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Nzeh12:
[b]The fact is that you might end this and never find a relationship as good as u guys once were. [/b]As some one said, avoid sex for now, only meet in public places, try doing New things together, Don't see each other often, maybe u two lost value for each other, all these might help regain that. Just try to make it work again cos d possibility of u regretting a breakup in future is high since u guys were once good together and you can still be.

@bolded that's a fact, but is there anything in life that isn't really risky? We've tried working it out though. But you've given me something to think really hard about. Thank you. Your effort to process and put down something is greatly appreciated.

jomoh:
Give yourselves break. Separate for sometime and don't think of being friends. Just break up greet each other with mutual respect whenever you see each other.

There should be absolutely no communications between the two of you during that time.

You should even try to date other people. If your relationship with her was meant to be, you will find out that you start missing each other.

Thanks, very helpful.

olaBanks:
If you feel its not working, just walk away! It that simple. Try to limits physical contacts with her(and every other forms of communication), get very busy with something, be disciplined not to visit your past, but concentrate on building a better self! And lastly, don't think about it often! Just be! Time will take care of the rest!

Thanks, this is very helpful.

Pennah:
U see! these are some of the problems related with long time relationship


Op pardon my initial obtuse idea

It's okay bro... Yeah indeed it is a problem.

ibietela2:
And?

My gf sent me a text that it's over when i was sleeping, maybe you want to try that? Then stop any communication for sometime

We still find a way back to each other... the communication part is helpful thanks.

Harkynkunle:
..... Hmmmmnn... Just call her and tell her: Bae i wouldn't know if u will be able to continue with me..coz i've got a bad news here, (mind u by this time u will be sobering and almost wanna cry) Now tell her: Bae i just tested positive to HIV (now break down in so much tears) and see her reaction.... Thank me Later bro....lol
On a serious note ...every relationship has two sides and most definitely u gonna share of both parts i.e Sweeten part and d sadden part...Baba it's not how far but how well...if u truly love ur bae stick to her and try to make things right... since u guys had once been Love birds certainly u can always be..... Talking from Xperience Man....Ladies are just too flexibke

Hmmmm.... Food for thought... thanks.

Icecomrade:
:

Have you guys been banging each other?

Stop!!!!!

If you keep going between her legs, u can't get away.

If you need to jerk off so badly, explore other options. Just stay away from her p**

Erm not done that in a while now...

KiidaACE:

Just harden your heart,,Gaddammit!!

Thanks, Helpful...

kennyman2000:
Hmmmmm... You or your girl should relocate and sieze all contacts with eachother. If that's done for like 5 months. The feelings you've for one another ought to vanish..

Thanks a lot, we are not staying in the same place. I'll do the rest. Thank you... this was helpful.

ibietela2:
Tell her it's OVER between you two

Done that several times!!!

anytexy:
very simple just gradually start to CARELESS that settles it. Thank me later alright.

I didn't intentionally do that, but situations have put me in that state, and still she's still here. I didn't know how it felt until she started acting the same way and says it's not on purpose I should try and understand... she was there for me when I was acting CARELESS

Lasgidy1:
If I were u, I'll commit murder and commit suicide, in that case, no winner, no vanquished!
Anyways, today's my bday. Me and shalewa go f_ck ourselves until there's nothing left of us

Even though I have bouts of depression, I am not and never will be suicidal neither do I support violence thank you. Happy birthday btw.

Mindfulness:
You can go back there.

Thanks, but Hmm, a lot has changed, we are not the same people we used to be when we first met. Am not saying it's impossible, but the energy we would use to get back there, why don't we use it to improve ourselves and better our lives?

Hmm what's happening today? Everyone seems to want to move on...https://www.nairaland.com/2738065/need-advice-how-break-up.

My man, if you love something go for it, nor dull or waste time. If it's yours, its yours. Don't be considerate, if that guy were to be in your shoes do you think he'll consider you? In fact when you are dating the girl, he won't even consider you and will try to take her from you. Smh, the sooner you are realize we are in a jungle full of lions, the better.

gentlesinna:
Luk for Monday hammer use it nd hit ur gf for chest,if her chest rip open den u hv successfully broken up wit her.


Congrat in advance bro

Lol, no matter how serious a situation is, when humor is thrown at me, I can't help but laugh... which I am doing right now. but at the end of the day bro, the problem won't be solved. So you can share an experience on how you ended a relationship with a girl before and I can learn from it. I haven't formally initiated a break up before and that is why I ask.

Same goes to you @Pennah

I have to take this time out to thank every one who has contributed in one way or the other to this post. I have read through all the comments so far and they've been very helpful. I used to make her read Nairaland a lot then and probably she may stumble into this, she may relate but might not be able to figure out its me. I wish I could tell her "we made Front Page" but its a serious matter. To every one out there... communication is very key in every relationship; be it friendship or one that is intimate. I have been overwhelmed by your response and I think Nairaland has a lot of relationship dr's... Thank you once again Family...

These days, it's hard to differentiate true facts from lies, cause the art of lying has been carefully studied by humans and is now practiced effectively and efficiently.

We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

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Red wine is an alcoholic drink made from grape fruit. Subject to verification; Islam is against the drinking of alcohol and so the fact that red wine is alcoholic, it is a no no.
Grapes contains Reservatol- an anti-oxidant which has been proven to have several health benefits. Anti-oxidants offer health benefits which include; removing free radicals intermediate and inhibiting other oxidation reactions that occur in the body. The magnified implication of this is that, it generally protects your body from different diseases(cancer,heart diseases infact they are numerous) keeps you healthy, boost your immune system and slows down aging process.

brownsug:
Oputakumo

Lol

ayoolanr:
He needs to use some of that money to buy class....unfortunately, class is priceless.....Common agbero with money!!!

I disagree, he comes from a family with class.

What's the name of this his dance?

Targaryen:
Sometimes i wonder when will dominique give me a child.

Lol

FTC where's the money?

oake:
Good development. All this impunity must stop if this country must have a headway. A whole N8.6 billion deducted by SystemSpecs for Remita software e-Payment/e-Collection, not to talk of the 25 billion it charged for the transfer of N2.5 trillion of federal government funds to the TSA. And to think that the CBN has its own software for e-Payments and e-Collections? With the rate corruption is going, the death penalty may not be a bad idea after all. And they say Nigeria is broke

Exactly my thought...

What is the world turning into?

Space Booked

Jeez why move with such amount of money? He said $55,000 on his twitter handle though. http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/11/13/55000-2-rolexes-gone-davido-robbed-in-south-africa/

Even the FRSC? If true then this is pathetic.

philips70:
And why will this highly informative material not make front page but Sean Tizzle's and the rest frivolities will, amuses me. Even if relative thread has made it, this one too will not be a burden if it made it.

This amazes me too, it is high time our mods give us an explanation why poo news makes front page while informative news like this is left to oblivion.

The Central Bank of Nigeria has recovered N8.6 billion deducted by a Lagos-based software firm, SystemSpecs, which provided the e-Payment/e-Collection solution used for the transfer of government funds from commercial banks to the treasury single account (TSA) domiciled with it, THISDAY investigations have revealed.


The central bank, according to sources in the CBN, directed the company which owns the Remita software platform used for the funds transfer, when it was discovered that SystemSpecs had deducted as much as N8.6 billion for the remittance of government funds from banks to the TSA in the last few weeks.


Throwing more light on the e-Payment/e-Collection Remita software, which the Senate on Wednesday resolved to probe, CBN sources said the implementation of the modular solution was approved by the former CBN Governor who is currently the Emir of Kano, Alhaji Muhammad Sanusi II, and former CBN Deputy Governor, Operations, Mr. Tunde Lemo, in 2011 to facilitate the transfer of government revenue to the TSA.


On Wednesday, the Senate had ordered its joint Committee on Finance, Banking and Other Financial Institutions and Public Accounts to probe the allegation that the e-Collection agent, Remita, had been paid 25 billion, being the 1 per cent commission it charged for the transfer of N2.5 trillion of federal government funds to the TSA.


The motion, which was moved by Senator Dino Melaye and adopted by the Senate, held that the N25 billion payment was in gross violation of Section 162(1) of the 1999 Constitution which states that “the federation shall maintain a special account to be called the federation account into which all revenues collected by the government of the federation except the proceeds from the personal income tax of the personnel of the Armed Forces of the Federation, the Nigeria Police Force, the ministry or department of government charged with foreign affairs and the residents of the FCT, Abuja”.


However, investigations by THISDAY showed that Remita was not an agent or company, but the software platform used for the transfers, while SystemSpecs, whose Managing Director is Mr. John Obaro, is the owner of e-Payment/e-Collection solution.
The company’s website further revealed that the chairman of SystemSpecs is the former Director General of the Nigerian Broadcasting Commission, Dr. Christopher Kolade.


Other directors of the company include a former Executive Vice-Chairman of the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC), Mr. Ernest Ndukwe, Mr. Emmanuel Ocholi, Mr. ‘Deremi Atanda and Dr. Emmanuel Eze.


Remita, which has been adopted by the CBN as the e-Payment and e-Collection platform of the federal government, is currently used by all 22 commercial banks and over 400 microfinance banks nationwide.


CBN sources informed THISDAY that contrary to the assertion of the Senate that N25 billion had been paid to SystemSpecs, it was N8.6 billion that was deducted by the company for the transfer of N1.5 trillion since the enforcement of the TSA by the current administration in the last few weeks.


“Remita is an e-Payment/e-Collection software that has been in place since 2011, because the TSA transfers started under the Goodluck Jonathan administration.


“It was Tunde Lemo’s baby and approved by former Governor Sanusi for the transfer of funds to the TSA.
“But when it was discovered that SystemSpecs had deducted about N8.6 billion for the recent TSA transfers of N1.5 trillion, we immediately asked them to reverse the deduction, which they complied with.


“The issue was brought to the attention of the president (Muhammadu Buhari) and he asked that the money be returned immediately which is what has happened.


“Going forward, it is our intention to review the contract on the software, because the CBN has its own software for e-Payments and e-Collections,” a CBN official, who did not want to be named, said.

http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/tsa-transfers-central-bank-recovers-n8-6bn-from-owner-of-remita-systemspecs/225480/

Is this real?