She was beautiful.
May her soul continue to rest in peace.
And may you continue to find strength to deal with this great loss.
Be strong bro.

So the most important thing in marrying a wife is her culinary skills.
So you see a smart, intelligent, kindhearted, hardworking and beautiful lady, and you are still looking for if she can cook or scrub the house.
Some men love food more than success. Go and marry your mother's maid na

Chai!!!
This everly handsome man.
Happy birthday.
My crush of laive!!!

I agree street/highway hawking is very dangerous.
I get on the road mostly when am hungry with assured hope of getting any of those sausage roll brands and a bottle of chilled soft drink.
How person wan take cope now.

The worst mistake one can make is going into medicine because of the money. You will end up getting frustrated.

The girl is now grown up... almost.

Mickael2:



And when did it start? It started a long time ago. I can tell you that there are some feminine NGOs that have been around for a century plus! Do you think men do not complain? But the idea is that females are the lesser ones(well not really lesser but I can't think up a more appropriate word right now), if you complain you will be called a woman. Have you ever called a man a woman? That's the maximum insult, if I call you a man now won't you be offended? Somethings are written down already, you can't change em

Read up on the history of feminism pls.
Women who stood up to fight these things were shut down initially. They endured everything that comes with identifying with the movement. Look at how far they have come and what they have been able to achieve through perseverance.

Why would I call a man a woman? Why would I wanna insult someone and insult myself instead. I am a woman, why would I see myself as an object of insult.

Mickael2:



But they do not have a ministry of men affairs that they can report to do they? Neither do they have an NGO fighting for them. You ladies do not know what you have already at all at all

The feminism movement had no outside support at its inception.
You gotta start from somewhere.

trilobite:


Hmm.....interesting.
Like I earlier said choose wisely. There are men out there who encourage career women and I happen to be one. The thing is, people tend to get carried away with their life pursuits, for the sake of your home sacrifices must be made.

Pick a career but not one that totally takes you away from your home responsibilities. A husband not remembering the last time he ate food prepared by the wife is just wrong.

As for talking back, do you know there ways of winning arguments by surrendering. Not every time but sometimes boldly correcting people is childish pride.

I have seen a lot of career matured women who have been able to remain good wives while chasing their careers. One solution is settling for careers or positions that give you time to face your home.

Modified: I agree with letting your boyfriend or fiance know that you want to be a career wife not your husband.

Basically I should choose a career that is less demanding because I am a woman. But the men can go for any career. And I must make sure my husband remembers the last time he ate my food. I am the destined chef....... dully noted.

Of course I know there are some fight you just avoid/ignore for the sake of peace. But I am referring to talking back when my emotion is prompting me to. Not holding back because I am human first of all and I am allowed to express my feelings. Not be afraid of my husband. Not keeping quiet because I am the female, but because I feel thats the right thing to do.

Women should be able to pursue their careers to the best of their abilities. The men in their lives should be able to pick up the slacks and take over some of the responsibilities/duties. The wife should be able to say "honey this week(s)/month(s) I am gonna be busy at work or at school, can u take over some of my domestic duties?" Or that "I will be coming home late for the next week(s), do u mind fixing the dinner each night? "



The last paragraph. I am confused. Please explain.

banmee:


My next rank is a SFC. I have to do 60 push ups; 70 sit ups; and run two miles in 14 minutes. A woman, same age grade just has to do 20 push ups, 30 sits ups and run two miles in 19 minutes and 30 seconds. Sounds fair right? And that's one instance. There are many.

This is when men in your profession need to stand up and fight, if they feel the system isn't fair to them.

Topestbilly:


Fine! With no bra

Lol.. I will wear my spag.
U are allowed to wear ur undervest too.

banmee:


Both gender having equal opportunities in the Society will never happen until women begin to bear equal responsibilities. I am all for equal opportunities and rights, but i am against someone asking for the same benefits while i do most of the work. This is where woman have a problem. You can't have your cake and eat it at the same time. In my organization, what i have to do to get promoted is ten times more difficult than what a woman has to do. You can't expect me to be happy about this.

Give me an example where you are been asked to do more work because of your gender.

Topestbilly:


We can never b equal mylady..

Can u walk on d Street with ur Panties, No!

But we can with our boxers

I can wear my bumshort jo.

Odeyinigbin:



U re playing with ur life o
Do u know d person u re talking too?
Wat as she said to make u call her ashawo?
By d tym d anger of God and orunmila strikes u now,pple go begin to pitty u.
Remember u av a mother at home likewise sisters and wife.
I will neva pitty pple like u wen suffering..
Better seak for God's forgiveness b4 it's too late for u

Lol... see the supposedly superior being with superior intellectual talking.

cr7lomo:


U can as well change ur moniker to dullyparton. Because what u put up there best describes you as dull

Its way over your head. The challenges that come with being a knucklehead.

badonkadonk:


Pikin mentality still dey worry u... Instead of u to counter what i said intelligently by explaining what u really meant by wat u said...

Instead, U came out to further make us understand why gender equality cannot be possible in Nigeria..

You already "smartly" assumed, implied and concluded my post.
You need no further clarification from me.

Maxvasia:
Hahahahahaha.....i cannot believe that this person up till now does not even understand a simple thread. Lol. Please someone shud tell her to calm down and show that she is literate. Read again......FROM THE BEGINNING!

Go back to school and learn how to write. Then come back.

badonkadonk:


Her argument is that all men are rapist... And that the olori's husband been superior to her is a rapist too..

Lol... clap for yourself, u are finally using ur brain. But it was better when u weren't using it.

Brainy007:

So whats your argument now?
That men and women are equal?

No. Women are the superior gender.

lordcornel:


Try and get the message my lady, are all men rapist? She is referring to all men not rapist

All men regardless of what or who they are.

baba11:

They'll not even look at me once since they're far far below my status

Nah, based on the way you reason, you are intellectually below anyone and anything. This aint even about material possession.

NigeriaB:
https://www.nairaland.com/3121815/nurtured-dream-look

with reference to the above link, I wish to thank u all for ur warm pieces of advice. At the end of d day, I had to take a stand.

I quit my Job, eventually turn down d offer and got matriculated yesterday into faculty of Medical sciences, department of Medicine and surgery!! This brings me sense of fulfillment.

Thank u all, plse if u can , remember me in ur prayers. To me ,dis forum is a family.


Thank u NAIRALAND!!

Congratulations bro!!!
Am happy you finally followed your dream path.

Nonsense.
Some people just try so hard to be relevant.
Of course a rapist is superior to her na. Shebi we are not equal.

Modified: if your brain is too weak to comprehend this post, then I can't help u. Just waka pass and stop quoting me.

baba11:
I'll never marry a feminist too

Like a feminist will even look at you once sef.

shaybebaby:

Your sex life must be boring.

I know right!!!
The sweetness that comes with the female riding on top.

trilobite:


How? Two words: matured communication.

And you think that's not part of feminism?
Being able to communicate your feelings to people around you is one of the tenets of feminism.
This is a society where what the man says is final. No communication, no further discussion, nothing. As a woman, just take what the man/husband says. Because female and male are not equal.
Women should be able to bodly let their husbands know that they do not want to be full housewives. That they want to pursue a career too. That they are unhappy with something. Question their husband actions if need be. Etc

3verblazing:
hmmm...see miss perfect!...u go old 4 there...unpadonable flaws smh

You lack basic comprehension. Your IQ is too low to understand my post.

trilobite:


Look, I know how many "I will show him" kind of wives I have encountered. Some of whom married very good men.

I know there is a risk in surrendering your will for the good of the collective. That is why you need to choose carefully before settling down.

Because once you have entered that lane, you no longer come first. Your husband, kids, should be the priority.

You can be a feminist outside your home, but once you get home, the feminist cap gets dumped.

I don't know how one can be a good wife/mother if one is unhappy with the way one is being treated.
Feminism is not selfishness. Its simply says don't loose yourself.
Putting others first whether in marriage or out of it, a basic code of life.

dollyjoy:
Thank you miss/Mrs high self esteem, my low self esteem keeps me going and place me at peace/ harmony with my dearest.

If peace/harmony with your dearest is the ultimate you wish to achieve in life, then clap for yasef... you aff arrived.....

trilobite:
Marriage is a union. The minute you are married y :oou become secondary. Whatever you wanted to become, whatever you want to achieve become secondary.

Your family becomes primary, you start thinking about how your decisions will affect them not you.

Feminism is a single's line of thought. Its all about me, me, me. My kids, husband can rot. It should be discouraged.

This is the problem.
You lot refuse to understand what you are fighting against.
You have failed in this major law of combat. ... know and understand your opponent.

I never let it get to marriage proposal level.
Once I see the irreconcilable differences and/or the unpardonable flaws, I let you go.

dollyjoy:
I don't believe in equality, what matters most is respect and understanding in any form of affair. Women can never be equal with men,there is reason why God made man first. I think the sooner women accept their place in the society/men's life the better..

Never seen self esteem this low....