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coming from the guy who was preaching about premarital sex and we all going to hell.
I knew he`was sick in the head

Why don't you ask him what he means?
We can only speculate here

You seriously need to tone it down on the women. Did some lady just take you through the cleaners or what?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=639688.msg8921804#msg8921804 date=1313344343]I hate Divorce Court with a passion. I wrote to Judge Toler on the show that she should encourage people to STAY MARRIED if it is over the dumbest poo.

She wrote me back saying that she agree but she is trying but people do not listen. I wrote back saying TRY HARDER!

Divorce laws should be STRICT.[/quote] LMAO Oh girl you sure are one crazy one. Respect

190
What's with your venom for naija women?

talina:
Like I said, its hard to find an objective person. A brutally honest friend if your lucky to have one. Or even being honest with ourselves can go a long way.

Being open minded,comprimising, and respectful, with your partner, not confrontational, sure helps.

Ive been in relationships.

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You never got mad enough to throw a tantrum before or are you always the cool headed type no matter what?

@Talina
have you ever had a partner confide in private things to friends and/or family before?  If so how did you deal with it?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=639688.msg8921717#msg8921717 date=1313343415]You think a Nigerian man or woman with COMMON SENSE will stay in a marriage if their spouse is threatening to kill them literally? You know you won't![/quote]I do agree with you on the life threatening and incessant cheating. Its just I've seen so many marriages crumble for the most frivolous of reasons.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=639688.msg8921650#msg8921650 date=1313342855]It applies to all relationship but marriage is more serious in my opinion than dating relationship.  I don't believe in divorce and think families should let husband and wife BE HUSBAND AND WIFE.

I know shocking!  All Americans doesn't support divorce unless it is life threatening.  I will not stay with Mr. Chima if he is threatening to kill me. Come on!  

Mr. Chima isn't like that so I am not worrying about nothing.  A woman can do that when she knows she got a good man.   [/quote]

Great contributions guys. I will like what you all think on involving friends in this thread too

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=637759.msg8050737#msg8050737

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=639688.msg8921531#msg8921531 date=1313341798]Deniyor.

I do not support family members getting in married couple's disagreements because then the family members will be forced to take sides. In some cases, I have witnessed family members choosing the opposite side meaning the husband if it is the wife's family or the wife if it is the husband's family.

It is not a good idea. Now if there is a discussion that affects the whole family then invite the family in like celebration, adoption, in SOME CASES divorce dispute, and moving to another state or country.

I also want to add that women NEED TO STOP CONFIDING to their friends about their husbands. It is a no no. I am not talking about something trivia and generic such as "we went to the movies and ate a nice dinner". I am talking about serious matter such as his health conditions, intimate problems or prowess, and personal matter that should be kept between HUSBAND AND WIFE.

One thing I will never share is PERSONAL info of Mr. Chima and I because it is no one business but Mr. Chima and I. Women should take suit. The reason I am saying women because women has it WORSE than men.[/quote]Very insightful Mrs Chima. Would you say the same apply to non married couples say new relationships, long term relationships etc?

talina:
And I also feel this way because of past personal experience. Everyone needs a " sounding board" at times in life, but finding an objective one can be hard. I guess its about finding the right partner,with the same views about working out problems. Relationships work out better, anywhere on the planet, if family is not dragged into a couples disagreements.

so who do you use as your sounding board?  If you and you partner are at logger heads, who do you use as your sounding board?
Are you single, in a relationship or married?

Lax75:
I personally think its an extremely bad idea and toxic to the relationship.

Why do you think so?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=639688.msg8919736#msg8919736 date=1313317848]My family don't get in anybody's issues unless invited and we don't even like it when a member of the family drags anyone into his personal life except if it is a serious case[/quote]Are you single, in a relationship or married?

ogugua88:
My answer is emphatic no! Quarreling/abuse is dramatic enough as it is. I definitely wouldn't my parents involved. One thing leading to another and all of a sudden my dad's facing a murder charge.

I've never been married, so I can't answer in terms of husband/wife. As for bf/gf, whether it be a quarrel or him getting the job of a lifetime, my parents won't know about it.

So does that mean you never get relationship advice from your parents? how about your sibling?

I accept . Btw you really should try the exercises I posted in the other thread. They work.

You live in Port. You should be smart enough to know how to market yourself better.

Bros put up your pictures so you can trap the girls by lookery first. If you wowo sha, your low chances diminish.
All the one of God fearing you are talking abt - all that one na tory. Caring, loving all that one na bs too.

Have you declared how much you earn in a month, yearly?
Have you declared your job title? For all we know you fit be that seargent Geroger for checkpoint!
Have you declared what happened to your first wife? What is accidental or was it unproven? Don't worry, it can all be upset by how much you make?
Women believe in your credit history. How many cars did you buy for your first father in law? How much was your last gf able to siphon from you?

You have not even declared an age range you are looking to date cos there are many 55 year old people that might want to hook up with you. Don't go giving them false hope now.

Remember he pays the piper dictates the tune, so money for hand, many backs for ground

Your sister will be perfect.

You probably deserve it

talina:
Nice to meet you Deniyor! bye bye

Pleasure is all mine. See you around.

Gbenge 77:
-40?

We had -58c two years ago. One night only. That's been the coldest I've seen it.

sexkillz:
190, Lefulefu, yeye4live & and some other crackheads that jus wanna get noticed!

Don't you forget MOBO. It's a crime to leave him out of the list.

;d ;d

datnigga:
ori bobo deniyor yi ti daru mehn, look at aw dis negro put hat for im head like one of those ppl about to be deported . ignorant fool!!

Damn I did a number on you. Ma binu. Da rigi me