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love only exists when there's money to back it up and true love only exists when d men are financially stable.

dating a girl is a big risk in Nigeria with their unending search for material wealth and going for d highest bidder.

if u don't have money, brother don't fall in love to avoid stories dat touch.

i yaff said my own

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wow nice piece there bro. can't belive i followed this awesome story to d end.
what a great writeup there.

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GeneralPula:
Nothing bro.. Mostly, hookup girls are the ones that do fwb mostly..

good point

this man is myopic in reasoning.
Because he has money to take care of them all.

My colleague just punished me for nothing by sending me to get deliver a document few kilometers away from our office. only to get there she called me on phone saying : April fool

I no knw whether to cry or run mad or both

Though we have basically three to four types of marriages in Nigeria:
*Traditional Wedding
*White wedding
*Court wedding
*Muslim wedding

But my question also concerns both genders, and their respected families as a whole.

source:
https://www.partnersaid.com/what-type-of-marriage-gives-more-security

MansoryMX:
I know a lot of snake so well. Especially venomous snake because I watch a lot snake documentary in Natgeo wild. Especially one popular show known as “Snake in the city”. Op smashed that snake beyond recognition but one thing is sure, that is not a venomous snake, you can tell from the shape of its head

pls tell me more.

MansoryMX:
There is no black mamba in this part of Africa. Secondly just because the name is black mamba doesn’t mean it’s a black snake. Black mamba are grey in nature with black mouth which where it got its name from. Stop smoking weed!

how did u come to dat conclusion??.

so wats d name of dis snake then?

OP dat looks like a black mamba.

wats d different between that and ashewo,?

when a Nigerian lady says she wants a god-fearing man its simply; she wants a man who will not cheat on her, not say a word if she cheats likewise.
a man who can accept her d way she is.
a man who can provide all her unending needs.

infact in summery, a woman needs a man she can easily punish.

he was my rector that year at Akanu Ibiam Federal Polytechnic, Afikpo.

wat that school is today is because of him. he left a legacy that will really go down in history.

Otunta was a good man nonetheless to me but i know everyone has their opinion.

We all have lapses and no one is a saint but it all boils down to d side ur on.

RIP Prof. Otunta.
Good nite sir.

RIP my rector

this event will linger in d maritime industry for quite a while.

DenreleDave:
I guess u opened this for me right

Those containers I am counting are not more than 10000 (ten thousand), infact they can't be upto that...

How can a ship carry over 20000 containers... I guess it's a lie, they are lying to us....

It can't be true... No ship can even carry 10000 containers...

I have counted those containers and they are not upto to 10k sef

on d contrary.
u only counted d ones u saw at d top of d deck thereby missing the remaining thousands inside d deck. there are many others down to d base of the vessel.
apart from d fact dat i board those vessels for routine class surveys, I've watched a full video documentary of maersk triple E container vessel, quite same size as this and saw things for myself.

source
https://www.partnersaid.com

PARENTAL INFLUENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS (PART 2)
In the first edition of parental influence in relationship,(in case you missed the first episode, click this link https://www.nairaland.com/6465681/parental-influences-relationships) we focused on roles and benefits of parental influences but in this part we want to look at the other aspect of it which we consider as one of the major causes of crises in this power to affect our children’s life.

Parental influences are not altogether wrong or condemned but once it turns to meddling which is the negative aspect of it then problems are bound to surface. In whichever way one looks at parental influence, it is morally wrong for parents no matter the bond and love with their children, to force or run their lives for them even when they have become adults and are in relationships. Consent and counsels of parents cannot be over emphasized but there should be a limit to it. It is simply unimaginable and demeaning for parents to dictate for their children who to marry, where to live, eat, how many children to have and what happens in their relationships. Having considered the role of parents to their children, it is worthy to advice that no wise parent should allow his or her child to place them above their partners or contribute in their relationship conflict. Even God who created the parent-child bond understands the need to separate it at the right time and way. The holy books gave a clear statement on the limit of parental influence, control and meddling. When people fail to obey this simple injunction from God, problems are inevitable.

Parents are advice to caution their children and not to take sides when there is a conflict in their relationships. They should give their support by promoting love and peace among their children and their partners. In doing this, parents should be mindful of their actions, attitudes, words, counsel, frequency and time of visits and calls, respect their children’s opinion and boundaries as well as respect their children’s partners. When there is conflict in their children’s relationship, they should learn to be calm and allow for their help to be sought. And when they come, they should have and exhibit good sense of discretion to help them understand the issues, causes and how to proffer solution if any.Parents must be objective and impartial. Many parents have failed to understand that meddling is wrong and that their children’s partners are also human beings like their children.

Partnersaid has identified that not having good sense of judgement and being fair enough have caused many parents to contribute to the pulling down of their children’s relationships/marriages and homes. No matter how much love and respect between parents and their children, every adult who is old enough to have a partner should learn to filter and separate the love of mother, father, friend and relations from that of partners for these are two separate kinds of love, and should not be confused or combined. Children should definitely love, respect and carter for their parents according to God’ injuction but it becomes an error when they delegate their partner’s love, respect and attention to their parents and vice versa. On the other hand, partners should also not meddle in child-parents relationship. Where there is peace and understanding, your partner’s parents should be treated well as your own parents.

Relationship is full of challenges from the time of Adam and Eve. When someone leaves his family and people and joins with a person from another family and people, there is bound to be problems .Some of these problems may not necessarily be as a result any of the partners being good or bad but simply as a result of differences from the backgrounds of the partners. The handling of these issues and problems which will definitely arise is what makes or mars a relationship. These are issues that parents should take time and prepare their children for instead of assuming that they would always remain in the driver’s seat. Parents tend to shy away from discussing issues of relationships with their children. There are a lot of ignorance and pretences in this area. So many parents especially mothers would never believe or accept the fact that their children are grown and that it is time to start discussing ,advising and guiding them in terms of their relationships with their future partners . Parents tend to dwell in this erroneous believe and deceit that discussing relationships about opposite sex is teaching the children immorality. They don’t want to talk about it even when it is obvious in their faces that these young ones are grown and should be seen as such by men and women outside of the home. Experience have shown that so many parents would seat idly watching their children grow unguided in the areas of relationship with opposite sex with that believe that “ she/he is still a small girl/boy “. Some will out rightly warn the children never to talk about a man or a woman. The result of this is that these children are not prepared for the life ahead of them in terms of relationships with the opposite sex. Unfortunately and very embarrassingly too, you see some of these parents going out and having affairs with younger boys and girls who are younger than their children at home who they have refused to talk about relationships with. This is the deceit Partnersaid is trying to point out.

When you refuse to interact, discuss and address issues of relationship on the opposite sex with your children at home because you wrongly assume that he or she is still a child or that you feel awkward talking about it, by the time he or she gets married, you will extend your lordship of him or her to the matrimonial homes and eventually break these relationships or make it miserable. We are advising parents to prepare their children for their lives without them. Teach them how to do things and remember that at a time, they will leave and find their own partners as you did. Teach them to live, love and be independent.

On the younger ones, Partnersaid wishes to bring to your knowledge that in this fast-paced, technology fuelled world, no matter how chaotic your challenges are or what obstacles life throws at you, one day, you will leave everything for the sake of love as John Lennon said that ‘’ love is all you need’’. How you give or receive this love is greatly influenced and shaped by one or two very important people in your life—your parents. This is so because our firsts experience with the emotion of love is with our parents and those early years set the bases on how we see, give and receive love as well as what we want in relationship later in life. How this works may be someone’s question?

Partnersaid is of the view that persons intending to marry should take time and find out levels of influence of parents and relations on their intending partners. When you find out that your intending partner is subject to these influences, we advise you don’t go into that relationship. Many have made the mistake of believing that things will change or rather they would change their partners but we have found out that in most of the cases,things never changes rather the meddling of these parents would grow bigger and bring in so much animosity and competition in these relationships. Once these meddling tendencies exist in a parent (especially the women) it hardly stops. Experience has shown that this is a major source of problems in relationship and should be stopped.

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We all know who a parent is right? But our reference to parents in this context would include guardians, family members, relations and friends who assisted in training and caring for someone to grow up. These people are the first degree of persons who have influenced the life of someone from birth-childhood-adult. They are the ones who contributed to the growth and shaping of a child to adulthood. There are influences in the relationships and marriages of the younger ones which are overwhelming and Partnersaid has identified these influences as a serious source of problems in relationships and marriages in the society.

Nurturing, taking care of the child or children’s basic needs such as providing for food, medical care, clothing, shelter, giving love, attention, listening, understanding, acceptance, time and support of one’s child is really an enormous task. In this role parents enjoy and accept the child or children the way they are and do not expect much in return from them. This will in turn help the children nurtured to feel good about themselves, feel lovable and worthy, feel listened to, become trusting, able to tackle difficulties and face challenges and able to give back to other people from the emotional support gotten from the parents. It is through this loving and supportive early-parent child relationship that the foundation for the future healthy relationship of a child’s development is formed. It is a task that makes a parent look like the lord of a child. Well this is understandable.

Parents lay the foundation for the structure of their children no doubt. This role helps in giving direction, imposing rules, discipline, setting limits. Establish and follow through with consequences. Holding the children accountable for their behaviors and teaching them values. Parents are expected to provide guidance that helps the children to change, grow and mature. Responsible behaviors in line with your children‘s maturity levels are taught and expected to manifest. These enormous roles of parents in the lives of their children cannot be over emphasized. However our discussion here would be on the limits of this lordship and influences that these parental care imposes.

Relationships and marriages are not an issue for children. This is why even the laws of nations and cultures of peoples all over the world criminalize child marriage. In Nigeria the Child Rights Act is of the effect that no child bellow the age of 18 years should marry. The contemplation of this Law is that a child at 18 should be matured enough to take decisions about his/her life alongside the life of the people around him or her and be able to take responsibility. In the United States, United Kingdom, Kenya, Ghana and all across the globe the story is the same.

An attachment theory suggests that we create an internal working model of our parents which we later internalized as our sense of self. This attachment style also affects how we experience ourselves and how we are in relationship. The level of romance, affection, love and value we see in our parents at our early life does a lot in shaping our adult relationship. Same way that anger, resentment and conflict were managed or not in our family of origin also play a huge role in how we react to adult romantic partners. For example, conflicts may be dealt with in the family by talking openly and aggressively or by talking about it and perhaps expressing the negative emotion in passive aggressive way such as yelling, name calling or even violence. These influences continue to play a lot of roles in the life of these younger ones even after they are in relationships on their own.

Apart from this childhood parental influences, many parent have failed to realize that their children have grown and have refused to let them handle their issues and relationships. Examples abound where parents especially mothers still detect for their children how to run and live with their partners. Some go as far as leaving their homes to their children’s houses and giving orders on the ground that they have rights over their children. This behavior is rampant in African setting where communal living is encouraged, and adults are still seen living with their parents and raising their own families.

To be continued......................

Young Shall Grow or Ezenwata is a plus for me anytime cos these transport companies are notorious for this act and they delibrately do that. the moment ur money enters their hands forget it. there might be every possibility that u will not get to your destination

that car doesn't in anyway look like an aventador. dats a garllado he bought some years back and an aventador doesn't cost as much as that. bloggers be very careful.

that car doesn't in anyway look like an aventador. dats a garllado he bought some years back and an aventador doesn't cost as much as that. bloggers be very careful.

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no matter hw u try to raise d child as ur own, his dad will one day come back and there will be absolutely nothing u will do about it.
so d best is strike a genuine agreement for d kid to stay with her relatives while she moves on with u.
fathering another man's child is a very big risk and extremely dangerous.

PrimeStarun:
@ doubleZ88
Listen to this advice very well. If you ever bought any theme or plugin from Nairaland it's fake.
Such has cost me a 3 year old website
Get this, the guy who sold me that plugin that killed my site is still selling here on NL Webmasters frontpage.
Buy premium themes and plugins he says!

I tried to shut him down 2 times in the last 3 years.
Others have tried but the mods are of no help so all we get is tons of trouble.
I now mind my businesses

I now buy my theme direct from Evanto and use free plugins only.
I have the newspaper X theme latest version.
It's one of the five fastest themes now

If you need quote me

If you wanna migrate to a foreign host Namecheap is your best bet.
They charge less than what most of these local host charge and will give you great service and customer care.

funny enough, I'm using namecheap for this.
and wats the price for the newspaper X theme?

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recently, one of them displays another webpage as a result of a wrong data base on d config.php file.

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