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IyaTola:
The generation before us have failed us.

Irony of life.
The elders and old ones are busy milking the country dry and young ones are busy with sex, sex, vanity, ballot box snatching, cultism, violence and fraud. Where is our future generation?

This can not be cult clash, if this is cult clash in Lagos then, it's child's play. If you where In Nigeria higher institutions In the 90s you'll understand better. Then, you'll understand when I say na childs play be this. The era when cultism and deadly HIT where prominent has gone, men dey hustle in another level now to meet up. Last last men now understand what really matters in life and what real power is...
Believe me when I say this is child's play....

Walai:
A girl I paid her mother's hospital bill, fed and provided for her and paid her expired house rent around May with my hard earned proceeds from keke without making any effort to bed her (until marriage) have the mind to have sex with another guy in the house I paid for.

Na this kind mumu talk make me date one girl for school those days for 3 years, she claim virgin, no sex until marriage but as a sharp guy, I dey use other babes dey cure on a very high code, dey collect her money well, last last, I graduated, served and disappeared. God forbid, na me them won use toto catch in the name of decency? How I go pay for package when I no know the content?
By God's grace I don marry over 9 years ago born finish, still dey meet up,
she still dey single. Not mocking her condition anyway, but guys need wake up.

vowsng:
Met this beautiful angel sometime 2017 in school, we became friends but officially started dating last year December.

Things have not been Rosy cause I'm not the regular rich kid, although, she is understanding, mature and supportive.

I graduated last year, though have not been to service, with her support and that of friends, I got a 2.4 Camry I have been using for bolt.

She just graduated last week, and went home on Tuesday but before she left for home, I proposed we hang out to have some fun as her going home entails we would not see each other soonest, she accepted.

But on the other hand, my immediate elder sister had her wedding last month 23rd and as the first son, I know I became bankrupt, not forgetting that where I stay, (with a distant relative) I was given December to vamoose even though I know I'm of age to have a place of my own without being told.

So I thought about all this and decided I won't miss work that Monday, raising 200k working with bolt and my car is not too sound too, that means I have to work every single day, but on a second thought, it would be selfish of me so I skipped work on Monday and we were together that whole day.

She left for home on Tuesday, I was already out working, I saw a "stressed out" status on WhatsApp, I asked and she said she didn't leave in the morning that she was called to make urgent corrections by her supervisor.

On Wednesday we said the normal hello and good morning, most times I will be driving and a little stop or traffic I will have to reply her message or send a voice note.

But just today, no good morning or anything from the both of us, this evening, she sent in a message that she is tired, first thing that came to my mind was, "yes, i said it she would be bored at home" but I was still driving then, so I quickly replied, "I'm tired too" next thing is let's just end it and stop wasting each others time.

This is not the first time she is threatening me with breakup, she went on to call me heartless, i don't know, but I thought I found the right one, we always planned the future together, gisted about alot of things and the name we would give our kids, only for her to tell me she sees no future.

If this was a joke, then it was taken too far, I have accommodation issue, my younger brother is my responsibility for now, she knows everything about me, we weren't lacking in communication, now I believe a struggling guy shouldn't be in a relationship.

This is actually going to be a long journey to singleness. I was sad that I had to bruise some cars in traffic this evening, thanks for reading and sorry for the lengthy right up.

Chairman e be like say you na learner were these naija babes them dey. How would you allow a girl break up with you? She's obviously in charge. Love with your brain. Sorry I don't intend going soft on any guy dumped by a girl. That shows your worth...
You can lose women chasing women, but you can never lose women chasing money. Go make your life better and a better one will come dieing for you.

opebiboy:
You are a confirm mumu. Death befalls all men anytime. It doesn't matter if you are good or bad and moreover there is no good person. We are all criminals cos everyone protects his/her personal interest. You don't hate yahoo, you just hate the fact that you are not the one making the money. Make jealousy kill you there!

Correct!
Even Jacob when join em mama collect em broda blessings na yahoo. God still love em bless em. People quote the Holy book but yet don't understand it. Believe it or not, any which way na way, just don't be caught...

dotun4luv:
The best answer I read so far. Meanwhile, those of us who are (certified) project manager find it difficult to get a well paid job, as a matter of fact, I haven't got any with mine.

If there are no good job opportunities, what's the use of the certificate?
Omo, enter street any which way hustle like there's no tomorrow. One day hustle go pay. From the cash, execute your big plans and build your future.
Remember, desist from anything in skirt in Nigeria. Most of them are dream killers. If them no carry belle for you, 1001 things go still go wrong.

BuhariDcow:
The best way for a fresh graduate? I think it's left. Yes, just turn left and walk straight dooowwnnn...
Oops! I'm sorry, you have to turn right.
I'm confused right now. I just called Buhari and he said it's more like a marching order.
Left right

Haha. When am depressed, I always come to get relieved from Nairaland. You guys are great here!

pocohantas:
Heya. I can feel your pains.

You know Lagos is like a country inside a country. Everything happens there. It has opportunities, infrastructure, ease of career developments...etc. Ironically, a very large percentage of Lagosians would never be able to access these things till they die. Maybe due to lack of funds or time.

When I was younger, during Xmas - people in the East would wait for we LAGOS chapter to arrive, like royals that we were. Not minding that we sometimes bought 3 seats for 7 persons (in Ekenedilichukwu or Chisco) and couldn't even afford buying suya at Benin.

-Oloshos in some remote states, consider it an upgrade moving to Lagos- it doesn't matter if they squat in a room with 10 other sisters.

Sometimes, some women forget the longterm goal, or maybe they just leave the man to bother his head about it- while they keep up appearances. You people need to have a retirement plan and with what you described, it is far from you. Except your wife is into a business or career that is very pro-Lagos, you need to wake her to the harsh realities of life. After the glitz of being a Lagosian, what next?

Sit her down and explain these things to her. Let her know it is taking a toll on your health. Is she bothered about the kids or she just can't stand going from a Lagos woman to an Onitsha or Osogbo woman.

Last last, all these things na buga, it is peace of mind and your longrun achievements that count.

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Thanks for your points. You really nailed it in the last paragraph.
Imagine a guy in Benin or Delta who could afford a piece of land for 1million and start off his project, and with 5 million self person no fit see em for Lagos, last last, na your achievements and peace of mind matter pass...
Thanks again

chukwuibuipob:
10 yrs and u dnt knw how to jump out/down from moving molue /danfo in motion. Young man,ti survive in lagos,u must have a THICK SKIN. U must be ready to wake up@ 3.00Am and hit the road at 4.weda ur office dey mainland/ island, no time for slow pipu here./arrive home ar 11pm .chop and sleep.

Haha, this is totally insane. A lot of mentally insane fellows in that noisy overcrowded state. 60% are poor, 30% are living a fake life. Only few got the wealth. Is that what you're enjoying?

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode]Greetings Fellow Nairalanders,
Please, matured advice only for those more experienced in situations like this would be highly appreciated.
I live and work in Lagos with my family since 10 years. Wife is busy  with a good business that has helped the family in trying times. No doubt, it's a small business,  but we know any business well managed can sell well in Lagos because of population density.  The kids attend good school. Imagine a full grown man has no #2,000 savings in his bank account even though all bills are paid and everything looks good, Everything seems like rat race. In the next couple of weeks again, we'll  start worrying about school feels, and the cycle goes on and on year after year, hoping that there are better opportunities that  may come someday.I got a job in another state, with less pay, less stress, but with peace of mind. I can drive within 20 minutes to my office, sleep 5 hours a night, less pollution which I can not achieve in Lagos.
The problem now is, wifee loves Lagos and doesn't welcome the idea of leaving the city. Seems am on my own, but I love my family.  Anytime I visit them, immediately I return, I'll have health issues like sore throat, tongue etc, I suspect this to be water or environmental effects from Lagos.
Last experience that scared me, I got another chance for an interview last month in a company slated for 12pm, I left my house 8am and got there 11:45am for a journey of 58minutes on Google map.
Long story short,  I've been here for 10 years, but never happy here since then because of the lifestyle,  yet my wife loves this crowded city. I think the stress here doesn't worth it. Please, share your opinion on how I can find happiness again with my family living together in a place I like.
Note,  other cities don't have the opportunities here...

Please How can we contact them to come and seal the pure water factory in my street (EVANS PURE WATER), the noise from their gen is terrible. They operate 24/7, you can't sleep at night or in the day plus this hot season.
No be small nuisance.

Bros, na normal thing. No mind people acting perfect. FOLLOW YOUR MIND. Go for the one you love provided you both will experience peace. No pity marry waiting you no want again, after all, na Facebook things.
She'll not hesitate to dump you for your friend if she got the opportunity. Relationship is win win. No point if you lose in it.

Ratello:
*Breaking: Buhari’s deteriorating health challenges, suffering from acute amnesia*

A source at the Aso Rock Villa, Abuja has revealed that the protracted health challenges of President Muhammadu Buhari has worsened.

It was revealed that President Buhari barely remembers most of his discussions with people. The source says..., *”If you discuss anything with Mr. President now, within few minutes of that discussion, the President will not be able to remember anything”*

It was also revealed that, that was the main reason President Buhari had directed his Ministers to report to his Chief of Staff, Mr. Abba Kyari and has also directed the Secretary to Government of the Federation, Boss Mustapha to handle most of government businesses.

The source also revealed that the President is always on steroid to keep him afloat and that a special clinic is being constructed in the President’s home town of Daura, Katsina state with some special doctors, imported to take care of the President’s deteriorating health.

It was rumored that the foreign doctors arrived Daura within the Sallah break and that was why the President extended his Sallah holidays in Daura. He was packaged for the Ministerial retreat and swearing in by the foreign doctors.

Part of the packaging was a special facial steroid injections, administered in order to inflate the face of Mr. President.

In addition to this, It was rumored that President Buhari collapsed during the recent Ministerial retreat in Abuja, but the news was carefully managed by the Nigeria’s security agents and his key staff.

His planed trip to Japan is another ploy by the cabal at the Presidency to smuggle the President for another round of medical treatment.

Nigeria is currently governed by a cabal at the Presidency and the entire affairs of the country is now in the hands of an unelected select few.

There is a deep division within the cabal as there are reports that the First Lady, Dr. Mrs Aisha Buhari has fled Nigeria due to threats to her life by other members of the cabal because of her opposition to their activities.

The current scenario at the Aso Rock Villa is similar to the situation in 2010, when certain cabinet ministers and some individuals at the Aso Rock Villa, hijacked government businesses during the period the late former President of Nigeria, Umaru Musa Yar’Adua was sick before he eventually died in May.

The only difference is that, during the Yar’Adua era, his wife Turai Yar’Adua, seems to be the leader of the cabal but in this case of President Muhammadu Buhari, his wife Aisha Buhari is excluded from the cabal and chased out of the country.

So, waiting come concern us?

Realbarc:
Let me say now that I know where you are going with this.

Under the new covenant and dispensation it is honourable and blessed to marry only one wife.

Try implement it under the old and outdated covenant i.e marry multiple partners will bring sorrow .

Cheers

Please just for clearer understanding. Marrying more than 1 is In the old testament and not necessary for us now, but paying of tithes is necessary for us now?

Michelle55:
The moment you start suspecting your partner, the bond between you two has been broken.. For you to check her phone(you already knew what awaits you) so asking us now is like seeking for validation on what to do next

So, your point is no need checking out on your fiancee's phone, because there'll always be poo to see.
It indicates infidelity is a norm now.
Wrong people everywhere...

partnerbizz5:
Waiting please.

That's why we can never grow.
Waiting this one won use Bsc hons or no hons do? That all the Nigerian schools can offer. That's why they can't discover or invent anything good for betterment of human race. They'll creat things that causes more isolation and separation.
Poor people....

I don't know how I found myself in this shithole settlement. Their mentality is almost the same.
Hmm

hisexcellency34:
With all these curves, why did the husband trash her like Buhari trashed Tinubu?

No matter how beautiful a lady is, someone is already tired of her...

[quote author=SageMK post=78222041]I see two humans being real.
No facade of make-up or over dressing for an occasion.

Their union will last long with little or less drama. Amen.[/quote

You just saw the right thing mate...]

queensera:
Bam Bam is probably the happiest person on earth at the moment are boyfriend Teddy A Kiss her at birthday Event.

WATCH VIDEO

Source:
http://nairaplus.com/2019/04/bbnaija-bam-bam-and-her-boyfriend-teddy-a-kiss-each-other-at-her-birthday-video/

Them kiss weiting come happen? How e take concern us?
nairaland.com is becoming too boring with irrelevant front pages.
I'd rather stick with Quora.

oduademoner:
Election duty is part of their patriotic responsibility.

In a sane and organized society...

toffyz:
No soldier fit do that to me if he no wear uniform, carry any weapon, and dey alone....i swear down!

Forget the scenario, one on one, nothing for the uniform man. He go die...

demo4ril97:
Many atimes, I just laugh it off when I hear guys going the extreme in a bid to satisfy a biatch that would most likely cheat, irrespective of how hard you hit. That how humans are wired to be insatiable, I can recollect how I had a fair share from one of my area bros gf who is always nagging how his hoe was such loyal, infact uncle get all what a girl should appreciate in a men but she wasn't contented.


I still have another parade and she is a crazy one, and am observing b4 making an attack.
I will just advice guy men to keep safety, your satisfaction before her selfish interest. If she no feel okay make she get a lovemachinè

He who leaves a fight, lives to fight better another day. You can't always win

You're the right nigga. No need killing yourself for a hole you'll never dig to the end.
Just be yourself and be natural than taking hard drugs to satisfy what doesn't exist...

ThisCouldBeUs:
She served you well. Must you collect her number and arrange a date? Can't you lift her with nothing attached? Weak men everywhere who would go for anything under skirt. Shame.

This is why this forum is becoming children's playground and boring for adults talk. If you got nothing to say about a topic, you no go waka pass? Na by force to comment?
Your point make no sense. Go live in mars

lefulefu:
no be every gehl wey u meet u must collect her number and she was even rude to u and u sti went ahead to collect number.some of una dey try o.

It's either you're thinking from your anus or you didn't understand what you read if you did.

Divay22:
I no understand this your story o

You na babe, you no go understand...

Fellow Nairalanders no be small thing today oo. I saw a girl looking stranded under the heat of the sun yesterday and I decided to give her a lift. Why i was asking her some vital questions as a stranger like your name, tribe and what she does for a living, na em the babe form vex oo, say my questions are much, and I apologised. Last last I collect number fix evening for first date, but it was a bad experience from her, due to her manners, so I didn't call. Fast forward, today I remembered and called her for a date, she said, okay I should come out quickly, after some minutes she called again that I should make it fast with commanding tone, but she no know say na confirm street boy she dey play with. "My ship, my rules..."
I still coordinate, immediately we saw, she said she's very hungry and she needs to eat first, that she can even eat a full caw, but by 7pm she's gone, and I met her around 6:33pm, meaning she got 30 minutes with me.
I asked her again after she received a call, 'will you still be leaving by 7pm", she said yes and i told her, babe, date councilled, we never met and she got off my car and I zoomed off.
She won use me chop evening food before, idiot !!!

It's also possible he just paid a price. A lot happen in the corporate world, some pull others down to climb. All may not have the love to ignore certain things.

Rip though...

greatnaija01:
my GUY, na wa o but u know say EVEN you, you are NOT A HUSBAND MATERIAL.... so you can NOT FIND a wife material.

you are both HYPOCRITES.... and she is an OPEN one.

you are not in a relationship, you are only tripping for a private prostitute or runs girl.

You have no standards apart from PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES.

Your ERECTION is solely controlling your DIRECTION.

your GP may enter wheelbarrow IF YOU CONTINUE WITH SUCH LOOSE CHOICES.

Have you heard this phrase? LIFE IS SPIRITUAL... If yes... consider that this girl may be into some deep stuff more than you o.

What is happening to you is simply INFATUATION.

GUY, focus on your books... such girls can only sleep with u for money and not love and they know what they carry, but I know you won't follow this advice because DOG THAT WILL GET LOST MUST FIRST BE DEAF TO THE MASTER's WHISTLE.

focus on your BOOK WORK. You are in School for BOOKwork not for HOOKup...

Don't start what you can not finish.

That was more than a fatherly advice you just gave that dude free of charge.

Offpoint:
It'll be best the doctors don't discharge me from the hospital, because it'll be a situation of from "Hospital to prison"

When I'm back, I'll slit her throat, cut her in pieces, boil her, fry her and eat her... then take video evidence and walk straight to police station with a million dollars smile on my face and toothpick in my mouth, her head in my hand.

Waaat??

emmaphy22:
I feel like sharing my experience with you guys.
I'm deeply in love with a girl and just about two months ago she relocated to another town as a result of her school. Communication between us as been good but just recently she complained to me that her phone is faulty that she is making use of her mom's phone. I promise to get her another phone and she said she just need a smaller phone. To cut the long story short, I sent her a small phone yesterday. Today I now discovered that she called her friend and told her that she just met a guy over there and that she as falling for the guy that the guy even bought her a smartphone that is bigger than mine. This girl in question each time I ask her if she is tired of our relationship she always get angry. I love her to the extent of even transferring the love to her family. But now I guess It's the right time I let go.

My colleague brought a girl to my house after we all left a bar feeling alright. I live in a compound with 4 self contains fenced and secured and only 1 co tenant. The girl romantically touched my prick when my colleague entered my room, and my co tenant was out with another crush. This is around 11pm still under the tree in the compound with a bottle of spirit and lots of smoke to keep the night watch and cool music in the background.
That was the first night I saw the lady. Immediately I reciprocate and felt the pussycat, she was ready to be bleeped. Well, I killed the action immediately before my colleague shows up.
Then I new the slot was out to feel my cock.
Fast forward, I slept in one of the free rooms, and they used mine. The next morning, my guy went out to get cegarate, I entered my room and bounced on the slot. I bleeped her and no body new except this forum.

Lesson:
No girl likes you but your money and looks except maybe your wife, sister or mother.
I actually drove my colleague, his new lady I just bleeped, my neighbour (co tenant) and his new girl friend to the bar we enjoyed ourselves, I took care of the bills and I just felt alright to entertain them all at least once in a while. I never talked or cared about of the girls, I was just doing my weed and drink, but I never new the girl was interested to Bleep me.
Anybody can be crazy sometimes, go into a relationship with your brain along.
Boys, girls can be funny anytime. Flirting is not monopoly to any sex or gender.

You, go to the link, copy it and paste it here....