Use GTB very good service, I think they even have a branch here in London

Please could someone give me more info on the identity of Prof. Ayodele. My Chemistry teacher in secondary school was called Ayodele, I hope he is not the one!

None na sign of poverty

It is way harder for a man, because in most cases, men do the approaching and always  have to face the possibility of rejection

@Poster Pleaseeeeeeeeeeee move on. Never be a third wheel. This is your happiness at stake, u will find many many other women much better than her

girlkell:

pls abeg, FuTo aint bad oh, all unis in naija are stressful.all dis ppl sayin trash about futo just culdnt survive or get admision to the school, its a gud school for intelligent and hardworking peeps, bt i dont think pharmacy is offered as a course there,

If u where in the Physics dept in FUTO u wont be saying this

Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee if u have the opportunity to study in the UK take it. And please dont mention FUTO if u dont want to live with regrets. Nigerian universities are NOT fun they are HELL! I was once a student at FUTO, I left after 4yrs without completing my course, I am now studying in the UK and I have no regrets

As an introvert, I find this article very true! One thing I dont understand about extroverts is the many superficial and shallow relationships they have

Eiffel tower Paris

Bros there is no such thing as 'back to the drawing board' move on immediately! and get a new girl, what would give this girl joy, is to see u miserable, just become indifferent to her and she would begin to wonder if she ever mattered to you

Until I joined Nairaland, I did not realise a lot of ladies lack common sense. How can the idea of a male best friend even be vaguely realistic. Look at it the other way, would you like your husband to have a female best friend?

Tinibu was in London a couple of days ago, he attended Whiz Kid, Basket mouth and P square's concert. I saw him, and he did not look unwell

I am sick and tired of all these anti-abroad postings, I wonder how they make it to the front page.

Kudos to the police, we want more of this from them

Kudos to the police, we want more of this from them

Thats a woman's game, manipulation. They even manipulate themselves

harakiri:


The same female SHAMING tactics i talked about earlier. Who is bashing who? If i had come here and jumped on the "mother's R us" bandwagon like everyone else then i would be labelled a "real man" by the ladies (as if they have any idea what the words mean) but when i come here and spit some real truths, then i am a woman basher, who hates women, bla bla bla. It's so typical of women to have such myopic view points that it sometimes makes me think that all women round the world are connected to one gigantic "emo-database" from which messages are downloaded straight into their brain hence the "herd mentality" amongst them.

Once again, how many women here would prefer to go barren all their lives? How many of them would be happy if their husbands preferred they remain childless throughout the marriage all because they don't want them "sacrificing" their bodies? The same women who are talking about their "sacrifices" are the same ones that would do anything under the sun to get pregnant even if it means going to a babalawo and swallowing human parts! ! !

The reason why a lot of people here are biased towards their mothers isn't far fetched. WOMEN MANIPULATE THE MINDS OF THE CHILDREN BY OVER PAMPERING THEM! It's that simple. Take these examples for instance :

(1)A teenage son who recently learnt how to drive wants to cruise in his father's latest Mercedes S-550 for the weekend. Every normal thinking father would object. He now goes to his mother to coax her to plead with his dad. Dad still refuses. Mom now takes the keys from the table and gives to him after father has gone out, he takes the car for a spin, over-speeds while trying to impress people,crashes the car and ruins the head lights. At the end of the day, it's still his same mother that will take sides with him and even have the guts to tell the father that he should be "grateful" their son didn't die in the accident. During adulthood, who do you think that child will feel more attached to? Of course, it's the mother who permits all his nonsense to happen all in the name of being a "caring and loving" mother.

(2)A teenage daughter who's discovering "herself" and notices that boys are now more interested in her than before wants to go out to a Saturday all night party. Her dad objects. She pleads with mom to plead with dad. Dad still objects stating all the things that go wrong in parties e.g drinking,smoking,drug use and casual sex. Mom now permits her to go out silently in the night while dad is sleeping. She gets to the party, drinks, all what not happens there, she comes home the next morning looking like something the cat dragged in and Dad is angry. Mom sides her and even tells Dad that she's a "grown" girl now and she isn't his little girl anymore. She should be allowed some freedom, bla bla bla. All this while, the person that's really looking out for the girl's interest is the DAD because he knows what boys do in parties and he doesn't want her future ruined with adolescent pregnancy but who cares right? Who do you think such a daughter will feel attached to? Once again, it's the same mother.

Most of these people screaming "MOTHER,MOTHER,MOTHER" are doing so out of bias and nothing more. A lot of them have gotten away with a lot of crap while growing up and their main "accomplice" was mom. Dads are objective when it comes to their children. They look at the big picture. They think 10,20,30 years from now while mother's focus on the present. It's such a shame that most dads aren't appreciated until they are dead and gone. That is when people reminisce on the old days, their current responsibilities and understand how hard it was for their dad to be "the man" of the house. A lot of men die early deaths (mainly from stroke/cardiac arrest/heart attacks/brain tumor) all because they worry all night and day about the future of their family and yet at the end of the day, their efforts are under appreciated. Mom takes all the glory coz she "carried them for 9 months". What if your dads decided to use surrogate mothers in bringing you into the world (like Micheal Jackson did)? Would you be saying the same thing? How about test tube babies? People could be so naive a lot of times and it's saddening.

I know a guy that sends home N50k to his mom and N10k to his dad every three months. When i asked him why the anomaly and differences, he started mumbling the usual "she carried me for 9 months and changed my diapers" crap and that his father was "strict" with him when he was growing up. I then proceeded to ask him, how about your dad that worked hard to see you through nursery school to the university and thereafter, he was forced to sell his property in Lagos (a bungalow that i'm aware of) and some of his land in the village to send you abroad for your masters degree? How about all those times he rescued you from trouble during secondary school and university days? How about the fact that were you are working now and earning a fantastic salary is all because of his connections? He just stared at me and remained speechless! Anyways, he has a 2 year daughter now and he's gradually begin to understand that being a father involves more than impregnating a woman and feeding the child. He now has more respect for his dad and what he sends across to him has been "upgraded". . .lol

So many fathers who earn good money every month are broke shortly after working out the family upkeep. Even if the man and woman earn the same salary, he still puts in more than the woman all in the name of being a "real man". While his wife and children dress well and look good, he wears the same ol same ol rags he's been wearing for years. While his mates are busy buying state of the art cars, travelling overseas and living large, he pumps all he has into investing for his family e.g buying land,building houses, opening fixed deposit accounts/trust funds and so much more. A lot of men out there live their ENTIRE LIVES for their children and yet, their glory remains unsung.

Really sad!

Man u deserve a medal, u are speaking clealy and u are not clouded by emotions. Society in general promotes a feminist agenda. Thats why we have so much wimps as men these days. I would go only as far to say that they both contribute equally. What really pisses me off is people continously downplaying the fathers role

mama-gee:

Mothers and fathers take equal sacrifices. ,

They just take equal measures, no one takes more nor less.

Better comment, the person who sang sweet mother should also sing sweet father

Men make the sacrifices and do not complain, the only time u know a man is having a tough time is when he starts drinking, Women on the other hand make all the noises, so they get easily noticed when they make sacrifices. Just picture a home where the man has no job and the woman takes care of the house, the neighbours would surely hear it. I am not taking anything away from the women folks, but we just have to be honest, its not usually the person who cries the loudest that suffers the most

Sacrifice is doing something with little benefit to yourself

PhysicsMHD:


However, women (usually) sacrifice more by stunting their careers for marriage, in my opinion.

I dont call that a sacrifice, because getting married is most ladies desire, very few would consider a career instead of marriage. Ask most girls what their goals are, it's usually having a rich dude to come marry them off

Ujujoan:

Thanks oyb. it takes a real man to acknowledge his weakness. Take note Daya . . . (and dat mad man Harakiri).

Yh rite!!! but does it take a real woman to acknoledge theirs, women would never agree they are wrong they would always want to win an arguement

harakiri:

What do you mean by the "reddened" statement above? What does a woman "give up" to have a family? How many women on this forum would prefer to go through their lives single and without children all because they have a lot "going for them"? Na all dis reetarded sentiments dey put me off nairaland. The only person that really gives up a lot of things to raise a family is the MAN! ! ! I'll assume that you're from a monogamous marriage set up. Do you know that your father could have had you and several other children from other women whilst remaining single all his life? Do you know how much self control and discipline a man has to exercise all because he wants his family set up to "work"? Do you know all the nonsense he had to tolerate from your mother all because he didn't want his children been raised by a single mother? Do you know how many times he almost made up his mind to quit the marriage but decided to endure all the nagging and senseless rubbish because of his children? Men as sooooooooo underrated by children and it's sad. Perhaps when some of the men here become fathers some day, they'll have a different view. Most of the people commenting here are doing so out of sentiment and reminiscing on old "mommy songs" they heard during childhood e.g "Sweet mother" and the "My Mother" poems!

Really sad.

GBAM u said it! it's time for people to love their fathers, maybe thats why men on the average live shorter than their wives

harakiri:

The way people are screaming mothers in here would make you wonder what father's contribution really is in a marriage set up. Fathers go out to war each day fighting the forces of lack and poverty. They strive hard to give their wife and children the best they can afford. They struggle each day amidst all the trouble,nagging and frustration to keep the family together and at the end of the day, after all their suffering. . .they still have to literally beg for their children's love. Mothers ALWAYS get all the credit. Makes me wonder if all the stress is worth the effort at the end of the day.

This is the best comment so far. Fathers are sooooooooooooooo overlooked, women draw too much attention to themselves. Not to take away anything from mothers they are trying.

This really annoying. Why are some women so insecure. She has relegated you to a child who could be harmed by talking to the house maid. Some women sef. But she is free to speak to men or if u have a house boy she can speak to him freely. Irritating!

When men get to their 50's they no longer think straight. Who in his right mind would leave comfort to HELL?. When they kidnap him. people will say it is the work of the devil.

This is the best time for a coup to occur, with the power vaccum as Aso Rock and a reluctant V.P

@ell77

If I get the visa, and I make it to the UK late, do u think the university would accept me after Oct. 30th?(I have called and they say they are not going to extend my registration date beyond Oct. 30) Will I be able to plead my case?

The course I was undergoing in nigeria is a 5yr undergraduate course, I am currently in 3rd yr of that course. I decided to apply to Hertfordshire (Sept entry) and leave this course I am taking in nigeria and apply to Herfordshire. I told Hertfordshire about my situation and asked for a yr 1 entry instead of the foundation I was initially given. They agreed, but when I recieved the visa letter, Under the heading 'Document used to obtain offer of a place' it was stated 'Transcript from final year entry', which is incorrect. What should have been there is 'Transcript from 300 level till date' I guess they assume that been in 300 level implies final yr.

I asked for Jan entry because I felt that I would not meet their Oct. 30th registration deadline. (Today is Oct 14 before I get the Visa letter is probably next wk and visa application can take up to to wks.) They said no Jan entry. Pls What do u advice me to do in this situation?

Hello ell77

I recently gained an admission to the University of Hertfordshire, and I was given foundation yr entry as I am currently a 3rd yr student at a University in Nigeria I ask University of Hertfordshire if they could give me a yr 1 entry instead of the foundation yr I was given previously. They agreed on the condition that I send my Transcripts of results to them, which I did.

However after meeting all their requirements and the visa letter sent to me, I notice that what was written on the visa letter was incorrect. Under the heading 'Document used to obtain offer of a place' it was stated 'Transcript from final year entry' This is incorrect because 3rd yr in Nigeria is not final yr as implied on the visa letter. I sent a mail back to them stating the problem and asked if I could defer my entry to Jan 2010 because of the delay in getting a new visa letter and then applying for the visa. They replied stating that they do not have Jan entry for Undergraduate courses.
(I have paid half of the tuition)

What do u think I should do because I know very well that the embassy will surely point on that aspect on the visa letter, wondering what will make a final yr student want to start all over again.

Thanks for the reply ell77. But wat if I send just my parents a/c statement along with a letter of sponsorship. The money in the a/c is more than 28 days and it meets their requirement, Will they insist on seeing my a/c(I am applying via Tier4 adult student category).

hello ell77. I have paid 4000GPB tuition deposit(half of the tuition) to the skool I am applying for. My start date was 21 September but my visa letter(which arrived late) stated that that my registration deadline is 30th October. I have the remaining funds, including maintenance in my parents a/c and also my a/c(i.e 9400 in my a/c and another 9400+++ in my parent's a/c). but the money in my a/c is not up to 28 days but that of my parents meet the requirement. What do u advice do I show statements of just my parents a/c or I show both my parents a/c and mine because mine is not up to 28 days