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baby124:
No serious girl or one who is mentally stable will take the crap dished here. Many guys will be disappointed and dumped to a point of no return. As in absolutely no contact

Themhi1:
I did dis to a girl and she blocked me on watsap, despite the fact that we've gone far. she said am full of myself.
any advice Ubunja

baby124:
RoTFLMAO!!! You are looking for experience from someone who has no experience dealing with women? You have lost that woman for good. Move on and learn to use your own head to make judgments instead of relying on copy and paste fairy tales from people who have no experience with women.

Ipodisacriminal:
You will know he loves you when he leaves you any moment


Instead of you to go and work and try to make your life better and be prosperous in life


You are here asking us stupid question


Lazy youth


Have you seen where any of top 3 riches Nigerian's billionaire's daughter or son marries a less priviledge


Go and work hard


If a man works hard and make his money women will be running after him


And if a woman work hard also,men would be running after her as well


So shut up and go help your mama in your village

Nwodosis:
At their age, they ought to have finished rearing kids!

MartinsD12:
Because I speak the truth, what is she doing to improve herself as a human being aspiring to be this man's wife

madridguy:
Relax your mind sister. From your explanation this guy loves you but the way guys shows love is different from you ladies.
Love is like a bird, when you hold too tight, you kill it also when you leave it too much, it fly away.

Moderation is the key.

Newguyhere:
how I wish I had a gf like you
No be all these one's wey dey play hard to get

MartinsD12:
From your write up it shows you are a kid looking for attention, better find something doing at 24 you should be in school studying all these kids running up and down in relationships ended up destroying and confusing themselves do something meaningful and improve your life

nextstep:
Honestly, you can't know.

I do know four things:

1. Actions speak louder than words
2. You can't force anybody to feel anything
3. Feelings can change in a heartbeat
4. Which is why women constantly need assurance.

In summary, love is not something you put in a box, self-assured that it will never change. Best you can do is put your best efforts into the relationship, but be sure he is also putting his best efforts. It's a continuous process, made stronger with ups and downs.

sedutrice:
Ewo... . We didn't understand the first one. Is it this one we will now understand

XklusivGistBlog:
Sis, if he has traveled out of the country, just forget it. I tell you the truth. He can't flaunt you on social media, his next aim is to be come a citizen, and shame on you for quitting your relationship for a guy. He will never value you. You don't know how guys reason o. All the best sha.

Purfee:
Thank you so much.
I'm rounding up my masters program soon.
Plus I have a business I'm running too. Though there are some challenges now.
I hope to get a job to support my business too.
And I used to have lots of male friends that made him insecure then.
But I'm actually not close to most of them again.
Funny enough I'm not the lovey dovey type.
I just happen to love this guy so much.
I think when I love I love fully, that was the case with my ex before things fell apart.

doitforu:
lol it seems you know NL so well, this comment has been removed by butt hurt people on this thread and I’ve been banned for days lol. Now what will I do with my life?

Foundationchamp:
but sometimes, schools take it out on the kids when parents don't attend events.

MrBrownJay1:
It's called LIFE... and anyone expecting NOT to be called for exactly what they are (especially on social media where they are quick to add total strangers) are simply deluded.

As much as many of these people are looking for cheap attention on social media, being told exactly what you are comes with the territory.

As for me, I can never pretend to not see that this person is fat, and would actually advise her to try losing weight for her own health benefit.

But then again, when we walked down the street and see a sexy beautiful babe, you have no problem when we call her exactly that.... or do you expect us to say:" oh what a SMART woman"

MrBrownJay1:
... I see nothing wrong with stating a fact. If this person has a problem with being called fat (which is exactly what she is) then let her do something about that fact.

It's very immature to expect people to call her only for what SHE desires. That woukd be as stoopid as seeing a babe with no teeth and she expecting anyone not mention it while it is staring you right in the face. Come on....

MrBrownJay1:
Sadly, physical features are the 1st thing we see, thus the 1st impression. Low self esteem would have any of these women thinking that being called/viewed for WHAT THEY ARE, is suddenly wrong.

A quick look in the mirror will have her confirm that she is indeed fat.

If you actually believe that we should ONLY say nice things about people, instead of being honest, then I suggest you start living in the real world.

MrBrownJay1:
When we see a skinny woman, we call her exactly that.
When we see a beautiful.or ugly woman, we call her exactly that.
When we see a smart or dumb woman we call her exactly that.

... why should it be any different with fat women?!

baby124:
What he’s teaching them is emotional abuse. Physical abuse to follow shortly. That is where all this rubbish is leading to. Best way to lose life partners, happiness and joy in your life so you can be miserable and writing books on the internet like Ubunja. LMAO!

baby124:
The guy has a terrible hatred for women. Even his profile pic shows a man strangling a woman. All his posts are slowly leading to that sort of violence. He’s still peddling softly until he’s sure that he has secured a solid place in the mind of his dumb followers. It’s really a pity that so called MEN can read all this trash and choose to apply it in their own lives. Lose quality relationships and people because an online loser advices them to. They don’t even know what this character looks like in real life.

A man that spends this much time on the internet and analyzing women does not have the capacity, confidence and money to approach them. Trust me! I can guarantee you that he does not have the looks either!!! He’s just good a manipulating people’s thoughts to follow him into doom. He was probably mistreated or abandoned by a woman. So he wants to make sure that through men who follow him, all women are mistreated.

It’s so sad that MEN who will have families in future actually sit down and listen to these sorts of characters. Not even applying their number 6 to reason this guy critically. I really pity the girls that will marry men who cannot think for themselves. Especially when it comes to relationships! This life, is all about relationships.

Don’t play with a good relationship. Anyone that advices you that has a psychological problem/defect and, probably incapable of love and has never received love in his life! We all need love o! Even Ubunja.

frank417:
You see bro, u are wrong at all levels. All I was trying to say is a sleek nigger with money doesn't need all this bla bla bla dynamislcs shit. Just get money and you will always come out on top with a woman. No dynamics

MrBrownJay1:
There is a big difference between bodyshamIng someone and stating a fact.

baby124:
Very terrible and impractical advise. Imagine advising people not to follow who they love. Instead destroy the love and destroy their future happiness. This guy is completely crazy and I pity those who take him serious.

Bonatheripper:
Toast just one female Nairalander here and make her date u.
Then I'll trust u..
Ubunja didn't say u should wait for women to approach u and like u.... Of course the rule of God even in the animal kingdom is for men to woo women..
Even male animals chase female animals.
He only preaches how not to worship women and be a slave to them, how not to be uncle mumu like you and oblige to all their demands.
How not to be a dundi like you and become uncle Sharwama why another guy is pounding her..
How not to be enternaly tied in the friendzone like you why another guy is at the end zone.
How not to be a do as I say guy but a guy who gives the commands.
U have no argument my guy..
You're just jealous because the only people your own tips can attract are housegirls and villagers

frank417:
Lwkmd

Bro for the fact you stand with this guy to believe you shouldn't be the one to approach a lady you want and desire, u are just another low self esteem weakling.

Come and i will teach you how to toast a girl there and there

100000000% weakling

ubunja:
How To Choose A Girl.
BUILDING ON SAND.
If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.

Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.

That's not how you get and keep a girl.

Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.

BUILDING ON A ROCK.
The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.

That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.

That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.

You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.

POWER DYNAMICS.
For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.

If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.

The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.

HOW GIRLS LOVE.
Guys need to learn to love the way girls love.

When a girl enters into a relationship with you she's happy when you're the one that loves her not the other way around. That way she has more power in the relationship. But if it happens that she's the one that falls harder and deeper for you, she'll do the next best thing to retain some measure of power: she'll HIDE THE INTENSITY of her love for you.

A girl will love you with all her heart and be crazy for you, BUT SHE'LL NEVER SHOW IT. The girl you love never shows you the full height, depth and breadth of her love. She never lets you know the maximum temperature of her passion.

You give her your photo, she goes home and goes crazy OVER THAT PHOTO. She sleeps with it next to her heart, kisses it, even shed tears of love over the image of you. She keeps it safe and spends hours on end just looking at it, lost in adoration.

But when you come in person to see her she puts the photo away and she wears her "game face". The face you see is not going to be the face your photo saw. Gone is the dreamy look of complete total love. Gone are the tears of love. She looks at you like one who never missed you one second. Like you were not even on her mind.

A girl shows you less of the love she has for you as a strategy: TO PROTECT HERSELF. If she was truthful and did show you how deep her love for you is YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE. You'll use it against her. You'll demand crazy things from her. You'll cheat on her. And because her love for you runs deep, she will find it hard to leave and easy to forgive.

baby124:
I just looked at these guys pics and they are men that have obviously had their fair struggle with women. I LMFAO that anyone will actually look up to them.

Darius M has obviously been through a lot of rejection, he doesn’t even look like friend zone material.

Donovan Sharpe was once obese and must have suffered a high level of rejection, his new body is not even attractive and he looks like someone who has been in and out of jail.

Greg Adams looks like the type that can’t get or keep a job.

bdchange:
So what will happen to some of us who don't glorify sex.. Just want to do it gently and peacefully not kill myself on it because I want to give you orgasm.. That means I should select carefully the kind of woman I choose to marry else I am in for a long thing