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refreshrate:
consultants and motivational speakers two sets of people I absolutely cannot stand!

Sometimes that is true. I just wonder, what is it that they really do.

Am really impressed. The guy has got guts. That this bid failed is more a lesson. He did well in trying. Moreover it definitely has exposed him to workings of doing deals on the global stage. Definitely in later times, he will definitely achieve big deals and go places.

This is the kind of news we are supposed to be hearing from some of this rich kids. Thereby inspiring those of us who are entrepreneurs to aspire for higher strides. Kudos to paddy, I throw way salute for you. Never knew you were this ambitious. Kudos man

Jupxter:
I second this comment :


Make up your mind, prayerfully and wisely select, stick with her, add great value into her life, make her a better person. She will appreciate it and place a great value on your person. And honestly you will get the best from her. When you truly and genuinely make a woman happy, they are very wonderful creatures, she will give you heaven on earth. And they know when someone is genuine to them, they always know. And they will give you the best of them.



Waiting for the right person many people say, but they stop to ask, wait a minute, what is the right person? How will i recognise him/her when i see the person? There's no such thing as right person, we need to just make our minds, be resolute in our stance, and set a course towards the objective. Build the person, add value to the person, overlook the flaws, be consistent, be upright, and watch the relationship blossom, i believe women are wonderful creatures if well taken care of, they only turn to lion when they perceive things are not going in line with what they had in mind or are receving poor treatment

You know women are wonderful creatures, very special indeed. A woman will go the extra mile to make you happy. But most times we guys are the problem here.

Women are totally different from us. Most men treat women like they are your fellow man. Most times women behave like children, ifact sometimes they can really be strange. But you must understand your role as a man. The woman in your life and the kids that come are all meant to be your responsibility as a man. When a man understands that, he has solved a lot of his own problems. That is the responsibility that nature has given to us as a man, our calling as man.

Jupxter:
This is it here :


Most times God is waiting on them to really make up their mind.


God is working on the mind of the guys. And consistency must be upheld especially when guys feel like dropping the towel...


True @ You must forbear a lot of stuffs. No one is perfect, every one has their own issues. So learning to accept someone, overlook some stufs and be determined to work things out.


There's no right one, the right one is the good one we cultivate a healthy relationship with. There's no right one, it frustrates and push people to walk on a wandering path, e go come, e go come, and they keep procastinating over and over and over, where as healthy relationships can be built, and developed from the good relations we share with the opposite sexes...

That is what most of them don't understand. They should take a very good look at themselves. Are they perfect? Not at all. So how then will they be looking for the right one or perfect one when they themselves are not. And that is human nature for you.

Waiting for that perfect person you will wait till eternity. Make up your mind, prayerfully and wisely select, stick with her, add great value into her life, make her a better person. She will appreciate it and place a great value on your person. And honestly you will get the best from her. When you truly and genuinely make a woman happy, they are very wonderful creatures, she will give you heaven on earth. And they know when someone is genuine to them, they always know. And they will give you the best of them. Am talking from experience

I think we will really work on this topic, because I noticed that many decent guys are going through these stuffs. But one thing I know is that they will finally get settled. Most times God is waiting on them to really make up their mind.

Then also an article I read today buttressed some facts. Let me share it;

To have a working relationship there must be an element of sacrificial love. It must cost you something. If you are a selfish and self-centered person, you will be far away from genuine happiness.

You must forbear a lot of stuffs. No one is perfect, every one has their own issues. So learning to accept someone, overlook some stufs and be determined to work things out.

But if you are waiting for that perfect one, you will wait till eternity. You take whom you get, and make masterpiece outvof the person. You add value into the persons life. And you will be surprised the fulfillment and happiness you will get in the end

Jupxter:
No bro.. We are Christians naa...Make as many female friends as possible, and grow your friendships, somewhere something would pop out


Toks, my eyes has been on you for say 6 months now, these issues are psychological o, they are boundaries you've created within your mind limiting you ....you should speak to someone o. I mean guys that have walked this path or are currently walking this path. You need to break the psychological defenses you set up in your mind...Until you see no need for rules, limitations, principles, the rules you created are the bind that has kept you remanded in singlehood, it's time to unshackle bro, let go off the principles you've been working with for a very long time.... You don't need them,, step out and walk over the water bro

I believe he has something to learn from some of us. We had our standards, but by God's enablement we were able to get it right.

Another thing I discovered is simply this; God set up this institution called marriage and if you genuinely go with God, you will be shocked. In my own case, the thing really still looks very very strange to me.

The mistake many people make is that they go into marriage without God, but rather there own making and most times it is seriously a dead end and management. But if anyone want to have peace, unspeakable joy in marriage, then ensure you go with God

Toks2008:
These things are easier said...

It is only because we are responsible guys dith the love of GOD else what is my business with marriage when I can be single and free to be with as many ladies as I desire.

As far as I'm concerned,I will not compromise my stands on what I want...I may not get exactly what I want but I won't settle for anything...i am a very visual person and if my wife is not pleasing to my eyes then no need fooling myself...there are billions of sweet ladies all over the world...it will only takes patience expecially when you find yourself in a developed country where ladies live very well without husbands.

Haha well I understand you. Most times these are stronghold on our mind. Honestly. P

Jupxter:
Only wise people can relate to this :




Your angel will never come announcing to you 'hey I am your angel' no your Angel will alwayls come in disguise.

My brother that quote has made so much sense to me. In relationship, business etc, I have seen it many times. We humans we always look things based on our perception and because of that despised our destiny.

Like I was telling toks in my relationship and settling down, I was was looking at all those spec women but my woman now was never anything my spec, but Lo and behold all those other so called specs I dated like 4 of them, if you put them together, they can never even amount to one quarter amount of my woman worth now. Very kind, nice, good heart, not quarrelsome, sweet, lovely, obedient etc. Men that was how I would have wasted my destiny with one of those them miserable so called spec. I really thank God, I never despised my angel when she came around.

And likewise in business and moneymaking. The deals that will change our lives may come in a very unattractive package.

Toks2008:
Bro my problem is not women..if I want a woman today I can get but I need deliverance from the habit of being too picky.MAY GOD HELP ME.

Bro don't be picky, one thing I have discovered is that almost every one of them women are the same, just know what you want.
I was once like that, my spec demand was this high. After going through subsequent relationship, I just saw that my expectation was just very high.


I stopped being picky and in the end got a very wonderful woman. Someone I would say was not my spec in all those picky times or my levels.

I stopped low, but she worships me, really upgrading her seriously, she appreciates it so much and so much gives me peace of mind.

In fact the woman that will transform your life is not all those spec we men rush for, but just someone you may even despise when you see her first time. Same thing happened with my friend, was very picky, but a wonderful lovely girl was around him, whom he was looking down on, at the end he gave her a try, today, he tells me, after some years together, that this was the best decision he ever made. His home is heaven.

There is this quote that has made so much meaning to me: your angel will never look like an angel, your angel will always come in disguise. And that is why many people miss their destiny and become miserable in life. Your angel will never come announcing to you 'hey I am your angel' no your Angel will always come in disguise.

I have learnt so much of life's lessons from that quote

franchasng:
lies, while growing up, a girl in my street, very cute girl when I reflect on it now, did everything she could for me to have sex with her, she bought me gifts, Mr. Biggs, printed love cards, tried forcing me to no avail, guess what she did next She went to report me to my elder brother that I tried to rape her, my brother was so angry with me and I couldn't defend myself other than to sob like a baby, I still remember that experience with laughter lol


Things like this happen everyday, even colleagues, even in school, once u are intelligent in school, expect it..its not always about looks, so many things turn ladies on for a guy...it maybe looks, it maybe fame, money, intelligence, dress sense, attitude, commitment to God, just name it.

So don't listen to ladies sounding santimonous here, most are hypocrites

You can say that again, na Who the thing never happen to. My own was a lady then a nurse, someone introduced us and then I just wanted to visit her, she told me she was at work. I come reach there, she told me I should wait for her in there nursing waiting room, later she came before you know wetin they happen this babe rush me kiss. As man I be na so romance start and that babe can kiss. Next we were on bed, but I have said I will never have sex except my wife. She was pulling her clothes, really pushing me, but I was saying in my mind, I will never have sex. I began cooling the high temperature, cool am. I tell am make she wear her clothes, she did, after sometime I left. This babe was beginning me to come my house, because I was living on the different side of town. I no gree. She will call and be begging. I didn't because I know if she dare come my house, I cannot hold myself so I avoided it.

Another lady this one young banker got to know me, said there was something different about me, was interested in me, beg me she wan come my house. I no gree. She sote come my church program so that after she go follow me go my house. I off my phone that night she no see me. Tried many other ways.

Me I like woman of substance and virtue. one that values her body. So those of them that throw themselves at me then me then, na run I dey run immediately.

And thank God I found that woman of substance finally. A very rare one. And it took me years, but I finally found her

Honestly this guy is just not normal again. Wetin concern this guy with people giving to church.

Can you imagine the nonsense he quoted. Giving, sowing in Church is giving to God. And those of us that has been doing it since time immemorial. He can rant all he want, it won't stop people from giving to God, and it wont stop baba God from blessing our hustle.

And another thing, one billion freezes can never ever stop the advancement and progress of the Church of God, it is like kicking against a rock, you will definitely get tired or kill yourself with frustrations. The Church will keep marching on, and there is nothing they can do about it.

Fitbillionairep:
U will be poor and useless like your father for life

Abeg shut it there. Do you know him. Have you heard of Warren Buffet, do you know how much the market capitalisation of his company berkershire Hathaway but he lives a very simple life. And he is by far wealthier than dangote. Even Bill Gates, just last week in world economic forum in Davos Switzerland, did you see how simple he was?

This is the major problems blacks have, little money they go bankrupt. How much is patoranking even making to be fronting this expensive stuff.

When celebrities wey don hammer better money still later got broke; Tyson blew away fortune over $200million, holy field over $200million, Allen iverson over $150 million, even 50 cent done broke with all the noise he was making.

People like you don't even know the value of money, and you will come here claiming rich.

Odingo1:
I guess that guy doesn't understand the light skin the white man is talking of, not the light skin like Europeans, but Igbos have alot of yellow skin people just like Fula people but fulas have more of light skin people than Igbos.

Yes you are right. Because the Europeans thought all black Africans are very dark but they were surprised to see very light skinned ones among the igbos then. Yeah you are right about
Fulani people, very light skinned

Malawian:
Unripe Plantain in my dialect is called "Unyere" I dont known anything like ogede.

My own dialect we call it unere
Rice-osikapa, agbalumo is udara in igbio
Masquerade - mmuonwu
Evil spirit - ajomuo
Holy Spirit - muonso
Holy - nso
Sin - njo
Ugly - njo obasanjo in igbo can be termed obusonjo meaning he is so ugly (hahaha) abeg I dey respect baba, it is just the tone of his name in igbo.

Then olaniyi in igbo means someone that is on the path of destruction onaananiyi or onalaniyi in some other dialect

Originalsly:
I hear you.Hmmm...so during this period of war he was exploring... and knew they were Igbos...maybe they were Albinos?...or offsprings of his fellow European travellers who sexually exploited the natives?...like they do today? So what happened to those light skinned Igbos he said he saw?...they became extinct?
No offence....I just happen to be a critical thinker!

Are igbos not light skinned? My mum is light skinned, as fair as Caroline danjjuma, three of my sisters carry her complexion. My dad is dark brown me I am chocolate color, not too light. And all of us are full igbos. My mums grandma was very light skinned, I never met her, she died in the late sixties and she died in her late 90s age meaning she was born in late 1800s. My mum and 3 of her sisters got the light skinned genes from there grandma and my mum passed that same gene to her children.

Igbos have a lot of light skinned people among black Africans. And it had been like that from past, and we never had contacts with the Europeans then,

SIRTee15:
I'm Yoruba but I absolutely agree with u....
U cant claim civilisation without anything to show for it....
An advanced civilisation goes beyond conquering n subjugating ur neighbours....
There must be both physical n social evidence of such empire visible to all.....
I live in canterbury and I marvel at the city walls, cathedrals, castles etc built hundreds of years ago by its inhabitants.....
Thousands come from all over the world just to visit these monuments.....
Where is the contemporary of such in ancient African civilisation....
None bothered to invent the wheel to make transportation easier....
None made effort to have an organised n structured religion strong enough to resist foreign ones.....
None of the traditional healers made any effort whereby knowledge of herbs could be taught n passed on in a structured manner in order to prevent abuse n corruption of the practice.... .
Ancient civilisation has a standard definition n redefining it to suit to own ego is unacceptable.....
Rather, let's learn from our ancestors n ensure we build a proper African civilisation we can proudly bequdeath to our children.

Thank you so much, you are indeed a learned man. I salute you. What most of this people don't understand is that when you compare our so called civilization as Africans to other past civilizations from around the world, you may even begin to feel that we are inferior.

A highly learned friend was arguing with me one day and I asked him to tell me one black African tribe that had a form of written language. The guy couldn't talk again because the language we write today was given it to us by colonialists.
But check many languages today Arabic, Hebrew, Chinese, Korean, Japanese etc there languages was dated more than 2000years ago

When I was residing overseas I took interest in one Korean drama named dae joyoung, it was dated like 1500 years ago. It showed there kings, dynasties and how each kingdom were fighting against the other one. These kings had tactitians, strategists, philosophers, generals, they were highly organized. They had libraries and books. Then come back to our African civilization, was there anything like that. That is why there is so much backwardnes. And am sorry to say it Nigeria and many African nations will continue to be in perpertual mess because majority of the populace don't think, don't use their brain, not creative etc infact less than 1percent actually use there brain. Just very few and that's why a nation like ours is in the mess she is in today.

Probz:
Yoruba Igbo
Ogun Ogwu
Iba Iba

That guy is arguing from ignorance. Igbo and Yoruba words are very similar. We did it then in secondary school. They belong to the same linguistics in black Africa with some other tribes from southern Cameron. There are so many similar words does not mean each copied the other.

Lordave:
As usual, you're missing the who point of the discourse and trying too hard to make a ridicule of your initial brainfart just to massage your bigoted ego.

She asked how is it possible there are no much influence of the superior civilizations that captured and sold Igbos on the Igbos today? But the influence of Igbos are scattered almost all over Souther Nigeria?

Don't mind him at all. People will come here spreading falsehood. He claims that other tribes dominated igbos but there is no evidence of there domination in igbo culture.

All these ancient empires they were claiming were very backward. No written language, inventions, philosophies etc which we use to know impactful empires.

They claim Benin empire was great, how impactful were they.

The only impactful empire as far as Nigeria is concerned is the uthman danfodios Fulani empire. Highly organized and we'll structured and funny thing they are the ones still controling Nigeria today, because of the sound structure bequeathed to them. they should show us the influence of Benin and oyo empire they claim on today's Nigeria or should stop making noise.

Bought at awolowo road ikoyi, this morning, oando filling station. Took like one hour because of que. Honestly I don't know what to say again about this nation.

On the second thought I think na we wey dey Lagos still dey get fuel for #145 per litre, those in the other parts of the country especially in the east gets at higher prices.

Congrats Baba!! Well deserved. You are an inspiration

Enjoying your write up.. I am following the story..nice one bro

chineduemmao:
well i completely understand but i won't be stupid enough to fight a man saying the truth because it would lead to further embaracement so apparently i don't share your sentiment. See if a man comes and calls my house dirty, (which i know it is) i will not do do anything until i clean up my house den i will invite over and shame him.

My dear you got it spot on. Your analogy is the correct answer to this debate. A man calls you shi_thole, what do you do? You do your best to better your place, thereby shaming him. Not coming online to be ranting, while doing nothing. Why won't he call you sh_thole.

The answer is simple, for us to change our ways, try and do our own contributions at least within our own space.

fasting does not stop anyone from working. For those making, most of this people still go out to do their work 9 to 5.

You can fast, pray and still do your work diligently. In fact when you are diligent in your work you will be distinguished.

Quite a lot of RCCG members freeze mentioned, the level they have achieved in their work, freeze will never achieve it in 10 lifetimes, so why will listen to such a person.

Freeze is talking about innovation what innovation has he achieved? Is it not the work he is doing in fm radio, what else has he achieved, while his mates like Linda Ikeji have set up businesses built them up and even opened up other ventures.

Going to church does not stop anyone from innovation and creativity. The Bible we read teaches you productivity. The wisdom in the book of proverbs alone, if practised will stand you out miles ahead, especially personally in my life.

Example personally in my life Proverbs chapter 6, thought me a very great life's lesson where it admonished to learn from the ants who having no ruler, overseer or guide still knows how to gather his food in summer to prepare for winter.

This is a very small animal but it was very smart, with no ruler or guide to direct it, still gathers it food.

Application in real life: if I don't use my earning season to gather up, save and invest in my summer seasons in life when winter comes because winter or dry seasons will come in life, then it will be terrible for me.

Application for Nigeria: if Nigeria does not gather her food in the summer!! Winter is coming!! The little recession we saw in 2015 is a child's play. The major depression is coming, other countries have seen it, oil is no longer it oo. Saudi Arabia, UAE, Qatar and many oil producing countries have seen it and are moving fast preparing their future, while Nigeria is wasting hers, winter will surely come and I am sorry for what will befell this nation. We cannot wish it away, the question is are we getting ourselves and next generation prepared? Go online everyday and see what next generation of Nigeria are talking about and you will weep for this nation.

madridguy:
Political unity is not achievable, am not a soothsayer but mark my word, the handshakes will not change anything.

It was never achievable before, but this present administration has really opened people's eyes to a lot of things wrong with this nation. Nigeria must move forward, we must develop and join the committee of advancing nations. Our fathers bequeathed us a failed Nigeria and we can't do the same to our children. And we know those that has been drawing us back and come 2019, most of you will get the shock of your lives


How can it be in a nation of well educated and exposed individuals, we then have this present crop of persons controlling the rudder that drives this country. Not possible, people have awoken

1freshdude:
English is not easy, I know, read my comment 7 times or show someone in your neighbourhood or church tomorrow, it will become clearer to you.

Clueless novice, shift one side. At least I have seen that you are a complete chaff. Goodnight

1freshdude:
You know shit, and you never been anywhere in the west if the only landmark infrastructure you could mention in your imaginary travel is an airport in Singapore...lol..i got to drink my beer!

Haha Singapore in the west.....? Be exposing your stupidly

1freshdude:
You, your entire family, your whole local government, town and state are morons! Look at this empty imp. What do you know about development? Stupid mullato!

Get this into that generational empty skull of yours, the blue print of development is the British industrial revolutions of 1700's, every development after than took a cue from it.
Now run off, changai airport ko, zenchen carrier ni. Asslock!

Hahaha you know what, anyone that knows his onions and looks at your reply will totally know that you are a very ignorant, uninformed man. You don't even have basic understanding of what you are talking about. And guess what. This is the major problem of blackman and our underdevelopment, when you see a clueless novice bragging when knows nothing.

I just saw your replies and I had to call you out so you don't keep spreading ignorance to deceive people on this forum.

British industrial revolution of 1700s indeed..??. Haha nothing person no go see for Nairaland

1freshdude:
This are all parts of the problems....very small parts, the emirate countries developed from the export of raw materials...so what do you say about that?
There are more fundamental problems that you can understand only by looking at history, what did others do to develop? The Industrial revolution in Britain is a place to start.

Honestly you are really not smart indeed. Look at the very stupid question you are asking. Imagine talking about industrial revolution of 100s of years before. That is very stupid.

You would have asked what the nations that got developed the last 30 years what they did. What did countries like South Korea, Singapore, Taiwan, Hongkong UAE, Qatar, etc did to get developed. What economic models did they apply to become developed nations.

I don't know where you have been in the world, I have been to some of these countries I quoted and also been to some developed western nations and I can tell you that these countries I quoted have better and modern infrastructures than some of these western nations and the speed they are coming they will displace the west in coming decades.
Eg changi international Airport Singapore has been winning the best Airport in the world for the past years. Emirates Airport Dubai is the leading Airport hub now in the world, and many other things

1freshdude:
This is not a way to understand issues, in medicine, do you cure an ailment by merely treating symptoms? I believe you had to write some form of thesis or research paper to get your degree...what does empirics say about this development?

Hey I have been reading your reply to that guy, and from both of your write ups the Guy has got his facts more than you do. You don't even have a basic understanding or grasp of the issue. And he is right with his assertions.

Our major problem is very bad leaders, visionless and mental laziness as a people. It is the work of the leaders to put in basic infrastructures like electricity, good road networks etc. The Church is not the problem.

You are what you attract. Nowadays many people are deficient of even the basic characters needed in relationship. That is why we have many failed relationships and marriages these days. And the rate is quite alarming. People should seriously work on themselves to become better individuals.

I Get what the dude is saying. Whether we guys like am or not, you must spend on the woman in your life. You can't run away from that fact. This Christmas alone, I know how much I spent. And honestly the woman in your life, who is always there for you, truly deserve that. And when you spend on her, she is happier and gives you better loving!!! That's women for you, but what mans got to do, na so nature make am. Take proper care of them and you will get the best from them