₦airaland Forum

You sound like you might be low in vitamin D, so I’d recommend speaking to your doctor about getting your levels checked through a blood test. If they are low, your doctor can advise you on the appropriate dose and treatment. See whether addressing that helps you feel better.

I know the first year can be incredibly challenging when you’re juggling studies, work, and adjusting to a new environment. But please remember that things can get easier once you qualify, settle into your career, and begin building a life for yourself.

From what you’ve shared, I wonder whether you’re experiencing homesickness and the winter blues. Moving to a different climate, having less sunlight, and being away from familiar people and surroundings can take a real toll on your mood. These feelings are valid, but they don’t necessarily mean you’ve made the wrong decision or that your future will be unhappy. If the low mood or anxiety persists, please speak to a healthcare professional, as there is support available.

Please don’t feel that you have to make big decisions about your entire future based on how you feel right now. It’s still early days, and you deserve time to adjust before deciding what the next five or ten years might look like.

Your destiny isn’t tied to anyone else’s, and your future is not predetermined by how difficult things feel today. Your next five or ten years could be wonderful in ways you cannot yet imagine.

Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to adjust, seek support where you need it, and take things one day at a time. ❤️

Lannister247:
Good morning, everyone. Please, I need honest advice from Nigerians who have experienced life in the UK, especially Nigerians who have returned home after relocating abroad.

Please as a Nigerian if you have not visited the UK or lived in the west before then stay away, you'll never understand the challenges abroad thus youll start making silly comments like:

"Na villiage people de call you"
or "anywhere is better than nigeria"
or start throwing insult on something you know nothing about.

Continuing..

I knew abroad was hard, i watched people's story on youtube but i never expected it to be this terrible.

I am a Nigerian currently in the UK studying for a master's degree. Honestly, I am struggling badly with life here, and I have been regretting since i came here.
Before coming to the UK, I had my own challenges in Nigeria, but I was far happier, i had peace i took for granted.

Since arriving here, I have been feeling stressed, worried and trapped. I don't enjoy anything about this place, and I find myself regretting my decision almost every day. Sometimes people even notice the worry on my face and ask me if I am okay, THE STRESS IS OVERWHELMING.

One of the things weighing heavily on me is the routine I have ahead of me for the next year. I either have to go to school or be working. I don't have even one day of rest in a week not even Sunday. This is what my life is going to look like for the next year, and honestly, I don't know how I will cope with it. The thought of living like this is overwhelming, should i even call that living?

Another thing that worries me is the future. I see people talking about five year and ten year plans to gather enough funds and return back home, but I don't even know how I can stay here for another month. I have met Nigerians who have lived here for many years, some 5, 10 years and they have nothing, even the ones who manage to build one small house in Nigeria built it with their life(not money) working like a sl@ve 7 days a week toiling and jeopadising your health just to build a house, is it worth it?

Seeing this has made me question what exactly I am walking into and wether its better to exit early when i still have my youth, i mean the kind energy people put here if they put it back in Nigeria they must succeed.
People are not happy here they are simply enduring everything because they have already invested so much in coming and is ashamed to go back.

If I return to Nigeria now, I will have to start figuring things out again.
My biggest fear is not just the financial side of returning. It is also what people will say. Some Nigerians may laugh at me for returning after such a short time, especially when so many people are desperate to relocate abroad.

I don't want to make a decision based on people's opinions, but I would be lying if I said their judgment does not bother me.
At the same time, I don't want to spend the next 5-10 years being miserable, missing out on life, toiling, waking up by 4am and getting home by 8pm simply because I am afraid of what people will say. If i ever get the courage to go back to Nigeria ill never leave that place, you'll never value that Country until you've left. I am just confuse at the moment.

According to google this is common. You learn something new everyday.

lanugo, a fine, soft hair that forms in the womb around the second trimester to help regulate their body temperature and protect their skin. Most babies shed this hair before birth, but some are born with it and will naturally rub or shed it off during their first few weeks or months of life

BigYash:
Senior man don come back alive to finish what he couldn't finish in his formal life. Looks hey hi anyways

The return of Pablo Escobar 💀

budaatum:
I did figure it might be ignorant of me to think you must be Nigerian.

Where in East Africa? Do you eat bitterleaf there?

LOL, no Nigeria would be a good guess considering where we are 😆.

I’m originally from Somalia and no we don’t have bitter leaf in our cuisines. According to the google search you shared the plant only grows in West and Central Africa.

When it’s time 🕰️ it’s time 🕰️

breadtoaster:
No I didn’t

Sis, you married the wrong man for you, and you’re neither the first nor the last woman to find herself in this situation. Please don’t let shame or regret consume you. What matters now is what you choose to do moving forward.

From everything you’ve shared, I honestly believe this man saw marriage as a means to an end. He wanted to travel abroad, and you became his ticket. His treatment of you does not sound like that of a man who genuinely loves, values, or respects his wife. Yet you found yourself enduring so much and accepting the bare minimum, hoping things would eventually change.

Sis, you don’t have to keep replaying everything in your mind, searching for answers or wondering what you could have done differently. And please, if he comes back, think very carefully before allowing him back into your life. You deserve so much more than a relationship that leaves you feeling unwanted, unloved, and emotionally broken.

Please invest in yourself now. Seek therapy to help you process the hurt and trauma, explore your childcare options, and start building a beautiful, fulfilling life for yourself and your daughter.

I don’t think you necessarily miss him as much as you miss what you hoped he would give you: stability, companionship, a family, and a future. Those are completely understandable things to long for. But you can build a stable, loving, and peaceful life for yourself and your daughter without having to depend on a man who has repeatedly hurt you.

Remember this: a healthy, loving relationship should not require you to suffer just to feel chosen. A man’s love should be reflected in his actions, his consistency, his respect, and the way he treats you, especially when things get difficult. You should not have to beg for the bare minimum or convince someone to treat you with kindness.

Let go and let God. 🙏🏽 Give yourself permission to grieve the future you imagined, accept the reality of the relationship you experienced, and begin the process of moving forward.

And Sis, please take seriously the fact that he disappeared without resolving the marriage. I can’t know his intentions for certain, but you need to protect yourself rather than remain on standby, waiting for him to decide when he wants to be part of your life again. You cannot afford to put your life on hold while he comes and goes on his own terms.

If divorce is what you want, seek independent legal advice about your options, your rights, and the financial implications before making any decisions. Don’t let fear of the unknown keep you trapped in limbo.

Sis, you are not powerless, and your life is not over. You still have the opportunity to heal, rediscover yourself, and create a peaceful home where you and your daughter can thrive. You don’t have to keep sacrificing your happiness to save a marriage that is hurting you.

You deserve peace. Your daughter deserves to see you happy and whole. And you deserve a future that is not defined by this man.

Girl, protect your heart, protect your peace, and start choosing YOU. ❤️

A moniker like that and nearly 100 threads on women matters.

I doubt your fat-her was present when you were growing up

budaatum:
I'd have thought every Nigerian knows what bitter leaf is but I guess that's ignorant of me.

Mine get a little over an hours direct sun in the mornings, and are certainly not growing as fast as they did in summer. The clippings are from what I bought to cook. I've ordered more healthier ones from Nigeria.

I’m East African but thank you for the update 🙏

budaatum:
Sorry to hear it died.

I stuck to bitter leaf. Been eating it too.

That is sooo amazing buda❣️All these plants from clippings? I wish I knew what bitter leaf is. You’ve given me the idea to start growing herbs indoors but it’s winter now so I don’t know what would grow.

Zanzibar1:
I stand here with faith

God bless opay 🙏

RealityKings1:
Cc Double0h7

God bless gbt 🙏

BItt:
Double0h7 except we put it on our signature, or the post will be banned

God bless opay 🙏

CLOUDRepublic:
Done please kindly check

God bless gbt 🙏

Shi the joke went over all your heads 😭

Why she built like wisdom tooth 🦷

I like the marketing strategy but the fact that you keep repeating that you have negative feedback and reviews is very erm 😐 clear. Buyers beware.

DemonSlayer:
Double0h7, you being honest is accountability and that’s what this space is about. Not judgment, not perfection. If the bag gets dropped, we pick it up, dust it off, and keep moving. That's how we push through a setback. It’s still progress.

1 year and six months later and we’re still holding the bag❣️ I’m so proud of you today. One day at a time. Congratulations 🥳 🙌

capetownboyz:
ask yourself , I can see the F on your profile so you wouldn’t understand what a man goes through to provide and needing a mental calculation to sort things through.. my head ache is dealing with a jobless one who can’t play a supportive role while a man goes out to look for better means to create wealth than being stuck with status quo ., emotional beings pffft

I still don’t understand what your point is. You want a break from your responsibilities?

My friend abandon your child with your whole chest and be another deadbeat dad.

You are not the first nor will you be the last.Tell yourself whatever makes you sleep at night.

You had the energy to make a baby and all this energy to make excuses for your failure as a parent.

Take your break and make another person work and sweat for your child.

Say what you want about this woman but she is doing her part by carrying your child for 9 months and raising your child.

Your only role was to cum and go make money and you got 1/2 on your test.

You want to take a break from supporting your child financially?!

Will your child take a break from eating, shittin, and growing?

You brought an innocent child into the world and you want to take a break from being her father?

You want other people to sweat and pay for your child while you rest?

Wtf are you saying?

Adesegzy91:
Boss I read this about three times but still didn't fully understand, do u mean probably four hundred years ago there was SS in my bloodline or my wife's bloodline which is just resurfacing now...pls I want to get it clearly

A woman can be pregnant and still have a period. Some women have a period every month and only find out that they are pregnant when they go into labour. I don’t think you could afford a DNA test and a fertility test so pick your battle wisely and get the fertility test. That way you could hit 2 birds with one stone.

You married a virgin, you couldn’t get her pregnant and concluded SHE is barren. You got with the second woman and you couldn’t get her pregnant because the child isn’t yours. Sir, maybe you could have a fertility test before you spend money on DNA tests. The writing on the wall is clear but you want to act like an illiterate.

Hhh4444:
You have been lied to that the creator is good. Look around you, does this world look like a good place?A good creator that has the best interest of his creation at heart would not allow the porverty,pain,Injustice,disease and evil perpetrated in the world. He derives joy in watching people go through hell on earth.

Why do we take the blessings of God and assign it to men while taking the sins of man and assign it to God.

God blessed the Earth with everything that we need. For every problem he sent a solution, for every disease he created a cure,

He blessed the earth with enough food for every person to eat every day of their lives.

He filled the mountains with material and the seas with treasures. He gave us a powerful mind and physical strength.

We then allow 1% of people to hoard 90% of OUR God given resources and turn around and blame God for our suffering.

The human condition is Devine comedy 🎭.

Proserpina:
40 years old man still doing boyfriend/ girlfriend.

You are yet to know your real problem

How are you still this hilarious 🤣

Reminder: buy waterproof mattress protector!

I wouldn’t know what to do if someone piss on my bed 😭
You will take the bed home and buy me a new bed because wtaf! 😳

Let me hear the green flags that have dulled your senses, because these red flags can be seen from space. Tell us what is obstructing your view?

Pick me final boss 😩

kiddaz:
Jesus Christ! You people still blame your poor hygiene on men too? Omor I give up. A man has not even touched a woman and she stinks yet you say it's our fault you stink? A woman who refuses to wash her nether parts properly stinks like a bag of dead decaying rats and you blame it on the innocent man .
Omor people dey this world oooo

There’s no blame. If the smell is from a hygiene standpoint then it’s absolutely fine woman’s responsibility. However, the most common cause is bacterial vaginosis which is caused by an imbalance of the Ph levels down there. One of the main causes of that imbalance outside of using perfumed products, and washing underwear with perfumed products is a man’s hygiene. If a man’s fingers or penis is unclean and he enters the woman then she gets BV. What I shared is just facts and not some blame game. The owners are responsible for their hygiene but there’s outside influence too. I share this for the benefit of educating younger women rather than just shaming them.

budaatum:
So, go do something about it so it don't become the. norm. Perhaps put her in a burqa while you're at it.

Buda! In your attempt to fight for the rights of one woman to wear barely nothing, you demean another woman’s right to cover her body. Nobody puts women in burqas the same way nobody puts women in short shorts.

I will eat it to gain energy to work and take my family out of poverty 😩

Sometimes it’s the man’s hygiene that messes up the woman’s Ph levels thus leading to vaginosis (the smell).

Maybe you’re the one messing up her Ph levels. It’s not that serious. If it’s an imbalance of her ph a simple cream from the pharmacy is all that is needed.

Twin! Same same 🥹