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Kobojunkie:
1. I am afraid you are mistaken. A relationship is an agreement, not love itself.

2. Love is not a relationship or an agreement between two people. Instead, love is a decision to be made by the individual in a relationship. Even what you consider the golden rule presents itself as a decision to be made by the one who receives it.

3. Love is a decision you make, not one you specify others make for you. So, when you say someone is the "love of your life" it means you are the one making the selfless decision to love the other person.

a. So, you are the one being asked here whether you will selflessly accept to love another who you claim is the "love of your life".

b. There are many reasons from sickness to infertility. The question is simply asking if your love for the "love of your life" can transcend such issues.

3. Love is a decision. Yes , but that decision is made based on your interest in the other person .

3a. Before you selflessly accept to love the “ love of your life “ , there’s an interest . That’s what I’m saying . Your interest likely the by and end products will determine your selflessly elasticity .

3b. In this century , I know one of things that will a marriage not to hold is impotency or infertility .
I know of churches that will request for proves .
And yes, some people may discover it and still go ahead and marry .
So knowing the cause of the infertility ( as the case is here ) will determine if you are willing to sacrifice selfless love for the “ love of your life “ .

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ did not die for all of mankind. Instead He died to save those who will believe in Him and commit to being saved by Him - the relationship ofcourse as defined by Him, according to His own terms and conditions.

Basically, God's love for men, as offered to us through Jesus Christ, is conditioned on our submission to and obedience of Jesus Christ's teachings(and commandments). His love is selfless but is only for those who believe in Him and His promises only for those who accept and obey Him.

Jesus died for all mankind because of love ( interest ) .
His interest is to bring us back to God after the first fall ( Adam sin ) .
As with Gods ways , he can’t force anybody to believe in him , obey him or worship him .
Instead he left it for us to decide on our own .
He has done his part , dieing because of his love to save us , and now it’s our turn to do our part in the journey of salvation. Believing in him and obeying his commandments and living according to his way .
So there’s love ( interest ) , and there’s by and end products .
When we love God , our interest is eternity in Gods kingdom.
I doubt if without promise of eternity in Gods kingdom, wether we will love God .
And is there a love greater than Christ death on the Cross ?

Kobojunkie:
1. Yes, serving another strictly to fulfill the conditions of the agreement that binds the relationship.

2. When the served errs, you mean breaks the conditions of a relationship? It hurts ofcourse!

3. The end product typically depends on the agreement on which the relationship between the lover and the loved exists.

Will there be a notary who sign this love agreement ?
And why can’t both partners serve each other ?
The golden rule precedes every rule or feeling or interest ( love )
“ Do unto others what you will like them to do unto you “ .
That brings me back to my first questions which you are yet to answer, instead you deviated it with questions , though I enjoy the mature replies without insults ;
1. Will the “ love of my life “ be with me if I’m impotent ?
2. What’s the cause of “ love of my life “ inability to conceive or bear a child ?

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ died because of His interest in mankind?

When you dig into the details of that "interest" of His in what you call mankind, and you consider the conditions He in turn laid down for those who will come to Him, you will see clearly what I mean by love being conditional.

Why did Jesus died for mankind ?

Kobojunkie:
1. Unwritten law of nature?

2. Love is that which transcends the chemicals and hormones. Love is not always based on what you call mutual acceptance, and it goes beyond interest and kindness but is a commitment to serving another, selflessly even.

Serving another , selflessly even ? Lol
To what end ?
What happen when the served , errs ?
What’s the end or by product of your love ( serving another , selflessly even ) ?
There’s interest.

Kobojunkie:
If you love someone, you don't mind doing for them even if they won't see do the same for you.

Really ? Even Jesus died because of his interest in mankind. To save our souls and bring us back to God .

Kobojunkie:
1. Love is not a feeling.... instead it is more or less a decision. What you call feeling is a high you experience as a result of a rush of brain chemicals and hormones through your body.

2. There is no such thing as unconditional love. Even the love between a mother and her baby is not an exception. This love is based on a decision/agreement that is not ruled by chemicals but more by a mental contract of
sorts.

What you described above is like unwritten law of nature .
What is love ?
Love is an agreement ? That means love is a contract ?
Based on mutual acceptance and respect ?
Love is interest and kindness .
And you’ve not answered my first questions ?

Kobojunkie:
1. All you listed there, even animals are moved by. Have you ever, maybe, observed the mating call of birds like the peacock or other animals?
Materialism has absolutely nothing to do with love...

2. When people say, "love transcends all...", understand what means and you realize you have yet to infact address the subject itself.

Love is a feeling of affection . It maybe intense or not . You can’t see someone at first and immediately develop such intense feeling of affection.
There must be a reason before it develop.
That reason is the interest .
Barring the love that exist between mothers and babies , others are built on interest .
Especially when the chief beneficiary sees how his/her interest is protected , we confuse it for love .

Kobojunkie:
What you describe there in bold is instead the chemical and hormone driven attraction that many of you confuse with love.

Love is more mental than all that illogical nonsense that drives moves of you. It does exist, only it is less animal than many are used to.

We all know humans are moved sight , words and actions .
Something ( interest ), must bring people together .
It maybe physical appearance, status,vibes, desire , money , etc .
And yes , humans can be humane ( kindness ). They way they can care for animals , plants etc.
That’s why , I tell people instead of wailing for love , know how and where to position for love .

Kobojunkie:
If you love someone, you don't mind doing for them even if they won't see do the same for you.

There’s nothing like love .
It’s interest ( sex involved ) and kindness ( no sex involved ) .

2 questions for “ love of my life “ ?
1.Will she be with me if I’m impotent ?
2. What’s the cause of her not conceiving and bearing a child ?

derecho:
Maybe the fallout is for others like you to have a chance.If this hadn't happened, it'd be difficult for new intakes. Why?Most of them are in their early twenties and have less competition because of the kind of coach we have.
I'm not happy they lost but trust Nigeria, people like Musa and other older players will be forced to hang their boots.
4years is a long time and there'd be a shaking.

We don’t pray for the downfall of others to rise .
Yes , some situations creates or blocks opportunities.
The sky is too big for every eagle to fly .
I wished they made it to Qatar .
On my own side , it’s for me to make the smart moves , play and pray , work hard and hope on grace .
When someone is good , he’s good .
I don’t brag . I believe in myself . Though my career is left for the saints to decide .
In football you need God and a helper.

And the Eagles should’ve worn black arm bands for the railway attacks and the victims .

My heart goes with the S/Eagles .
It wasn’t meant to be . Even the referee did everything possible to help them , but it didn’t work .
Formation wise , I expected , Aribo to sit deep behind Onyeka .
That’s what I tell my guys , CDM ( 4 or 6 in Spain ) isn’t about strength alone . You must add finesse and technical ability. Look at Jorginho, Verratti, Busquet, Rodri, Kimmich etc , they don’t have muscle , but they are the smartest players with or without the ball .
Modric does that anytime his teams are struggling to break an opponent down, he comes back and start picking long passes from defensive half . Even Bernardo Silva does that . That’s what I expected from Aribo .
And Bassey and Aina are fine full backs . If the other players ran as much as them , the outcome would have been different. Ekong is very relaxed . He needs a push . He’s forming Nigerian Virgil . He thinks he can’t be benched. I prefer Seyi to partner Balogun.
For Uzoho , he hasn’t convinced me in any game . I wish we had Okoye . He has good distribution and very quick. Yes mistakes do happen .
And our wingers , Lookman and Dennis , failed to impress. I expected them to play through the middle , allow our fullbacks to operate the wings , which I know we have capable fullbacks. By doing that , they help Osihmen occupy the defenders . They isolated him a lot . Etebo should be our Kante . He should play free role . He played CM , but he should have been the AM and roam anywhere.
There’s no Rohr. But I give to him in bringing results no matter how bad we play .
Our problem is that we are thinking this set of Eagles can play like Guardiola teams , lol .
We missed Ndidi .
If I work hard , smart and with grace on my side , I don’t even see anything stopping me from been an Eagle in the nearest future .
Congratulations Ghana .

I can’t because of love I’ve someone and it blind me to tell the person the truth .
Kante ( yes it’s his life and wife ) fvck up big time.
Except his head is good for head game .
Anyway I don’t even know the authenticity of this story .

I think I was once a bad staff .
I worked in the a biz centre in IMSU when I finished Sec. School . I operated the photocopier , laminator and also binding sticks .
I was the manager .
I was been paid 5k monthly with lunch and #150 T.f.
For some reasons , I was so close to my boss . We had many works that sometimes I stayed in his house working over night . Our shop then was up-school , so I was with the contact of almost of the course reps around and I was damn funny .
We charge photocopy #5 then , and I do make on my own daily 20k+. I do work my socks off . I had other privileges and daily I do get side deals or tips worth about #1k+ after accounting.
My boss started putting eye there . Sometimes he will divide it into 2 and give me half . I became bitter .
Henceforth, as while working , I am separating his money from mine. I never cheated him . I started making gains of 2k+ after work . I was satisfied, but he wasn’t . He noticed , but he couldn’t confront me , and he started owing me salary for months.
In all this our relationship outside work was good .
I devised another means of getting more money . I am a hustler . I was the best of the best in our business and girls love me a lot. I started accepting and executing works behind him . I will buy my paper , toner , and fuel , and execute the works . These works came after work closure . I started recalibrating the machine meter .
During NYSC call ups , most students laminate all their documents. A rim of laminating film is 100. I do finish it daily during that time . Per rim cost 2k , and we laminate per film #100.
While coming to work , I’ll buy extra 10 or 20 films , at #20 each . So I’ll add it to the office own . And I do finish all of them . It gives me extra 1k or 2k . So during the NYSC , I do go home with 3k+ steady . I saved up . I forgot my salary . I used the proceeds to register my younger bro senior WAEC. I still used it to pay my school fees and acceptance fee .
I stopped work when I entered school , my boss transferred the biz to his younger bro and he traveled.
I’ve not reached him since then . Last I heard of him , he is driving Benz , has built house.
Someday I’ll meet him . And I’ll apologize to him.
Tales of bad copier !!!

Buhari will handle security .
Osibanjo will handle economy .
Biggest lie of the 21st century.
Where’s Sheikh Gumi ?
Honorable Minister of Terrorist ( Bandits and Herdsmen ) Affairs.

Timmi:
Before you run your mouth like a tap water, apply your common sense. What did the government have to gain or loose by hating Ibos? Just think a little bit. Are they relevant at all to the rest of us Nigerians? Of course not, they’ve caused us a lot of embarrassment in drug dealings, crimes, drugs and get rich quick schemes

The hatred and evil mindset you guys wish to happen to Igbos is second to none . Unity forcing and quota system can never develop a nation .
How have Nigerian been since she has been marginalizing ndi Igbo . Allow them to go , no , allow them to rule no , allow them to be , no .
Since they are tarnishing Nigerian name , kindly allow them to be . Why associating yourself with criminal ?

Nigerians teams at the World Cup , Qatar 22, are
Team Messi
Argentina �� vs �� Portugal
Team CR7 .

goodconsience77:
You probably from descendants of lie Mohammed

I am an orator .
I’ve really stopped, though as the situation demands , I do once once .

Ulunne777:
Are you making effort to overcome this habit ?

Overcome what ?
Are you sure those things I typed aren’t lies ?

They even allow them train there self ...
I thought they are the Black stars , I expected their stars to shine in the darkness ... they improvised torches , that means they where prepared to waste time .
NFF fall my hands ...
Maybe they should be moving SE matches to Lagos , Owerri , or Aba .
By now , those Ghanaian players would’ve felt hell. Imagine the audacity of exceeding the allocated time , 45mins + , e be like say they want to collect abi ?
When the Ghanaians arrived , some local fans where hailing them and those back water Europeans players are forming ?
This evening, they should get ready .

1. Knelt down severally to beg Laurreta whenever she catches me with another girl .
2. I remembered the day I defiled rainfall to give her a gift , she was with umbrella, her house was close , she offered me the umbrella, but I refused, telling her I enjoy been under the rain . Mumu me reach home , na so cold wan kill me that night .
Anyway she’s married now to a big boy while me I’m yet to finish school talk more of finding my feet . Her guy even bought a car last week for her .
And yes , she’s a good girl . She left me because I have PHD in lies. I’ve an uncanny talent of lieing .
At a time I was afraid of myself talking because I know I must lie . I was so smooth with lieing that if lieing doesn’t give me money , it’s will be useless of me .

I don’t condone yahoo. EFCC should try and investigate the source of poverty of those that hawk on the road .
God bless every hustler out there . Its a game of grace .
I’m a footballer that I don’t do yahoo , shouldn’t make me envious of them .
Without yahoo , Nigeria may have broken. The number of youths yahoo has rescued from cultism , arm robbery ,hawking , touting, are enormous .
The number of families yahoo has helped are countless . That you are selling in Nigeria is because of yahoo . Or you expect minimum wage of 30k to be sufficient for a family 4 , with house rent of 250-500k, school fees of 50-150k , and other bills ?
The government should find a way and employ them . In fact yahoo boys guys are the ones fit to be granted amnesty . Most yahoo boys will desist from it , if they are been paid 50-100k monthly by the government.
Most of you older folks against yahoo is because of envy.
Till we hold our politicians ( they are hoarding and sharing our collective wealth, they even hoarded our COVID palliative for their selfish election purpose ) responsible, nobody in Nigeria has a moral right to judge yahoo boys . Thief is thief .

Buhari will handle security..
Osinbajo will handle economy...
That’s how 2 old con men , gave us the biggest lie of the 21st century.

Why all these forming “woke “ ?
Those questions aren’t good enough at their level .
How can pornography appear in nursery school curriculum.
There’s a pattern of learning . At that level ( nursery ) , they shouldn’t go into researching .
Researching should start from Primary and it should be around their environment.
Most of the questions, even an adult will need Google to answer them . So what’s the essence ? A nursery school is meant to build the retentive memory of the kid . Nursery build the kid ability to master his learning materials ( ability to use pen , pencil , crayons, story books , an extent computer terms . Nursery school should build the kid ability to see, read, memorize and remember.
The materials or syllabus should reflect the kid everyday life ( from playing materials , to writting materials, and the immediate environment) . It helps the kid to know and master his environment.
All those research questions , I don’t see the usefulness at that level . Education is step by step , at the right time ( especially towards primary 4-6 ) they can go into research education. By then they would have mastered their dictionary and Google use .

History matters . History is your identity. History is a pointer . History educates .
This was exactly same thing APC did to Nigeria in 2015.
During Buhari military rule , Nigeria got into recession.
Now Buhari is is back ruling after selling us the past is past mantra , Nigeria economy still recessed. Income dropped and expenditure tripled 200%.
APC convinced Nigerians otherwise with the promise of CHANGE .
Buhari will handle security.
Osibanjo will handle economy.
Biggest lie of the 21st century told by con men .

chatinent:
So na from SS2 the spirit to do ashawo dey grow en suite. See children, see that one wey never get breast dey cry for breakup. Children wey na to use USB cord flog for back naim sure pass dey form experience for relationship. SS2 student open gutter talk say the thing e buy for am no reach N5k. Wonders have ended.

I don’t need to watch the video . Your analysis has done justice to it .
Can’t stop laughing . Lol
E be like say the thing vex u wella

Buhari will handle security
Osinbajo will handle economy
That’s how 2 old men deceived us with CHANGE ( and truly everything changed for the worse ) , till now we don’t know the direction of the NEXT LEVEL .
The hallmark of this government is blame game.
If it’s not PDP , it’s Jonathan, or low price of crude oil.
Oil has been on the high for months now , nobody is hearing anything about it .
How have the whole borrowing affected the poor masses ?
You copy only the negatives .
I hope your government copied paying ransom to terrorist , herdsmen and bandits from US as UK ?
Hope the ASUU strike was copied from there ? And their government officials go to medicals in other country ?
Funny the minister of education was among the protesters of ASUU strike during Jonathan tenure .
During lockdown the palliatives donated by private individuals and companies was hoarded for election campaign.
I want to see the APC election manifesto 2015, let them tick it , and see how they have fared ?
Blameless APC government .
We are watching .

Though I was never a wrestling fan, but I completely stopped watching it , the day I realized it was a skit .
My uncle kept on arguing with me , till I showed him a video of 3H interview where he said something about the acting school .
Anyway I don’t know Hulk Hogan . Just heard about him .
My life has been Football , Basketball and F1. Yes I’m proud to be indomie generation.

I’ll gladly vote for him if he emerges APC candidate.
He’s the only candidate that the youths have directly benefited from .
Rochas foundation is a beacon of hope to humanity and education.

Any civil engineering firm looking for workers should please look my way .
I’m an IT student , Civil Engineering, IMSU. I don’t to relocate if there’s accommodation. I stay in Owerri