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Romance / Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by dbaruwa(m): 11:13am On Aug 11, 2021
larryeffizy1:
Hi folks, I'm Sure we're doing good in our respective places.?
Quick one pls, I really need the help or rather a piece of advice from whosoever has been in this shoe before...; Because it's really affecting my marital life negatively and that's why I'm here if I could get a cool counsel on this platform bikoo; as we all know that a problem shared is half solved... The question is "How May/Can I get rid of Marriage Phobia...?

I'm above 30 and I'm really scared of MARRIAGE... A candid advice from you guys will go along way... Hence, if you have had the experience before, kindly share with me how you go about it and overcame it....


Thanks#

At this stage in a man's life, it's normal to have such fear and this is a good sign that u know what u are really going into.

I'm saying this out of experience. I've been married for close to 12yrs now and trust me u are not out of place to have such a feeling, I had it back then.

At this point u should be able to identify or highlight ur fears about marriage such infidelity, financial capability (ie economic considerations), family pressure, fear of a broken home etc etc (they are so numerous to count).

One big question I asked myself back then in 2008 was whether I was matured enough to take up d responsibilities that marriage will throw at me (maturity in terms of wisdom and economic independence). If the answer is yes, then there is another big question

In terms of my character and attitude, will I marry someone that has my kind of attitude/character ( ie if u are cheat, a liar etc)
If the answer is yes then u are good to go.

Start a relationship that is not premised on marriage and see how it goes. Whoever u wish to spend d rest of ur life must be ur best friend. So d relationship has to be devoid of any secret from both sides no matter how bad d secret is. Nothing blossoms a relationship like good and adequate communication.

Remember u must not get 100% of all d qualities u need in ur partner.

These are some of the qualities that are very important u should look out for in ur would be wife.

1. Is she honest.... Test her on that (there are still honest girls out there) if she is very good

2. What is her relationship with her dad. If she has no good relationship with her dad, she will never respect u as a man and her husband

3. Is she always after what she can gain in d relationship or what will make both of u grow in d relationship

4. Does she keep too many friends. If she does bro that's a red flag

5. Is she always influenced by her family members or peer pressure. If she is bro u will not only be marryingher but in addition other people

6. Check her birth position in d family and see if u can financially bear taking care of the younger siblings assuming she is the first.


Lastly remember, marriage is not for boys and u can't succeed without the owner of the institution who is GOD. Prayer is very very vital

Like I said earlier I've been married to my best friend for close to 12yrs and blessed with 4 wonderful kids. We've gone through d good nd d bad times and it only made our relationship stronger.

I hope this helps

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Travel / Re: At The NVC Processing Stage Of The U. S Family Based Preference Category. by dbaruwa(m): 9:06am On May 07, 2021
Chloraseptic:


Please I also need your guild on what to write in the box below

Do you have documentation to establish that you have received vaccinations in accordance with U.S. law?

I answered NO and they asked me to explain.

The answer should be yes because when u are scheduled for interview, u will definitely provide the evidence of ur medical report
Romance / Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by dbaruwa(m): 4:06pm On Mar 31, 2021
Escabado:
If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .


From ur reasoning, I don't think u are upto 18 years. Period.

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Travel / Re: At The NVC Processing Stage Of The U. S Family Based Preference Category. by dbaruwa(m): 4:31pm On Feb 15, 2021
xcesspower:
To God be the Glory, I have left Nigeria for good. I have now united back with my family... Thank you all that answered my questions....may God come through for all that are still waiting

Sorry point of correction, u left Naija for the best. Congratulations and many more wins.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Putin Finally Congratulates Biden On US Election Victory by dbaruwa(m): 3:32pm On Dec 15, 2020
Dedetwo:


Trump is not a sore loser in a stolen election. The people such as you who find happiness in adulterated election will call names.




Ipob miscreant sited....
Foreign Affairs / Re: Melania Trump Unveils Christmas Decorations At The White House (photos) by dbaruwa(m): 10:36am On Dec 01, 2020
ImadeUReadThis:


They ain't going no way.

Trump is busy playing golf and not in any way worried about not getting sworn in because he is going to be sworn in again and all the Biden plantation negroes here will seethe for four more years

They won't be in the White House 12.01pm on Jan 20, 2021..



Foreign Affairs / Re: GSA Tells Biden That Transition Can Formally Begin by dbaruwa(m): 1:20am On Nov 24, 2020
Ebenezer2021:
Which Trump is ready to concede?
Useless propaganda from Democrat agents.
We will not give up.
The RIGGING in Pennsylvania and Georgia was so obvious.
TRUMP must never concede for any satanic democrat to take over.
Even if it means for us to start rioting, engage on violence and destroy public properties in the US we are ready.
We will fight with our last blood to ensure that Trump is sworn in for the second term and yes we are ready to go violent for the sake of democracy cos the coming of Biden is Doom for America and the whole world at large cos he has already formed an ally with China, Russia, North Korea and other Communist nations which are US enemies to take over.
God help us

Abeg who unlock dis mad man from his chains?

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Politics / Re: Pastor Tunde Bakare: I Will Become President Like Joe Biden In 2023 by dbaruwa(m): 7:40pm On Nov 11, 2020
EmekaA125:

How is Trump a loser

Trump is a SORE LOSER period!

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Politics / Re: Pastor Tunde Bakare: I Will Become President Like Joe Biden In 2023 by dbaruwa(m): 7:38pm On Nov 11, 2020
BigBabyJesus:
Like Biden?

Biden the Rigger who is about to claim dementia as his defense in a criminal trial on electoral fraud.

That means you will never smell Villa in your life again


Idiot

Na ur Papa be idiot because if he had bought N30 condom, things like u would have been avoided.
Foreign Affairs / Re: International Election Experts Invited By Trump Says The Election Was Honest by dbaruwa(m): 7:40am On Nov 11, 2020
FarahAideed:
We all know they work for the Satanist ....how can anyone even suggest this Election was free and fair ?

Guy go and take ur drugs.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: US Election: Pompeo Promises ‘Smooth Transition To Trump’s Second Term’ by dbaruwa(m): 11:56pm On Nov 10, 2020
fourboys:
Trump my man, God no go shame you

Ipob lazy youth sighted
Travel / Re: At The NVC Processing Stage Of The U. S Family Based Preference Category. by dbaruwa(m): 10:00am On Nov 10, 2020
Timiofak:


That's his plan, but I doubt if he would be able to do it, the senate would block everything.

Yes he will b able to do it easily through executive order just as Trump used executive orders to effect changes in immigration
Foreign Affairs / Re: Trump: When ISIS Attacks Vatican, "You Would Wish I Was Elected President" by dbaruwa(m): 9:15am On Oct 08, 2020
emmachukwu99:


People have proof that Pope is indirectly an antichrist.. go make ur findings.

Give name and evidence or go check in a rehab center
Foreign Affairs / Re: Trump: When ISIS Attacks Vatican, "You Would Wish I Was Elected President" by dbaruwa(m): 8:57am On Oct 08, 2020
Dotng:


Donald Trump terminated the Iranian nuclear and Paris Climate Accords,
Made a peace agreement between Israel and the UAE (and didn’t need to unfreeze150 billion dollars in Iran to do so),
ended US military involvement in Northern Syria,
approved a timeline to remove all troops from Afghanistan, demanded all NATO countries raise their defense contribution to at least 2% of their national GDP, reformed VA healthcare benefits and online access, repealed the Obamacare "individual mandate", stopped the H-1 B replacement of American workers with cheaper foreign labor, Tripled the number of federal human trafficking arrests, killed Iranian general Soleimani who was responsible for thousands of deaths, signed the first step act, acquired record funds for HBCUs, implementing skill based ranking rather than hiring by degrees, advocates for and provides school district waivers, started police reform and is helping congress with the new bills being made, created the Hispanic prosperity initiative, cracked down on Big Pharma making medicine exponentially more affordable, added over 4 million Sustainable (take notes Obama) jobs, reformed Medicare to stop hospitals from overcharging low income seniors, secured $6 billion in new funding to fight the opioid epidemic, signed VA accountability act, increased net exports by up to $59 billion, signed right to try act, deported and arrested hundreds of M813 members, removed shackles and constraints for pregnant inmates giving birth, acquired the highest median household income in American history (AND MORE) in 3.5 years in government. What has Biden done in 59?


U forgot the main bone of contention which is that he spearheaded d avoidable deaths of 210,000 Americans and fanned the ember of systemic racism. Let me tell u if Americans don't vote for Biden, we will see another Valdmir Putin in America
Foreign Affairs / Re: Trump: When ISIS Attacks Vatican, "You Would Wish I Was Elected President" by dbaruwa(m): 8:24am On Oct 08, 2020
DexterousOne:
Reckless talker as always

How in the hell is ISIS gonna attack the Vatican bikonu?
This man eh undecided


Trump is a conman. Someone who thrives politically in creating fear, chaos, division and conspiracies. Under him US has been subjected to ridicule.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Trump: When ISIS Attacks Vatican, "You Would Wish I Was Elected President" by dbaruwa(m): 8:22am On Oct 08, 2020
DexterousOne:
Reckless talker as always

How in the hell is ISIS gonna attack the Vatican bikonu?
This man eh undecided


Trump is a conman. Someone who thrives politically in creating fear and conspiracies

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Trump: When ISIS Attacks Vatican, "You Would Wish I Was Elected President" by dbaruwa(m): 8:20am On Oct 08, 2020
uniqueboi1:


Yea. I'm wondering how people can't see how Trump has outperformed Obama in just 1 tenure. Sentiments aside.

Yes he outperformed Obama by killing over 210,000 Americans.

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Health / Re: Nigeria overtakes India as world capital for under-five deaths by dbaruwa(m): 7:16pm On Sep 09, 2020
iramure:
Second most religious nation in the world. With all our daddy GOs, Bishops, senior apostles, Rev Father, sisters, imams and sheiks, we are still like this. This is shameful!
I think religion also contributed to this mess but above all our leaders in all spheres have all failed.


Religion is our problem simple

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Health / Re: Nigeria overtakes India as world capital for under-five deaths by dbaruwa(m): 7:15pm On Sep 09, 2020
athaboi:
Nigeria is finished


Shebi Minister of Health had directed hospitals to employ corpers and house officers to replace the striking doctors? Na now mortality rate go wear mask I swear
Health / Re: Enugu Government Moves To Recruit More Nurses by dbaruwa(m): 5:07pm On Sep 02, 2020
How can Enugu state government employ new nurses when they have refused to pay the ones that are working for them.
Currently nurses, lab scientists, pharmacists, administration staff, cleaners etc are on strike due to very poor renumeration.

Gburugburu no try abeg. Ask questions about people working their for u not to say had I known.

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Health / Enugu State Healthcare Worker Are On Strike by dbaruwa(m): 4:35pm On Sep 02, 2020
I went to Enugu State Teaching Hospital Parklane this morning for an appointment with my doctor only to find out that all their healthcare workers under JOHESU are on strike since yesterday 1st September 2020.
On inquiry I was made to know that for many years now that they have been begging the state government to pay them their conhess entitlement just like other healthcare institutions within and outside the state have been enjoying for years.

Information I got revealed that they planned striking few months ago but were promised by the state government that a committee has been created to look into the problem and get back to them.

July salary was paid and it was only the doctors whom having been enjoying 10percent conhess with them were paid 100%.

All efforts they made towards understanding why government would decide to pay doctors 100% conhess and leave them with 10% proved futile instead the government has threatened to sack them and employ new people.

Well this is a one-sided story but if by any chance it is true, it is very bad.

Doctors can't even work without cleaners let alone nurses, lab scientists, pharmacists etc.


The state government should avoid getting Parklane to a state where patients will start avoiding the hospital because of high number of deaths as was in the past.

I pray that the Governor of Enugu state should look into there case and do the needful because what is good for the geese is also good for the gander.
Travel / Re: Honesty and Contentment: My Experience In Zimbabwe. by dbaruwa(m): 4:29pm On Aug 18, 2020
Vixlot:


https://www.toldnetwork.com/2020/08/13/my-experience-in-zimbabwe/


It so unfortunate that even uptill now, we youths are yet to realize how badly damaged our image is among comity of nations. We are being avoided more than covid-19 around the world. The earlier we wake up and stand for what is right the better for us. Let's not heap all the blame on the leaders. The question should be "what have I done as an individual in my own little to better the image of Nigeria"

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Properties / Re: Can 2 Million Naira Build Me A 3 Bedroom Bungalow? by dbaruwa(m): 4:02pm On Aug 16, 2020
Nezero:
I built mine with about that amount.
3 bedrooms,1 living room, 1 kitchen , 1 toilet/bath, 1 dining room. I used less than 1500 blocks. All plastered and tiled. Electrical wiring done. No fence.



No well or running water yet

It's small though. The whole house is 33 by 22. I used 9 bundles of roofing sheets. I used Louvre windows.


If you really mean it, you can do it.
It could be better but I trusted the wrong person..


Do a lot of homework. I got plenty of info on Nairaland.. like how to calculate no. of blocks. Foundation, window, lintel and roof levels.


https://www.nairaland.com/4491449/how-calculate-number-blocks-cements


God help you


Less than 1500 blocks for a 3 bedroom flats? Guy na lie
Politics / Re: Gabe Okoye Runs For US Senate (Photos) by dbaruwa(m): 5:21pm On Aug 01, 2020
Psalmistproject:
Unfortunately the way democrats handled the recent pandemic, trumps impeachment, chinese cover up and BLM will really give them a hard time having an upper hand.
But from okoyes record, he seems to be highly result oriented.

May the best man emerge!

Lest I forget, Igbo Amaka!



They already have an upper hand towards November election. Otherwise Trump wouldn't be suggesting delay in the election. If US election is to hold btw today and November 3rd, Donald Trump will receive a resounding defeat. I mean a credible election. Trump is a disaster to Americans. Where do I start? Is it in the handling of the pandemic or BLM. Is it the way he has been handling America's allies, his bullying form of foreign policies. He is a racist to the core. That America is what it is today is because of immigrants. To summarize all these, Donald Trump is an American experiment gone wrong, a spoilt brat who was handed a business empire by his dad and a puppet installed in the White House by Putin
Politics / Re: Gabe Okoye Runs For US Senate (Photos) by dbaruwa(m): 4:11pm On Aug 01, 2020
warripekin:
The igbo amaka crew will soon arrive.


Igbo amaka hooooooo haaaa.....�

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Sports / Re: Nneka Ede Buys Lusitano Ginasio Football Clube For An Undisclosed Fee by dbaruwa(m): 5:27pm On Jul 17, 2020
Bomboiy:
Nneka Ede.


I don't want to scream it but I can't help it......










IGBO AMAKA!!!
Sports / Re: Nneka Ede Buys Lusitano Ginasio Football Clube For An Undisclosed Fee by dbaruwa(m): 5:25pm On Jul 17, 2020
Bomboiy:
Nneka Ede.


I don't want to scream it but I can't help it......

IGBO AMAKA hooooo haaa










IGBO AMAKA!!!
Programming / Re: At 40, Can I Still Learn Programming And Be Good At It? by dbaruwa(m): 2:01pm On Jul 16, 2020
romeo411:
I honestly want to switch to programming as in carrier change, considering that I am 40, can I still make it giving every input I put in.

Absolutely yes u can. I started at 40 and 1'm doing well amazingly

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Education / Re: Ikechukwu Nwachukwu Dikko Wins US President's Award, Gets Letter From Trump by dbaruwa(m): 1:56pm On Jul 16, 2020
SmartProf:
Incredible feat..keep it up young lad. Verily verily I say unto you all, IGBO AMAKA.

IGBO AMAKA hooooo haaa

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Travel / Re: At The NVC Processing Stage Of The U. S Family Based Preference Category. by dbaruwa(m): 10:13am On Jul 11, 2020
listowell:

No be me hold your interview details. You think say Trump send you? If you like be wife of USC, him no send. You must dey Naija. grin fix your quontry.

Must u showcase ur stupidity where ever u go? This thing spewing this rubbish would have being avoided by buying N30 condom.

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Travel / Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by dbaruwa(m): 10:26am On Jul 09, 2020
Compu001:
Guys thank you for your constant support. With the information I get here, my wife have been able to do everything and she is at the Nclex stage. We are preparing for Nclex now.
Question that I have is that, when will this ban be lifted??
As most agencies are refusing to sponsor us to the USA even if she passed Nclex. That alone is weighing her down.


The ban is really frustrating everyone. My wife passed her NCLEX this February but her agency refused to file for her because of the ban. Though they told her from the information they are getting that Nigerian might be taken off the list in October which is the next time the Department of Homeland security will review their security situation. So my advise is for her to keep up and pray. It"s only a matter of time

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Health / Re: Coronavirus: Body Of Nigerian Nurse In US Removed From Her Home (Video) by dbaruwa(m): 11:49am On May 06, 2020
Adonispco:
Corona na ordinary type 2 malaria. Make these fools wey dey govern us here give us our freedom back.

Dont quote me if you no want Amadioha to reset you brain.
These our african leader are the real devil; fellow nairalanders;devil nah human without empathy; how can somebody lockdown his fellow humanbeing source of daily living(income) just because oyibo dey die; me that have suffered several illness but survive it coupled with harsh weather and lack of basic amenities; oyibo no fit observe lockdown for any disease killing we Africans.

Its now clear to me(not for you) that corona virus na pure overated scam(virus). If this virus is truely that fatal we for don dey drop down in thousands.
If you like call me names because you get enough cash but remember say people like me that are starving will come for your head too.

This thing spewing this rubbish would have been avoided if ur father had spent just N30 for condom....

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