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Pusyiter:
When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable
Do not use your frustration and heart brokenness to abuse the subject matter.
Marriage is sweet. If na lie ask you mama why she born you?

yemisolar:
This is strictly the opinion of the writer. And, he is entiltled to it. True marriages these days are not what they should be but there are a lot of people having great times in their marriage. Though the bad ones get more publicity than the good ones but there are a good number of good ones out there.

Anyone can get angry at men, society or even religion but for a woman, having a life companion, -someone you can feel completely at home with, free without any inhibitions or shame, having your back at any point in time. Someone you can look up to as a friend, mentor, a good father to your children and even someone to get vent on - is the happiest thing that can happen to one.

The caveat however is making the right choice.

The truth is that women who know how powerful they are know that they are the ones controlling the home. Not the man. The problem most women have is that they think it's by confrontation. When that doesn't work they start crying foul.

No doubt marriage is a truest test of One's character but if one gets it right it can be heaven on Earth.

I am for finding ways for people to make right choices and making their marriages work rather than discouraging them completely.

Yes, I am married........ 11 years and counting.

calgaryFriend:
Yeah they all openly discuss it, Oyinbo people life dey very simple.
When we all meet, we start by talking about how our last 2 weeks went.
Oyinbo people will even tell you they are expecting a baby, I mean someone who is just like 1 month pregnant.
Even the person who doesn't like her daughters boyfriend will talk about it very openly......

liberalchick:
You know the bolded because??

calgaryFriend:
Because very few women like to be tossed around from men to men.
I understand some dont have a problem with that, but most women once they start aging will prioritise security/stability over career excellence.
The kind of security or stability that a home brings....

I am not a kid myself and have mixed quite well with different cultures, its the same trend.

I currently join a singles group of matured adults for bible study every other week and I can tell you a great majority of supposed single and happy women in their forties would rather have things be turned around. And I am not talking about Africans, I am talking of caucasians ...

tooth4tooth:
3. Always admire and praise her. Even if she looks like monkey licking lime, tell her she's the most beautiful woman you 've ever seen. Praise her k-leg, flat nose, olipi etc.

princeking2:

Are you scared?

Damn means Damn.

princeking2:
What about girls that just want only sex too or just money?
I guess guys should also stay away...

See, leave this matter. A girl that truly wants an honest and committed relationship will grab one when she is ready.

If you aren't ready, enjoy the sex, damn the consequences and quit the victim game.

eskorelvis:
Don't go embarrassing ur self outside. That's called courtesy, it's a formal way of drinking from a tea cup over there in England, stretching out ur pinky finger. Na u go talk say u no sabi am, local man���

allthingsgood:
Sorry ma, but raising your little finger to drink a cup of tea is a total NO NO

yOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THO

Ayofaks:
I love this. Own your experience, don't allow anyone shame you or bully you into silence

Fisher007:
You see this is how you start a war you can't finish . " I lack wisdom…"' .

I didn't insult anyone. I made my opinion clear just as everyone did without insulting anyone. But seems you want a piece of it I will indulge in your stupidity.

Your father lacked wisdom for not flushing you away with toilet wipes or telling your mother to swallow you. That is why you are alive to leave such a stupid comment .

Mention or quote me if you have a valid arguement.

LordAdam16:
Who are the people, regardless of gender, who start relationships or enter marriages with partners they "think" they can't have a beautiful home with.

I'm certain when you first met most of your exes, they seemed perfect. Even if they didn't, the drawbacks appeared like quirks that could be fixed not deal breakers.

At first everything was rosy, you couldn't keep your hands off each other, couldn't wait to hear each other's voice... Eventually tho' the dopamine wears off, reality sets in, and whatever attracted you to the person in the first place loses its allure (or doesn't seem enough anymore).

This happens with most romantic relationships. It's why conventional wisdom dictates entering a marriage is not an issue; staying married is.

As such, you've made no point really.

As for the advice on children; 67% of children in Iceland are born to single parents. As CNN noted and I quote, in Iceland "that's a source of pride." Take that as you will.

Now, head on out and don't come back.

-Lord

LordKO:
There can never be an objective answer to a question like this - the answer will be subjective - because our love languages differ from person to person.

Personally, in a scenario like this, the one I spend more time is automatically the one I'm in love with - even though I may love all of them. Of course, it's common sense that the more time you spend with someone you're in love with, the more beneficial you'll be to her.

bukatyne:
He doesn't even love himself

Else he won't be sleeping with four women at same time.

Fisher007:
Problem:

Why are women bother about MGTOW?

It is a choice.

The only thing I always ask most ladies who wants marriage or relationships is what are you planning to bring to the table ?

Ask yourself as a lady what do you have to offer a man (High value man). Please don't say your body or sex ?

In Nigeria, most men don't go MGTOW cause in most cases they try to control women with money and wealth.

Ladies have been pimped unsubconsciously since birth by their parents.( Make sure he is rich, he drives a car, he his from a wealthy family etc).

So men think they can control women with money but over time they get bored of the sex she has to offer, cause she will get old with saggy body immediately after childbirth.Then they start looking elsewhere.

Adam had dominion over all creature except Eve. When the power of dominion was pronounced, Eve was not yet created.

Same as Eve who wanted to be above Adam . The law doesn't apply to her so she ate the forbidden fruit to gain an advantage (control) and wisdom (mind) over Adam who was physically strong and created after the image of God.

Eve as a woman can't possess a man. Most women try these too and they fail. Ladies feel they can control a man who was meant to have dominion over all creatures. Not possible . So they use sex and mind games, man's greatest weakness.

The truth is bitter you can't satisfy a woman. Right from Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden. She will misbehave. It is in their nature. Neither can a woman possess or have total control of a Man.


Solution:

So I always say the best solution is to look for a real hardworking feminist incase you want a child. Let her be a Feminist, you be a MGTOW. Have a baby for reprocreation and legacy purpose and move on with your life. Don't marry her since both movement don't support marriage. Just provide for your child when he/ she turns eighteen, his/her decision would made based on her/his opinion.

Enjoy your life , travel the world, explore new culture and horizon. Leave people who are married to face their boring, decieitful , mind controlling life.

Simple.

freshupdate:
Elaborate more please

XhosaNostra:
Huh, which ones @ bolded? Because some of them are living off their South African spouses & girlfriends.

zeb04:
dum dum.
A man can cheat but a woman can not?
The dumbest thing i have heard.


The man, isn’t he cheating with people’s wives, fiancée and girlfriends?
Half of the married women i know dont even look married except they put on their wedding ring.

Yall men cheat and loose your little change. Your wife will cheat on you, make money of it and feed you with it.

The fact that women can’t brag about cheating, is why they are never caught and why Nigeria is the 2nd largest in paternity fraud.

If you want women to stop cheating, you speak to your gender.