Saviourplease:
Good evening house.

I am in a dilemma and I need advice on what to do.

A bit of background about myself: I am a 29 years only child from a very poor background. I work for an IT firm which i joined in 2019 as a graduate trainee.

My total income is around 490k (400k from main job, 90k from a writing side gig).

My challenge:
Recently, My host have told me to look for my accommodation and I have been searching for houses. Unfortunately, the places closer to my places of work is expensive.

I work in VI and the cheapest mini flat I have seen in close vicinity is 1.2M at Ajah.

I also have have a building project I am undertaking in the village that is at roofing stage and my parents have been pressuring me to settle down as the only child.

My dilemma is this, If i go for the house at Ajah, it will eat a bulk of my savings, thereby making it impossible for me to complete the building project or even start the process of settling down.

If I go for a cheaper but farer location, I will be spending more time in traffic.

Please, how do I manage this?

tochez24:





Nigeria is currently in a very bad shape now and anybody advising you to pick up that 1.2M miniflat wants to do you dirty♂️

That's a very BAD move bro!!!!

Your sure plug now is to find a way to put up like everyone else.

Get a cheaper house even if it's far away to save cost first then adjust your time of coming to work in other to beat the traffic..... I heard that traffic has drastically reduced in Lagos due to the subsidy removal shaaa🙄

SmartPolician:
Joblessness at its peak.

Has that petition ever worked in Nigeria?

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Kyase:
Wike my man

Your appointment gives me the most joy

ijustdey:


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/03/telcos-migrate-to-harmonised-short-codes-collapse-individual-short-codes-may-17/

lhordspy:
Initially, I used to think peter obi supporters are the religious partioner, the religious dividers. But I was wrong, the man Peter obi himself is something worse, a wolf in sheep clothing. Nothing but a religious marginalizer.

The attitude of his headless mob called Obidient is just the reflection of the man they support. It is an agenda, they are just trying all to execute it. All thanks to him, general overseers are now beating the drum of religous war right at the altar of the church. Calling candidate from other religion 'Killers'

I spent few decades in the Southwest before moving over to north. Growing up, I never at any point in time heard of Yoruba-Christian or Yoruba Muslim. These bunch of low-lives people started it in this election period.

I asked a friend yesterday, i told him what if Peter wins( God forbid it ever happens) , I said what is you guys plan to bring back religious unity after tearing it apart, instigating Christians against Muslims so as to favour your unrealistic political ambition?

After all these is over, Is your useless demon of a candidate that stood at the front of the alter, 'telling the church to take back it country'; -going to go back to the same church to church telling them the war is over? That they can now be friends with the Muslims, that they can now see them as same Nigerians ?

Sheistoopretty:


That's not for Nigerian men, Nigerian men can be Poverty-stricken and still giving birth to children like rabbits

Just take a look around u, isn't it poor men who are having majority of kids? If u had said foreign men, I will understand

Nigerian men are just Us*less.......all of them

sarrki:


https://twitter.com/renoomokri/status/1613474749073571840?t=NJRwwyLy17lJU4ZOLwhgNQ&s=19

Lintle:
Thanks for the information


I pray that God touches someone's heart to help you dear

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

PrinceOfLagos:
I respect Alhaji Atiku so much but it's the turn of the south and Peter Obi is our choice

Bvlgari:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ahjkTKvcvJo

Wait a minute What did she just say??

Lady confesses to mixing her blood with Zobo to sell after contracting HIV

Be careful out there folks!!!

Source: Wazobia FM Lagos

NwekeUG:
Stephanie Coker Shares First Photos Of Her Daughter As She Turns 1

Stephanie Coker-Aderinokun has revealed the face of her daughter for the first time as she celebrates her first birthday, IgbereTV reports.

The media personality shared photos of her and her husband posing with their daughter named Ariella Iremide Adunni.

She wrote:

"We prayed for this beautiful gift and were blessed with the most precious baby girl. Ariella Iremide Adunni is one today!!! @littlemissarie My fiesty remote loving chunky Ari. Since your conception you have given your father and I nothing but joy. We’re so grateful to God for your life"
https://www.instagram.com/p/CHsj_x-MpZW/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Sharing adorable photos of Arie alone, she wrote:

Below are the photos.

captaincaleb:
Vice President of Nigeria Prof. Yemi Osinbajo Today pay a courtesy visit to Somolu/Bariga Axis of Lagos State South West, Nigeria.

Prof. Osinbajo Vice President, Federal Republic of Nigeria was received by Bariga Local Council Chairman Hon Kolade Alabi David aka Mr. Transformer, Somolu Local Government Chairman Hon Salawu aka Dullar.

Among other distinguished leaders were- Bariga Apex Leader Alhaji Banire, Former Chairman of Bariga Local Council/S.A to the Governor of Lagos state on Community Hon Hakeem Omoyele aka Oris, Senator Adefuye, Chief whip of Lagos State House of Assembly Hon Rotimi Abiru, Bariga Vice Hon Adeola.

Others were Bariga All Progressive Congress Youth Leader, Somolu S.As, Bariga S.As, LGA Excos, Ward Excos, Party faithful members, gentle men of the press, distinguished ladies and gentlemen.

In the remark of the Prof. Yemi Osinbajo, he made it clear that the abandoned project of Abuja-Kaduna has been completed by the current administration led by Muhammadu Buhari.

He further rejoices with the Muslims on the occasion of Eid-l-fitr celebration which coincided with the day of his visitation. He urges everyone to embrace peace by given to the needy during this festive season.

Prof Osinbajo however advocated continuous unity among the party faithfuls that the All Progressive Congress(APC) National Leader Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu remains a strong pillar in our dear party.

He made it lucid that defection to other political parties means nothing, by saying that it is meant to happen.

"The government of the APC is different from the PDP, the current administration assumed office in 2015 which 22 States were owing workers salaries prior to that time, the current administration comes in settle the burden of the States. The party will continue to have zero tolerance to corruption.

In conclusion,

"Npower programme started with 200, 000, and in few months back.

He further seek for continuous support for the current administration led by PMB. .

God Bless Federal Republic of Nigeria.

http://www.olonitolacaleb.com/2018/08/vice-president-osinbajo-cause-gridlock.html

queensera:
A Nigerian lady with the username @dark_chocolatl took to his insta-story to share screenshots of what his toaster did after she demands N20k from him to prove that he likes her.

Source:
http://nairaplus.com/2018/08/nigerian-lady-demands-20k-from-her-toaster-to-prove-that-he-likes-her-photos/

Azmodan:
So this guy couldn't buy data ?
He is using Facebook on free basics ?

Deejay1000:

devil007:
see you

Deejay1000:

Jediel1:
So as dey r making noise like dis did dey receive alert , people shld learn to do tins with sense.

CilicMarin:
RIP Gani!
Cc:
Buhariguy
Quotasystem
Throwback
Kenone

Morwendy:
Long story. He was in the Uk when I met him 10 years ago. He was arrested by border agency for being an overstayer BUT after 2 years of legal battles, border agency admitted they got it wrong, that he had been granted a visa to stay for 3 years but they lost his passport and he'd never chased them for it. To get a new Nigerian passport, he had to get his sister to send his national id card from Nigeria and that gave the name we're married under. (Mystified how she got him a new ID card but says she paid officials and they gave it to her). So apart from the new ID card and the new passport, no other documents.

Bustincole:
Who are we goin to blame for dis

SmellingAnus:
Lol... The way she take position herself as if she been dey expect Wizkid to finger her on stage