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highchief1:
yho.thats why u guys open ur mouth and talk to someone the way u like believing everyone on nairaland is a student.You don’t know billionaires are on this forum.What is a lie there,having a house abroad or having businesses in Nigeria.which one of them looks un achievable to u sir.how old do u think some of us are.

Billionnaire, go and get busy then.
Bye.

fatima04:
In addition to all the NHS discuss, they need to focus the energy used for Brexit to develop a system that works. I have heard Sajid taunt the Australia hybrid system which looks to be working for now, so everyone can access at least a level of care.

The current system is not sustainable and needs to be overhauled now rather than later.
In addition, an area the government need to work on is regulating the food sector because of obesity and increased cancer diagnosis in recent years which in turn increases the demand for sophisticated medicine and intervention.

In the 1970s, 1 in 25 people will have breast cancer in the UK and the most recent figure is 1 in 7 people. In Japan the figure, is 1 in 35 or thereabout, the things they are doing different is cutting processed foods, kids working to school with an employed chaperone from 5yrs.

I read some employers even go as far as scanning your body once you tap in, and the system will let you know the amount of fat and muscle mass you have. Also make it your KPI for the year if you need to loose weight (its radical but maybe thats what we need )


We simply cannot continue to live like this and then the yeye capitalist system will create expensive drugs like ozempic, wegovy etc that is essentially a temporary solution (with serious side effects ) to the problem of obesity created.

Sadly, I don't see Keir or Labour being the messiah to do that. He isn't that strong willed.

In as much as I don't like Rishi, I still like a lot of his hard stance in the Education sector and all. He just needs to level down and relate better with people

I agree with overhauling the food system. It is getting out of hand.

Just stop and take a look for 5 minutes around you on a busy street, the number of sagging abdomen is astronomical. Even teens!
Govt is actually trying here, like 3 yrs ago, I was sent an email that one of my kids was fat and going towards being obese. That was shocking to me as I thought the kid was okay and at the same time a wake up call. School invited me several times for programmes on how to eat healthy, exercises, what have you etc and how we can sustain it. School do that every year for school children, as an adult, your Dr will only advice and show you what may happen if....... but then again, its your choice.

In uk, they don't cook anymore, so what do you expect. Fast food selling like pure water in Nigeria.

Sweet drinks like cola is extremely cheap, some use them as water.




They should

highchief1:
lol bad guy.normally I no get business with naira.i Dey collect rent for abroad.person be don try

Stop lying.
Gosh. You guys are disgusting.

Okoroawusa:
You have constant light and you pay less than $300 for it in a month? You want government to subside electricity for you a rich man? Go and live in the UK let the British government subsidize electricity for you.

British govt actually subsidised electricity and have energy grant for her people.
Nobody pays 300 dollars per month for 24 hours electricity in 3 bedroom. Nobody. A 4 bed will cost you between 900 to 1,300 annually. Do the math.
You guys are always quick to compare with the West when you are 100yrs behind in developmental and economic indices. The only thing you do better than them is looting. No country supercedes you.

cococandy:
Yes. And that’s exactly the problem.

They make themselves out to be these unfeeling species and they wonder why their kids don’t feel close to or loved by them. ( or Some of them I should say).

The ones that behave the opposite of what toxic males tell them is appropriate masculine behavior are called simps. Meanwhile all they are doing is cultivating a loving close knit relationship with their wives and kids which benefits them in the long run.

Then these dude bros turn around and blame women for their kids not being particularly affectionate to them in old age.

As the popular saying goes “You don’t learn to use your left hand in your old age”!

And benefits the society in the end.


See where our so called alpha men has landed us.
People wey get strength to intimidate and bully their women in this age.

cococandy:
We have an oncology saying that as soon as the wife gets cancer, the husband does a bouncer.

It’s backed by credible studies. Men leave their sick wives more than women leave sick husbands.

It's on record everywhere in the world. When their parents are sick, na you but when yours are sick,the one who try go bring money. The nuturing no concern them.

This place is filled with frustrated hungry chaps.

Olumighty123:
Why not hit the gym instead of you generalizing 🤷‍♀️ Not everyone grow old to be obesed as you claim my broda 😎

Ehen you eat right, you do not need the gym.
Some sick people don't hit the gym, some elders don't hit the gym. Good heath and body is 70 healthy food which unfortunately we are at the bottom of the ladder( ask UN) and the reason a average Nigerian man has lifespan of less than 60yrs. Very poor.
We never see eating healthy as a national problem because we will defend anything we do.
In usa, the same fate awaits black American. The most unhealthy among the bunch.
Either we accept it or continue in denial. Our choice or rather, your choice

Difrent:
Them dey call animals with horn, snail sef dey show face
Which rivers ?
You have some of the most foolish governors ever..... All in their bid to become president have not only been fiddle diddle to especially northerners but have foolishly expended rivers money to make others president.

Odilli gave Obj whatever he wanted only for Obj to show him his book of corruption at midnight on the day of convention.....he has no choice than to step down for Umaru.
Then Amaechi opened the state treasury to APC , hoping to succeed Buhari but he was up against PBAT , The rest is history
Wike is towing the same path and will likely end up the same way..... disappointed

They have refused to learn from history. Biggest mistake they always make is making them assume igbo is their mortal enemies. Then give them fake hope and promise while milking their treasury, to be discarded like a used pad.

What a country

If you believe they are here on a humanitarian visit, then you don't know anything about international politics.
And if you also believe they are cut off from the royal family and thus does not represent the king of England, again you don't know anything about international politics.

UjuJoan2:
Impregnating someone doesn’t make you a father, else all sperm donors can lay claims to their offspring’s.

The culture was set up to protect women from being abandoned in pregnancy and it has worked for them. You have no right to judge people and their beliefs and culture!

Thank you uju.
Uou see, people from some other tribes especially yoruba people think you can just come and whisk a child away because you donated sperm.
Even if you give belle to a married woman while your wife is struggling to have a child, you will never smell that child. That is igbo culture.
You give birth to children, train them without paying pride price, even if it is 10naira, those children belong to the father of that woman.
They should deal with it.
So hard to swallow but we value our girls a lot to allow anybody who give them belle, abandon and shame them to turn around to come claim the child. He is simply a sperm donor. Full stop.

Sharpsharp00123:
oga it’s a big lie

A judge in ondo state declared that culture as barbaric n gave the child to the father

Let me find d news for u

https://www.nairaland.com/7968127/akure-magistrate-judge-condemns-igbo#127908859

Yet the same judge want him to answer the father's surname which is equally a cultural thing?
Or, did the Nigerian constitution tell you a child must answer his father's name?
The mum is what?
An incubator?
Instead of asking for joint custody, you are here yapping nonsense.


I remember davido and chioma very well.
Davido did introduction and disappeared thinking its just like his culture. Go and pay pride price, no way. Pikin was born, davido just dey dull until piking die.
Chioma people said pikin belong to them 100% and must be buried at chioma father's compound.
A slap to davido and family face. Case was about to go public until elders waded in and it was agreed davido will do the necessary before he will be allowed to bury the corpse as the father of the child. Yes, governors were involved. That is how deep culture is. Respect people's culture.
Davido did overnight court marriage and paid bride price. The shame would have been too much for his family.
The elders know what culture means.


This is exactly what is going on with ffk. When those kids grow, they will automatically go to the mum. Nobody will even tell them they don't belong to ffk as long as he did not marry their mum. It is a must. Go to igboland and see so many that returned as adults and were welcomed with open arm.

Igbo culture had been protecting young ladies from the generation of our forefathers and we are not complaining. You want the child, do the needful.

Imagine going to the north to yarn this nonsense, who will listen to the judge.

dominique:
There's alpha male and There's alfa mail. Alpha male are responsible and reliable men with impeccable leadership skills. Then There's the alfa mail's who are nothing but online nuisances.

I get u

Mcslize:
What do you expect? Some of your gender are shameless na. In this sexually decade world where even married women sleep around and defiling their matrimonial beds all in a bid to want to try to be like men, they can sleep with anything as far as they are gaining something from a man.

Was it not here we saw one female gender called BloodyDeo defending a woman who commited adultery? She was like no be only men Sabi cheat o. Can u imagine? I simply told her, Sodom and Gomorrah no do reach like this o.

It's quite a pity that women these days now robbing shoulders with men when it comes to sleeping around. But they forget that men that cheat still end up loving their wives.

But once a woman starts cheating, all her mumu buttons in her Brain will start losing and she will start exhibiting characters towards their husbands at home which will make their husbands to start suspecting them. Reasons why women should desist from trying to be like men, cuz they can never be like men in any way. They should leave cheating for men who want to cheat.




Asha wo. Sodom and Gomorrah women no do reach like this o. They still get shame at that time. But generation of ladies of this generation no longer have shame sleeping around. I repeat Asha wo.

The topic is a man who sexualised his daughter in compromising and suggestive pictures and the authority have arrested him.
We didn't see or hear about the mum in the equation of things here.
So stay on the topic please, will you?
Thank you

VaginaAcademic:
The illiterate thought he was invisible and untouchable the pics of the innocent child makes me feel sick. The child looks like she has ascites as a result of severe alcohol intake which may have damaged her liver.

Thank you.
I once mentioned that that she looks unhealthy and one agbero came for my head.
That tummy. The authorities know what to do. They will take her to a good hospital for a comprehensive medical checks and take whatever action that is needed.

What hurts me most was where he was sectioned in-between 2 guys smoking.
Her health is already compromised by a second hand smoke

etrange:
You may not see it because you aren't the one on the receiving end, and that's okay. The problem only arises when it's presented to you and you still find ways to dismiss them. I'll give you a few and it's going to be one hell of a long list:

- Do you know that ladies don't get late parent's inheritance in many traditional settings?
- Do you know that a man can send his wife parking without a dime in Nigeria regardless of how long they've been together?
- Do you know there's a huge pay gap between men and women at work?
- Do you know that ladies are still forced into marriage today?
- Do you know that many landlords won't rent out thier spaces to single ladies today?
- Do you know child marriage is still a thing today?
- Do you widows are still made to go through spiritual rites to prove they didn't kill her husband?
- Do you know some ladies still get mutilated?
- Do you know fathers beat thier daughters to pup for having a boyfriend?
- Do you know that men are considered first for management positions at work and political positions, and ladies are only considered when their track records are overly obvious? This implies that women need to work twice as hard to be there.
- Do you know that many educated women are doing small businesses today because thier husbands believe "someone has to run the home" or because their spouses are threatened by the the possibility of them becoming career ladies?

The list is endless, yet all these are more or less institutional and they are NOTHING compared to societal perception and gender stereotypes below:

- Do you know that women are judged by what they put on but we all went on a huge protest when SARS started profiling guys based on thier outfit/hairstyle.
- Do younknow that a woman with a cheating husband is expected to fight for her marriage and find a way to regain his interest while a cheating wife should be sent home?
- Do you know that when a lady get raped today, many people still ask "what was she doing at his place? What was she wearing? Why did she accept his money? Etc."
- Do you know that when a man commits a crime, we all come on this app to criticize him, but when it's a lady, everyone starts insulting the gender "fear women", "Nigerian women are useless", "women of now-a-days", etc.
- Do you know that when a corps member sleeps with his students who indicated interest in him and creates a thread about it on here, many people gather to talk about how these girls are spoiled and not about the adult that took advantage of a teenager?
- Do you know that Davido went around sleeping with different women and getting them pregnant and him that slept with multiple people isn't a hoe, but the individuals he slept with are called hoes even though they were exclusive with him when it happened?
- Do you know that most families reduce the potentials of thier girl child by teaching her how to be a good wife and not how to survive on her own? She does the cleaning and cooking, she learns how not to dress, she learns how to speak gently like a lady, etc. while the boys go out there to explore, make mistakes, learn from them and build the confidence required to push through life as an individual.
- Do you know that morality in society is degenerating and people still believe it's because girls of now-a-days are into money or because they sleep around?
- Do you know that a girl that goes into a guy's to indicate interest in him is a hoe but a man that does it is a sharp shooter?
- Do you know that merely being a lady in the entertainment industry gets you labeled as a hoe?
- Do you know that regardless of how successful a single or divorced lady is, people will still focus on the fact that there is no man in her life?
- Do you know about 90% of all the ladies on this platform left between 2014 to 2024 due to the growing sexism on here?
- Do you know that I only stopped typing cause I have things to do and nor because there isn't more to type?
- Do you know that most guy would quickly dismiss all these as 'imagined' or by saying 'oh, we have issues too'?


You see, feminism is about gender equality. Fighting for equality isn't all about changing the written laws, it's also about changing mindset and empowering women. To be a feminist isn't about hating men or not cooking at home. It's about freedom of choice and equal playing ground. It's not against men (except you really believe one gender should be superior to the other). In fact, feminism will help reduce the pressure on men in our society today. When a feminist preaches, they don't target men alone, they also target all those overly dependent women that you all complain about (the urgent 2k and those that bring nothing to the table). Therefore, we should all be feminists.

The OP has a very brilliant younger sister who is discerning enough to recognize these things at her age, but he's here asking for ways to cut her wings and subdue her. Tomorrow, when she goes after men for survival, he will still be the one to come here and cry foul.

You know your society very well.

Sorry to use this word as you are a man and many men are just as good as you but you see the ones crying fowl everytime lacks self confidence.
Self esteem is very low. They get their voice by subduing women.
Unfortunately, they have been the ones piloting the affairs of this nation. See how developed we are that we are chasing away immigrants.
UK was worst than Nigeria.
Women were treated like shit. Married women worst.
Concubines has more value. Lords travel far and wide with trained concubines. Mistresses. Theses mistresses were well read. One of them named Nigeria. And if you revolt, you will be termed a witch, thanks to the "church" and publicly burned.
Because a wife wants more attention from her husband, to be treated as a human not worst than piece of shit for breeding purposes only.
These women continued to protest even though they end up dead, they went on hunger strike, blocked parliament etc and thus that gave birth to the name feminism. Not long ago, male BBC news casters were paid more than women doing exactly the same job. Democracy started in uk 1832 but women voted for the first time 1918( for some women, very few privileged ones) and 1928 for all women.
The lady that championed this died before casting her first vote.


When we in Nigeria start shouting men in uk are emasculated, I usually laugh because their men have not seen up to 1 over 100 of what their grand mothers and great grand mothers passed through.

Nigeria treated women better in the olden days but religion has produced toxic men instead of progressive men with their surrender and submit to your man mantra. Our men carried it on their head and even if he don't go to church, he will always know that qoute. Thanks to oyedepo adenoye and Co that reduced their wives to nothing except mummy GO.

I actually have a lot to write about this topic cos Nigeria will never be good until they get it right.
U treat your woman like trash, your country burns.

dominique:
Oga go and dit down. Has feminism destroyed Chimamanda Adichie and other self acclaimed feminists? Was it Feminism that killed that famous red piller that died like a dog on top of a prostitute after all his hypocritical red pill teachings? Worry more about how your bitter red pill is turning more and more men into toxic lunatics. At least the feminists are not running around the Internet like mad dogs rummaging for stories (whether real or fake) to bring men down. Are the feminists digging out old stories to run men down? The most bitter Feminist is better than the "sweetest" alfa male.

Point of correction like I had always said in this forum, alpha male are the sweetest kind of man any woman will hope for.
The truth is that non of these people and their mentors know the meaning of alpha male.
A lion King is an alpha male.
It was coined by female romance writers as the man of every woman's dream through shifters fantasy stories, then spiral human male.
Do they read?
Nope.
So, how will they know the meaning of what they are claiming to be when it's actually what all women want?
Silly folks.
The reason I never care to check out that their useless thread.

theredaddy:
they don't have my contact, but there lifestyle is enough testament
what other reason will make men avoid these women like plague
For a Nigeria standard of feminist, toke, linda, tonto are feminist ... we've seen toke and tonto cry on social media tired of loneliness, how does it depict "Happy"

Who told you men are avoiding them?
Seriously

So being a feminist is being man hater?
Boy, go and sit down, you know nothing about feminism.
It was actually men feminists that pushed for equal opportunities for women in the West.
Yes, men.

SmartyPants:
- Do you know that ladies don't get late parent's inheritance in many traditional settings?

Nigerian law has taken care of this. When deprived, go to Court.

- Do you know that a man can send his wife parking without a dime in Nigeria regardless of how long they've been together?

That's a lie. Nigerian law clearly provides for asset sharing.

- Do you know there's a huge pay gap between men and women at work?

This has been disproved globally. Men simply work more than women.

- Do you know that ladies are still forced into marriage today?

This is against Nigerian law.

- Do you know that many landlords won't rent out thier spaces to single ladies today?

Many landlords also don't rent homes to single men. I'm one and had to face the stigma of potentially being a yahoo boy.

- Do you know child marriage is still a thing today?

This is generally against Nigerian law but yes it is a problem in certain parts, and probably the only valid point you've made here.

- Do you widows are still made to go through spiritual rites to prove they didn't kill her husband?

This is against Nigerian law.

- Do you know some ladies still get mutilated?

This is against Nigerian law.

- Do you know fathers beat thier daughters to pup for having a boyfriend?

Okay, fathers (and mothers) beat their children for all sorts of things. How is this a feminist issue?

Secondly, do you think teenage pregnancies have a disproportionately adverse effect on girls than on guys? If yes, would increased protection by way of discipline be good or bad? Btw, focusing on fathers here when both parents are just as likely to beat their daughters for sexual misdemeanours is sexism from you.

- Do you know that men are considered first for management positions at work and political positions, and ladies are only considered when their track records are overly obvious? This implies that women need to work twice as hard to be there.

No I don't know that. I'd be interested in seeing your source/evidence.

- Do you know that many educated women are doing small businesses today because thier husbands believe "someone has to run the home" or because their spouses are threatened by the the possibility of them becoming career ladies?

If a couple agree on how to run their home, I don't see how that is an issue for the rest of us.

The list is endless, yet all these are more or less institutional and they are NOTHING compared to societal perception and gender stereotypes below:

- Do you know that women are judged by what they put on but we all went on a huge protest when SARS started profiling guys based on thier outfit/hairstyle.

This is a genuinely absurd thing to say. Young men are still judged by their appearance. Dreadlocks, tattoos, etc are frowned at for men. We protested against SARS because they were being killed for it! Have a word with yourself.

- Do you know that a woman with a cheating husband is expected to fight for her marriage and find a way to regain his interest while a cheating wife should be sent home?

That's only because these women are overly dependent on their husbands. Nowadays empowered Nigerian women are getting divorced every day - go to Court and see.

- Do you know that when a lady get raped today, many people still ask "what was she doing at his place? What was she wearing? Why did she accept his money? Etc."

Nigerian law forbids rape. People will always ask stupid questions, this is not a feminist issue.

- Do you know that when a man commits a crime, we all come on this app to criticize him, but when it's a lady, everyone starts insulting the gender "fear women", "Nigerian women are useless", "women of now-a-days", etc.

No. Can I see evidence?

- Do you know that when a corps member sleeps with his students who indicated interest in him and creates a thread about it on here, many people gather to talk about how these girls are spoiled and not about the adult that took advantage of a teenager?

No, I have seen such persons get bashed roundly.

- Do you know that Davido went around sleeping with different women and getting them pregnant and him that slept with multiple people isn't a hoe, but the individuals he slept with are called hoes even though they were exclusive with him when it happened?

No I don't. Maybe share some sources showing that the individuals are called hoes while he hasn't ever been called that, and that they were in exclusive relationships at the time - though I don't know why we're discussing Davido.

- Do you know that most families reduce the potentials of thier girl child by teaching her how to be a good wife and not how to survive on her own? She does the cleaning and cooking, she learns how not to dress, she learns how to speak gently like a lady, etc. while the boys go out there to explore, make mistakes, learn from them and build the confidence required to push through life as an individual.

Nigerian law provides for equal access to education so girls certainly are out there - wherever out there is. If anything it sounds like the girls are getting preferential treatment here.

- Do you know that morality in society is degenerating and people still believe it's because girls of now-a-days are into money or because they sleep around?

No. Would like to see your source.

- Do you know that a girl that goes into a guy's to indicate interest in him is a hoe but a man that does it is a sharp shooter?

No.

- Do you know that merely being a lady in the entertainment industry gets you labeled as a hoe?

No. Can't remember anyone ever calling Patience Ozokwor a hoe for example.

- Do you know that regardless of how successful a single or divorced lady is, people will still focus on the fact that there is no man in her life?

Some people will always think a certain way. This is not a feminist issue.

- Do you know about 90% of all the ladies on this platform left between 2014 to 2024 due to the growing sexism on here?

Interesting. Share your source.

- Do you know that I only stopped typing cause I have things to do and nor because there isn't more to type?

No, but I'm glad you stopped.

- Do you know that most guy would quickly dismiss all these as 'imagined' or by saying 'oh, we have issues too'?

Interesting. So you want to use this point to emotionally blackmail guys into agreeing with you?

Stop lying.
The good thing about life is we all have sisters, nieces, aunts, mothers and daughters. It will reach everybody.
Don't advocate cause it is your family member or want to kill somebody on their behalf

tensazangetsu20:
Nigerian food is bae o. You will definitely miss it especially my afáng soup and fufu.

I actually agree with her. One can swallow once in a while but I have completely shifted from Nigerian cuisines. As you age, uou must be fat and obese. Nobody's fault but the low quality food we grow up with.
All the swallow, rice, yam, plantain, potatoes, beans will make you obese and prone to some diseases. A plate of an average Nigerian food is 90% carb. And portion control is thrown outta the window.

Reminds me of that bankwr thatdued with his family. So sad

LilMissFavvy:
Hmm, a family of misfortune and death. The whole situation is very traumatising for the child and your mother. Go and make findings on where your brother is, I believe he's still alive, then take his daughter there to visit him. His daughter can be taken there to visit him 2 times each year, it will save everyone of her tears and the stress she's putting on her grandma. Your family needs serious prayers because I am here wondering who will die next.

It's traumatising for him more.
For his little girl, it's less traumatising if his mother is taking good care of her. Its more on the mum and worst on the guy.

Try and contact belekete family Abuja @ op. They will help you air it or show you the right root and connection.
Goodluck and continue holding it together for your family.
You be good man. You will be favoured immensely cos its not your obligation.

dominique:
She's in fantastic shape for a mum of 6 in her 50s and she wasn't always this fit, she worked hard to stay fit. Worthy of emulation











As long as there was no surgery involved

Spot on

When I saw the headline, I thought it happened in Nigeria. So disappointed

cococandy:
That’s my belief too. I don’t know if you’re familiar with my posts on this forum but I’m a strong advocate for joint ownership.

It’s the way that men have shown they are more than comfortable leaving their women vulnerable to the grifters and outside world that’s hurts my heart.

How can you be comfortable leaving the person you claim to love exposed to hostile circumstances when you can easily do the right thing from the start

Marriage is sweet if you marry the right partner. Very sweet. There will be hurdles, challenges that will taste your commitment to one another( I am not talking about sexual love here at all) but it will bring u both closer and make you stronger.

The bad news about marriage gets more attention , you know.


At topic, we all are given sixth sense. Her sixth sense had already shown her all is not well but she didn't harken to it. She can still make it right.

Whose game is this man playing

Sp this is how benue will be forever