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1. What you do matters . Whether it's your own health behaviors or the way you treat other people, your children are learning from what you do. "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg explains. "What you do makes a difference...Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?" 2. You cannot be too loving. "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," Steinberg writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions." 3. Be involved in your child's life . "Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically." Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework -- or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg says. "If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning." 4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child . Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior. "The same drive for independence that is making your 3-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table." 5. Establish and set rules. "If you don't manage your child's behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself. "But you can't micromanage your child," Steinberg notes. "Once they're in middle school, you need to let the child do their own homework, make their own choices and not intervene." 6. Foster your child's independence . "Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she's going to need both." It's normal for children to push for autonomy, says Steinberg. "Many parents mistakenly equate their child's independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else." 7. Be consistent. "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it." 8. Avoid harsh discipline. Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances, Steinberg says. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others." "There are many other ways to discipline a child -- including 'time out' -- which work better and do not involve aggression." 9. Explain your rules and decisions . "Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12- year-old. He doesn't have the priorities, judgment, or experience that you have." 10. Treat your child with respect. "The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others."
www.medicinenet.com/parenting/page2.htm

Steffy2015:
Most of u wilL comE herE anD be forming holy hoLy. Wen u do D most dIrtiest sHit ever

[color=#770077] I dnt think Dats any of ur bizness [color]

tpiah11:
was Jesus conceived from a sperm and an egg?
answer that so we can start this discussion.
your coloured font makes you look gay, so try to use the normal one.

guy u just hopeless...I hav no response to dat

atoleybaba:
the answer to that question u asked is so irrelevant to DX topic I swear...no offence

ah was making a point to dat low IQ guy..not just abt d topic

macho44:
Ive gone thru ur comments over n over again, and they are so contradicting!, How were u conceived? Since u term "SEX" to be an unholy act within the Sanctity of Marital bliss, abeg explain?

maybe you should meet your pastor

macho44:
E be like say na Unrevised Standard Bible u dey read, How can a mortal man like u compare urself to Jesus Christ!, He was conceived by the HolySpirit. Get ur facts intact before stating ur claims.Pleaseeeee!

see ds one..wat do u know

LOZENGE:
u don forget say hunger plenty for naija

lol

hahaha...Ds guy must be havin sex drought

I get...but na big size

drss:
if dem dash me dis phone i go jejeli sell am buy tecno phantom5 n laptop. Then use d change buy meatpie, zobo drinks n other tins.

Ds guy sef...Wetin dey worry u pass wetin dey worry Nigerian Senate house

This is gonna hurt..close ur eyes Wike...Ouch!!! #HeFaints

I LOVE YOU
pretty much all boys are guilty of that line wen it's a big fat lie It takes a man to Love.. #ASKDEMLADIES

Wike the parrot..with Amaechi getting stronger I think Peterside Wud stand a better chance at ds point since d stupid Wike has refused to work with his head but his mouth…

It's all a story story story!!!!

hehehe....I no fit can't shout

for me to believe this? Buhari has to call me personally

fashion police!!!!!!

What can u see in this picture

Nice outfit wizzy...but please do u hav 6 legs?? cos I can't xplen showing off 3 same shoes..or mayb u probably running out options...#justsayingthough

hahaha...i cant stop laffin...naija neva do am..not even caf...Fifa...nawa for some pple o
African ace football legend and one of the greatest Nigerian
players of all time, Segun Odegbami, has thrown his hat into the
ring to contest for the post of President of FIFA – the
international governing body of association football across the
world, with election scheduled to take place on the 26th of
February, 2016in Zurich, Switzerland.
The position of the President of FIFA is now vacant since the
current president – Sepp Blatter – resigned his appointment in
June 2015. According to Segun Odegbami, also known as
‘Mathematical Odegbami’ – a label he was given because of his
masterful exhibition of engineered dribbles, technical control of
the ball and goal-scoring skills during his footballing era – said,
“The current scandal at FIFA is the organisation’s worst crisis in
its 111 years of existence. Moving forward, FIFA thus require a
new era of leadership that can restore the dignity of the noble
sport and that of this esteemed international institution with
global followership”
Odegbami believes that to address this will demand that FIFA
purges itself, launders its image, restores its reputation and
reinstates integrity into its activities and operations and that
this would require a new form of leadership with a renewed
vision. He said: “Times like this call for all concerned members of
the global football family to contribute to the actualization of
renewed objectives for FIFA by electing a deserving and
qualified person, with the right character that can achieve the
desired goals and restore confidence and integrity to the
organization and its activities. The world is very interested in
who becomes the next President of FIFA, considering the present
image and state of this institution and I see myself fitting into
this role”
The deadline for candidates to formally present their
nominations through their home football federations, with other
supporting documents, is 26th October 2015. Candidates will also
undergo an integrity test, through FIFA’s ad-hoc election
committee. Segun Odegbami now seeks the support and prayers
of all Nigerians, the African continent and, indeed, the whole
world, in taking up this challenge to recreate a new image for
the game of football and reposition its developmental influence
and possibilities across the globe.

footballlive.ng/footballnews/9ja-news/segun-odegbami-runs-for-fifa-presidency/

pheww...just got motivated d more to boost my hustle. ..After all Dangote isn't a monster. .we all humans....#HUSTLEBOOSTMODE