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ITbomb: Dokubo is a muslim and to my knowledge he has only one wife for now so fill it up.
Didn't you heard about Edwin Clark?

Oga ITbomb dont BOMB us with your gbagaun

@bukatyne
So true, its all about the union.

@ada nri
Calling a child a goat or baboon is not an insult. Telling your kid he'd die young and poor is an insult..Flogging is way better because our teachers flogged us and we still had crush on some of them, insults and curses breed contempt and deep hate for yourself and your parent. It also reduces self esteem and self worth and this makes the children "try to hard" to be achievers to prove a point to thier number one enemy-the abusive parent. This is why fraudsters, prostitutes and co attempt to succeed in a do or die fashion.

@yellowpawpaw
you really are a survivor LoL. I'm glad you've have discovered the beautiful side of life. The good thing about this is many "oppressed" children turn out better parents (many turn out worse). Only those who have experienced war will advocate peace at all cost.

Richfella: DowJones my man. No, you're only looking at half the picture. It's a beautiful world.

You are not responsible for your dads actions. You are only responsible for your own.

The way he treated you is not a function of your value as a person. Please don't let it colour your outlook on life. 'Normal' parents don't act like that, just look at it in a way, that he had a deep-rooted problem that he couldn't handle. Even pity him.

Maybe some event in the past filled him with hate. And unfortunately you bore the brunt. Do you want resentment and pain to turn into another him?

I read a quote sometime ago that I will never forget, it is by St. Augustine. it goes thus: "Resentment is like taking poison and hoping that the other person will die".

If something happened to your memory today, would you still live in pain over what your dad did in the PAST? The past is dead. It's just a story in your head now. It's like a dream - gone. As if it never happened.

If you read this post, PM me. I'll send you something that will really be of help. Cheers bro.

Life is beautiful.

Thanks for the helpful words, i'm not all gloom and pessimism...there's a reservoir of hope in me.i try to relate with other people who face similar "opression" growing up. I'll try reach you.

Afam4eva: This reminds me of an accident that happened 2 years ago when a Ford car ran into about five cars with very little scratch but you needed to see the bad shape of the five cars. American and German cars are the strongest but are expensive to maintain.

That should've been an OLD model ford. Ford and other GM products are fibre platisc now...since after thier bailout i think.

Ada Nri1: There's a difference between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself because your dad insulted you. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful, wise and well mannered children with great fear of God.

You obviously dont know what it is to be abused..i'd suggest you review what you posted. My dad constantly told me i was not going to be anything in life..hell, he told me to mark his words...he would be very graphic on how i was going be a failure it was actually scary and mine was still mild compared to my elder sis. We were well behaved kids cos the fear was instilled to us...i used to stutter seriously as a child and my dad will make fun of me.(he too was a stutter but became very eloquent) mind you i had been expelled from 3 primary schools becuase i almost killed students who laughed at me so i also planned to kill the man but thats past now..you obviously dont know sh!!t

*so a quality thread like this can still grace the front page*

my dad is paying the price of his insults and curses cos none of his children talk to him and his wife was inches away from leaving him before she died...lonely old man always naggin on the phone.
Not everybody should be parents, so many people will do alot of good to world by not raising children because they simply transfer thier hate on to thier offspring.
I plan not to have children (or get married) i fear i will do worse but i see failures in parenting and marriage trying to change my mind. Cold world.

you know where the good girls are but you are not radical enough to find them there...

interesting thread

MRbrownJAY: @OP
beating a woman is definitely NOT an offence in my world, because there is ONE very good reason why beating a woman black and blue is allowed AND necessary: if that woman has the audacity to raise her hands on your person.
if a woman has no respect for you, then there is no reason for you (or anyone else) to have any respect for her....t[b]i[/b]t for tat!

in r/ships, everyone makes their own rules, and live by these rules. if beating a woman was "really" the highest offence in a r/ship then many women would LEAVE when they get their beat down, but we all know that most stay with that man (for whatever irrelevant reason)

Seconded..

copy and paste ...if the chic no jah you face how you won prove any quality

rokiatu and alaric have been friend zoned

beating a lady is NOT the worst you can do to woman.
most women prefer beating to these;

Rap!ng her assh0le
Releasing cumm in her mouth while she's giving a BJ
Denying her pregnancy
ignoring her all the time

I'm attracted to bisexual women with nice bumbum who are street smart. i'm also atrracted to pretty hijab wearing ladies and really hot single mothers MILF !

my advice for the OP is to delete her number.
When you struggle to begin a relationship, you will definitely struggle to maintain it. If she's to busy to pick your calls or reply missed calls and sms then she's prolly not into you and is too steupid to realize that she's wasting your time by stalling you.
calling a lady the same day you got the number is NOT WRONG or desperate (i wonder who makes these rules?),it infact puts momentum on things. dude, move on to the next one and to next one till you cant move no more.

my case is similar,I have always had a phobia for marriage since I was eight and maybe that's what lead to my current state of being bored with ladies.
my greatest fear is getting married because I know I will wake up one morning and leave my wife but I don't think its an issue because I believe we humans are wired to act the way we act.
like some sensible replies have said, the OP might just change if he meets a woman that will be radical enough to change him. my dad tells me I've not met my match yet so i guess I'd just keep balling these bitchees till I hook the right one

i sent you an email. pls check your inbox or spam

Reference: I totally disagree here. If our lives are all for gunning down everyone or anyone who provokes us then this world is over, finished.

What I detect here is a control freak who's overcome adversity and regards every posession as a trophy. If that is the case society should lock him away for a long, long time until he realises what life is actually about.

i agree with you on that

I'm sure you nairalanders just read the topic, skipped the content, ignored his logic and started to comment
Well, I will try my best to say it slow for the slowpokes. Avoid a relationship with any woman who brings out your bad side. An incompatible woman will bring you down, same way a "soulmate" will help you achieve your goals or help you maintain your already achieved status.

I'm sorry for Oscar and his late GF. Mr fani Kayode spoke from wisdom that only comes from experience.

all you feminist women who watch oprah or other confusionists and try to act out thier ideals on your relationship, you will end up single or dead. (you can be married and still single).
Most of the victims of this kinda crimes are usually "women with power" ... O.j simpsons wife, suzy Q ..

This is what nairaland has turned into.. vanity, materialism and shallow mindedness!

I don't blame the OP for this post. An id!ot will always be an id!ot. I blame the moderator who put it on the front-page.

You Nairalanders prefer Davido flashing a 10 million naira cheque on Twitter or Psquare flashing dollar bills on a plane or wizkid showing off his house?

If youths like this abound then the future of this country is bleak.

neupert: the price is 7,000 naira, how soon do you need it?

very soon.

what's the price of a Sony vaio battery? I don't have the model cos its not here. I changed the screen through your man last month.

kwam 1 : eyin mama e sempe

Ishilove: Yes indeed. Take my sweetheart, Innocent, for example. He was very loyal, fierce but sweet and very playful. The best friend anyone could ever wish for. He could have taken a bullet for me without thinking twice. Unfortunately he died on Wednesday from a liver infection.

*sob*

I'm sorry for your loss. I love animals more than humans

onatisi: all dis one na big story.
na today nlc nd tuc don dey do am?
pdp,nlc,fg,lg and state govt ,all of them are the same .
never trust a nigerian politician and nlc .all of dem na d same .there is nothing new or expository in this write just a confirmation of what 160 milion nigerians know already

you didn't include INEC.