Agozskey:
Guys I just need your opinion on this... Let me make it brief
There's this girl dat I see everyday at my place of work, this girl is bam, good ass and all but due to my past relationships, I no get liver to toast any girl again, but this particular girl is always on my mind... But we've never had any communication except the normal greeting... I am planning to make a move on her the coming week, what do you think guys, should I go 4 her or let her go

Mph2022:
Good evening all,

I will need your inputs on this.

I work from home and my girlfriend do too. We have been dating for 2 years and I intend to marry her.

I understand she is not my wife. Lately, we have been spending more time together. Most times, we spend months, weeks together.

Anytime we are together, We both do the chores, she cleans, I mob. She cooks, I go to market to buy foodstuffs I cook too, we both wash the dishes.

But Lately I have noticed that I can't say No to her..It always results in a fight. She sees everything as a red flag.

For instance, we planned to go market together today to get some foodstuffs and I changed my mind that I wasn't going again because I wasn't in a good frame of mind and I was also angry because of some words she used on me prior to that moment. She refused to go to the market alone, instead, she packed her bag and left my house.

Another instance is that I lent her money twice but has not paid. She tried borrowing the third time and I refused, that led to a problem too . N.B she is not broke.

Should I be worried or not?

Exkandayee:
Which is better between smoking weed and cooking with or other meals,,,

Slawomiir.
Boogyman

Help us to understand

Vinnie2000:


Honestly, I cant help but Feel that Lionel Messi's somewhat dwindling form in the past 3 years may be because he has A WIFE!

Ronaldo, Wizkid, Burnaboy, Drake, Chris BBrown and lots of Successful Superstars have refused to get Married! Even Alh. Aliko Dangote is said to be single!

Oprah Winfrey, Rihanna have not Married till now. While the dancer Kaffy abandoned marriage because she felt it is an hindrance to her career!

SO, IS MARRIAGE A DISTRACTION IN A PERSON'S PURSUIT OF SUCCESS?

Lets not forget that Married Peeps like Beyonce, Jay z, Mercy Johnson, Yul Edochie, etc are doing well!


Lalasticlala

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

EASYGURU:
Good morning My fello NLders. First i would like to introduce myself as isreal but we'd probably get along later.

I wouldn't want to beat around the bush much but i need your advice. I started learning Binary & forex trading 2017 (self taught) i struggle with it till i was able to master binary (Options Trading) a little bit. After many and much success win rates, they refuse to pay my win out, i had to quit options trading for Retail Forex. Struggled till 2020 june July when i started wining in forex trading but i lost all my wins (500k Naira Plus my initial deposit of 950k)from june 20, 2020 on August 27th 2020 . I almost committed suicide that day but i was consoled by friends. So i started again Oct. 2020 with 350k naira and i made wins or my total capital plus profits was around 2.8mil as of February 8, 2021 thats after all my faaji and withdraws on occasions. So i believe i had to step up my game in forex trading and started taking more risk which eventually earned me 1.5m in forex as minimum profit as if the end of the month but due to the free fall in naira i decided to retain my money in hard currency in order not to be affected by exchange rates fluctuations and the free fall in the naira.

Back then my monthly expenses for myself personally was around 400k minimum and that's after making a net profit of 1.5m min.

So fast forwarding to SEP 2021, i have already made a total of 16 total net profit (after making a minimum of 400k as monthly expenses for the previous months. Eventually something happened between September 25-30th 2021 and over night i lost all the millions available in my forex trading account and had about only 5m or 4.5 left in my Nigeria bank account Which initially stood as my margin of safety (goning broke).

Every since then i lost it all completely and I've not been profitable since then. Right now my total net worth is about 2m home and away. Any advice at all on what to do or invest with this??

Forex traders/Indices/ Stock and binary traders and every other person advice would be highly appreciated.

I'll read ever comments.

*NB: I am not promoting forex i only need advice on what to do before i loose it alll. For anyone who can help (I'm pleading) on FX trading or binary /stocks and all other please I'm open to learn or use something that works as I'm well grounded (with every terms , nitty n gritty of fx so you know i won't much of a hassle other investment advise are also welcome.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

HenryDion:
Right before I came into the real world, I was equipped with a vital tool that have seen me through to this day.

That is understanding the human nature.

Through years of reading, study and insane obsession to know why people act the way they do, and why I do too, I have come to a point where I believe I have unlocked it.

I can take a look at you, and determine if you'll be successful or not. If I have a little more data, I can even tell exactly how you'll die.

My friends have called me psychic numerous times, but the fact is that I use the data available to me to arrive at a possible outcome.

How I was able to acquire such a magnificent ability is nothing but books and years of study in human psychology.

This fascinating super power have helped me navigate the real world since my graduation. I have secured numerous jobs, without having to know anyone.

Without having to write a CV, and most times, without even having the right qualifications. All I have to do is learn about my target, the manager, and formulate an effective strategy.

When others are following the normal route of job board application, the 1% like us are stalking the manager of our dream job in the night. Learning what he or she likes doing, where he enjoys going, and the things that bring him both pain and joy.

This was how I secured a 3 months contract with a Sweden company, $10,000 monthly, and so many like that for the past few months as a copywriter.

My understanding of human nature and the drive to manipulate them into acting a certain way have made life so easy for me, especially in my career and personal relationships with people.

The reason many are poor isn't because they are not skillful, talented, or pretty. They just don't understand the human nature yet. They are still zombies, blind from the real world of money and power.

This is not something formal education teaches. They didn't event teach me how to floss, and I almost went through life not knowing what flossing is, and how important it is.

Though young, I have seen a lifetime of a 107 years old man. And I believe it's time I stop hoarding my knowledge and impact.

Not for money, but because I'm so damn bored and I need a challenge. Making people millionaires is not a bad challenge I guess.

This year, I want to make many people millionaires, by teaching them what I know, not everything, at least enough to elevate someone from poverTEA to financial freedom using their skills.

What if I offer to teach you how to become a millionaire this year 2022, what would you say?

Offer ends in 5 hrs.

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FERNANDEZISBACK:

You ain't even supposed to snap the picture even if you did you ain't even supposed to post it here..
For what na?how comfortable are you doing that to someone's phone?it's a private property..

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Imagine doing this nonsense..this is breach of privacy oo...Incase you don't know it's her phone she can out whatever she loves..

cosmos2000:


I'm determined to get my money back ooh... Ahh 20k isn't easy like that to let go without any benefits....

I am thinking of going to the bank to logged a complaint that I need a refund... The account number is not the actual account number... Maybe they will refund me... If they ask.. Don't I know the person I will say No... Or what way do you think I will get my money back... Unubikonu.. Please

Shimmaa:
Good day Nairalanders.


I met this intelligent lady in my final year in school, she was a fresher then, we started off as friends, she gave in after I graduated while she was in 200l.

Our love was going fine but I observed she doesn't call much and hardly respond to messages on WhatsApp, many times, she will be online while my messages will be delayed before she responded, I've complained countless of time to show some real love and affection so I can know she truly loves me, but she's just that type of person that can do 1 or 2 days without talking to someone she loves. She actually loves me and I know that for a fact but she's not just showing it enough and I'm not feeling it enough.

I had the intention to sponsor her business ideal which was giving her 200k to start up her skin care products, but we had to change that plan when she was having issue with her uncle's wife, the lady was maltreating her and I wasn't comfortable with the way she was complaining of her treatment towards her, so I came up with a plan to use the money I'm supposed to give her for business to secure an apartment, my plan was, I will secure a mini flat where we can both be staying pending when she will finish school but I won't be staying around often since my job doesn't permit me.
We got the apartment after a month serach and furnished it beautifully to suit her, I thought all of this will make her change towards me and start showing so much care and affection since we both live together now, but it still doesn't change, many times, I face so many challenges in my work but she doesn't care to know what's going with my work or care to know how I'm fairing with work, so I got confused one day and thought is this lady playing me and just wasting my time, I messaged her to tell her I'm fed up of how she treats me and doesn't show so much care towards me, then told her we should breakup if she's finding it difficult to show that love she has for me, she asked if I was serious about the breakup but God knows it's just a mere threat in me and I just want her to plead for change but she took it up when I told her I meant it, now she has left the apartment I got for us and I'm here regretting why I threatened her with breakup.

The apartment I got for us is still there without any of us staying there, and I'm about relocating to another state but God knows I still want her back and make things right with her but I don't know how to win her back and she seems to have made up her mind never to come back, what advise do you have for me after this experience with her.

mikezuruki:
Happy New Year.

I get baffled when text get bolded by some. They do that to make themselves feel much more than they are. They feel smarter at that point. LOL

That is actually one of the problem of social media. People exaggerate their intelligence because they are backed by many fools like them. And with that, one tends to continually be in the state of delusion.

Having conducted many social experiment during my masters programme, one of the biggest problem we face is the use of social media.

I can confirm this for a fact.

Regards

Nhemzie17:
I wanna be as quick as possible.. Been dating this lady for 3 years now...
Yesterday while we were together, I just decided to go through her WhatsApp.. it's not something I have done before.. I saw a chat with a Reverend in her church where they had love messages and even sex talk and from the chats, it's likely they have bleeped..
Suprisinly she claimed it's her friend who dates the Reverend uses her phone to chat with him as her own smartphone is bad...
I tried believing her but it really doesn't explain the night chats with the Reverend whereas she stays alone with her parents and not possible for her friend to be with her at night...
Am no Simpleton as I am already about dumping her..
Just wanna ask if it's possible it's her friend or is she lying about it??

Minister36:
Comrades,

I will just summarize everything here.
So I met this beautiful girl when I travel to the village for my sister's marriage and I fell in love with her instantly. This girl is everything I want as a wife, she is obedient, submissive and hard-working.

We xchanged contacts and started talking when I got back to my base. I am a student in my final year with big dreams. I told her I would love to marry but I am very broke at the moment and she said it doesn't matter that she loves me so much and can't afford to loose me.

Fast forward to yesterday, she called to tell me while crying that someone is asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't love him but since he has money, that her parents might put pressure on her to marry him but she doesn't wanna loose me.

Right now, I don't know what to do, should I allow to marry or should she wait for me till I am financially bouyant?

NOTE: I am serious about marrying her assuming I have money to do the marriage.

I am thinking of having a baby with her which she agreed to so that we can be together.

What do I do my people?

Compliment of the season ❤️

iLegendd:
I beg you in the name of God, if you're a man, read this post in link 1 and when you're done, read the one in link 2. It doesn't matter how many minutes, hours, or days it takes. Please, read it even if you hate reading. You'll surely thank me later. GUARANTEED!

The first post is about humans having 4 lives and how to live a happy life as a man. You'll NEVER regret reading it and you can NEVER see this info anywhere on Earth.

The second post is a short story by a man called HotWáx. In his post, he shared a story of what happened between him and his fianceé at a hotel in Ibadan.

The reason I added this story is to let you relate the first post with the second post. After reading both, you'll see her dark life was fully exhibited, but the young man in question didn't know she has this life. You, reading this post will be ahead of the game. Life is a jungle — being ahead is an advantage.

Link 1: https://www.nairaland.com/6894605/18-sex-4-lives-secret

Link 2: https://www.nairaland.com/6913311/lady-made-mess-hotel

I'm doing all these to help you as a man, open your eyes, and reduce early death caused by shock or heartbreak.

Note: the post in link 1 will be deleted in 2022. You have 3 days left. If you don't read it now, you'll end I up buying it as a book.

It's sad we humans don't value free things, but when it's sold and expensive, that's when we crave for it just the same way people are craving to get our ChatDîcted and Lasticle books.

A word is enough for the wise.