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akwesenana:
1.) How old are you?
2.) Have you finished school?
3.) What does your friend do for a living?
Questions from one who left home at 17.

FreshFarmAgro:
I'm an oracle. I'm hardly wrong

womaniser:
Like earlier said, stay at home. True independence is financial independence.

Except you have a 'consistent' source of income, you should remain under guardianship.

Without money, life will toss you like a ragdoll. You can't entrust your being to anyone, not your friends or your relatives.

Get a good job or business then get your place.

FreshFarmAgro:
Go and apply for POS work. Start with 30,000 Naira salary per month. Your parents feed you and you contribute to the house. Save 20,000 Naira per month. Twelve months,240,000 Naira. After this, start your own POS business and you can make up to 60,000 Naira per month, save 40,000 Naira out of it per month, this is an annual income of 480,000 Naira


Better than taking risky moves you are unaware of its consequences

FreshFarmAgro:
What does the friend do for a living ?

What are the negative habits of the friend you are going to stay with ?

Have you considered that you both can become bitter enemies tomorrow and if you both do, on his turf, he can inflict great harm on you?

Have you not considered the idea of working with the friend from your house?


Have you considered other opportunities you can do without going to live in with a friend?

actually i havent done any transactions with him but i just think am older staying with my parent
Have you shared money with the friend before to know his behavior towards money? You do not know anyone until they have been tested with money. If you must leave,do three transactions with him before leaving. You will know whom he is truly then

FreshFarmAgro:
Huste is not a place. We need to ascertain your safety and all. Many have left home only to go join confrantaneties and later get killed

If what you're going to do doesnt have description and where you're go to doesn't have proper description. My friend, better stay at home

Even in US now, it's not a shame to be home to 35 plus

FreshFarmAgro:
Where are you going to ? Let's begin from here

Socratiz:
You created this crisis by the way you intervened in the conflict between your parents.

No one, not even a younger person, would take a correction while in the heat of anger. You should have waited until your mum cooks down before you quietly and respectively discuss the issue with her.

Right now, you have to swallow your pride and go to apologize. Tell her it was youthful exuberance that made you speak harshly to her. Apologize until she forgives you.

Meanwhile, your mum is bound to interpret what you said as being in the camp of your dad. She'd could have expected you to support her in the argument.

That is not to say you can never hold a different opinion on whatever conflict arise between your parents but do not speak to her while she's angry.

ZIMDRILL:
i will say two points that might make you see thing different

1 most african parents dont like to be corrected by their own kids nomatter how wrong they are. The same people who send you to skol to learn and when correct them with something that you learnt from skol, they say you are becoming big headed etc by its same person who sent you to skol to learn.

2 Married people are difficult to deal with, as sometimes they set each other for arguements eg you said was wrong but you might know they have underlining issue from previous issues that were not resolved, so a small issue is overblown due to previous unsolved issues and anger. So you might not have seen the issue from the surface, while there are other issues

ceeceeuwa:
How old are you?

frozen70:
The only help you need is, get some one she respects to reconcile both of you

Having done that, next time she and dad starts their drama, stand with mum

You dont know what she is passing through and you scolding her makes it loveless for her

You need to make peace with her and she will tell you somethings that made her react that way

By then you will understand better

Karleb:
Your uncle should settle the matter between you both.

Go beg your mother. The matter here isn't even anything serious.

Get off your high horse.

Your mother is supposed to be the bigger person here tho.

advanceDNA:
You told your mother she's wrong to her face..??..as u did not use style to make it look like u are on your mother's side?

. that's a movie that will not end, u will keep hearing about ur betrayal till she goes to great beyond?

Na reverse psychology and deception Dem dey use manage women

This one did not learn anything from nairaland

shege45:
una dey piss me off. So even if your mom wan kill you, u go still say no matter what she is still your mom

Stephen0mozzy:
Don't go there with gifts o. Go to her on your knees (Don't give the impression that you're trying to earn forgiveness with gifts.. She might even feel insulted more) . Tell her you are deeply sorry for acting childishly and for disrespecting her. Tell her you love her and you know she loves you.

She's a woman, if she wants to talk about how she felt.. Just keep saying sorry Ma, and listen.

If she forgives you, good, if she doesn't, do it again. This time, kneeling in the front of everyone in the house.

After she has forgiven you, you can now buy her a gift.. With a small note. "Sweet Mother"

gasparpisciotta:
She deserves an apology too bro

rtdCivilservant:
No one (aside God) can love u like ur mum. So go back to her, it is better to keep malice with ur dad than keeping malice with ur mum.

Helpout12345:
Go and apologize to your mom. That's the person that loves you the most in this world.

That does not mean you cannot still advise her about your views on their misunderstanding. Don't pick sides, remain neutral but never allow it to affect your personal relationship with either of them.

It's their marriage or relationship. It's different from yours

rtdCivilservant:
All I have to tell u is that u are a very stupid somebody or something.

gasparpisciotta:
Go back to your home and stop behaving like a brat.

Arguments come and go in every relationship, you have no right to shout on your mum and still keep malice with her.

Don’t be surprised parents have sort themselves out with some TLC

LogicBomb8:
You dey live under your parents still dey keep malice with your mama

chiefolododo:
It is impossible to hate your mom

Fedrick100:
Why would you stop greeting your mum.No matter what she’s still your mum

Buy that stuff you know she likes and go apologize to her, You still needs her blessings.

Mum prayers keep us going

Cypress042:
Which news is the Saddest news the month

You probably don't have any responsibity to take care of, if you have you wouldn't be typing this