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subtleone:
Mr Man, I'm not sure what you are on about. Are you for evil or against it?

The man cannot help himself so does that justify his action? Do I just start opening my 32 with such an individual because he apologized? Of course I must be weary of him. I never ever ever want anything to do with such a fellow.

As for the wife, she is very very free to defend her husband. As a matter of fact, my write up shows I didn't expect her to bad mouth her husband in public but when you begin to lie, I have an issue with that.

When a woman, a mother begins to tell sordid lies while trying to insinuate my husband was hitting on her then I have a big issue with that. Defend your husband as much as you want but don't start making up stories of someone approaching you and asking for your number while you were putting on a transparent cloth!

Like who says stuff like that? My husband doesn't even have your bloody telephone number. Why make up lies so you can equally have a disgraceful story like what your pervert husband did? My husband was acting funny around you and you have been smiling with us and greeting us cheerfully? You even came to invite us to your church singing program the week before? Who does that?

That lady said heavy stuff on that day. That is a woman whose kid n I will be chatting like no tomorrow! Her kids will see me and run up to me for a hug? Her kids were the major reason my husband never took it up with her husband. This is a family we never had issues with until the peeping tom incident.

Listen, I don't know if that lady is your friend but tell her she has set her husband 100 steps back. She wiped away her husband's apology with her lies and attitude. Let her ask God for forgiveness for those things she said because I and my husband have committed all those things she said before our maker.

She cannot have peace for those things she said against my husband until she confess to God and amend her ways. I don't expect them to ever apologize but that is their cross not mine. We are very gentle people and my husband had the utmost respect for her and her home. We are a christian home but we are not fools.

While she was denying stuff and making up stories against my husband, I went on my knees before God and said certain things in prayer with a heavy heart. If I am making stories about her home, let God handle me as he wills but if its her then...

M done on this issue...

I do not think he was attacking you. I believe he meant your husband did not a act as expected of a man whose wife's dignity was being abused. He said he was expecting your hubby to have ranted the moment he caught the man doing it instead of handling such a sensitive issue like a gentle man.

Chai! See wet in love of money Dey cause

Please, people should stop nudging TJ towards suicide. It is not good and surely it is devilish. Why nudge a man to kill himself? Yes he may have made a mistake in his life but that doesn't mean he should die. Abeg people, let's leave the death wish out of this one Abeg.

Avalon316:
You are right. Teebillz messed up by going to soçial media to post those trash but tiwa could have ignored.

They could have just come up with the ish that a hacker hacked their account. We've seen this work several times.

But what did she do. She gave a 45 mins interview and buried him. She didn't just kill him. She has buried his career. In a sane country, no one will deal with teebillz - a drug addict. No one will respect him. No one will trust him with money. She did more harm to the marriage and to her career than the junkie,teebillz.

Don't get me wrong,teebillz started the madness but she confirmed it and added more fuel to it.

T bliz acted like a human being we say oh well..... Tiwa acted like a human being we say she shouldn't have! Do you know her own emotional state too? Or is she not allowed to be fragile like the man?

Your wife go on tweeter and call your full names and identity and say your mother is a witch and she should confess and watch you act like a big boy?

2dugged:
in as much as I am concerned about the health risk,I am more worried that ladies see it as if they are not the main chick if a guy insists on using a condom,now that mentality is more worrisome

Yeah, very worissom.
So educate ya fellow women about the risks involved in such stupidity. I think that would serve "womanity" better than that first post. That should be your worry as a woman not whether that girl has another guy by the side. The problem here is moral decadence of our youths and society so, draw the attention of women to the disadvantages of such lifestyles even our men too.

As a woman that you are, I would have expected you to make this post neutral. Are you trying to say women should not be trusted by the men as a boo might get a boo?
You do not worry about risking unplanned motherhood/fatherhood, HIV, use and dump, use bottom chop money and run or any of the sort rather you worry about the fact that his chick may have another man?
Women keep shooting themselves in the foot.

omodelesunky:
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Lol.. Instalments? For wedding stuff?

Na wetin make we talk Na? But, what's the biggie there? If he is cool with OP and he wants the honour of his presence as a pal he should be able to say okay, take it and pay small small. Is it a taboo in their part of the world? Besides Shebi Na church brother?

The Toto?

Until women also decide to want good men, this trend will continue. Many women are happy to settle for less thus a man can keep 20 chicks and they all know each other yet they will still remain with him and fight over who will finnaly win him in marriage. whereas if a man knows his babe has 1 other boy or even suspects her of having an affair, besides him, he calls the whole thing off. See? This way woman knows better not to play with what she has whereas the playboy guy is even amazed and amused by the women's reaction and is encouraged to keep them on their toes.
Besides, I know many men who treated the good women like trash and kept the crazy ones as wives. So this story no gel.
Eh, I will not say a woman should slut around or behave like a goat in heat. But I would say if she decides to take a step that would protect her rights and dignity as a woman, she should not be shamed for making that move. She is human and deserves to be happy. That girl in this story is wrong I n the sense that self destruction is not the solution to heart break.
She is just hurt and she need to calm the f down and replan her life

Nice writeup

Men are like fruits too. No two men are the same. Can women also want fruit salad? It is true for both

Tell him you can only afford to take it and pay in instalments(if that is convenient for you) otherwise tell him you can not afford it at all.

gemale:
keep defending sexism & 1 obsolete custom dt has less value dan bull crap (@ least dt 1 can b used as manure). So wld u advise ur sister 2 leave her only child wt a man lyk dt & his family?

Like I stated, that is the way they tie a wife down. He will ask her to endure for the child's sake. That was where culture kept wives.
Ask many men here how their dads treated their moms and ask why she did not leave the marriage. You will see that it was the culture.
To me the culture should be tweaked to make both men and women responsible. Not to allow a group choose to abuse and demoralize the other because they know custom is on their side t(Note I did not say they all do o)
If a man knows that the woman is allowed and even encouraged to leave his home and he will be shammed for his nasty attitude in his marriage. And if the woman knows that she can not leave her home on some shitty flimsy excuse without getting a lashback. Both of them will work on keeping their home happy.
Many of us can testify about how our mothers sat there and took it all because she could not leave without her kids. Is that what we want our daughters to endure in the name of culture? Culture shouldn't be one sided. Culture should protect every citizen.

Safemode:
I m a Yoruba man.
I agree with your points but the issue of Tiwa & Tee Billz can't be easily concluded that one of them is with more fault.
If Tee Billz also come out again with his own defensive reply to Tiwa's interview. he may get back the public sympathy again. Remember he appeared like the victim when the news about his suicide attempt came out.

I feel you.

Chaiii! He should buy one more for me Na!
I hope for his sake his money is clean
Anyhow, if his money is clean, then he should enjoy every bit of it.

All things bright and beautiful all creatures great and small...

BabaO2:
why woman woman woman...? you are a dog, no problem, kotunui ...

Hahaha, was that supposed to make me mad? #FreedomOfSpeach. Glad you exercised your right well.

Ugosample:
Now that we are clear on that....
That's good.
Good night to you

Well, my post clearly stated that fact even though you ignored that point and quoted me anyways.
Goodnight to you too. May tomorrow meet us well to agree or disagree in good faith

airex:
U represent what you put up as ur display picture.

Glad I could get that reaction from you. It is normal human nature to insult, ignore, agree with, disagree with, guide or bless his fellow man. Your choice is welcome. There is diversity in opinion.

airex:
U represent what you put up as ur display picture.

Glad I could get that reaction from you. It is normal human nature to insult, ignore, agree with, disagree with, guide or bless his fellow man. Your choice is welcome. There is room for diversity in opinion.

subtleone:
Tnx for ur comment but pls go back and read again. I didn't state anywhere in my write up that I was naked. I wrote I pulled my rapper closer but that does not translate that I was sleeping nude. You are very correct with your advise though; women should not sleep naked especially if you live on the ground floor. I am also very careful with my curtains since the incident. I am more security conscious. This incident left me shaken...

Please note this is a secure compound within a seemingly secure estate. Sometimes the devil resides within...

Its all good. I never meant it to be an attack. Just that I know many women who sleep nakid or near nakid.
I am glad the mans ass was exposed. Hope you enjoy the rest of your stay there.

MadCow1:
I thought I was alone in this cinema...

No be small o

Ugosample:
I see your point. but I want you to know this........

Not all our foremothers were in abusive relationships. There were good and bad men then, just as they are now.

I hope you understand

Was not talking about the good ones. I never said all of the men we're bad.

olalat:
I think u do. Ur mentality requires d type of advice i offered u. Go and ask questions from d women whose marriage were sustained. Can d so called does that if her husband happens to be in her position. If it were to be me, i will go and do agbero at oshodi oke to cater for my family. Tah!..

Dem Dey force person to take advice again? If only you knew. Oh well, I Don hear. you have tried. At least you aired your opinion. You have been noticed.

adeaks:
I have never heard of a Yoruba Customary Marriage Act before. Which of the Yoruba states passed the act into law? Who signed it?

In any case, Tiwa and Tbillz were married under the Marriage Act and she has filed for divorce accordingly. The divorce proceedings will be done according to the Marriage Act and not any phantom Yoruba Cust. Marr. Act.

The only thing I am wondering is; since Tbillz is the party who is jobless and earns less, will he ask the court to award him maintenance from Tiwa ?

He is free to. It is marriage, he also invested his time in it before now. So he should ask if he thinks he should.

nonhuman:
small small children everywhere

Because I said a woman should have equal rights over the kids she carried for 9months or because I said nobody should force an innocent partner to remain in an unhappy marriage or because I said bride price should be returned to an unserious and abusive husband?

nonhuman:
my friend stop making noise if it comes to Christianity u will be the first to I love Jesus. the bible already itself cleae . marieage is for better or worst . besides if tiwa its not wealthy do u think she would have opted out?

Bible said they can if one was unfaithful. Bible said a man who will not provide for his family is worse than an infidel, Bible said husbands, love your wives as christ loves the church. Any other point you want to throw at me?

olalat:
I pity whoever that will consider putting a woman like u under his roof. Na palava he dey find. African culture abhores divorce. Ur feminist inclination is strange to our culture. The western malady u are trying 2 copy breeds bad society. We are africans...... I blame d lazy fool that kept depending on woman 4 his survival, eating d shit of a woman. Turn himself to sisi in d house doing baby sitting instead of go out to fend 4 his family.

You are welcome. I appreciate your pity unfortunately it is not needed. I wish you saved it for someone who really needed it.

scully95:
You are welcome... I don't use loose words first.. I was actually waiting for you to use cussed words before I fire my own.. Infact I have prepared what to say already lol..

Take care..

I also try not to cuss out people. I do not want to cause anybody to have negative vibe or at least I try not to.
Take care too

scully95:
Who is talking about bride price here ? The Child belonging to the Father, means it used the rope to tie the wife down to the father right ? If the wife wants to go here, she's also free to go. So what's the point ?

How did that tie the wife down to the Husband ? She can also visit but the father will have full custody of the child (especially when it's one child) and when Child grows up to 18 he or she can decide where to go.


And this is simply because of Ladies generally. Single ladies in Yoruba land are always suspected to be fcking about anyhow or some even turn prostitutes. (Even when they are married they are still fcking abt carelessely, and kids learn very fast from them especially when these kids are not with their fathers or the two living together)

So you expect the kid here to grow up and be like her mother right ? Again this is not London or Uk or even Russia where they have a different culture. This is Yoruba land and the helders must have seen a lot before coming to this conclusion.

If we are to even go by your idealism of slavery, it's catholic here that is doing that. As we speak it's almost impossible to get a divorce and marry again in Catholic church.
What is that ?

It is slavery. Anyway, let's agree to disagree. Thank you for being a great sport. Some others would have cussed my head out

stanvesco:
I meant savings from a poultry farm.....
trust me...
if its not daily bribe
its gala or oda hawking activity
or shop mony
or daily egg sales

but op,
u try oh.....

I gerrit

scully95:
Where did you see how it tied them down ? So you did not learn anything from the write up ? It only says Child belongs to the Father. it did not tie anyone to anywhere. It's only sensible to try to work things out irrespective of issues. The case of Tiwa is totally different and op decided to react to the part she said about the Kid cos that is the only rope left tieing them together after tiwa removed the Business rope by sacking her manager, her husband over a small issue that could be resolved via other ways.

It ties her down. She said he is free to see his child but OP says child belongs to the man. So what does that do to tiwa? Should she leave the child and go? She has stated that he has access to his child recognizing his rights as a father towards his child. What more should she do?
Child belongs to both parents. This is why I advice parents to collect #1 bride price so if the man starts forming I spent my money to marry you, you just slap his face with his yeye bride price and kick his ass out.
No be force Na. She wants to move on let her be.