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Properties / Re: Kindly Assist With Method Of Chasing A Stubborn Tenant by DESAN(f): 8:37pm On Jan 31
tommy589:


Plan with environmental officials in LG to seal the property due to environmental infraction
. Thanks
Properties / Kindly Assist With Method Of Chasing A Stubborn Tenant by DESAN(f): 10:26pm On Jan 30
A friend brought a property in November and she doesn't know how to chase the tenant who occupies the building although the tenant rent expires in October. The tenant was given opportunity to buy the property as well but she couldn't meet it because of cash. Kindly advise
Travel / Re: Where Can I Get A Direct Bus Going To Jos From Lagos? by DESAN(f): 4:27am On Jan 13
Ijora 7up is the best no try oyinbo at all. Even at Ijora u need to be careful. Just go to UBA at Ijora and take jos bus
Phones / Re: Why Your Family Should Know The Password To Your Phone -nigerian Woman Tells Men by DESAN(f): 12:41pm On Oct 16, 2023
Chispa:
if I wan die make I die. I'll never let my wife know my pass. If she mistakenly see my Whatsapp chats, something terrible must happen.


and besides the matter of infidelity, some ladies /women /wives will kill you (poison or assassinate)
when they have access to your life savings /properties. From experience.
you can have a different password for ur whatsapp
Family / Re: OPEN MARKETPLACE... Get Good Products At Unbeatable Rates Here. by DESAN(f): 10:36am On May 31, 2023
40k location is Surulere Lagos.
For BMW lovers

Family / Re: OPEN MARKETPLACE... Get Good Products At Unbeatable Rates Here. by DESAN(f): 10:35am On May 31, 2023
40k location is Surulere Lagos.
For BMW lovers
Religion / Re: Are You Raising Children Alone? by DESAN(f): 9:53am On Mar 19, 2023
Being a single parent is not easy talking from experience

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Investment / Re: What Business Can I Invest 10million And Get Good Profit After The Election. by DESAN(f): 3:03pm On Mar 13, 2023
danwa25:
there is a stone called lithium used in the production of solar and battery car. You come to where it is mined and take it to Lagos where use sell it to the Chinese guys ready buy it.
Right now, a ton of it is sold for 170,000 at the place it is mine and it is sold in Lagos for 350,000.
tell me more about this
Family / Re: How Can I Access This Funds? by DESAN(f): 9:59pm On Feb 28, 2023
You will need a letter of administration from the probate office at high Court, death certificate, obituary. E. T. C. Or just go to the bank and ask the documents you but note letter of administration takes a year or more to process

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Education / Re: .... by DESAN(f): 10:25pm On Feb 19, 2023
Food stuff for my kids and i
Family / Re: I Beat Up My Wife. She Cheated On Me. by DESAN(f): 6:16pm On Jan 06, 2023
superCleanworks:


yes this is the time you should show her more love than you have done before. forgive her and cry in front of her so she can see how much you love her.
as for the children, please do not doubt if they are your children.
as for the cheating, it is your fault. you better go back home kneel down and beg her.
you also need to call the guy and apologize then send more money to him every month.

what kind of advice is this haba do u know what the op is going through at all.

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Travel / Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by DESAN(f): 7:54pm On Dec 30, 2022
Loneliness

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Family / Re: What Are You Grateful For In The Year 2022? by DESAN(f): 5:30pm On Dec 30, 2022
Ibechris2:
I thank God for my life.

Since last year sept till this day I have visited hospital countless times just for HBP. And i thank God it has finally normalised and even better.

In the midst of my crisis,I made some cool cash close to 26million naira this year alone.

I just can't believe it but 2022 is my greatest year ever.

Thank God for your life but I need u to teach me to make money like u biko.
Thanks
Family / Re: What Do You Want For Christmas? by DESAN(f): 9:45pm On Dec 26, 2022
A mattress
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by DESAN(f): 1:03am On Dec 24, 2022
mrsage:
Clearance sales. Year end


Brand new mattress for sale

4.5×6 by 6 ft size.

Orthopaedic standard. About 5 pieces available

N35,000 ( non negotiable) This is a giveaway
price. Is this still available?

Location: Kosofe, Lagos

WhatsApp: 09131586136

Autos / Re: Honda Civic 05 Black For Sale #650K Sangotedo Ajah (PICTURES( by DESAN(f): 7:52pm On Dec 13, 2022
Interested

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Romance / Re: My Husband Just Got Promoted To MD by DESAN(f): 5:00pm On Dec 09, 2022
Casalindal:
I’m so excited today, as my husband just got promoted to the position of a managing director. This a huge one for us. We have waited for this for a very long time and it finally came through for us. Guys I can’t express exactly how I am feeling right now. God bless my husband I love you so so much Bambi.
it's been a whole year u came online hope you are fine
Autos / Re: Toyota RAV4 100% FirstBody (toks Standard) by DESAN(f): 10:46am On Dec 09, 2022
Where in Lagos
Business / Re: Partners Needed To Finance Vehicle Purchase To Aid Logistics For A Bakery by DESAN(f): 6:48pm On Dec 03, 2022
Where is ur bakery located
Autos / Re: Sold!!! Super Clean 2009 Skoda Octavia Going For N1m by DESAN(f): 12:27pm On Dec 02, 2022
Bishopsgate:
More pics of this beautiful 2009 Skoda Octavia

Call Bishop ohhh ...08025660900 or 08086223698
Can this car be used for uber?
Autos / Re: How To Start A Profitable Car Tracker Installation Business by DESAN(f): 4:07pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interested
Travel / Re: How To Get Settled In Abidjan by DESAN(f): 9:18pm On Oct 18, 2022
Donfanuchi1:

Cooking, hairdressing, teaching, trading, babysitting and the go go business. Please do not ask me to explain go go business. Shalom!
Ha you should know that I must ask u the meaning of go go business. Please be the nice guy that you hmmm tell the meaning biko. Thanks

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Travel / Re: How To Get Settled In Abidjan by DESAN(f): 9:10pm On Oct 18, 2022
What skills does a woman require to live in Abidjan? Thanks
Properties / Re: Distress Sale. Four Units Of Flats With C Of O At Lambe Area(near Ojodu).now 18m by DESAN(f): 6:44pm On Sep 22, 2022
For real?
Family / Re: Case closed by DESAN(f): 5:05pm On Sep 08, 2022
My dear u can't have it all in life no this and have peace also no one or marriage is perfect
Graduate2015:

Sorry this is going to be lengthy. I dont know how to shorten this.
I'm married for 16yrs but I cannot say that I have enjoyed my marriage. My husband is lovely when in a good mood but worst during his bad mood. His mood goes up and down but he thinks he doesn't have a problem. I think he has a bipolar and I've always mentioned to him that his behaviour seems like that but he never acknowledges it. Two yrs ago it got worse and we ended in couples therapy. During this period he revealed to me that while in the uni that he goes through period of sadness and the thing affected his grades anytime he experiences that mood during exam. I encouraged him to see a doctor and the doctor gave him antidepressant but he only used it for two weeks and stopped, saying he doesnt need that. But what he doesnt realise is that his period of sadness did not only happen in uni but its currently happening in his marriage. Our marriage is Iike a roller coaster. He finds problem but never suggests or initiate or even action solutions when suggested. He believes that every problem we have in our marriage is my fault ..
During his sad moments he eats unhealthy food, orders food everyday and says i make him sad and that i have caused him to gain weight. He suffers from diabetes and hypertension but he orders ice cream, chocolate smoothies during our silent period time. I've asked him for a separation but he refused. He calls me a wicked woman, that I make his life hell, that he will kill me one day. All this outburst just because u said something like can u clean up that plate u left in the sitting room(even though there was never a problem just before u ask). He uses visitors toilet but has never cleaned it. I have asked him several times not to use it. No other person at home uses it. Every morning I check and clean the toilet because he always leaves it unflushed.
He works almost everyday and provides for the family. I also work but since having our last child I only work on his day off which is once a week or twice because my son cannot stay in daycare due to his disability. He only goes to work, comes back, eat and watches tv. He detaches himself in family involvement while i run around with our children. He basically provides everything at home but he asks for my support when the need arises such as investments, I bring money for house or land deposits to support him or school fees. We have many houses. Our last duplex in Nigeria. He did foundation and stopped because he was building a house here. So I took over the building and finished he only continued from interior deco.
He doesn't help around the house, in short he messes it up and when I ask for it to be cleaned he gets really angry and can call me names. Because of my son's disability therapists comes to our house every day but he doesn't care if they meet his socks, belts and used plates in the sitting room because he leaves them there and rushes to work next day. He also doesn't delegate or ask our older kids to do any chores. He also doesn't involve in training them or in homework. He is a chronic porn addict and for the past few months he has stopped having sex with me. The last two we had in April I initiated it so I don't initiate anymore. He said anytime he ask for sex I always turn him down. But the fact is that he works everyday, sometimes nights. We.dont sleep in the same room because he snores and have sleep apnoe yet he is still not seeking any medical help. I end up staying awake the whole night if we sleep together not only does his snoring disturbs me but he also goes secs without breathing which scares me. He stays in the sitting room watching TV and comes to my room to demand sex around 4/5am which I can't do at that time. I suggested we watch TV in my room at night and have sex before sleep but he won't do it.
He also doesn't communicate his mind but end up using passive aggression to communicate. He gives silent treatment and I used to ask what was the problem as I sometimes don't even know what the problem was. Sometimes it's something I said which he could have told me off immediately. I dont ask what the problem is anymore because ive asked him to always communicate but still the same silent treatment. He can just burst into anger even with little issue. Right now I know he has some resentment and animosity towards me because of not being able to express his feelings. I buy everything in our house because he doesn't take charge or in control and always likes to be led. I think after all this yrs he is now feeling like he has lost control and i sense low self esteem even though his career is in the top highest paid job in the world. Our marriage has been like two weeks of good mood, then two weeks of silent treatment. He avoids discussing any problem and keep saying that there is no point discussing it because it will not bear any fruit that I will not change. Anything I dont do doesn't happen in our marriage. He takes responsibility of our car insurance but its not until I got into accident that I found out he hasn't paid our car insurance for a yr or two. Even our house didn't have house insurance since 2020 until i found out in April this year and immediately paid for it. He basically takes no responsibility for anything and its getting worse. It's like having a child but then u cant correct them because they can beat u up. I have a friend that her husband works all the time too but cleans their home on his day off. He also buys gadget like robotic cleaner to ease her suffering. I basically buy everything in my house. He doesn't have initiative except when investing in property, that's only place he takes leads, oh we should buy a house or land but this happens once a yr or more. It's not something you do everytime. He doesn't even know how to use a washing machine. I had to teach him when I was going away and this man damaged all his white designer clothes because he washed different colours together and also used cleaning bleach to wash clothes and my children kept saying how could he not know because they can use the machine.. I also pay for his clothes to be ironed. I don't know how he sees me as an evil person because he calls me that during quarrell.
His behaviour makes me so sad because we live overseas where is no help or family support. I'm always tired and he doesn't care. I stay awake at night with our son and he doesn't come out to help even with his cries he sleeps through it all. I don't think I can continue like this because he doesn't realise the problem. He thinks he helps around but I'm being ungrateful. I don't mind if he can own up and confess that he wants to be a traditional man but he will never confess but his actions tells me otherwise. His good part is that he gives me access to his money may be that's because I can use it to be running the house and remove that responsibility from him. He also buys me expensive things like range rover, gucci but my love language is not material stuff but hands on man because I believe I can afford that myself.
Autos / Re: Dispatch Bike For Sale by DESAN(f): 10:04pm On Jul 28, 2022
Location
Family / Re: MARKETPLACE FOR GOOD DEALS & USED ITEMS by DESAN(f): 10:45pm On Jul 17, 2022
Indoor bar 250k locations is agungi road lekki

Car Talk / Truck Tricycle by DESAN(f): 5:15am On May 20, 2022
Please I need help on where to buy a Nigerian used truck tricycle like this. Thanks

Business / Re: How To Become A Coca Cola Or Other Soft Drinks Retailer/dealer by DESAN(f): 8:59am On May 07, 2022
ABOKI9ja:
Thank you and I appreciate your response. May God bless our struggles
Amen and thanks
Business / Re: How To Become A Coca Cola Or Other Soft Drinks Retailer/dealer by DESAN(f): 8:17pm On May 06, 2022
ABOKI9ja:
Good day everyone. I would really appreciate if Nairalanders can help me with any informative input in becoming a coca cola or other soft drinks dealership. Thank you and may all our struggles never go in vain
Go to any of their offices close to you to make enquiry for Lagos, you can go to the coca cola office at agege motor road cappa busstop and for 7up product go to their office at ijora 7up there you will be given numbers of the managers assigned to your location.
NYSC / Re: NYSC. Posted To Niger State by DESAN(f): 10:13pm On Mar 18, 2022
At oyinbo just by Otto busstop by Guo transportation coy you will get sienna going directly to Niger state Nysc camp at 8500 or to Minna at 7500. My daughter just left this evening as am typing from the park.

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