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Is onegig hausa?

He and Sissie trying to sell us?

tbaba1234: Allahu Akbar.. I am so emotional and excited this morning.

My baby sister just gave birth. Uncle tbaba in the building!

Looks like she is now a mama sister!! I know what that feels like.

May Allah protect the baby and make him/her a great Muslim.

aManFromMars: Just popped in to say thanks Deols.

worldmoney: op u most be high on weed if you put the name kulye anywhere near cool-headed.

Kulyie is

As a single father, You probably have a good relationship with her already. Talk to her if you really know about it.

If not, get her books.

If she attends a good school, they have been taught already or would have been taught by the time she is ready.I learnt about it the first time when I was in Pry 6. Home economics was pretty interesting.

Those are three options for you.

How easy was that for them??

na so our children would wonder how pads and tampons are..

na so life be. The rich of yeateryears is like the poor of today.

alutacontinua: Merry xmas to everyone
CC, Jennkadry (ehrm, e get one question wey I wan ask you about ikokworiko ), Efemena, Jidegirl, Debrief , Chillisaucepepper, Badosky, kulyie the story teller yelloworangepawpaw, deols, bukatyne, ileobatoburn, coogar , Ujujoan, damiso, biolabee, Nashville, Bellong, Pocketeconomist, bluuuuuuuuuuuuu, dayokanu, jaybee, 'May God help us' greatgod2012, phema, cdamsel, mysticgal, babyosisi,ihedinobi madam mgbeketoto aka kanwulia aka caloti aka jellita aka Gambrosia aka Almondjoy aka etc etc .... infact, the entire family section, Y'all are great...wishing you many wonderful xmas-es ahead!

aluta sweery

I can't believe this thread is still active.

aManfromMars..seriously??


hmmmn. I saw a guy at the hospital today. He cries out and says he sees his dead grandpa.

Basically, he has run mad. He has been taking drugs like codeine, cannabis, etc. Too sad he is a teenager. His parents and relative are in so much confusion. They cried most of the time that I was there.

Taking any form of drug/engaging in addictive behaviour should never be encouraged. I wish this thread would be closed down.

A word is enough ooo.

Miner13: you are very far from been cool-headed.

I remember you calling me *the village bush boy* in one of my thread and was the 1st time meeting you.

Just go and re-train your character

I am the coolest. Your opinion does not count.

What I told you basically, was to speak to me with RESPECT and I remember you apologised for your bushy behaviour.

Sissie: 1. Kano state governor is one of the most performing governors, who's looking at the problem of kano as a whole, and this includes economic, social and political problems.

2. One of the reasons why theirs a high rate of almajiri (potential boko Haram) is the fact that these women who rely fully on their husbands become widows, divorcees, and can't take care of the kids pushing them to become almajiris, and some of the women becom beggars themselves.

3. The government decided to solve an economical and social problem, this women acquire skills, are given money to start up a business, education is free in kano state for the girl child and their has been a significant increase in the girl child education.

4. The men also acquire skills, the government acts as a matchmaker and matchmakes the people who want to get married (these are mostly divorces, widows who will find it hard to remarry). The government foots the wedding bill, and also give them some basic foodstuffs needed.

So tell me how is this wrong again? If the government only matchmakes them, without doing the basics the state needs I.e infrastructure and amenities then we all can agree he has a misplaced priority. But state government is doing all that.
To tackle a social problem/menace it starts from tackling family problems.
So if done well this should reduce the rate of almajiri in kano state, and reduce the no of children that are potential boko Haram members. This has been done in other countries to help the citizens.

His job as governor includes social responsibility. I see nothing wrong in this

hahhahahah

Who are these people

kulyie: yes o i will specifically wish you bet for now ile has not yet ya.xmas is still on going,when its ileya,i will bring your own obuko that i will take do asun and a bottle of baylis with ice cubes :*

meanwhile smile jesus loves you,why the frowning face 8-)

I was talking to teHN..definitely not you o jare. Of course you would wish me. How's you doing with the season and preparation? have a good time

1. deols


Everyone is entitled to their rating afteral

Sissie: At times you say your mind and the person still doesn't stop, sometimes instead of arguing or saying something out of anger it's best to keep silent and ignore the person for sometime, when you get back together, you can talk it out without saying the hurtful words, and the message of how hurt or disappointed you felt is passed.

I understand this. But I see it as different from the silent treatment. Silent treatment is meant to make the other person feel hurt/to pass a message of, 'We are still fighting'.

Taking a moment to let go of anger can not be seen as that.

Sissie: Have you read the thread on family section tbaba was talking about, I do agree it's dangerous but for a man like that if he feels the hurt he probably will stop.

In other situations I probably won't suggest the solution, but for that particular man that's what I think would work.

They are married already.

No. I did not see the thread.

God help people and their marriages.

Wizeboy: First of all, in such a situation, the woman should always avoid argument with the husband so that they can always live peacefully since her husband is not tolerance enough. What i see in this case is that, may be the wife might be the one who always want her own opinion to override that of her husband. Some man might tolerate this type of thing while most men will always feel frustrated by this type of attitude; as everybody believe (especially African culture) that a man should be the head of the house and will always want his opinion to be the final.

The woman should just stop arguing, even if she cant obey any issue they are been arguing about, she should just pretend as if the husband opinion is alright with her while she will now try to gently explain her own point of view to the husband may be in the middle of the night when such husband head might have been settle or when she notice that the husband is in happy mood.

I have always said it (even though I am still single) marriage can always work on a strong pillar of TOLERANCE and COMPROMISE. No matter how compatible husband and wife might be, they can NEVER always have the same ideology, they should just always find a middle point to operate in order to live happier for long. Yoruba always said it that "Ti oko ba je ewure ki iyawo je agutan" (meaning, if husband is goat, the wife should try to be sheep or vice versa). We all know that a goat will never dispute sheep while sheep too will never dispute goat.

Nothing in the story says that the woman argues a lot. I dont understand why you are making it seem like the wife is guilty.


We don't know if she is guilty or not. But whatever the case maybe, is it Ok for a man to not talk with his wife for a week??


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would it be ok if the wife decides to give him d same treatment anytime heboffends her?

Sissie: According to the story, the husband is the one that gives her the silent treatment and she's talked to him, and always apologize to him, but he gives her the treatment for more than a week atimes. So it's what she is doing in reaction to his own.

It's not about understanding why he does that, that's is own behavior that's how he reacts when angry, we react differently.

This is dangerous. It can become a competition of who can hurt pass. Not good at all.


A sulking man should not be married. There was a thread about immaturr things that men do in marriage and sulking was one of them.

I don't sulk. I say my mind and that's it.

If anyone I care not about sulks, i may not even notice.

But if I do care,like if the person is my relative or friend, I'll talk to them about it.

A girl I live with once did that, I told her 'You can't do that with me'. She has learnt other ways of getting her message across. We seem to in fact understand each other much more than many people. It is much easier to say your mind and get it done with.

and that's exactlybwhat we do.

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In marriage, I'll never see a reason for a couple to sulk. I find it very childish.

They should talk about their problems. A sulking partner is trying to control the relationship. deciding when they talk and when they don't. It is not ideal at all and should not be allowed to go far.

toba..lati jo yi. o ga o.

barka jimo

I knew Lindaikeji blog through nairaland. Nairaland must have helped her drive traffic in no small measure.

That is amazing..

tbaba1234: It is NOT about you. The ayat was clear.. Why must it be about you?

Goodness!! i addressed a very real problem in the muslim world because it came up. They is no better time to talk about. If I am replying to a post, I will quote you or call your name.

Inter tribal marriages and tribalism is very relevant to this thread.

Like I always say, please read the message instead of feeling victimised. Calm down.

I didn't even allude to your posts. My thinking was about parents rejecting on basis on tribe and I quoted a hadith.

Salam

It is even more ridiculous that you are trying to claim that this is not about what was being discussed. Maybe you should start posting on topic.

Not posting on topic is called trolling, which is against NL rules.

How do you post and not expect people to relate it with what is being discussed?..Your thought process is starting to irritate me.

It is very unmanly of you to want to dismiss the issue on the premise of me feeling victimised. You have been repeating that unnecessarily too. Maybe wizeboy was also being victimised when he wrote a very good summary of what the whole matter and my position on it is.

Maybe read backwards and stop nagging on 'my defensive and later on feeling- victimised state.

Maybe give what I am driving at a thought. I have raised other issues that you fail to address.Is deciding to marry from your tribe same as tribalism?
How does anyone wake up and say, I want to marry from another tribe. Something wrong with my tribe??

my advice repeated-
It will do us all a lot of good if you can open new threads for the posts that should not be seen as responses to what is being discussed. Posts that you think of out of the blue moon that should not be seen in line with personal experiences that people share can be posted elsewhere..or you can say from the start that this is not in response to what we are talking about but just a general reminder to other things that people do. This should remove all ambiguities..and you may stop feeling like you are in a position to victimise anybody.


Here is my last post on this.

onegig: Joke? yes.

But why hmmmm?

Me- ni oluwa wi na.

I just dey start.

What can I say but hmmmmmn.


It is yout choice jare..

I saw a recently married somebody continuously posting hadiths on polygyny on facebook..I started to pity the wife ke. still, not my problem hmmmn?

tbaba1234: Deols,

Can you please point out where I made anyone out to be a sinner or less of a muslim??

Whenever a topic reminds me of an ayah, I present the ayah. That is what I have always done. I do not victimise people for their views, I am far from perfect.

I have explained patiently but you are repeating the same things.

And I did present an islamic position. Let us examine what I said

I. Tribalism is haram- There are many hadiths to buttress that fact. I gave the scenario of a father who refused to give his daughter to a man on the basis of tribe and I lamented the state of the muslims fragmented by tribalism.

If your preferences are not motivated by tribalism then I do not see why you are upset. I stated clearly that it is the attitude behind the preferences not the preferences themselves.
Actions are by intentions?

Ii. Our preferences should be prioritised, this is an advice given by the messenger himself.

Please I do not go out to hurt feelings or make anyone to be a bad person. If I feel like i made a mistake, I have always apologised.

My post is as general as they come.

I understand some people are more sensitive than others but I have no intention to hurt anyone.

Assalamu aleikum

wa alaykum salam.

I did not want to talk about this anymore. But I realise that you don't get the point.


1. Tribalism is a sin. I agree. But why did you bring tribalism into a talk that is not about tribalism.

If I had said something tribal or said something derogatory or discriminatory about a tribe, it would have been ok for you to bring hadiths about how tribalism is haram.

Since the matter is not about tribalism, It seems like you were bent on proving the other person wrong and had to bring unrelated hadith anyway. This is not the first time you have done this. I remember we argued on end on that as well.


Who did not know that tribalism is haram? What suggests that the preference for a particular tribe is tribalism based?


you can always open a new thread and not expect people to think that you are only talking generally about something related but not exactly directed at the topic being discussed.

onegig: Salam.... bro you wan tell me say upon all the girls for that camp you no fit clinch one?

ok o....me too go soon put up my advert.

Looking for No. 2.

It is a joke hmmmn?

DMainMan: I meet all your criteria o. Y is it now that I already have an Hajia dat I now saw dis thread.

When u posted dis thread, I didnt av then.

Tell dat lucky man to take care of u or else I will just ...........

salam to your hajia

Op, y u remove picshure now??! e neva reach 24hrs!!

I dislike being the one missing in d fun