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MrBrownJay1:
No, what makes polygamy right is that it's an act by two consenting adult, not forced into doing this act and That act isn't hurting/abusing, or taking advantage of anybody. The important question we all have to ask ourselves IS: why would you automatically assume that polygamy is wrong?

If it's simply because YOU don't like it then that's your personal choice, which you are entitled to, but that's irrelevant here. That would be as silly as saying that walking is wrong because I don't like walking. You have to look at the act itself, and I am sorry but as much as I would NEVER indulge in polygamy, I see nothing wrong with consenting adult going into it.

How can you say for me to assume polygamy is wrong is as silly as saying that walking is wrong?
Do you need someone else's opinion or permission to walk or use any of part of your own body no, polygamy is not an act between two consenting adults , in most cases a man who is already married can decide to add more women whether his first wife likes it or not he will marry more cause his a man that is wrong you might say well the first wife has the choice to divorce the man but what do u expect a woman who have laboured all her life to build with one man just walk away from what she laboured for Most women in polygamy marriage are not happy in it, but can't leave for same reason I gave, you might say sometimes a man marries 2 to 3 women at the same time, but can a man have sex with 3 women at the same time? No a man has just one pen*s and can s*x just one woman at a time his inability to s*x this women at the same time proves he lacks what it takes to have 3 women in that aspect, even in love and attention most men in polygamous marriage love and give attention to one more than the other cause he lacks the ability to do that on an equal level it brings jealousy and cheating, so with all these I wonder why you will compare something natural as walking to polygamy that's silly .



Bro, again that is your personal choice, which you are entitled to, but that's irrelevant here.judge this act for what it is: 2 consenting adults doing something that they both desire, loving one another, not hurting anybody, not killing anybody, not messing or forcing anybody to do what they do (or trying to entice you to join them).. And as much as I wouldn't indulge in it, there is nothing wrong with what they are doing.

Now, put your religious book down and USE YOUR BRAIN to explain to us all why do you think that homosexuality/lesbianism is wrong. We don't need your personal view on the subject (which you are entitled to), but we want to understand what is wrong with what they are doing (aka how is their act any wrong)?



Very good I know perfectly well homosexuality and lesbianism is completely right, but I brought it up cause other people consider it wrong, I have no idea why it's wrong cause it's a personal belief, once again I say, right or wrong is a personal belief, what might be right for one person might be wrong to another person, you said we are born with a DNA to know right or wrong and I agree to a limit to add we learn what is wrong or right too but we decide what is right or wrong in our eyes am never against homosexuality or lesbianism



Again, look at the act itself ... You are talking of someone who does not fully understand the consequences of their actions... And as much as this teenager has a brain, she/he does not fully comprehend that sex is an act that should be shared by two conscenting adults that care/love one another.. So the minute a child/teenager is going into this act then you have two question to ask yourself: 1) how can that child/teenager fully comprehend and/or give consent to an act that they have no clue about? Furthermore, 2) if that child does that act for anything else than love/care and affection (that he/she has for that grown person), then this act would be wrong in itself.


I don't understand what you mean by a teenager doesn't have the brains to fully understand that the act of sex, is to be shared by two consenting adults who care/love one another just cause the law marks a 16 /17 yr old as a child doesn't makes them children what's the difference from an 18 /19 yr old and a 16/15 yr old, yes knowledge and I will tell you that we have teenagers who have complete knowledge of all these things so if you base wrong as not having a clue or having the brains to understand what it is then that's not it. I first had sex at age 16 the girl was 18 I approached her I made the move she never wanted the sex I insisted will you say the girl committed a crime for having sex with me and underage no.


Sadly many teenagers would feel their 1st butterfly in their stomach and believe this is love (since they are clueless about what love is), while in fact it ain't... And many adults abuse that. This is a very sensible grey area. There is no straight line here.



Here is where you are failing in this issue.... You believe that any woman who goes into polygamy, does so because of money
Sadly, in Africa, you need money to get married to ONE woman, therefore you would need much more money to marry multiple women. This is just simple mathematics. So it's obvious that any man who goes into these polygamous Union must have a lot of money. You need a bigger house, more cars, need to feed much more people etc etc etc.now remember, everybody needs money in this life, and many lazy women solely value men with money. Should we now look down on rich men because of that? Should we now look down on marriage because many deluded women marry solely for money? If we have to judge an act, based on what stoopid lazy deluded women are doing, then we would never see anything RIGHT in this world.

Like I said up there most women find themselves in polygamous marriages cause the man they have labored with for many yrs decides to add more women they can't leave cause of what they have already achieved with the man properties children etc it's only in rare cases you will see a man marrying many women at the same time same day, and I narrated what goes on in such homes up there.

Being a prostitute is a degrading act that uses other human beings as objects, that forces people (against their will) to do something they don't want to do, or That they wouldn't do with you, if there wasn't money involved. IMHO, sex should only be between two conscenting adult that love and care for one another. Any other reason why a woman would open her leg to a man is wrong. Now, don't get me wrong, due to personal choices, I do fukc biatches, but I fully well know that it's a wrongful act, because I don't give a damn about these women... And just because I enjoy the Coochie certainly does NOT make this act any rightful.

bro4u:
After making life difficult for super eagles with your shabby play you now want to retire...ok oo kontinu

chenzen:
.9%

Stargurl20:
no.....
We ain't dating

chenzen:
99.9% of female Nairalanders are in their late 20's, 30's and probably 40's

66% are single (looking for a rich, handsome guy that will save their lineage from poverty and bad looks)

10% have been engaged for 9 years (the fvckboy keeps posting them)

10% are hoeing around (as baby mamas)

3% are married (out of desperation & fear of reaching menopause)

10% are about to be used and dumped

.9% are my friends

Stargurl20:
I regretted the day I picked those flyers, read the address which made me located the place where the tutoring is been taken place. I met at the place. I wasn't that attracted to him then. But after few yrs when I went back there, he wooed me, I didn't accept but the feelings became intense after. I wouldn't have never let him know if he hadn't made me say the truth about my feelings. Have never felt this way for any other man. He doesn't give a Bleep about me hence wanna stop this feelings he it made me feels falling in love is wrong. I wanna start hating him.av tried forgetting him but the more I tried d more I remember him n it hurts that the love isn't reciprocated.

Salmoneus:
Algeria will take the cup they're too awesome.

khiaa:
Homosexuals can get breast implants.

MrBrownJay1:
@Deepfeel
Yes, not everything that comes with our African culture is RIGHT but this polygamy issue can only be wrong if/when women are forced into these marriages, but we all know that this is not the case, and women willfully go into these unions. They are not forced to do so, many are actually happier in these unions and many are desperate to find such Union, where the family burden is shared between various women.

I know that in the eyes of common men, like us, having multiple wives seems too much, but I don't see how it could ever be a WRONG act ( especially if that man is taking care of these women' s need)

blesskewe:
Nah

Bigcowhorn:
Na so. He's very free but he likes his ladies slim and chocolate skinned. If you are bigger and kind of full in the hips and backside I got just the right guy for you. He's looking for big and beautiful to marry and he is right her on nairaland. .

MrBrownJay1:
These above are all personal choices, made from selfish agenda, bro.... THINK for a minute!!! Just because someone makes it legal to rape children, would you now say it's RIGHT to rape children?! it is clearly written in the bible that it is right to have slaves and enslave others (thus the basis for African slavery) would you now say that it is RIGHT to enslave other humans?! And as much as we may disagree on what choices we take in our lives, or what's written in your holy book, it doesn't change the fact that WRONG IS WRONG.

Well said so it boils down to the point we
started on just cause African tradition see nothing with a man marrying multiple women doesn't make it right but for their selfish reasons they marry multiple women anyway so in their own belief they are right, you yourself said there is nothing wrong with it, a woman marries a man for his money is wrong but she marries him anyway for her personal reasons so she's right in her own belief
Slavery is wrong but like you said people of the Bible in their own belief saw nothing wrong with it so they are right in their own belief.

InNigeria and other countries around the world, men are allowed to LEGALLY marry children as young as 11yrs old, but we all know that it is wrong to marry children, no matter what the law in these countries says... And as much as we have to follow the law of wherever we reside, we all know what's RIGHT and what's WRONG. The fact that some people want to do whatever act under the moon, for their selfish agenda, does NOT change that fact

Very correct is right to marry underage girls in Nigeria cause they believe is right but in another country marrying underage is wrong

Important word above is in bold... "They felt" it was RIGHT, just like I will feel i have no choice but to kill someone, if my life was in danger, but it certainly does NOT change the fact that I know that killing is WRONG (even if in self defense).
Yes you will know wrong but you will do it right to save yourself

BTW as I told you before, stop being a hypocrite, trying to make a point. Is that not the same bible/qur'an that ask you too stone people and murder children etc. are you claiming that everything written in these religious books is RIGHT?! Do you follow everything written in these holy books? These religious books are some of the worst thing in this world that anyone should take to choose Right from wrong. I can put up here 100things that the bible tells you to do (or not to do) that hypocrites xtians disregard for their selfish agenda EVERYDAY. As I said earlier, we were born with right/wrong written in our DNA, we certainly did not need some BS religious book/law of man to know the difference.

Am not are religious person but I and I know a lot of things writing in the bible that are wrong to my personal belief but others see it as right to their own belief

You people are the biggest hypocrites on earth....you go to your religious temples and pretend to live a righteous life, give some money here and there, then turn around and become the biggest demons on this earth. WRONG IS WRONG, no matter what your religious book tells you, just use your brain.

Like I said am not a religious person I have my own personal belief in doing things that I feel is right in my own eyes,

Puttng killing other human beings and/or stealing from other human beings and/or trafficking of other human beings against their will, in the same context as, two sane people deciding to marry one another in holy matrimony, makes absolutely no sense.

Wrong or right is a personal choice for everyone to make, that's why my personal belief is do whatever you want as long as you are smart enough and strong to get away with it, you don't get punished with death for the wrongs you do you don't get blessed with long live for the right you do, marry many wives if you are strong enough to handle them same way women should cheat men off their money to enrich themselves as long as they are smart enough, the world is a jungle is everyone for himself, play the game to your own advantage play for your survive the true meaning of wrong or right depends on how your personal belief defines it, that's my life that's my religion

Does not change the fact that WHAT THEY DID WAS WRONG



Does not change the fact that WHAT THEY DO IS WRONG... But then again, when people think the way you do, no wonder these criminals strive in their rubbish.



ok

blesskewe:
U

ennyhola:
You guys ..how it all ended

Bigcowhorn:
Really? Let's ask her then.

@khiaa are you cool with me?

Radiant1020:
I'm not FULANI o

blesskewe:
j

Somebody husband

No thanks

blesskewe:
Marry u just like that

Bigcowhorn:
Ah, not possible.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE #1
Trying to compare yourself with animals will have you fail, time and time again.... Btw: lion kill ALL the youngs in a pride when joining it, should we now also do the same and kill the children of any woman we are dating/ marrying?!?!?!?



ARRANT NONSENSE #2
Is there anything wrong now with eating meat.... You do that everyday, don't you?! Lions certainly do, and Since you want to compare yourself with animals, why do you suddenly change your stand?! Stop being a hypocrite!!!



ARRANT NONSENSE #3
These men did something that they thought they had no other choice to do, so they did the unthinkable.....but it does NOT change the fact that committing suicide OR eating human flesh is WRONG. Again, many people do wrongful things because of their selfish agenda, but certainly does NOT change the facts at hand, as you can see that the others survived.



ARRANT NONSENSE #4
As much as I wont do it ( one woman wahala is more than enough for me), there is absolutely NOTHiNG wrong with a man marrying 5 women.... Just like there is nothing wrong with 5women deciding to marry the same man. People have been doing it since biblical times. If a man is able to cater for the needs (emotional/ physical and financial) of such large family, then how/why/when did it suddenly became a wrongful act?!

NEWSFLASH: aren't you the one who was quick to try to compare us with animals?! Are animals (lion/gorillas etc) not having multiple mates?! Stop being a hypocrite by bringing to this discussion only what fit your selfish agenda. WRONG IS WRONG



You are absolutely RIGHT about the above, but it certainly does NOT suddenly turn WRONG into being RIGHT. You can come up with all the excuses as to why you desire to do something that is wrong (in border to attain your selfish agenda), but it will never make it RIGHT. NEVER EVER

ennyhola:
Really.

MrBrownJay1:
Bro always remember, WRONG IS WRONG, however you want to look at it. Just because you decide to do something wrong today, does NOT mean it suddenly became right to do these wrongful acts, it just means you decided to disregard your common sense thought process to solve whatever selfish issue/needs you had in your life. It will NEVER EVER be right to Steal, it will NEVER EVER Be right to cheat, it will NEVER EVER be right to lie, it will NEVER EVER be right to rape, it will NEVER EVER be right to Kill, no matter how many people do it for their selfish agenda.