to take their kids to Nursery, primary, Secondary etc and have other people take care of them.

FYI, My points are for women who have career goals, For those whose lifetime goals are to be Housewives and sit at home moms I cant say much and I dont think your view represent 100% of women also because some women on this thread have said they would rather pursue their career alongside their families that sit at home as housewives waiting for handout from husband

See the response below.

Cuddlemii:
I love this topic.

I can never be a stay at home wife or housewife. I will remain a working class woman after my marriage. Being working class does not affect my being a home maker or having a successful home.

Marriage is not meant to kill your dreams but support your dreams or adjust your dreams to suit your family. Thats why you see a lot of wives are always frowning or snapping at people because they are not happy with staying at home. Some even take it out on their husbands because their husbands are living their own dreams

Plus staying at home is very risky for a woman with weight tendecies cos when your kids are off to school and you get bored, you would make the kitchen your companion and probably sleep most of the time. But the office gives you a touch of reality, you get to know the latest trends to wear for your husband, you will keep your brain active and you will be more enlightened. Some housewives would just isolate themselves from the world and start looking crazy or scruffy. Then their equally jobless friends would visit them at home and feed them with tales of their hubby cheating bla bla. The jobless housewife too would start policing the husband. Being a working class occupies your time and distracts you from irrelevant things as the only spear time you would have would be for your home.

Its better to be an asset than a liability. Even if you marry a wealthy man, what happens when he looses money or stops his responsibilities how do you want to help the family. There are even somethings that a woman is meant to provide for herself or family. So if you want to buy undies or sanitary towel, you would wait for your husband first to get those basic things. Men are very complex beings and get easily irritated and trust me I dont think they like liabilites at all, you need your hubby's respect.

Its even better for a wife to work for a while, get capital and start her own business atleast she got the experience.

Pregnant stay at home wives gain excessive weight during and after pregnancies but working pregnant women are able to manage the weight because they are active and see other working class wives with 5 kids who are still fit so it becomes competitive.

There is nothing wrong in helping your kids with funds, provision for school once in a while. Little emergencies crop to at home like money for fuel, gas, diesel and payment of the security guards or nepa bill etc. Everyone can't remain in darkness and your kids will not watch cartoon over the weekend because your hubby is not around. You need to take charge of things like this with your funds.

Servant or Appenticeship before being a master: When you work for a company or someone, you would be more appreciative, submissive and respectful indirectly this becomes a part of you and it reflects in your marriage. When you start your own business, you would motivate your staffs and be apprecative of being your own boss without it getting into your head.

Character Formation: For example, you can't work in a company and start shouting or fighting customers and colleagues without being dismissed. These office etiquette and people's management becomes a part of you and the use of good communication skills and writting skills in the workplace could even help you tutor your kids to improve on their vocabularies. It helps anger management in a family.

Work experience could even come in handy when you want to start up a company with your husband, you would have all the required skills and save cost of employing the help of a strategist. You would be able to persuade and convince investors to do business with both of you.

Being a working class would set good examples for your kids to want to emulate. You serve as a role model. It brings out your kids independent and industrious side. All those aristo babes that strive for their family after the demise of their dad or the divorce of their parents could have been reduced if their mom had a source of income from her work, pensions, shares etc.

The only thing is you might get a job with lesser hour or more flexibility to give you more time for family

ronkebp:
Hmmmm, na waooooo i never see, , seriously??!!!!!!!!!

Wetin you never see? You never see me you don dey salivate abi, Just complete am, Tell the truth and shame the devil

blank:
Dayo abeg leave story. Dropping your kids in Daycare is that not help? Whether u av a live in nanny or u av daycare, all na help. Go back and re-read your earlier statements. I live abd have lived all my life in Nigeria except for a brief stint abroad. My mum worked full time and we had a househelp as they didnt believe in daycares but as soon as the youngest was 1 and a half and started school, that was it. Just say the full truth and stop shading the stories, blurring the edges.

If daycare is help then taking kids to Nursery school too is help, cos the teachers/aunties are helping too Taking them to primary school is help cos the teachers are doing work mom should have done.

Basically everyone had help. Is that your point? If yes I cant argue with that, We were sent to daycare, kindergarten, Nursery, Primary and Secondary school which means my mom had HELP.

Needless to say we didnt have washing machine, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners etc

Typically Pregnant women had 3-6months maternity leave and after that, Daycare straight, later to kindergarten, later to Nursery, Primary Secondary So we had help all the way from Daycare to Secondary. ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?

Beaf =/= Ima Niboro, Beaf is a young boy

blank:
Dayo, what u said is a BIG FAT LIE!!! How won't your mum have had help while also working? Did she back u guys as babies to the office? Abi she dey work for daycare? So she walked everyday to work? Was her office 2 streets away or she didnt mind being late? Na wa 4 u guys. If u want to lie, tell small small ones so that we can pretend we did not see it.

Did you hear about a place called daycares where women can drop children on their way to work, My dad drops the older kids in Nursery/Primary, My mom drops the younger in Daycares.

Obviously you didnt live long enough in Nigeria, How many working class ppl had cars? How many civil servants has cars in the 80's and even now. She walked, when her work was further she took public transport.

Maybe living in Nigeria and experiencing how people live day to day would solve some misconception.

Ask most people here, How many of them had househelps growing up, How many of them whose moms had cars growing up, How many of them whose moms were housewives. And you would get a better idea if only they would tell you the truth which might be difficult since many ppl on here would want us to believe their parents were super rich and they could afford 4 nannies and 4 househelps while their moms changed cars every hour while sitting at home

Ndipe:
Being a fulltime housewife is itself work, because you are taking care of the kids, cooking and taking care other domestic duties in the household. It's ignorance to assume that fulltime housewives have it good. No, they dont, and dont even tell me that it's a waste of education for a woman to be a fulltime housewife after finishing college. The fact that she is educated and literate is positive proof that her education is not in vain. Personally, if I am very rich, I would want my wife to be a stay at home mom and take care of the kids in their infancy before transitioning to the corporate world. It's not easy. Give women a break, give housewives a break. Or if your daughter were to tell you that eventually, she would be a housewife after her education, you will choose not to educate her beyond elementary school? My parents are dead, and my senior brother and I took care of the responsibilities of educating our sisters. The youngest, after completing her bachelors decided to do business instead of working 9-5 and I supported her decision and told her that I am ok with it as long as she can live comfortably from it. Or should I have just said, "What a waste of resources after spending 4, 5, 6 years in college?" No!

What household jobs needs 24hrs attention with all the gadgets available right now?

Most women dont wash cloths with their hand, But I already found out on this thread that taking clothes and stuffing them in washing machines take a whole day, Same with washing dishes/Dishwashers.

Your wife incurred loans to get educated maybe like $50k, So how would she pay back that? By sitting at home?

Like a Poster said, I even think its self centered and chauvinistic. The Husband has an ambition to be a to exec and he is working towards it, WHat happens to whatever ambition the woman nursed while growing up? Or do some ppl have ambitions of sitting at home all day?

After a few years the kids would be in school, What would the wife be doing when kids are in school? Doing laundry daily?

What happens in the case of a divorce? WHat does the woman live on?  I am even shocked that any Nigerian woman would want to be a housewife. I see this a lot in the Northern parts of the country and even in the South

Look around you and see the fate of housewives after divorce, Most of them are useless and cant even fend for themselves because all their lives they have depended on handouts from husband. What not happens when husband kicks you out? Or she would dust u her certificate after 10yrs of not working or gaining any work experience, Who would employ such persons

I know the Nigerian Response: GOD FORBID, IT CAN NEVER HAPPEN TO ME IN JESUS NAME lol  

When would they extend this to other law breakers like Boko Haram?

Did yu copy this from someones facebook?

Is the person celebrating a birthday or an anniversary cos Emi e a se pupo means You would live to see many more of this

edoyad:
It's so hard expending energy trying to understand what's going on at the Emirates, so darn hard. I hate that cursed stadium.

HE HE HE You never jam, By the time WenGAY finishes with you, You go see Yankee call am Somalia

Fstranger,

Which format dey chop nowadays?

Odechukwus Fresh air

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=701925.msg8624681#msg8624681 date=1309459049]@KK

ok - i agree with whatever you say, this poor woman has been murdered let's focus on the thread.

it's blazing hot over here, dreaming of cool breeze, tall glass of water [shy-one dripping with sweat][/quote]Helloooo

Na wa oo

The previous AD governors like Bisi Akande Lam Adesina, Adefarati etc left very little debt for their states when leaving office even Akande was commended by all including his predecessors and OBJ himself

Good one Uche

OK. May God grant your heart wishes and give you a husband who would work while you sit at home loading the washing machine everyday(since you operate a laundry) and dishwasher everyday (Since its a canteen)

For me I would take a working career woman not someone who wakes up to African Magic

What could she have done to deserve this.

This guy surely has mental issues