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^^^^ Rat trap

Why do you think we care about your miserable life?

Best to stay away from potential drama if you can avoid it.

If you try trapping a girl with pregnancy, she will just abort it. Or even keep it but leave you if she doesnt want to be with you. It might be worse if she passes on your own child to another and prevents you from being a father to your own child.
If a lady tries trapping a guy with pregnancy, it doesn't mean he will marry her. He will just be a father to the child without being a partner to the lady.

Gone are the days of shotgun weddings. You can't trap anyone that doesn't want to be with you.

there is no way to trap anyone that doesn't want to be with you permanently.

If you want someone to be trapped, the closest remedy is to treat them right - with love and respect. If they reciprocate, then that makes you the best person available for them.

On a side note, the idea you want to trap someone reeks of lack of self esteem and confidence.

;d

Why can't she go borrow the money herself and pay back when she starts working in the future.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=759600.msg9147153#msg9147153 date=1316019367]Master.biodun. Bro forget her. Women like that must NEVER EVER be trusted becoz the moment things start gettin worse for u, she WILL break your heart. Thats a typical Black woman for u. She aint worth it and there are better women out there who would want despite being broke. Truss me when I tell u: Nigerian women are all the same and cannot be trusted. Move on bro! [/quote]
cork advises?

Remain friends if you can. She is not worth dating. Being friends with someone is a whole different ball game than dating them. So cos you are good friends does not mean you will be good lovers.

She has a wrong mentality of money and dating. If you date her, it will be a disaster.

It's her job and it goes with it. You knew that before you started dating her so I don't see why it would be a problem.

And yeah, women should be able to take care of themselves either being single or in a relationship/marriage. Tht goes without saying.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=754101.msg9102576#msg9102576 date=1315438302]What if the wives are being abused and lives are threatened and they informed the parents.  The parents tell them to stay there and take it.  What would you suggest for them to do next?[/quote]I said a woman who is being abused or whose life is threatened should quit. Whether her family is with her or not, she has to take that stance and leave the dude. It's also her decision, not her family, if she wants to go back to him.

I come from a family that believes that a man and woman tough it out. But we will never support anyone beating his wife or a member of the family being beaten by the husband. The family house has always been a safe haven for everyone no matter what. However, get ready for the talk that tells you to go back to work things out if there is no abuse or life threat.

Like Goldieluks said, we africans are not so keen on quitting marriages for the flimsiest of reasons like you believe.
Marriage is a for better or worse. The only time I would support a lady quitting is when her life is in danger.
So before you choose a guy or a marriage partner, look well cos from the moment you say I do, your marriage is your cross to carry. You make whatever you want out of it.

fork adict:
If i swear for you dis guy, i swear e go too catch you.

First, why the fork did you have to post dis sheet twice? You really wanted me to read this crap twice?
Second, learn to always kip your rants short and simple. Some of us that visit nairaland have things to do. Even if i was so jobless, do you think i will read this crap twice?

Now your post should have read:

Guys, i decided to the best of my ability to avoid calling this girl and to keep myself from thinking about her as much as i could by getting busy with my bbm and twitter followers. after a while, she called me and i answeered her call as casually as i could. The message i got from the call is that she wants me to keep calling her daily but men that aint gonna happen.

The above summary would have sufficed, Instead of that EPISTLE OF SAINT TENDERHEART TO ALL NAIRALANDERS that you just posted.

Thanks for saving me the stress of reading that part. Kudos

Dream or no dream, you didn`t plan letting go else you wouldn`t have opened this thread.
So don`t bother using the dream as an excuse to pursue her further. It seems you havnt learnt your lesson with her yet.

Communicate the opinion of your siblings to your mom now while she is still alive and work a compromise.

Sorry about your mom.

Reanaa:
Goodbye is the sadest word to say, thou it can be said in so many ways.
If you still luv her and want to stay with her, shud u allow pride or friends advice to deprive you of what you cherish?

They are both better off without each other. So he made the right decision meaning right advice from friends.

She has learnt not to date weak men like you

Very bad. Never do that or BJ again. Its a sin!!!!!!!

LMAO

How come people readily have access to acid?

Stingy is relative. Maybe the dude is good at saving his money for more important projects.

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Op stop crying

Once a ho, always a ho. Your call.

In a bar.

Has it ever occured to you that you are still too immature for a relationship?

First things first - get out of the relationship before it crushes you too deeply. If you think this is bad enough, wait till you see how it ends.

If your father is the one who determines the religion of your future partner, then I think you do not know what you want yet. Why don't you juust stay off relationships and ask your father to pick a girl for you when you are old enough to marry.

From experience, I assure you this, if you don't leave that girl now, it will be one of the worst decisions of your life.

is it decent for a man?