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 Webmasters / Re: Why Nigeria Blogs Are Semi-rated And Unprofessional by deturla: 12:37am On Dec 29, 2017 |
| Romance / Re: My Shocking & Weird Christmas Story by deturla: 1:20pm On Dec 28, 2017 |
chupachups: Eeehyah...Sorry Bro. The new year will be better! 2 Likes |
| Romance / Re: My Shocking & Weird Christmas Story by deturla: 1:19pm On Dec 28, 2017 |
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| Romance / My Shocking & Weird Christmas Story by deturla: 1:04pm On Dec 28, 2017 |
After I arrived home from my Oshodi to Akure Journey at 11pm that night of the 24th of Christmas, I settled down to devour pounded yam, ignoring my recurring nature of having to deal with stomach upset whenever I eat late. The Efo riro was too appetizing to ignore and I gobbled down the meal on a bottle of Pepsi. Against all warning and admonition from my Mum that I relax before heading to bed, I ignored her and headed to bed all the same. I found myself waking up to a crazy dream of me being pregnant and delivering a baby in the hospital. What the heck!? I asked myself. Still wondering why I could have that unrealistic dream, I felt a painful nudge in my tummy, stomach rumbled, tummy was hard and bit me from all sides. I drank and drank water to no avail! Or I was truly pregnant? In the middle of the pain, I laughed it off. Definitely this was indigestion. I decided to head over the to hospital down my area for treatment because I really began to feel uncomfortable and I needed to get the undigested pounded yam and efo out of my tummy as soon as I could. No sooner had I entered into the hospital than I stumbled into Fola, and a one year old baby she was carrying. Fola was a young undergraduate I met March 2015 in Idanre and we had a fling for some months before distance separated us. Apparently the baby was a little bit under the weather! Fola told me she had been sick for sometimes and decided to rush her to the hospital because her sickness had to do with blood. I did not get that part well, because I was in a state of discomfort and listening to Fola’s rants were the last thing on my mind. She then said she had wanted to reach out to me for a long time because there was something important to talk to me about. It was about her and the sex we had almost two years ago! Gbam! My eyes pooked, my tummy rumbled, my heart palpitated! I just hope it was not what I was thinking. I stared at her, stared at the baby yet again and I was shocked to notice that….the baby just looked exactly like ME. I shifted uncontrollably and in the blink of an eye, thoughts started filtering through my mind. ‘Is the baby mine’? What does Fola want to say? What is happening? What happened that night coursed through me mind. Eh Lord, we freaking had unprotected s*x, but I was not sure whether I poured my juice into her pot! I was not sure at all….Jeez! What if the baby was mine? Was that why they were here? I thought of how I would tell my mum how I went to the hospital and met Fola and her baby, and how the baby looked just like me and how the baby was mine! Fola broke into my thoughts…..as she continued: ‘You see Detola, after that night of the sex and we lost touch I felt so unusual and not myself after you left. It was later I realized that…I….was….’ I did not even listen to her anymore, and it was not until a husky male voice jolted me out of my misery and said: ‘Darling, the doctor is prepped and all set for Tola, he has taken my blood and we are ready for the transfusion. Let’s take her in!’ ..that I came back to my senses and beat myself on why I even thought the baby was mine! Immediately I felt the deep rumble of a slimmy wet poo down my boxers before I realized that what made me come to the hospital now rushed out in heavy torrents. I could not even say Hi to Tope’s boyfriend, husband or whoever he was before I made a dash to the hospital convenience to count my luck and download the poo at same time. Christmas started and ended on a crazy and weird note for me. How was did your Christmas go? ANYTHING WEIRD HAPPEN TO YOU THIS CHRISTMAS? http://deedeesblog.com/weird-christmas-story/ 3 Likes
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| Romance / Re: Top 10 Things Lagos Girls Want For Christmas by deturla: 8:38pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
| Romance / Top 10 Things Lagos Girls Want For Christmas by deturla: 8:34pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Truth is, it is not hearsay when people push the theory that Lagos houses the most beautiful girls in Nigeria. I agree, and I am sure you do as well. From the various girls trooping into the country 'from the abroad' to the different tribes of girls living in the centre of excellence, it is suffice to conclude that you will see different shapes, sizes, manners of beautiful girls all around the city. http://deedeesblog.com/top-10-things-lagos-girls-want-for-christmas/ 4 Likes
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| Romance / Re: How To Get Your Parents To Accept Your Relationship by deturla: 9:30am On Dec 23, 2017 |
| Crime / Re: How To Identify A Yahoo Plus Guy This Christmas - 10 Ways To Identify by deturla: 6:24am On Dec 23, 2017 |
Purebeerry: Do they tick all the boxes mentioned above? Please share how you know. Thanks. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
| Crime / How To Identify A Yahoo Plus Guy This Christmas - 10 Ways To Identify by deturla: 6:15am On Dec 23, 2017 |
Christmas is here, and the whole 'feferity' of celebration is high in the air. Apart from the fact that a lot of people will be traveling across the country to visit family and friends in the celebration, there will also be the increased spending across board this yuletide period. I know you will want to hang out with your friends, join them to club, spend (waste) money as if you are not aware of the Nigerian economy, drive and cruise around in all the big cars with heavy metal music blasting from the speakers, tormenting your neighbourhood and announcing your presence that you have arrived! You want to show the whole area that Christmas is once in a year and you need to make your presence known by being 'KNOWN'. Well, good to say I am happy for YOU and your friends. It's perfectly fine, but remember that you need to be careful of the type of friends you hang out with during this Christmas period. A lot of people will come from near and afar to lavish money, money you do not actually know how they came about. All you will be concerned about is helping them spend the cash and living a temporary life of bliss and spendour at this period. A lot of these friends/ guys that spend money in incredulous ways are actually yahoo boys but you may or may not be aware. The purpose of this post is not to criticize yahoo boys, (I'll leave the law enforcement agents to do just that). I am more concerned about you, yes YOU! If you are therefore reading this post now, be thankful and just READ ON! Truth is, from research, a lot of kidnap and death cases happen during this yuletide season and while this may be a hard truth to swallow, recent cases of kidnappings and money rituals have gone beyond snatching people from 'one chance' cars and roads which is the popular reference made on kidnapping. Kidnapping has now move to friends to friends, family to family, family to friends and so on. Just in case you are already gearing up towards meeting that friend or family during this season, you need to tick these boxes in confirmation of whether he makes money legit or he belongs to the category of guys we are referring to here. Yahoo boys will allow you revel with them this Christmas period, but when it is time to be used for 'money rituals', those friends you follow everywhere will not hesitate in stabbing you at the back, and pushing you onto the next baba, to refuel their already dwindling finances at that point in time. It is therefore important to let everyone know what, where and how to identify yahoo boys this season so as not to fall victim of your own misfortune. You know I love you right? Just read on: 1. They are very wasteful They drive the most expensive cars, make the loudest noise in the club, pop bottles like their lives depend on it. They compete with other guys in the club as well. The squander money on drinks, girls, expensive gadgets all in a bid to create a 'rep for the street' as they say. There is this aura of confidence like there is a bucket of money somewhere that they can just pull out funds from when the one at hand finishes. They can spend money on a 2 million naira wine should ring a bell in your head. What sane legit hustler does that? That friend you are happily cruising in his car and jumping up and down around town is definitely a YAHOO BOY! 2. Their circle of friends You are their friends but you are also an outsider. You want to know how? You will feel like an outsider when you hang with a yahoo boy. See! They have this clique of 'bling bling' wearing friends that they cruise around town with. When you join your friend on an outing and you begin to feel like the odd one out, in areas of dressing, how they talk, and what they talk about. A typical yahoo boy has a couple of friends in the yahoo business that they 'roll' with and as soon as you suddenly feel odd and displaced in the group, then you know you are 'chilling' with the G'boys! 3. They find it hard to give cash out I ask people a lot of times why this is so, but then, I have not been able to dig up reasonable answers rather than diabolical references which may not help this post. A typical yahoo boy can take you out spend money at clubs, parties, with his cliche of friends, but will never directly hand over cash to you. While you feel that your friend is rich and will of course 'settle' you from his 'money' since he is the big spender at this period, you will be surprised to notice that he will not want to dole out the cash and hand it over to YOU! The moment you realize this when you are out with your friends, then you warning signals should be up and about. You are hanging out with yahoo boys! 4. Yahoo boys and ladies are like 5 and 6 When they move around town, they move with girls of all kinds and stature. Not in ones or twos, but in tens and twelves. Are they leaders of women? A right thinking, hard working legit hustler will not pack girls around as if their lives depend on it, but when you see a lot of girls around guys this way, then you should be aware of who and what you are dealing with. Also, you will realize that when you see your friends with different categories of girls every day being introduced to you as their girlfriend, then be WARNED, so that this Christmas won't be your last. You are rolling with a G guy! 5. When they talk about the exchange rate, MoneyGram and Western Union transfer A yahoo boy knows virtually all the exchange rates off hand and they will not hesitate to always talk about it. Whether they are with their clique of friends or family, they always seem to know what is going on with the exchange market and current fluctuations in exchanges rates. They also have a dedicated Mallam's number that they call from time to time to confirm what exchange rate at what time. 6. They mention Baba all the time The moment you have your friend always calling a Baba. Ha Baba, E kasan Sir, Maa wa yirin after Christmas. Calling in and out, asking questions, seeking clarifications. Developing a serious outlook when on call when the Baba is not the father or family. Be warned, you are gliding towards being used this Christmas period. 7. They live large yet their parents suffer The moment you compare the extravagant lifestyle of your friend to that of his parents. Drives the latest Range Rover in town, yet the father jumps taxis and buses everywhere. Lives in a tastefully furnished duplex while the parents manages a 2-two room in a 'Face me I slap you' apartment, then you should know that friend you are chilling with is a Yahoo Boy! 8. Their lives on Social Media G boys generally love to show off. Not only in real life but also on social media. You will never see an hardworking individual flash carats of gold, show you the different cars he has bought or the expensive wine he poured on some girl at a club in town on social media. So, check out your friend's social media pages, if you discover any of this absurd display of wealth and open show of opulence, then you should know you are riding with a confirm G guy. 9. They lie a lot Ask them how they came about their funds, then you will hear different lies of varying degrees. Infact, lying becomes their second name. They will have to lie to buy legitimacy for their illegitimate money. They lie to get their money squandered and laundered, they lie to make people try to see them as legitimate hard working boys, but isn't that far fetched already? Isn't that enough sign for you to know you are wining and dining with the devil? 10. I'd rather die than go broke mentality They live the fast life. Fast money, fast cars, fast food, fast drinks, fast everything. They are so non-challant and their perspectiveto life is quite different from yours. They just want to eat, drink, spend money, sleep with girls, drive cars and live life with no care about tomorrow. They usually have this word hanging around their mouths, 'get rich or die trying' 'I will rather go meet papa God before I go broke'. This is the deal breaker for you. As soon as you hear your friends mentioning these quotes or living their lives the fast way, then you need to turn your warning signals up. You are wining and dining with the devil! Remember that politicians are not even better than Yahoo boys as it is right now. To keep yourself safe this Christmas period, then you need to watch out as well. Better late than ever! Yahoo ++ is the new Yahoo Yahoo. You want to have a safe holiday this December and henceforth, then be careful the friends you hang out with. There is nothing like Yahoo anymore. the ++ is the REAL DEAL! Have a safe Christmas everyone! http://deedeesblog.com/how-to-identify-a-yahoo-plus-guy-christmas/ 44 Likes 7 Shares
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| Religion / Re: 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 3:43pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
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| Religion / Re: 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 12:26pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
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| Religion / Re: 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 12:12pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
makydebbie: Send me his/ her number, let me beg for you. 2 Likes |
| Religion / Re: 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 12:08pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
| Religion / Re: 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 12:08pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
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| Religion / 10 Ways To Enjoy Christmas When You Are Broke by deturla: 12:04pm On Dec 22, 2017 |
First appeared on Deedeesblog.com: Okay so, there is heightened anxiety for you. You are stressed and wondering how the Christmas will go when you have little bucks in your account. Your friends are busy displaying their heavy financial status by pre-ordering and ordering Christmas gifts for loved ones. Colleagues are busy talking about the shows, and the monies they will lavish when the yuletide day comes up. What will you do? Suck? Feel unhappy? Or agitated that your Christmas will not go the way you earlier planned? There you got it all wrong, you can have fun and still rock your Christmas season even if you are BROKE! Now I can see you shifting at the edge of your seat (phone). Yes! Sure! You can have the fun of your life with little or no money in your account! Christmas is unarguably the most festive season of the year and its celebrations are always off the hook. It takes an awful lot of planning, and if executed well brings flawless and soothing results. It is indeed a time to spread love; not the kind spread in the valentine season but a different kind. It’s also the time most rekindle their church going streak (especially in Africa) which may have been lacking for some time; and also the season when old tunes probably as old as our ancestors (maybe even older) come back in vogue and seem to have never lost their appeal. For most people, Christmas season is the best time to spoil one’s self silly, dine in the most expensive restaurants, visit the biggest shopping malls, buy tickets to go see the biggest music concerts of the year, take soothing trips and most of all, spend every waking moment at the cinema seeing the biggest Christmas blockbusters. But, is Christmas season just about spending a whole lot of money? Yes, you need money to have an ideal good time but certainly not tons of it. But Hey, you can have a very fulfilling Christmas without money on you. You’d be surprised at just how you can achieve spending Christmas on a zero budget. You want to ask me how? Let’s get to it then! I’ll show you. First off, I’ll divide these 10 ways to enjoy Christmas when you are broke into two categories; Go Cheap, and Go Creative. GO CHEAP 1. Have a sale: Hey, there is absolutely no shame in sourcing for a little cash especially when there’s none. What’s the big deal? It’s just a yard sale. Well, you probably have a couple of items that you haven’t used in a really long while that have not lost their value. You could do a check to see what those items are and if you can really afford to not use them any more before you put them up for sale. It’s also best to check what best price to place on those items to avoid them remaining unsold. Listen, it’s easy money and it’s yours if only you can swallow your pride already and have a yard sale. Who doesn’t love a cheap valuable sale? Well, don’t answer that. I know I do. So, go on, get them together before it’s too late, put a placard up that says “On-going yard sale; lowest prices ever” and make that cheddar. You’d be surprised at how much you could make to spoil yourself silly. 2. Re-Use Decorations: Indeed, the true beauty of Christmas is in the decorations we put up everywhere. Each year, people (especially neighbors) try to outdo each other. We all want the most beautifully lit front yards, the most decorated Christmas trees drowning in glittering ornaments and priceless designs. We want it all. But, must we buy new decorations each year? Must we shell out a whole lot of money to buy what we already have just because we feel we want new ones? Isn’t that excessiveness? Believe me, it’s another word for it. Well, newsflash, plastic bottles aren’t the only things we can reuse, decorations are too. So go on, bring out those old ornaments and crystals, pull out that old lighting, plug it in. I’m sure it still shines as bright as a new one. Hang it around the house, use it even to create fun glittering words that inspire the true spirit of Christmas. Make sure your neighbors see it, if they don’t, then its use is wasted. Again, you’ve got nothing to be ashamed of, it’s Christmas. 3. Create A Budget/Plan: Everybody on a steady income knows that the most effective way to manage money is to create a budget for it. I once had plans to pay off a few debts and I had a particular amount of money to do that and I needed a little more to meet my payment plan. I made an estimate of how much I would get to complete it because I felt it was inevitable that I would get the rest of the cash. But along the line, I forgot to make plans on how to start with the amount I had at hand. I felt I could maybe hold on to it, or even take a few off of it believing a replacement would happen when the new cash came in; so I spent some of it and the replacement plan never happened. Then slowly, I spent more of it till it was all gone. Was it stupid of me to believe that I’d get more money later? No, it wasn’t. Was it also stupid not to budget the little bit I had already so i could use it efficaciously? Yes it was. No income earner is ever really flat broke. We always have a little something stashed away, no matter how little. So I say, create a list of everything you need to get, cross off the irrelevant, and make the most pressing or easier-to-get ones a priority. Estimate how much each priority would cost and allocate a particular amount of what you have to each. This will help you gain more with what you have already. Feel free to cross off an irrelevant trip to the spa and replace it with the purchase of comfy slippers as an achievable priority. It can even be a much better gift to yourself. I’m just saying. 4. Shut Out The Temptation: It’s everywhere, on every turn, all up in our faces, ideas of what things to get ourselves for Christmas. Tempting us badly cause it obviously has the upper hand. It has our undivided attention. They are mostly very excessive things that we don’t need at all, but because everyone is talking about it, the want for it is heightened in us. I remember wanting an iPhone for Christmas just because most of my friends had gotten one for themselves. They obviously had planned it along while back, but me, I just wanted to get one for myself because it looked good when they showed it to me. So try your best to shut out the screaming temptation. Avoid commercials on cable TV. Do not, I repeat, do not go to the mall, some things there, you can never un-see. Rather, busy yourself with other time fulfilling activities and you will surely testify when Christmas is over. 5. Buy Smaller/Less Expensive Gifts: Due to the little budget you have, your purchases must march what you need. Don’t go breaking your neck buying a huge baking oven when you can easily get a micro wave. The idea of getting smaller and less expensive gifts is to work around your budget and save a few bucks. After all, you’ve got very little, why try to pull a Mayweather when you know you can’t afford to. He can easily afford that, you can’t. 6. Have A Small Get Together? If you are one of those people who can’t eat alone and enjoy having friends over to dine with you, then you have nothing to worry about. But you have definitely got to think small though. Forget about what you’re and how you used to do it. You can still have friends over, yes, nothing more than five persons though. Six upwards may be a bit excessive and believe me, you may not be able to afford it. You could put together a small dinner without breaking a sweat. Yes, you can get a good cheap turkey, make some salad, cook some food with the ingredients you have (you’ve got to be a good cook though to pull it off) and get some juice. Then dinner is served. You could all watch a movie on your TV later. You see? Effective. 7. Going Out? Think Small: You obviously can’t afford to afford to take yourself on an expensive outing because, duh! You’re broke. So here’s what you could do instead, google cheap places to have a good time; it could be a random karaoke bar that also serves a good meal or even, you could go bowling. You could even go to the beach with some friends and take your own food along. There are so many interesting places to visit that don’t come with huge price tags. 8. Go Visiting It’s Christmas, the best time in the year to give and also to share. I’ll let you in on a secret, Christmas season is also the best time to ask for things and not seem like a beggar. You could easily ask a friend for an invite to have Christmas dinner with him/her. Believe me, they’d be happy to have you except you’ve got stingy friends. So go on, give it a try, it’d be fun. GO CREATIVE 9. Make Your Own Decorations: How handy are you around the house? How creative can you be? The easiest way to save money you don’t have is to create your own stuff and not buy them. You could hack down an old tree, decorate it with some shiny old jewelry and put it up in the house. Hang some socks around, cut paper into certain decorative pieces (say the ginger bread man or maybe greeting cards) and hang it up too. You could also wrap a few boxes and place them under the tree. Trust me, you’d love it when you’re done. 10. Make Your Own Gifts: This is another totally money free way to join in the Christmas fun. You could knit a few sweaters on your own if you can, effortlessly design your own customized cards for friends and family. You could even wrap up a few gifts you haven’t used before and give to someone who needs it. You certainly can’t miss out on the Christmas fun because you’re broke. Make what you have work for you. Do you have other additions on ways to enjoy Christmas when you are broke? Experiences that helped you on a broke Christmas? Do share in the comments below! http://deedeesblog.com/10-ways-to-enjoy-christmas-when-you-are-broke/ c 2 Likes
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| Jokes Etc / Re: The Chronicles Of Jedi Oloyin (A Must Read) by deturla: 2:46am On Dec 20, 2017 |
| Celebrities / Re: Reekado Banks: At 24, I Have Benz, Lexus, Built My Mom House, Building A School by deturla: 12:45am On Dec 20, 2017 |
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| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Urgent: Freelance Writers Needed For A Research Driven Blog by deturla: 7:34pm On Dec 18, 2017 |
Benignasweety: You see? Unless you don't intend to use social media to fish the culprit out. People like that will always be found no matter how and where they hide! Blogs are different and brands are different as well, and just because someone did this to you does not mean the other will do same. |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Urgent: Freelance Writers Needed For A Research Driven Blog by deturla: 12:59pm On Dec 17, 2017 |
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| Family / Re: Eniola ‘Mae’ Adeniji: "My Devastating Marriage Experience" by deturla: 6:21pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
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| Celebrities / Re: Alabi Pasuma, Small Doctor, Destiny Boy At The Mushin Day 2017 - Pics & Video by deturla: 9:28am On Dec 12, 2017 |
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| Family / Re: Eniola ‘Mae’ Adeniji: "My Devastating Marriage Experience" by deturla: 9:26am On Dec 12, 2017 |
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| Family / Eniola ‘Mae’ Adeniji: "My Devastating Marriage Experience" by deturla: 9:32pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
A Nigerian lady, Eniola ‘Mae’ Adeniji. who happened to be my very good friend shared this story on her Instagram page and I had no choice but to share! It is heartbreaking, overwhelming and liberating at the same time. It is a LONG READ but absolutely worth every second of YOUR TIME. READ HER EMOTIONAL STORY: So today I stumbled on an IG page of a dear friend’s wife, and got to follow the link on her profile to another friend’s Blog. Gosh, that was how I signed myself up for waterworks and haven’t been able to stop even while typing this. The lady had shared about her journey through endometriosis and infertility, through a 3 part Blog post. I must say it is the most emotional thing I’ve read this year, gosh. I think beyond the story and the pain it was laden with, it brought so many memories for me. So so many. Gosh! See 8 years ago I walked down the isle a very sad bride, I knew I didn’t want to, not after all I have discovered during the closest time we spent together preparing for the wedding (since it was a long distance relationship). But I was young, naive, silly, foolish and afraid of failing everyone. I was afraid about what people would say to my mother if I canceled the wedding, what the church would say to my family, what his family would say, what my friends would say. I worried so much about everyone else but ‘ME’. So like a lamb to the slaughter, I walked down that isle. I had cried to bed on the engagement night and my makeup artist had to do so much works to make my face beautiful on the wedding day. Oh I was sad, I tried everything to be happy but I couldn’t. At a point I kept muttering to myself, ‘Eniola, you can do this, you are loving and kind and can make anyone be a better person’. How silly, because I was naive and foolish and didn’t know ‘you can’t make anyone love you, whose intention isn’t to’. _ Fast forward to 3 months in it and I knew I couldn’t do shit. I didn’t have the power to, only God can. All I could do was to truly give my best and then focus on God to help do the rest. Oh I was lonely, it was the loneliest season of my life. I wasn’t allowed to go out, have friends or do anything. There was no cable because he believes it was a waste of money. So no TV basically. All I had was my Bible and books. In 3 years I must have read about 100 books and written over 500 articles (chuckles). I was just expected to wake up very early daily to cook, clean, lay still whenever he wants sex even if he pounces on you while sleeping, and just be mute while every decision is made around you. And when his mother wants you in Osogbo, you are to pick your bag and go to the park and endure an 8 hours journey without a single word. With time, all that soon became a norm until a year later and there was no pregnancy. And then the daily calls started, how I am expected to explain my body and whatnot, explain my periods and ovulation, explain every headache and temperature. And then when we both visit the family for the holidays, I am told to stay indoor so people won’t see I am not pregnant. And when everyone goes visiting, I’m left in the house. And then his family deciding which Gynea/OBGN was next for me to see, and how it must be in Osogbo and I had to travel 2/3 times every month by road from Abuja to Osogbo to see a specialist, where I was probed and poked. Oh the endless injections, the bleeding, the constant pain and suffering. Messed up cycle and hormonal imbalances due to all the drugs and injections. And having no one to talk to through it all (because after all in marriage you are suppose to take things and refrain from talking to outsiders). I’d still come back home to a man who saw nothing but a glorified slave and a sex object. And then gradually the many injections messed up my weight, I wasn’t eating and yet was gaining weight, my clothes weren’t fitting anymore and I was eventually left with 2/3 clothes and had to rotate them every Sunday. Oh the shame and snicker from people. My skin had become so black and carrying my dread without relocking for over a year. I hated that our Church was inside Sheraton, you can imagine the kind of people there. What was worse was nobody ever talked to me to know what was going on. Nobody, they just found a way to go round me while they chatted with him like I wasn’t there. …..Continued in next comment…. Then gradually depression set in, and then I began to lose my mind. I will be in the sitting room and forget I was cooking and the food will burn with smoke all over the house and I still wouldn’t even know until I begin choking and needed my inhaler. Gosh it felt like hell. And then finding out a year later through another specialist in Abuja that I wasn’t the problem after all, he was the problem all along, he had no sperm count. Amazing… I think for the first time in a long while I felt joy, I even got to shake my bum-bum after he’d gone to work (chuckles). I felt like God vindicated me and for once I was left alone. Of course the abuse continued, but at least minus the poking, endless injections and drugs. Someday I hope to finish my book and share things I’ve not quite bring myself to share with anyone else. …Now the purpose of this post isn’t to make you feel sad, throw pity party around Naaa. No, it isn’t because I haven’t healed, I have come a very long way in my journey through healing. The purpose is to advice every young man and woman out here to be patient. NEVER be in a hurry to walk down the isle to anyone you know deep down doesn’t honour God, doesn’t honour you, doesn’t honour anyone. One of the greatest support you can have in marriage is your partner. If they aren’t your partner while dating, marriage won’t translate them into one. Have you ever watched a war film where 2-3 partners are paired together in a fierce battle to combat an opposing force? Now imagine those partners Waring against each other while also enduring the blow, missiles and gun from the opposing force? Get it? That’s what happens when you walk down the isle to someone who doesn’t have your best interest at heart. I don’t care how rich he/she is, how beautiful or handsome or how ‘nice’ they are, if they do not honour God and honour you, you have no business walking down the isle to them. I know for a lot of us women, the dream about a Bella Naija wedding can seem so alluring that you ignore the fact that it is just for a weekend. I know a lot of men are daily pressured by families to marry for various reasons, but marriage is forever. Marriage is beautiful, I have testimonies all around me, but it isn’t a bed of roses, it has its best days as much as it has its worse days. The only thing that causes you to triumph is God and the right partner. There is nothing as amazing as walking through war and minefield with your best friend. A man or woman who will stand in faith for you when your faith is all gone. A man or woman who if you end up tomorrow losing your most valuable body parts, will still stand tall beside you. A man or woman that if you lose all your earthly possession will still be blooming beside you while cheering you on. I beg you in the name of God, wait for him, wait for her and while waiting keep developing yourself towards becoming the perfect spouse you also seek. NEVER neglect the place of God and godly counsel also. Shalom. http://deedeesblog.com/nigerian-lady-shares-her-traumatic-marriage-experience/ 36 Likes 6 Shares
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| Celebrities / Re: Alabi Pasuma, Small Doctor, Destiny Boy At The Mushin Day 2017 - Pics & Video by deturla: 4:12pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
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| Celebrities / Alabi Pasuma, Small Doctor, Destiny Boy At The Mushin Day 2017 - Pics & Video by deturla: 2:40pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
It was a day of pop and pageantry at the 22nd Mushin Day 2017 when Alabi Pasuma, Small Doctor, Destiny boy all performed at the ground breaking event.  In a carnival like celebration, the indigenes of Mushin all ignored the hot sun as they graced the event in bright colours and grandeur. Mushin truly came alive to celebrate its culture and to thank God for another year of bliss and prosperity.  Against popular belief that Mushin Lagos houses all sort of miscreants and the security situation is helpless in protecting the cause of an ordinary citizen, yours truly was present at the Carnival like event, took a walk around the town, and can authoritatively confirm that Mushin is slowing becoming a safe haven for all and sundry. It was indeed a day to be remembered for a very long time as it has set a standard for subsequent Mushin Days. Mushin Day is a celebration that happens annually where the indigenes of Mushin all come together to appreciate a great year and to further discuss the progress of the Mushin community. His Royal Majesty, Alayeluwa Oba Fatai Ayinla Aileru II urged residents of Mushin to ensure that they contribute immensely to the economic development of the Mushin community. He also advised the Police to check mate the increase in kidnapping across the state and the country. Mushin Day will never go without enjoying good music from Alabi Pasuma as he got all members of the Mushin community dancing to his Fuji music. Small Doctor also displayed his musical prowess and energy at the Mushin Day 2017. Check out videos and pictures of what went down here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7mFGHyXjH8       http://deedeesblog.com/alabi-pasuma-small-doctor-others-perform-mushin-day-2017/ 1 Like |
| Romance / Personality Traits & Behavioral Patterns That Should Stay In 2017- Joro Olumofin by deturla: 7:35am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Joro Olumofin is surely ending 2017 on a high with this very relatable post on his Instagram page. He advised followers and Nigerians to watch out for personality traits that should stay in 2017. Read his post below: 1. Husbands, stop looking at your wives like "GrandMas", look at them like a Lion will look at a sheep. Explore her every anatomy. 2. Wives, Please fortify yourselves with warrior Prayers and fasting because 2018 Sidechicks have already started equipping themselves diabolically. 3. Wives stop letting Side-chicks make you look obsolete, nothing is above you when pleasing your husband even : twerking, red long Brazilian hair, hotel room sex, car sex. 4. Fellas, stop sending DMs if you have a girlfriend. 5. Fellas, stop forgetting your ATM cards at home when you're going on dates. 6. Ladies, don't go seeking relationships first, seek employment or empowerment. 7. Ladies , don't assume he's you're boyfriend after sex. 8. Ladies, make him work for it. Using Ice Cream, Pizza, Recharge, free ride to impress you should end in 2017. 9. Fellas, stop mental manipulation. Tell your friends and family to Stop calling her "Iyawo Wa" or Our wife . 10. Ladies, if you didn't pay on a date this year and you're still single I think you should pay on dates in 2018. 11. Ladies, don't go and sleep in a guy's house if you don't have sexual intentions for your own safety. 12. Ladies, if you haven't secured the guy don't take your friend along on dates, God may just use you to hook them up. 13. Ladies, if you can't cook and you're single. Use this time to learn how to cook. 14. Fellas, stop using marriage to borrow money from girls. ( Baby I have plans for our future please loan me 200k). 15. Husbands, stay off social media and private university girls. 16. If your body count was more than 10 in 2017 and you're still single , 2018 should be a maximum of 2. 17. If you're in a relationship and you've never spent more than 50k on your BF or gf start saving for 2018 18. Fellas, when you meet a lady in 2018 and she's 28 and above if you're not looking for a serious relationship let her go instantly . 19. Ladies , stop replying DMs if you're in a serious relationship. 20. Wives it may not matter but ensure your husband wears his wedding ring. Can you relate? Does this make so much to you like it did to me? http://deedeesblog.com/joro-olumofin-personality-traits-behavioral-patterns-stay-2017/ 14 Likes 2 Shares
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| Romance / Re: How To Get Your Parents To Accept Your Relationship by deturla: 4:05am On Nov 28, 2017 |
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| Romance / How To Get Your Parents To Accept Your Relationship by deturla: 2:40pm On Nov 27, 2017 |
You need to understand how to get your parents to accept your relationship if you are at the cross-road of denial and acceptance. You have been going out with your partner for a while. You both love each other and now, you are both ready to settle down for marriage. You have put all the necessary factors into consideration and decided that this is who you really want, that you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person. What’s next now? You need to introduce this person to your parents as the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with and you need to get your parent's blessings. You see no reason why your parent would object to this relationship but unfortunately, when you do introduce your partner to your parents, they spelled a big NO for you. Good Lord! Your parents are not in support of your relationship. What do you do? Okay, so you try to convince them that this is what you really want, who you really love and who you are willing to become one with. But your parents won't budge. In fact, they are adamant. They don't want to hear nothing of it. Of course, you are sad and devastated. Many thoughts begin to run through your mind: Should you call their bluff? Should you run away with this person to somewhere where you can get married without their approval? So many thoughts run through your mind and you are lost on what to do. First of all, you need to know that your parents are the best gift the world ever gave to you. They made you who you are and you absolutely need their blessings to succeed in anything you do. Also, when parents are against their child’s relationship, it is usually because of a number of factors like religion, tribe, race, and for some parents, personal rejection. In a situation like this, you do not need to take a drastic decision that could affect you for life. You don’t need to call your parents bluff or run away with your lover. What you need to do is to find ways by which you can get your parents to accept your relationship. There are different ways by which you can get your parents’ approval for your relationship and I will be letting you in on some of these ways that you can use to gain their acceptance for your relationship. Here's how to get your parents to accept your relationship; 1. Appeal to Their Parental Instinct The first thing you should consider doing is to appeal to their parental instinct. Parents everywhere always want the best for their children. If they are against your relationship, then it is because they see something you do not see. In this case, do not get it into an argument with them. What you should do is to appeal to them. Make them see reasons why you made the decision to be in a relationship with this person. Let them understand that this person is the best thing that could ever happen to you (after them, of course). Let them know that race, religion, tribe and other factors shouldn't be a barrier. Tell them we are all humans and we all worship one God. Let them know that all these things wouldn't stop you from being happy with that person and tell them that nothing will make you happier than getting their approval for your relationship. More importantly, it is advisable that you talk to the parent you are closer to. If it is your mom, talk to her and let her be the one to convince your dad for you. Also, if your dad is the one that you are closer with, then talk to him and let him be the one to convince your mom for you. 2. Make Subtle Threats Now, I am not telling you to go overboard with the threats but if the first step doesn't work, be ready to throw in some threats. Tell them something like "I am not going to get married if I do not get married to this person" or something like "If you do not accept my relationship, then I am going to run away far away to somewhere where you can't reach me". This kind of threat might have more effect on your mother than your father, so direct it to your mom. 3. Get a Religious Cleric to Talk to Them When the threats don’t work too, the next thing to do is to get a cleric to talk to them on your behalf. If you are a Christian, then get the pastor of the church where your parents worship to talk to them and if you are a Muslim, get the imam of the mosque where your parents worship to talk to them. African parents, especially Nigerian parents are known to have absolute trust and reliance on their religious leaders. So, use this as an opportunity to get their approval. But before you do this, make sure that the religious leader or cleric is someone that is enlightened, educated and exposed enough to convince them 4. Get the Family Members to Talk to Them You can also get the other members of the extended family to talk to your parents on your behalf. So, reach out to the head of the family, someone who is older than your parents and whom they absolutely can’t refuse to listen to. Be sure that you convince this person first. Let the person know why you choose your partner and why your parents are against the relationship. Plead with him or her to appeal to your parents and get their approval. In every Nigerian home, be it Ibo, Hausa or Yoruba, there is always this respect accorded to the head of a family. So, be assured that your parents might not be able to turn this person down, no matter what. Now, if none of the above ways work for you, you should be ready to choose between your parents and your partner. You have got to be very careful when making this choice though because it is never advisable to choose your partner over your parents. Remember that love is never enough. http://deedeesblog.com/how-to-get-your-parents-to-accept-your-relationship/ 8 Likes
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| Webmasters / Re: Would You Be So Kind To Give ME Backlink From Your Blog For A Token Amount by deturla: 9:30am On Nov 17, 2017 |
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| Business / Shouldn't We Be Discussing The 2018 Budget Already? by deturla: 11:37am On Nov 09, 2017 |
I am neither a financial analyst nor a business analyst expert, but looking at the picture below, I'm wondering my we have not started discussing this budget by the President already. How do we manage the expenditure? Our revenue is definitely lower than our expenditure. So we have to borrow again? Cc: Lalasticlala, seun, mynd44
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