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Evathyst:
Bros, na how many mouth only you get nau? See as you dey shift blame up and down. At first, you technically blamed the woman for the whole brouhaha. Now, you're faulting the foundation of the marriage. Just say the truth, the man no try at all. It's obvious he's trying to cheat the woman period. Any other thing is tantamount to speaking from both sides of the mouth.

It's funny how men can easily open their mouth to utter words like; 'It's over between us'. 'Get out of my house'. Which kind yeye statement be that one? Shuo!

You can say whatever you like about the man. His wife confirmed to us that 'her husband is a good man'. Don't put people in your own shoe because they can never be you and you can never be them. His wife love him and she knows what she will miss. If you have a bad experience in your past or present don't refer it to others. If you were unable to find happiness in your home, don't wish others unhappiness just because you are unhappy.

Evathyst:
Bros, abeg pass me that thing wey you dey smoke wey make you dey mistype. Why on earth should one register his property in his children's name? Children that might decide to sell it while the parent is still alive? Abeg no repeat that statement o.


Just like I advised a friend who just had a baby out of wedlock, she was like I'll struggle, make money and give my baby the best life. Then I asked her, you nko? Have you given up on yourself? You haven't completed your education talk less of living your dreams, na your 1 month old baby you wan give the best life. Which kind play be that one?

My point is, everyone has their life to live. Nobody should be a cog in the wheel to another person's progress under any guise; be it marriage or parenthood. Last last, it is all man for himself o.

Anyway, you are right.

I see no reason a wife will be concerned about having a property on her name if not insecurity. If you feel insecure, Satan must test you with this kind of temptation. It will fill your ego with the thought that "nothing will happen if I do this or say that, " "after all I am secured. You may turn a Good husband to a bad man unknowingly, properties are nothing to a man. If you respect your husband you will always have them.

Elfmannisback:
For where.. She dey shag am now sef.

These type of person has never enjoy happy home before so she doesn't know how to keep it. She must be living in a place where there is no peace. She thinks life is fantasy...

JoannaSedley:
This is exactly what she wrote. There is no true story here.

Your ego has destroyed your home oga.

I wish she would woman up and divorce your sorry as.as.

I hope you have divorced your abusive husband?

My advise to you as your follow family man. I will be very honest with you here. You have been living with her for years and I believe that this is not the first time both of you encountered problem. It normal to feel the way you did and it is normal for a wife to misunderstand you. She must be regretting what she have done and everything that she have ever said by now. Please go back home and live your normal life with your loving family and bring back the happiness. No need for unnecessary expenses.

Every family man is carrying a very big cross and we can not run away from it. NO ONE MISUNDERSTANDS A MAN BETTER THAN HIS WIFE. She loves you go back home, with a little time everything will fall in place. Don't listen to people that will encourage you to run out of your home.

Please, please, please go back home.

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All we need from US government is to help ensure that our votes count comes 2019. Shikina.

No need to tell Buhari anything, it will fall on a deaf ear. We are ready to send him home

daewoorazer:
1. Never put up in in-law’s house!

Even if your wife’s dad is Dangote, never be tempted to settle in his house. No that’s not economical, rather it’s sheer cowardice! You’d never be respected! Every hardworking and hard-thinking man has his transient trying times(the lazy’s trying period is eternal tho!) doesn’t matter if all you can afford is a 1 bedroom Lagos slum apartment for now, if your in-laws can’t trust your wife with your future, let them marry their child!

2. Never accommodate family members!

It’s baseless having to accommodate siblings, brothers and sisters In-law beyond marriage!Your house shouldn’t be an IDP camp for them; Or better still continue, your undoing will catch-up when your wife’s junior sister starts complaining you buy more clothes for your siblings than her. No matter the temptation, better hire a registered house-help and take care of your siblings and in-laws from afar. Always remember, not a human being can be satisfied!

3. Have a plan for all visitors!

Sit your wife down and tell her irrespective of the position of the visitor, have a definite number of days, quality of meal, departing funds to give all!

“You gave your daddy 2 pieces of meat, you gave mine 1” bullshyte stories have destroyed many young families. Be wise!

4. Never accept financial aids NOR borrow from your in-laws

That’s if you have any amount of dignity left in you, but if you don’t care to lose your voice, you can indulge in that. Better die than give in, I won’t say much, never look up for your manna from them!

5. Scarcity is invaluable!

A social function is at hand and you are already thinking how to help them arrange chairs and kill the cow. Can you also help them wash plates after the program?
Have your envelope ready, make it as fat as your pocket can, attend the gathering and leave!

6. Respect and nobility will save you a lot!

No matter how rich you may be, always prostrate whenever visiting them even if they are not worth any of your respect. Don’t be quick to anger, keep quiet when they talk; these are the measures your parents-in-law will use to either defend/destroy you whenever their child reports you to them! This value will win wars for you in absentia..trust me!

7. Occasionally send gifts

Once in a blue moon, never fail to send wine to your papa-in-law, also send money/gift to mama-in-law, do these and see them blush at the sight of you! It doesn’t matter if the wine is N50, it’s a conviction you had a little left for them having taken good care of their daughter.

What have men done? Why always wine only to men and fat envelopes to women? Wine which must be shared by the entire family and friends. Woman will get fat envelopes for caring less than 3kg for nine months, while man that carried more than 50kg for the rest of his life will receive only wine. Abeg give your father in law the fat envelopes and give the woman something less or the same. God forbids, my son in law will not support cheating.

schoolboij:
If she was ibo you guys would have been shouting they want to bring your daughter down

Meanwhile innoson forged a document and has refused to appear in court and you guys are shouting witch hunting. You guys better be careful.
I see you ibos jumping on this matter like wolves.

Please correct the spelling of my ethnic group first. The correct spelling is Igbo not Ibo, always spell it correctly even if you can not pronounce it correctly, please respect the name. It looks like an insult to every Igbo people, we always try to spell other ethnic groups' names correctly but why our name is very hard for others to spell correctly.

Pataricatering:
happiness is obviously not that important to you ! Some people place happiness over what society thinks - to each his own !

Where on earth will she get happiness from? Happiness can never be complete in a union.

maxiuc:


So many scam Visa Agency

That's why am very careful with my process of getting a Visa Agent

Though I want to travel out but I have not seen a sincere registered Visa Agent I will never pay you money in full because my lawyer will be the one paying you till I get there and is confirmed that Yes it's exactly what we discussed that you have done for me that's when you can get your complete money from my lawyer

It is better you start doing something in Nigeria with the little money you have to pay agent and lawyer. You have so many things to face once you leave Nigeria. You may suffer depression if you don't see the different living oversea and still facing huge family responsibilities as one who is where money are picked from the road. The next time you managed to come back home you will notice that some people made it huge here and you only had a car and a house after spending many years of your life. Money is in Nigeria, you need creative, honesty, perseverance and hard working to make it big. Be wise and don't regret later...

President should have said that he want to use the money for his campaign by sharing the money for his poor voters, that is simple to understand. Poor Nigerians are not fools after all, you are free to take your share and still vote him out.

Glory be to God

opeyemicollins:
During the last administration things have damage beyond control and this present regime are trying to fix all those things.you will not argue it that despite plateau killings,the security of this country have change drastically under this regime.corruption is minimal compare to last regime and this administration is just 3 years old

You still have not name those projects that Buhari initiated and completed. I don't know those things that he has fixed that the past government damaged. You can list them here for verification.

Talking about security, I'm sorry to say that he has performed worse than the past government. People are killed every day without investigation from the police. Common citizens have lost hope from Nigerian security forces, they do not seem to be working for the citizens, their is no trust between security forces and the citizens. Rule of law is dead, human right is dead, free of speech is a crime, our democracy is collapsing, extrajudicial killings are being celebrated and there is inequality and disunity among the major ethnic groups.

Last Friday you doubt my patriotism because I am from the east, you accused me of being an enemy of MY COUNTRY NIGERIA, you interpreted my solidarity as pretence. I am shocked and depressed since last Friday due to what you said to me. I keep asking myself where am I from? I felt like a grown man that is told that his deceased parents are not his biological parents while his siblings are accusing him of being the enemy of their family, I am still going emotional time to time since Friday. You may not know how it feels but it halts to the bones, you were trying to take away my identity which is the worse thing you could do to a person. Who am I without my Nigerian Identity? That I do not agree with this government in their wrong practice does not mean that I do not support the government. It is our civil responsibility to speak out where we see a misguided practice from the people we elected. We have to hold our elected officials responsible whenever they fail to govern well.

schoolboij:
He never made that comment because of Shia killings.

You don't stand with Shia, infact you hate Muslims. You just want to gain political capital from it. Igbos are happy about these killings just to paint buhari black.

I'm not a politician and I stand to gain nothing from this. I speak as a concern citizen of Nigeria, no one has right to kill because we human can not create life. I will never vouch for murder talk more of massacre. If you think Igbos wants the death of other tribe then you are wrong again. We Igbos need a stable and secure environment for business. We like Nigeria population and it is good for business, Buhari is trying to reduce population and we are worried.

opeyemicollins:
i know you will nit want to agree with me that this man have try in his best capacity for the development of this country.isnthe the fact you can not dispute.

What development are you talking about? Is Nigeria developed? One can not claim credit for development of Nigeria while Nigeria remains underdeveloped. For the sake of clarity, I would like to know what he has developed since 2015. I mean the projects he initiated and completed not the one the past government initiated or an ongoing projects that we don't know if they will complete it or not. Please note that I will verify them.

opeyemicollins:
You are a liar and its a pity you are one of the enemy of this country

I can not be enemy of My Country Nigeria and if you think I lied please prove it. If not supporting genocide is describe as being an enemy to Nigeria then you are wrong, we must make Nigeria safe for everyone. I can not associate myself directly or indirectly to torture and murder or promote massacre. Right now you are my enemy for supporting and promoting religious and ethnic cleansing. I pray you will see it from other side and change your stand, if not God have mercy on your soul.

DchosenMC:
So far He said "CORRUPTION IS FIGHTING BACK" does that means He stop fighting corruption or He stop doing the right thing He suppose to do? normally no how you will be doing the right and you wont facing higher adversary that will not want u to progress in life

As a Professor of Law, SAN and formal Attorney General of Lagos state he should not attribute Corruption fight to a post where people are asking for justice for a massacre. He played bad politics with the dead and lost ones.

schoolboij:
Stop using lies to validate your hatred. You cannot fool anyone but yourself. You hate him because he's from the tribe you love to hate.

I love life and love every tribe equally. Anyone against life is against what I love, even the life of my enemy is important. I can not support people who doesn't value life, I can not be a party to violent. Beside, I don't know him, his ethnicity is never my problem. I have friends from every tribe. I disassociated myself from him the very day he made that comment. Why did I stand with Shia if I hate other tribe or religion.

Opinionated:
By Kurtis Adigba

Yemi Osinbajo, professor of law, SAN, is an accomplished professional. Unlike many of our politicians, he has a second address. In other words, outside of government, he can survive, and survive with panache. Before his current position, he was the Attorney-General Lagos State for 8 years. He performed excellently.

Prof. Osibanjo, is also a senior pastor with the RCCG. He was the pastor in-charge at the Banana Island road branch, Ikoyi, Lagos, of the church. As the senior pastor of the church, he was known for his humility, frugality, and godly virtues. Osibanjo, unlike most of his colleagues who will seat in their high offices and delegate evangelism to others, was always on the roads, accompanied by his wife, Dolapo, preaching the gospel of Jesus. He is a self-effacing man!

VP Osinbajo, was not looking for a job when he was nominated by president Buhari as as running mate. President Buhari, on a mission to rescue Nigeria at the time was looking for a partner who is a man of proven integrity and honesty. He found in Osinbajo, the qualities he was looking for. He wasted no time in naming him after meeting him in Abuja. His choice, was a master stroke. Many Nigerians, received the news of his nomination with joy, and pledged their support. Buhari and Osinbajo were elected as president and vice-president of Nigeria under the APC, a party the opposition PDP, and CAN had described as a Muslim party. Some openly expressed their disdain with Osinbajo for accepting to serve under Buhari, a perceived Muslim extremist. They asked: why would Osinbajo a Christian and pastor, agree to serve under a Muslim?

Osinbajo threw himself into the job with dedication. As a senior lawyer, he knows the limits of the powers of his office. He knows he is not the president. He knows that he must remain loyal to the president, and do the jobs given to his office by the president. With a president on his seat, the only thing he can do is to advice the president. He cannot insist that his advice be followed. In the absence of the president, he becomes the Acting president. We are all witnesses to how he brilliantly and efficiently held the office in the absence of the president. He travelled to different parts of the country to reconcile the government with certain parts of the country. He implemented policies that strengthened the naira against the dollars following the positive outcome of his negotiations with the leaders and militant groups in the SS part of the country. He created a pervasive sense of unity, and remained loyal to the president by attributing everything he did to the president.

Osibanjo, is highly trusted by president Buhari. The president is so comfortable with him that he ceded the management of the nation’s economy to him. For a every critical assignment or mission, he is the go-to-man of the president. He has visited many conflict areas on behalf of the president. Many will remember that he is the first to visit and commiserate with communities that has been attacked by the Fulani Herdsmen. After the attacks on some Benue communities leading to egregious deaths and destruction, VP Osinbajo visited the state more than once in a month. He attended the funerals of some of the victims of the attacks, and gave a heartfelt address on that occasion.

Recently, VP Osinbajo, has come under attacks by some pastors and their supporters. Many are questioning why and how he can still claim to be a Christian and pastor, and remain in the government out to eliminate Christians and Christianity. They are calling on him to quit. This is to say the least, uncharitable!

Many of the pastors, making these calls, will not even consider resigning from their positions in their churches no matter how bad things are. They will also, no brook any opposition from any pastor under them. Any pastor under them that holds a contrary view on issues will be removed on the direction of some spirit. This is the truth! The same people are the ones asking Osinbajo to stand up and confront the president. I’m not against Osinbajo confronting the president, or resigning from his position if he thinks there reasons to do so, that is his call to make. I’m against those attacking for not leaving in pursuit of their narrow and selfish objective. VP Osinbajo, is not in government as a pastor. He is there as an administrator whose actions and inaction, are governed by the laws of the country. He took an oath that imposed a duty on him to be fair and just to all, irrespective of their tribes and religion. He is the vice-president of Nigeria, not of the Christians in Nigeria!

If the pastors, believe that Nigeria should be governed by Christians only, they can form a Christian party in Nigeria, and contest elections. This is the situation in some European countries. In 2019, VP Osinbajo, maybe on the ticket with Buhari hopefully, and we have the opportunity to decide his fate.

What many may not have adverted their minds to, is what the situation could have been without the moderating voice and influence of Osibanjo. If Mordecai had been in the palace to counsel Esther, the Jews would have been destroyed from the counsel of Hamman.

Let me conclude this piece by advising the pastors and their supporters to, spare Osinbajo from the needless attacks. The Muslim community is standing solidly behind Buhari, who is the leader, and on whose desk the buck stops. We are tearing at our own. The pastors, should devote their energies in raising up righteous men who will takeover the affairs of the country, and set us on the path to sustainable development. VP Osinbajo is not perfect, only God is!

God bless Nigeria.

Kurtis Adigba is the Principal Partner at Kurtis Adigba and Company.

Source: Why Attacks on Vice President Osinbajo are Unreasonable

All these qualities got missing the very day he commented on twitter against the human right report on the issue of an indiscriminate and brutal slaughter of many Shia Muslims. While the grieving families are asking the FG to return over seven hundred missing members of their religion, Vice President Professor SAN Attorney General Pastor Mr. Yemi Osinbajo twitted "CORRUPTION IS FIGHTING BACK". That very day he lost all the virtues OP described here. He had those before but not now. To be a christian is by sacrificing yourself for the truth and he should be an example to his followers. His virtues are died long time ago the very day he supported massacre.

This Buhari government has completely gone against all his 2015 campaign promises. How can a sane man or woman will vote for him again. Anyone that votes for Buhari can trust a known criminal.

Election time and election things in my mind. That fire outbreak is plus for them. Expect more tragedies and their sympathies...

cnnamoko:
what about Churches that insist on court marriage?

Then leave that Church as soon as possible.

Addictedtodrugs:
My serious gf want us to do court marriage and I already agreed!! Should I still trust her ?

It means that you are about to have a life partner and not a wife. That marriage will be viewed as a business partnership. It will stand on law and not love, all parties are equal in everything and at the same time, you will not be a husband to her but a male partner. That marriage will not last forever.

My brother, you are about to enter a decorated marriage and it will wash away in no distance time, please get yourself a wife and not a partner.

Please avoid Buhari if you want to succeed in life. Everything he touches fails, we must remove him at all cost.

This is beautiful! This is catholic!! This is right!!! African culture is never evil, we must save our culture, we must protect it at all time. I love this and that is why I love Catholic. Culture is not evil.

Our African culture is the best in the whole world. I can not turn my back from my culture because it is my identity.

bedspread:
The Same woman that caused the Deaths of Thousands of people with the sale of That CD years ago.....

Those who Love life should run...
Op help your Parents and Family..

Many Have Passed away and Many more still suffering from various calamities due to wat they said about The Pastor after buying the CD plates sold bmnbxcxXzSCy this same woman few years ago...

I beg Everyone, pls do not speak evil about this Man (Pastor Lazarus Muoka)...
I have seen Various calamities on people who did....
Pls I beg..... Discern from speaking Evil about Him

Who is he? We are all dust, sand and spirit from God. If he can speak evil against Mary mother of Jesus Christ and Catholic Church, who is he that people can not speak evil against. Do not worship men but God alone.

bedspread:
The Same woman that caused the Deaths of Thousands of people with the sale of That CD years ago.....

Those who Love life should run...
Op help your Parents and Family..

Many Have Passed away and Many more still suffering from various calamities due to wat they said about The Pastor after buying the CD plates sold by this same woman few years ago...

I beg Everyone, pls do not speak evil about this Man (Pastor Lazarus Muoka)...
I have seen Various calamities on people who did....
Pls I beg..... Discern from speaking Evil about Him

Who is he? We are all dust, sand and spirit from God. If he can speak evil against Mary mother of Jesus Christ and Catholic Church, who is he that people can not speak evil against. Do not worship men but God alone.

NwaChibuzor060:
Marriage is a scam and bondage. Let he who hasn't cheated or have an affair outside marriage be the first to cast a stone. Even the likes of Folu Adeboye and Faith Oyedepo sure must have cheated before . The problem with marriages today is that we focus more on loyalty than love.

Fact is I'm not married yet but when I do I will definitely have numerous affairs outside because I can't use egusi soup to eat for the rest of my life .
Man gats try new soups once in a while.

I never cheated since I know my wife and got married, now 12 years on. Can I cast the stone on your head. Many married men and women does not cheat, those that cheat are people without principle. We don't cheat because we do not have the opportunity to cheat but our principle guards us out of the opportunity to commit the irreversible act.

OfficialRasheed:
You are wasting your precious time on a paid propagandist, see undeniable evidence here. https://www.nairaland.com/4530903/2019-elections-outbreak-bmc-propagandists#67991574

You are right, I suspected it must be a paid propagandist wasting our time. Thanks