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Fertility and virility issues bla bla bla. That's always the defence you get from folks when you confront them with the fact that they are live-in lovers with their fiance or fiancee.  A lady once confided in me that her boyfriend says he can only marry her when she gets pregnant for him to certify her fertility. Another one says she wants to know how good her man is in bed before she can say "I Do". Sounds funny, isn't it? Are these reasons reasonable enough in making good choice of a life partner? Do they guarantee a strife-free marriage if certified before wedding?

Why is the Joli plan so inflexible that someone cannot migrate out of it? It really sucks. Anybody got clues? I feel like mashing my sim card.

Iwu must go! He is bereft of culture and diplomacy. He talks like a motorpark tout. No wonder he returns touts as winners of elections. He must go!

With all pleasure, interpret.

freshera:
No way!!! I don't want to be seeing demons at 1.00am in the night in my bedroom all because my husband delivered someone from the claws of witches . When other people are busy enjoying themselves  . Or seeing human-snakes in my kitchen Lai lai. It is a very risky job.

Having invisible demons come after you anyday, anytime, anytime whether you are spiritually prepared or not is crazy and scary. They could even come after the children.

Any spiritual lapse or dozing by the pastor could lead to attack and then death. They have to be strong all the time, pray like mad and fast endlessly.To be a TRUE PASTOR requires suffering on earth and enjoying in heaven.They can't let down their guard anytime. No way!

I understand. Lol. So which isn't risky? Life is about risk, risk and more risk.

@poster: She's simply a mannerless, uncultured chic, y should she create a scene cos some1 wants to talk 2 her. I wouldn't be ashamed if I was d one. I've not had any tho, I don't razzle babes, all I just need is her fone no. and some time, she'll be d one razzling me later. Haha! Seriously. Never push or rush a woman.

Haven't you heard of some randy pastors? I've heard.

"No! Not me! I need a private and hotly romantic life." That's the typical response you'd get from majority of our ladies. Does the fact that a man heeds a call to divine service make him less of a man? Can't pastors be romantic as well? Would that keep his hormones from flowing? Why would a typical lady think that a pastor would be all pious, conservative, and religious when it comes to performing his conjugal rites? Would you marry a pastor if you love him eventually? Yes, you!

Thank u synthesis.

Why won't she know how to cook? What will she be doing then? I can make my soup tho. Lol

Ok. Pls do.

AqRiUs Age:
Not muc ohhhhh goodness

mugsmasher: haha! So funny. ;d

Hahahahaha! She's back! Hell has no fury to contend with u wat u gat. Lol! Now I can comfortably conclude that you have a big problem with written stuff. You contradict yaself when you hit ur keyboard. U use offensives when it's needless. I foresee ur so called boy-girl relationship crashing when d Africa in ur man wakes up from d grip of ur love potion. U sound Carribean tho. Are u Jamaican? I hav a hunch. Someone like u can hardly stay married. Work yourself!

@Mayfrances: I'm trying 2 figure out what kind of rude and and loud principal u'd be. Why're these ladies deep into using arrogant + obscene language? If you could type like this, u can do worse in real speech. Jeez!

@dinachi: God bless u. Case closed. I never knew dis debate is still not settled.

@synthesis: thank u. Laserlordone@yahoo.com

I appreciate the responses so far. I need someone to throw some light on which one of these is the authentic form of baptism: 1. The sprinkling on of water as practised mostly by the Catholic. 2. Immersion or dipping into water. A Catholic friend told me that the former is the real one, but Jesus was dipped into water as the bible teaches. Hmmm!

From the way you wrongly quote the bible and the bogus interpretation that you give the wrongly quoted verses, it shows how much more knowledge you need to overcome the rage of sexism you're putting your arrogant self thru. Don't talk about what u hav no clue about and stop sounding sandy. What word is 'saracastic' again! Lol. Make u no kill person oh! Don't greet ur husband if u like, nobody has made it a rule. Remember the topic limits itself to the African culture. Even Revd. Run's wife greets him and he does dat to her too, talking of d West. Be wise.

I heard a teaching about how water baptism(by immersion) is the final separation from the world by a christian believer. It really got me thinking, can someone be separated in real essence from the world while still living upon the earth rife with the very sins that once beset him or that he would still fall to? If one after identifying with the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ by water baptism and still falls to sin, what other hope does he have left?

@queeneve: You are a confused woman. You keep conflicting with yourself. Your analogies don't add up. You are just too ego-ridden. Stop now if you don't have any reasonable comment to drop. Peace!

can i get perry in pdf format? pls.

queeneve:
I WANT TO SINCERELY APOLOGIZE, I FORGOT WHO I WAS TALKING TO,


LET ME BREAK IT DOWN ANOTHER WAY,


WOULD YOU RESPECT SOMEONE THAT DISRESPECT YOU ON A DAILY BASIS? WOULD YOU RESPECT SOMEONE WHO MISTREATS YOU, BELITTLE YOU, ABUSE YOU, AND THREATENS YOUR LIFE?


I hope this get through your thick arse skull!

My dear, from your choice of words, it shows how much tolerant you can be. How can you sustain a happy home with you kind of attitude. One moment you are quoting the bible, another one you are cursing and using swear words. You can't hide nothing about yourself from the way you write. You are known. Watch it.

queeneve:
This is so sad.  It is clear that MANY OF YOU ALL ARE NOT CHRISTIANS OR RELIGIOUS.   If we are going to bring religion into this, LET BRING IT CORRECTLY.

The bible clearly states in EPHESIANS 5

Walk in love as Christ has loved us.  For the fruit of the spirit is GOODNESS and RIGHTEOUSNESS.  Walk not as a fool, but wise and SUBMITTING TO ONE ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD.  WIVES SUBMIT YOURSELF TO THEY HUSBANDS AS HE IS SUBMITTING TO CHRIST.  The husband is the head as Christ is the head of the church.  HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIFE AS YOUR LOVE YOURSELF AS YOUR WIFE WILL REVEREND YOU.

The bible clearly states to men as head of the family WITH CHRIST THE HEAD OF THE CHURCH BODY.  Husbands love your wife as you love yourself for your wife will reverend you.  It has not said anything about who greet who first, who bathe who first, who go kill a cow first, and who eat the past piece of chicken first.  It simply states WALK IN LOVE AND RESPECT FOLLOWS.  

If you do not have respect for your wife, HOW CAN YOU EXPECT HER TO RESPECT YOU?

Please stop reading the bible for what YOU WANT IT TO BE and READ IT FOR WHAT IT SAID!

You sound so inexperienced, competitive and like you don't understand the cultures that sustained your forebears.

Do you ever come home to Africa for some real schooling on how to lead a respectful life? Like begets like. For every action we put up, we have an equal reaction.

Show some love. Share your greeting, it doesn't matter how. It could be a kiss(like you pple come here to pretend), a hug, a wink or whatever.

You ladies should stop living in fantasy, marriage is not a competition, it's a lifetime commitment you have to do all worthwhile things to sustain.

Ujujoan:
I once had an ex who cheated on me, I didn't walk . . . big mistake! I guess I thought I was being tolerant

Anyway, in the end, he got a girl pregnant and I damned 'tolerance'!

There's only so much a person can take. If a man is too weak to control himself around a woman, then he's just not worth the whole wahala!

NO WONDER.

If you ever went to a divorce court, you'll see how the issues we call irrelevant and petty turn out to be be the flash point of many troubled marriages.


My kind advice is this to all them modern and anything-goes chics out there: Know your spouse and never take any detail for granted.[/size]

Arguing about who makes the bed, who clears the dining, who greets first or who doesn't has never and will never help.

Ujujoan:
I won't, as far as he does not either!

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@Benedictac: No she couldn't be. From her tough disposition on some woman-man issues that require wisdom from God you can tell. Them tech Naija chics. Lol

@ayettymama: Hmmm! Another warped western thought. I'm trying to create a scenario where you wake up, look your husband eyeball to eyeball and lousily walk your way into the day. Decaying morals and values where the woman rubs shoulder with her man.

It's quite surprising what responses I'm reading here.  Nobody makes greeting an issue, I personally wouldn't, but I'd think something is wrong if I wake up to a spouse who can't wish me or who I can't wish a 'good morning or so' to.  People always play down issues that turn out to matter a great deal afterwards.

If you must have good and effective communication in your house, there must be exchange of compliments, pleasantries, banters and any sweet thing you can voice out, greeting is surely one of them.

Why is the world getting too tech and busy that we now push aside the oils that make society run smoothly?