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Tgirl4real: Hello people,
I think the party is over now. I saw this thread yesterday but wanted to know what's up before jumping in.
Please, let's stick to the topic. No insults, no off topics and certainly no false accusations.
Any offender will be rewarded with a 3-day ban.
Happy New Year and good morning all.

Fair enough, happy new year y all!

I am still waiting for the REAL nairaland feminist posters to respond not the trolls and ghosts!

jennykadry: Is it so difficult to ignore these kind of men?
This line of men are babies is becoming over rated. There there is no excuse whatsoever for a grown man to act like an eediot. Helloooooo whatever happened to women are the weaker vessel? Have we edited the bible and added "men are babies to it?". The one that almost made me hit my head on my laptop was the usual, If you ignore him another woman will give him attention...I say Goodluck to the woman because honestly, I wouldn't feel safe living in the same house with a man who chooses to talk to me once in a year. I would definitely pack some little bags and stay elsewhere, when he is ready to talk to rectify the issue he knows where to find me and if he insists his lawyer do the talking, then I will have my pen waiting to sign the dotted lines. What is the difference between this OP an a single lady? At least a single lady sef better ,cos she would still be receiving heaps of attention from her "toasters".
This is bullsh*t and I cannot believe people are puttin up with this crap.

This is the worst kind of immature silliest comment I have ever heard in Nairaland! No man I repeat no man carries a grudge for months on flimsy offense. The likely thing is that the OP is taking her husband for granted and ignoring her is the best way to deal with it. I can tell you that the man is seriously hurting inside. OP should thank her stars a lot of men are very gentle if not she for hear am!

PureOhio: Are you scared?
Seun has been alerted and will be here later in the day to reveal who jadore is.

Chillisauce: I want to turn to a goat for 3 yrs just to have a taste of your great and wonderful life dinachi

Mods please take note I don't want any goat except for Christmas and New year pepper soup!

Chillisauce: I am already cursed! There is no amount of curse that will be worse than the one i am currently suffering.
I will always be cursed

I am not surprised!

Hey people she is trying to wriggle out of this one but we won't let her. Now I know that I have been arguing with trolls and ghosts..I will make a mental note to stop replying her as multiple individuals.

This nonsense must stop.

As usual the feminists do what they do best....accusing men for all their woes..

You get busted for idiocy..you turn around at the next man and point your crooked finger at him!

Chillisauce: Do you think I'm here for any argument
Like I said, I give my opinion and move on,I don't do debate cos it's time wasting for me. I can read put in one or two and move the hell on. Not everyone sleeps in nairaland.
As per those user names, i still maintain they are yours.
Linda20
Donjazzy
Dante,...
I'm sure there are others, but you have to grow the hell up and stop those childish attitude that makes ppl sick.

You are mentally incapable of any mature discourse. Your other monicker was just exposed and you are here pointing accusing fingers!

Instead of admitting your idiocy, you now go ahead to point fingers at your betters.

One word for you...get a life..

ileobatojo: I had a brief sneaky suspicion that it was one of the jobless people on the other side of the argument responsible for the drama yesterday. This is not the first thread where something like this has been done. Two people arguing a topic, a 'newbie' shows up to support one. The other accuses their co-debater of being the newbie, meanwhile, they or their cohort is behind the newbie. It has been done before.
Anyway, when I accidentally stumbled on the fact that two of the monikers claimed by Coogar have never existed on nairaland, it all fell into place quite easily.

Oh please stop embarrassing yourself you are a very dense fellow! How do you even have the conscience to talk trash? You lie through your teeth at every twist and turn, you accuse people of what you do always...and here i was busy thinking you maybe a worthy opponent in this debate.

The best way to respond to people like you is to absolutely ignore them. You represent piss and shit, everyday exhibiting embarrassing naivety on issues you know next to nothing about..

That is how you accuse every Tom Dick and Harry who bests you in an argument...I am absolutely ashamed of you!

@ OP you still didn't say what the fight was all about..

What does she want you to change?

When I was talking about the need for would be spouses to adjust themselves to flow with their partners in another thread, some people were running their mouths there...

@ OP it is not a lost course...maybe she thinks you are not genuine in your apologies to her.

Get somebody she absolutely respects to talk to her about your noble intentions...beg the person to invite her....and in the person's presence...make your pitch to her..

GOODLUCK!

@ OP ...You need to ask yourself....if you can put up with this kind of thing before you will go for her...Normally...I would have liked to hear the situation out before i will give my advice... My observation....

You are really in love with this lady and that is very commendable....If after all these years you still find that you miss her then indeed she is an asset....don't mind people that come here to advice you to leave her....many of them are wimps in real life...some of them would even have had nervous breakdown by now...

Secondly what did you really say to her? Was it a Chauvinistic remark or a derogatory remark?

Be frank to yourself. Are you really sorry about what you said or you just miss her..

Cosmass: WOOOOOW! Hold up! Geez some of you here are really, really harsh. I did not disappear, I went to church and went out too. Wasn't available on here. I just read everything now even the fights (don't want any fight here) I have read your opinion and yes I do have parents, friends etc and they have all told me the same to forget him. They are also very upset but it's left for me to move on even without answers, even with the manner he handled it even if he didn't want to be with me again.
I think it would pay off a long way for some of you commenting to at least know the background before concluding all sorts? You reall think money is the issue Let him come and tell you where he was working when I met him, the car he was even driving, My job was better than his. He was a mere banker, marketing. Even after he showed me where he stayed, his folks, what they do etc, and there was money, I still told him point blank that I wasn't really interested deeply with him that let us take it slowly so what are you talking about Mr. onegig And there is nothing like having a spare girl etc. The marriage wasn't forced. He was the one who proposed to me. He even called his folks to tell them he has proposed. From what I heard, his mum and him were even the ones to go get the ring so I don't really understand what you are talking about.
I have to agree with you on all of these. The main issue is the aftermath. Someone even told me so if you cheated, committed the worst of atrocities, then you will be finished.
Haba! Relax. I am still here. i did not give half truths, I just don't want to keep narrating the same story since based on all I've said, to move on, that's why I only wanted to email him based on his opinion.
People also advised me to be cautious. That assuming we marry now, I might even be scared to break plates because I now know the whole family would be involved.

Happy New Year Cosmass!

I couldn't say it better than you have put it. Many people on the board are experts in condemning relationships, meanwhile if you place them in the same situation, they will do worse....it is these feminist bullshit flying around these days. The moment you have any challenge with your fiance or husband , all the feminists will advice you to leave him immediately...they don't care to know...the efforts you have put into the relationship...They just want to sound tough....and usually they don't have any option for you....they are after creating an army of bitter, misguided women who hate men with the last drop of their blood.

Like I said earlier...every relationship has a history. shalom!.. enjoy your new year orishirishi...you deserve it

jennykadry: Lol, EOD. No too much talking.

Discussion continues! No trolling. Happy New year to all the trolls, ghosts and actual human beings on this thread and on Nairaland! May this new year witness less trolling and more genuine discussions.

Liberal feminism . Is that your defense? So you guys are now liberal feminists? Fair enough, but until you out rightly condemn those hate messages of the feminist movement against the marriage institution , I still see all of you as one and the same!

I will be back shortly to expatiate...very busy....both my jaw and my hands....if you know what I mean!

Baby mama: Excuse you!
If you wan chop the girl,go chop am
Which one is my own
She will come back with another thread and people will give advice
Every responder here is mad,jealous as u put it and you are the only sane one?
Comot jor make I find eye see berra place to do breakthrough service

My friend talk like a real baby mama...which one be chop again...how can that kind of gutter language emanate from your mouth?

If she decided to take my advice which one is your own....why are you angry with her? Must she take your advice even if it didn't make sense...

I know one or two things about relationships and many of you here being harsh to her here will not do any better in real life...if you don't like the fact that she talked to me ...please quietly go and get a life...

Oh you are angry that she still loves the man abi....cover your faces joor ....for some people love still exists!

Baby mama: I came in late in this party and to the Op I would say these
How dare you insult the intelligence of people by starting a thread ,actually threads on your issues and people comment sincerely to help you then you go offline to tell details to a poster?
If he is the only person who understands you and your situation then spare us and unburden on his manly shoulders ,let him help you wipe your tears and energize you to fight for your man.( whatever that stupid term means)
Based on what I have read so far ,irrespective of who did what,the bottom line is that a man doesn't want you
That is the main story here
He has told you that himself
His family has hold you the same
Please gather up the dignity you have left and move on
Have you no mother and father?
relatives?
No friends?
How can a man use you and play ludo like this and you are still dreaming of the same man and crying over him
Move on sweetie
He doesn't want again
Na by force?
If dinachi is available marry him na
E no get money?

At least you have learnt something...no relationship is perfect and every relationship has a history....the way you got married may not be the way every other person will tie the knot.....try and be understanding....I have said enough.....I am going to be unavailable till 2014....in a few hours...happy new year in advance!

We APC supporters are praying, fasting and sowing seeds to ensure that Peoples Destruction Party(PDP) Presents the Otuoke retarden in 2015. It will be the greatest testimony of the year! Humbling will be an epic one. Please Jonathan run.....run to Otuoke!

Woged2005: All the luck, and have a wonderful new year ahead!

Thanks! I wish you a more prosperous and fulfilling 2014...

Woged2005: Ok thanks. But it's been u against an entire crowd of differing opinions and commentators. Hope u win the entire community on the debate. I really enjoyed the e-debate though bc it's matured and without personal insults like other threads!..Nairalanders are improving. Reminded me of debating societies in school in those days, where teachers taught us to address our opponents with respect as 'honorable co-debaters'...LoL! All the luck, and have a wonderful new year ahead!

@ bolded It is because most people like to play to the gallery, i don't!

I say it the way it is and some people can't just relate with that

sapiosexual: The increasing rate of divorce is because women now understand that they are not supposed to be robots for their dictator husbands, and husbands now understand that they are not objects to be continously verbally abused by their wifes. No one should be trapped in an unhappy marriage. If divorce is what it takes then so be it. Life is too short for bullshit.

I beg to disagree... in the US alone 85% of divorce cases are initiated by women! They are simply responding to the hate filled messages of the mainstream feminists...

Now you seem to expose a basic lack of relationship principles..I don't disclose my personal information on public boards like this... A MARITAL relationship where you are not adding value and receiving value is not worth it. You are supposed to help each other become better... some learn patience ....others learn....tolerance....If you can do it alone then you shouldn't marry in the first place.....your spouse is supposed to compliment you and smoothen your rough edges...that is what i mean by change...until you change your perception that relationship is a competition instead of complimentary you may never understand what I am saying...

They both need to make adjustments....the relationship can be saved..