kindworld:


Why don't you create a counter thread? Maybe you don't know that most times marriages fail or prosper because the woman didn't or did her bits.

Someone give this person a medal....
This is a groundbreaking discovery.
It is always the woman. Of course the man hardly does any wrong.

EfemenaXY:


Someone definitely died in that room. However that person met a sudden, unexpected, violent end hence his/her restless spirit is still caught in limbo, unable to cross over to the other side. The brutal killing (ritualistic perhaps) occurred between 12 midnight and 5:00 a.m which explains why you feel uncomfortable between those hours. It's no coincidence. I suspect this was a child violently murdered.

Additional, though dead physically, the victim is not yet fully dead. I.e living undead, and is desperately trying to contact you. You may not realise it but you now have a connection with it, which explains why you (and not your mother, etc), feel its presence the most. And this explains why you feel your skin crawl over. That's just simply the undead being sitting by you on your bed, running its hands over you, trying to wake you up.

Don't be afraid. The reason why you get those bad dreams is because you physically try to block it out. Don't do that. What you need to do is relax in its presence, open open your mind to it, and let it take control of you for the night. Once you allow it full access to your body and mind, it will then communicate to you how it met its violent death, who it's killers are, and will need you to seek justice on its behalf.

Then and only then will this being transition to the other side in peace.

Holy Shīť!!!

And does your wife have an income to support you with?
You need to sit down and calculate your average monthly expenditures.
Although I have seen families depend in less than that amount, but it is a very tough journey.

VickyRotex:


lol.

Trust me, I don't remember watching checkmate. Though I remember a part of my childhood where people talk about it.

I remember those people you mentioned maybe because I saw them in other movies.

Atleast, I remember watching Oh Father, Oh Daughter.
That should be a proof that I'm not an indomie generation.

Lol... Checkmate and Oh Father Oh Daughter are many years apart.
Those two cannot fit into an individual's childhood soap opera simultaneously.

jaymejate:
Ladies read this very well

Do not let any man acquire you like a property. If he dies, the family will send you away cos you'll be a useless property. Be an help meet not gold digger.

Strictly for those that want good marriage.

Back to the topic. Ask the woman if he hustle with the man. It would be NO, that's why she was sent away like that. And she should also have been an independent woman.

You were making sense, until the beginning of your last paragraph.

psucc:
But is merely stating the obvious. Medals rakes in monies but who enjoys the money if not children?

#MomIsRight

Mom is not necessarily right. Mom needs to respect his choice.
What if he is not ready or he has no plan to get married. Mom should let him live and enjoy his life.

bbbabes:
It seems this lady has come to stay. She is almost everywhere now and everyone seems to be on her case. I bet she might not take opportunity of this fame she is gathering little by little and shoot herself into limelight. She could go into the movie industry and make herself known the more.

Before you know it, she self go dey go display boobz for Germany like Cossy

Well there might not be much upstairs, anyways. I mean she might not really have much to offer except that Milk Factory she has got in front. SMH

http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2016/08/see-how-men-were-staring-at-girl-with.html

And you don't sound like someone with something upstairs either.

....

He better finds an accommodation for himself, the kids and his niece. Disappear one day with the kids. Then they can talk about divorce later. Because if that woman doesn't kill him, he will set him up so bad someday. Either he ends in prison or dead.
And those kids are just gonna grow up to be dysfunctional.
That lady is crazy.

jerryunit48:
You asked for it

No. He did not ask for it.

Ask ya mama na.

UndisputedBosom:



Oh sweetheart are u tryin 2 defend ur profession...


Are u not the guys that state that at a certain age a woman can no longer give birth?

Read up on IVF please and the processes involved.

I love Lydia Forson!!

Omoluabi16:
The medical 'help' that couldn't help all those years..you realise people never conceive in life with all those IVF and all? besides, the medical help is still from God.



Where have you been?

There are different types of medical help. It starts from the simplest to the most complex ones. People keep going up the ladder, until one works for them. Or they just jump to the end, depending in their conditions.

People never conceive with IVF? You know that how?

Medical help is from God abi? But when the doctor messes up, y'all start calling for his/her head on a platter and blaming him/her for negligence. Why you no blame God then.
Please, when God uses someone or something, we should acknowledge the person or the thing too. Simple law of appreciation.
I stand on my feet, struggled to save your life for hours only for you to get well and go carry gift to dash your pastor for saving your life.

HaneefahRN:
Did they complain to you? She has been enduring it for years without leaving or standing up to him, what's your own business? More so she has relatively grown children already. Don't poke into such seriously, they are grown adults here and have chose to endure battery so just look away jare. They'll sort themselves out

Really?

LynnPetra:
No need to report him.His kids will deal with him when they stand on their feet. There's time for every payback. This is the time to endure.

That's if he hasn't killed their mama before then.

Bolade005:
You want to interfere in a marriage that's well over two decades? Are you for real? Did any of the abused ask for your help? What gives you the right to poke your nose into another family's matter without being invited?

The woman has two children in the university already, I doubt if they'd sit idly by and watch their father beat their mother. They're old enough to fight this battle and save their own mother. They don't need you.

You should face your front and leave this family alone.

Did you read the post at all?
The father beats the wife and the kids. And always threaten to stop sponsoring them. He is using the fact that they depend on him financially to hold them down.

Chylo:
So if they arrest the man and sack him, hope you will take over his responsibilities?

See!!!
One of the wife beaters!!!

UndisputedBosom:
God defiled the law of menopause.....


Why won't i serve him

How sure are you that she did no go for an IVF treatment?
I believe in God and His miraculous ways. But when people are giving their testimonies, the should acknowledge the medical help they sought too.

Stillfire:


I disagree. It's actually the anti-gender equality female that feels she's entitled to being pampered financially by the male.
Patriarchy requires the male to provide. This female here is only following and abiding by the rules.

Bless you.
And that has been the case.
You will see a man suffering in silence, when he knows that his wife can help him, out or even manage the situation with him.

No woman with her head screwed right on her neck would write that nonsense.

This woman got no chill at all. She be having those kids back to back to back.
You should only have the number of kids you can take care of. Why wait for the government to take care of your kids for you.

GoodBoi1:
All these women with degrees, are you saying you can't give 5 years to raising kids then you resume your career?

Where does it take only 5 years to raise a kid?

Just gonna pretend I did not see some stuffs.

TheMyth:

For starters
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Femininity

Now where or when did I say I am not attracted to a girl that drives a range or all the other drivel , this is why people don't take feminism seriously and op feminism could be a good reason since maids are not feminists

I mean imagine being married to this feminist who spews shit like this and calls it intellectually engaging . [s]I specifically said guys don't care if she owns a range or not if they find her attractive then they find her attractive , the range doesn't change this . At most they will be scared to approach but. that doesn't change the fact they are still attracted . Likewise if an ugly woman drives a range no guy is going to be attracted to her , none at all. if. an ugly man drives a range he picks up babes that could put the average fine boy to shame even if this said man is twice the fine boys age , godforbid the owner of the range is equally a fineboy . and its not even a matter of gold digging every girl would rather be with a rich guy than a broke guy be it sluts or church girls the reverse isn't the case . Now where did I say women shouldn't be independent ? be independent for yourself but don't expect it to earn you any points , its either a guy is attracted to your feminine side or he isn't ... no MSc , PhD or oil job is going to change that.(gold digging however is a totally different story but even then there are far more females in it than there are men because the average man wouldn't want. to marry his meal ticket whereas the average female has no issue with it)[/s]

Don't insult me please. I have tried to be civil with you all along. I really tried.

bukatyne:


I don't understand why people think characteristics such as care, compassion, empathy, humility, kindheartedness, tolerance etc. are 'feminine' virtues. I am equally amazed when I read/hear such from professed Christians....

What ever happened to fruits of the Holy Spirit all Christians should emulate?

As in!!! Some people, the only thing they know about the Bible and Christian life is the " wife's submission and husband' s leadership part"

I don't understand how someone would call those feminine traits.

TheMyth:

The fact that you are all caring, kindhearted, compassionate and all doesn't make you indecisive and shy. It's all about balancing it. Knowing what traits to exhibit at a particular time and situation and in the right proportion is the key word ....

And I am telling you those are not the feminine features. Those are the humanity features.
You don't know what feminine features are. You need to understand what that is first of all .

As ive been saying ratio . I never said a woman can't be Independent , nor did I say it is bad , I'm saying it isn't an attractive feature , the only feature attractive to a man are feminine features . Imagine a lady parking her range rover then walking out and now imagine this same lady walking without her car nearby , chances are if she is elegant or fine guys would all just point that out without mentioning the range , at most the range will discourage guys from even approaching , now imagine the reverse a guy with a range vs the same guy without it , the difference is clear ... does this mean a woman shouldn't buy a range , of course she can but she shouldn't expect it to make her attractive the same way it would make a male attractive .

Lol... say for yourself please. That you don't find a woman in a range rover attractive.

That the fact that she doesn't have to depend on you financially and intellectually scares you. That you want a slave you can control and not a wife.

A woman driving a range rover she bought with her money (not an aristo or runs girl) means she is hard working. A lady with purpose. With a career. Successful. Probably smart. Intelligent. Trail blazer.

How can a range rover make a man more attractive and make a woman less attractive (or not attractive)?

Are you saying shame on her for daring to be successful on her own? Or shame on her for being a boss in her own right. Or shame on her for having a dream and pursuing a purpose. Or shame on her for being successful.

Hian!!! How can you say a successful and hardworking woman is not attractive. Chai!!! Women have suuferred.

TheMyth:

lol a mindgasm is a female thing (if its even real) .. Smart man will prefer a smart feminine woman not a smart woman ... He should have these traits at the same level as you or even more than you but not less really, many men who embody these traits get shat upon by being friendzoned and being called nice guys , it doesn't work . If he however is a strong masculine man who still has the traits its okay , but a man who is just compassionate caring and gentle or has these traits more than being confident decisive etc isn't going to get far . (Unless he has money)
you sound like all these new age modernist people, are you perhaps a feminist ? if you are we will probably never agree .its almost like you denying the existence of masculine traits and feminine traits ... I have never in my life hear a guy say he is attracted to a girl because she .makes him feel safe , neither have I seen a girl say she is attracted to a guy solely because he is indecisive or shy , unless he is very fine(very fine people get a lot if leeway) they'll at best say he is cute or adorable

Now you are gradually doing a turn around. Twisting some of your words and mine words too.

I said being kindhearted, compassionate, empathetic, gentle, caring, etc is required if everyone. It shouldn't be term as a feminist trait. A man should have it, having those traits doesn't make him shy, indecisive or lazy. It just makes him a good person.

The fact that you are all caring, kindhearted, compassionate and all doesn't make you indecisive and shy. It's all about balancing it. Knowing what traits to exhibit at a particular time and situation and in the right proportion is the key word.
A smart woman is a smart woman. Being decisive and confident should equally be for both gender. We weren't born married. A woman should be confident and be able to make decisions on her own as a single lady first of all, before getting married.


Don't mix things up. Character is different from gender role.

TheMyth:
. it can be abundant but it still adheres to ratio. No guy in this world or maybe very very few will be attracted to a woman based solely on her smarts or drive or determination it doesn't happen ever , if she has feminine traits and also incorporates these things however its a good plus . Beautiful men as I said its a feminine trait only sissies would refer to themselves as beautiful

This is nothing about ratio, but basically about what is required. I do not want a man who is not as equally as caring as I am. Or whose compassion, kindness, empathy, or gentleness is below mine. I basically do not want an àśśhole as a partner or friend.
Lol... very few men find intelligent ladies endearing? Well, the world must be filled with lots of dumb men then. (Thank God, that's not the case).
A very smart man who is not a chauvinist will prefer an equally smart woman. Come On!!! How does one have a "mindgasm" if your spouse/partner can not stimulate you intellectually. Or pick up the slacks once in a while
And you say a beautiful man is a sissy? Abeg go find and read, study and digest all the definitions of beautiful.

TheMyth:
I said feminine traits ... a man can't be beautiful unless he is gay .. and yes all humans have all traits imaginable but for a human to be feminine means the person has a higher amount of feminine traits compared to masculine traits , if the masculine traits are more than the feminine then the person is said to be masculine ... so its not just bout the traits but bout the ratio

Lol... seriously? You haven't heard beautiful being used to describe straight men?
I am telling you everything you mentioned in your earlier post are what is required of every human being in abundance. It is what you would teach your kids irrespective of their gender.
And all males and females must be smart and intelligent in the best way they can be.

TheMyth:
. As you said being beautiful and kind hearted , being sweet, caring , gentle , empathetic , compassionate and deference (being submissive) if the last one is too much of a problem then just being respectful would do , having other good attributes without having this is like getting all As in waec then failing maths and English . And. for some damn reason guys seems to have the above traits more than women nowadays .

All these you mentioned are required of every human being both male and female.
I don't know what your definition of beautiful is.... If it has to do with the physical appearance, then it should not be on that list.

TheMyth:
Hardworking ... can't cook lol okay , Most of the things you listed are masculine traits , they are good but not attractive (unless the guy is looking for a business partner)

Oh really?
What are the feminine traits o?

sexybaby22:
Damn Naija is so f. ucked up that a 60 year old still collects handouts from mama.
She obviously saw you needed it thats why she gives.
R.I.P

Some parents just can't stop doing that, no matter how grown up or how rich the child is. It's not a matter of whether their child needs it or not, they just derive joy in it.