₦airaland Forum

Wittyduchess:
Homosexuality has been in the north for a long time, sodomy is a norm there ,just because they are good at covering it up does not mean we don't know what's up,just pointing that out.

Carry on with your argument, I am reading.

Sure you will support homosexuality

Very predictable.....feminism smh

jaxxy:
Like I said whatever works for u. I don’t like traditional wives they bore me. I prefer a lady who has her own thing going bt reasonable as well.

Hopefully u see one

Career women bore my ass out,its like I'm marrying myself

jaxxy:
It’s about choice here really. Some men want a sit at home wife and some want a career woman. Sit at home is more traditional and career has sm modifications. Both are liked by men and have advantages and disadvantages. Pick urs.

I pick traditional

With them comes no compromising

Career women are pseudo men

jaxxy:
No i don’t believe they are equal because they aren’t and they can’t. They weren’t created to be equal either or be competitors Or rivals. That is against nature it self.

Bt Making certain compromises doesn’t change this fact.

Why should make compromises if she prioritizes family over career

Shortyyy:
Please disregard those people, most of the men on this forum are misogynists. They'll rather see a woman suffer and die on top of "woman duties" they don't buy the idea of a free and independent woman. It is threatening to them.

Intimidated by Wat Asif it's not broke men's penis y'all will be sucking at the end of the day

Chii59:
For you. One size doesn't fit all.

Men and women are fundamentally not equal

jaxxy:
Civilization changes a lot and the world has changed abit. Wives have taken up more manly roles and therefore need support or Sm balance. There is nothing wrong with that.

A man can’t just sit down and be demanding this and that. We are not in the 15th century. Be realistic or atleast marry who fits ur mentality for peace of mind sake.

Look at progressive nations with equalism culture and see how they have useless the marriage institution.

I don't believe men and women are fundamentally equal

PreciousGurl:
What?
Maybe you are confusing the topic of the thread.
I didn't say a woman should not cook for her husband.

I am just implying that it is not a must that a woman must be a good cook.
Emphasis on good cook.

But then I think everyone should strive to know how to make their own meals to their taste.

My best soup may taste somehow to another party. Taste differs.

U didn't answer my question tho

Good is relative

But a woman must know how to cook especially if she wants to be wife-able

veave:
My love, I can't kill myself, some Nigerians think its only when you suffer till you die that is when you're truly living. Abiarom uwa afufu biko.

M very sure u are not married and u are way into ur 30s

rasxx:
I don't need a good cook, anyone can be hired for that, I need companionship, a friend. If she spends all the time cooking how do we bond? Knowing also that you need to hustle ,Plus children wahala.

Why do you want ur wife to hustle like a man in the first place??

Wittyduchess:
"Shame perpetrators" . Wow! You are so funny, let me guess ,you put ash on their foreheads and drag them through the market square for ending their marriage .


You know what, I hear you. Have a nice day.

We don't teach our young females that single motherhood is strength and getting divorced or having a tag of divorces on their memo is empowerment

Wittyduchess:
lol,Are you sure about that? You should know your environment more. I know data and statistics is not a thing for you Nigerians but you should know divorce rates have doubled and this has nothing to do with cooking ,just imagine if cooking was to be added to the troubles plaguing Nigerian marriages.

That's a lie people are getting married every fucking weekends

Divorce do happen but it's not a culture here and we Shame the perpetrators

ukaface:
What I sha know is that ,if you like cook like cookery book,man wey go Waka leave you go leave you.


Back to the question:
It's ideal for a woman to know how to cook,same for men too. I wonder who ascribed Cooking only to the female gender.
It is compulsory for both men and women to know how to cook.

Cooking is a female gender thing

It has been in existence for generations

Why is cooking for ur own husband hard for u to do??

I'm very sure u are a career lady

Marriage is not 50/50

TemmyT002:
Yessss
If anyone tells you otherwise, he or she is just trying to be 'woke' foolishly or are just plain lazy people.
Wise women know that the way to a man's heart is through food.
For generations, women have been cooking and most women are better cooks than a lot of men.
That is why women are the defacto cooks when it comes to any event.
Women love to showcase their cooing skills to the men they love.

On point

They want to cover their laziness very unbelievable women

Wittyduchess:
Shedding this mentality of yours is going to be hard work. I would have loved to try, but the problem with people like you is it's engraved in your very core.

At least we don't have a divorce culture and miserable single ladies culture

PreciousGurl:
Nonsense, that is no valid excuse for infedility from the husband's side...
If you can afford a maid to do the cooking then go for it.
There are other responsibilities women shoulder in the average Nigerian home that if it were to be a man, they would have started crying all over the net.

Wat other responsibilities do women shoulder in the average Nigeria home that will make her see cooking for her own husband a task and a punishment

PreciousGurl:
That is why I said if the money is there then don't waste your energy.
Get someone to do it for you.

Even if money is there why would you still decide to not cook for your husband, I don't get.... Isn't the availability of money even a sense of sweetening the cooking for ur husband

veave:
You're trying to use your life's situation on me. I'm not the root of your aggression. If youre a slave to your boss kindly resign. Don't assume I'm suffering the same predicament as you are. Thank you.

I'm just saying most career women are slaves to their boss

Tuehhhhhhh

Shokoloko:
Your daughter might decide to be the next Dangote: you know what that means, it means she might be a career woman. So lets learn to like everyone

God forbid I reject it

b the next dangote at Wat cost, end up marrying late if at all she gets married or she will b a single mother because all she will be attracting is beta males and simps, or she might even get married old and end up childless

Women are not built for big business and politics ma'am

Shokoloko:
What if she and her spouse own the home? How does she get sent out?

Not in Nigeria tho

veave:
Lool. You're the only one I'm going to reply on this issue.

1. I'm married. 2. I can cook very well. 3. The only thing stopping me from getting a cook is because i can't afford it yet. 4. Marriage is not a do or die affair so if a man chooses not to eat because his 'wife's wasn't the person that prepared the meal hence wanting a divorce, he can as well go his way. 5. Life is too short to put yourself under endless stress when there's an alternative.

Thank you.

Ordinary to cook for ur husband is wahala but to slave under ur boss which fortunately most are males is EMPOWERMENT SMH!!!!

Shokoloko:
Not entirely correct.
A woman's top priority in marriage is keeping her kids well taken care of, building a legacy for her kids and then the good husband comes. Most of the time they are tired and stressed so they are happy to deliver AVERAGE sex, food and submission.

From a woman, there is no heavenly feeling you get when you cook for your husband. if cooking is a hobby, whether you cook for your husband or mother or kids you will get the heavenly feeling. If it is a chore for you, no matter who you cook for, you will never have a heavenly feeling.

This is from a woman who is career driven. A woman who prioritizes career over family. So u won't understand what I typed.

Women who prioritize family over career don't have any issue giving their husbands regular quality sex, quality meals and quality submission

I don't like career ladies at all because they will rather slave for their boss,who are mostly male than play their needed roles in the household.

Cousin9999:
Not everyone can be a "good" cook, but every adult should be able to cook decent, and make a few things well. Gender is irrelevant. Every adult should know how to cook. Not cooking is like not knowing how to wipe your a**.

We are not saying which gender should be good at cooking okayyy

The woman must know how to cook especially if she wants to wifeable

veave:
No. Just make enough money and employ one. The most important thing is the availability of cooked food.

M sure such man will bang the hell out of the hired cook

Why won't you know how to cook and u want to wife-able??

Which money are U making sef

U will rather slave under ur boss which fortunately most are males than cook for ur husband

profeth:
Marry a good wife rather than a good cook

Why can't u marry a good wife who's a good cook

GofuckYourself:
You mustn't argue with some people. When you read their comment that should be enough caution to not bother with .

Cheers

Interesting

So women should be the breadwinner of the home ahbi??

Mynd44:
This mentality needs to stop. A woman is not a cook but a partner

God forbid

In a relationship we have a dominant(DOMs) gender and a submissive(SUBs) gender

Women are SUBs
Men are DOMs

Marriage is not a democracy and it's not a partnership

50/50 is a myth

Mynd44:
No.
You can be good elsewhere, the idea that women must be good in the kitchen only propagate the wrong Idea that they belong there. It also creates a situation where the man is okay not making food because he believes it is the job of the woman. Making food is an art and some people just don't have it.

Although, I believe every human(male or female) should possess the basic skill to make their own food. The food might not be tasteful but they should be able to whip up something so theu shouldn't starve even if they can afford to buy. Atleast sabi cook noodles.

I believe women's top priorities in marriage are giving their good husband quality sex, quality food and quality submission.

Even if a man knows how to cook it will never replace the feeling women get wen they cook for their husbands

Marriage isn't a democracy

Ryan03:
so I should force her to kneel cause it means she will be a good wife or it makes me a man? Shift!

Did I mention force??

As a man u should b the prize and u should ensure ur frame and values dominate the relationship

Marriage isn't a democracy

BlackMamba69:
Who says mgtow is about abstinence? U go dey fucck na. Ever heard of pump and dump?

Mgtow lifestyle simply means no marriage, no cohabitation, no commitment.

I rather preserve my seed and my lineage than pump and dump

Pump and dump doesn't sound meaningful to me

Some MGTOW don't even pump and dump

BlackMamba69:
How do you bypass the "rig-ness"?
By marrying retired oloshoos??
Coz believe me, all these chicks getting married each weekend are coded hooes. All of them. They simply settle for the dumbest s!MP in their orbit.

By having surrogate moms, having baby mamas, marry a wife able virgin, polygamy.....

It's far better than masturbating everyday till one dies