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In Seduction you need to understand yourself first, know your strengths and weakness. You are to capitalise on your strengths and improve on your weakness.
But that is not all you need, you need to understand your opponent, that is, the person you are dealing with and in this case women.
For centuries women have been studying men while men are busy studying the world. It is no surprise that men have always been controlled by women. If you want to kill a man use a woman. The reason is that while men were busy studying the world and how to manipulate it. Women are busy studying men and know how to manipulate them. A 17 year old can control a 40 year old man. She knows his weakness and thus can manipulate him.
Their Greatest weapon is p*ssy, once a man sense he will get down with a lady he is willing to do anything and everything just to have a taste.

Sequel to the thread above is another thread titled World smartest cheaters
https://www.nairaland.com/5872481/world-smartest-cheaters-dating-clinic

This will open your eyes to the world of women.

Enoch07:
which kind of lawyer be this na

The lawyer get swag

onward4life:
This wan na native lawyer!!

Hahaha. Ah tell u

Sofistcatdmoron:
Some married couple have been having sex the wrong way

Hahaha

Kingarthur21:
lol..the op post defined rape as forcing a woman or girl..

That definition is sexism itself! Rape is forcing someone into sex

Anyway marriage doesn't stop a crime from being a crime,rape itself is a crime... Because it happens in marriage doesn't make it less than a crime.

Well according to Nigerian constitution his definition is correct

Arrrhhh

Dont just read. Comment

When the cheater gets Caught

One of the few Ways sometimes is when she :

Loses interest in physical intimacy
No matter how good she was getting it, she will lose interest in having sex if there is another man in her life. In most instances, this could the reason why she will pull away, act cold and distant. Kisses are quick and hugs are short could be a sign she is not interested in intimacy. Reason being she could be getting it elsewhere. A Woman may refuse her husband or boyfriend sex for upto a year because another guy is busy brousing her website.

Being secretive
if the phone is always locked and never leaves her sight, she goes to places without your consent or keeps secret from you. It is a sign she is cheating. Although this is not always reliable, ladies clearly their chats alot. Sometimes they can have more that one account without your consent. She may be very open to you but still cheating.

Trust your instinct
Sometimes you may have dreams about your partner cheating or someone your instincts keeps telling you the other is cheating on you. Most times follow that instincts.
My friend surprised me one day. I came to see him and met him arguing with his gf that she cheated on him. She was denying and swearing that she didn't cheat on him. I was like bro due you have any evidence, you might be wrongly accusing her. He told me he knack her in the morning, after which she told him she will b visting her aunty in the afternoon.
When she came back the guy knack her again, but this time he said he suspect she shack another guy because as he entered her it was not like before. I told him he was only exaggerating but he kept strressing it. I was even Supporting the lady. But he was indignant, he started threatening to broke up with her when the lady saw he was very serious. She knelt down and confessed that she never went to her aunties house, that she went to a guys house and got laid.
I nearly fainted.

In summary, men are seen as the gender that cheat most only because they're mostly caught

Good liars
When asked directly by her significant other whether she is cheating or not, chances are she will not admit and try everything possible to avoid confrontation. She will remain silent, leave the conversation hanging or turn it around on you.
Alot of ladies use tears as a form trying to show innocence, saying he doesn’t trust her. Even if she is confronted with evidence she will deny and even swear that she is innocent. If you are not careful she will dismiss ur evidence. It is only when you have a strong evidence thats when she will confess.
'Women are better liars because they're more psychologically sophisticated. You can argue about whether it's nature or nurture, but women are programmed to be much more relationship and people orientated than men.
'Emotionally, they make plans and have strategies, while men are more impulsive.'
From a young age, women will start to consider the kind of life they want, what kind of job or house they aspire to, how many children they'd like and what kind of partner.
Most men don't really develop that facility until they're much older. They live, psychologically, in the moment, while women think around corners and two steps ahead.
Women are also better at mental multi-tasking. They can keep all the different strands of a lie in their minds, remember them and make them convincing.
Research shows that men and women can detect when a man just cheated by observing his body language but they both can’t detect when a woman just cheated.
Men lie, too, but they are much more likely to forget something, or make a mistake and get caught out.
When men have affairs, they tend to be bigger risk-takers and naïve about how obvious their cheating is to an emotionally astute partner. They will also be bursting to tell someone about it(bragging).
A woman will always clear her chat history but a guy will not delete it for it is an evidence of his conquest.
'Men have more "trophy affairs" than women. They will often want to brag about it, or be so taken up by the sexual thrill of the affair that their behaviour is a giveaway.'
Women, on the other hand, are much more cool and rational, even when they're in the grip of passion.

Women are better Cheaters
Are men or women more likely to cheat? While men have always had a worse reputation for being unfaithful, recent studies show that women are catching up fast - but women are a lot more likely to lie about it, and a lot less likely to get caught.
Simply put, it seems that women are better at having affairs than men.
The news that Farrah Fawcett had a secret affair for 11 years without telling a soul is a classic example of the way a woman cheats: discreetly, in secret, and while carrying on with the rest of her life as normal.
The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret. If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.
That's a lot of women keeping a lot of secrets.
One woman I know has been married to her husband for ten years, and having an affair with another man for the past two years.
She Doesn't allow her lover to call her on her mobile or email me, ever. Mobiles and email leave a trail. She insisted they talk on their office landlines, and when they meet for drinks or dinner, they pay with cash.
They work in the same field, so meeting for lunch doesn't look suspicious. If they meet in the evening, she usually tells her husband she is with her sister, and then meet her lover a few miles away, where they won't bump into anyone.'
Does she feel guilty about the affair? 'Not so long as her husband doesn't find out.

Opportunities to cheat
Women have always had affairs, but over the past 20 years that number has risen dramatically.
The internet
Mobile phones, internet chat rooms and email also make it easier to fuel intimate encounters.

Office Romance
Jobs outside the home - with the ready-made excuse of working late or business travel - financial independence and changing social attitudes mean that modern women simply have more opportunity to meet other men and start affairs.
Work is the easiest way to cover up cheating. Travelling out of town or spending longer hours in the office are ideal for a fling.
Be weary when she Comes home looking fresh, but tired. Or tries to over compensate for being away.

Trips and long distance
She wants to visit home, her mother, sick grandmother etc sometimes this is an outlet for her to cheat.
In the past, women fooled their husbands by going for local trips. This trick has become too common and risky. They have now upgraded to flying out with their loverrs or fictitious ‘work-related’ assignments.
Some ladies use opportunity of long distance such as going to higher institution or NYSC to cheat on their partners whether married or not. Be weary of long distance relationship.
A guy was happy that his sister got admission to higher institution, he gave her money for school and was calling her from time to time to know about school. Only for him to have the shock of his life that all this while the sister was not in school she was in a neighboring house banging a guy all this house for months.

The 11th commandment
Women obey the 11th commandment which says "don't get caught."
Most men are cheats. But women make even better cheats. Catching a man cheating is as easy as ABC. Men are careless and will leave evidence lying at every corner...a condom in his laptop bag, lipstick on his shirt or cheek, make up kit in his car, earrings in his appartment, a girls hairstrands on his carpet.

Most times ladies caught guys pant down with another lady because for a guy to have sex he usually invites a lady to his house. If a lady Wants to Caught him she will come to his house unaware and may see him with another lady. Whereas most ladies visit guys to have sex and so wont get caught easily.
As for social media he will never delete his chat with ladies, maybe he wants to brag about it. Men are terrible at cheating.

However, this is not the case with women. Hunting down a cheating woman requires National Intelligence Service, if she’s not intending to be caught. When i was in JSS 2 one of our female teachers was even bragging to us that she dated two guys and they weren't aware, she was even calling them dump.

A girl was cheating on a guy for 3 years and he never found out despite he always checking her phone and viewing her chats.

She gave him her fb passwords, she doesn’t password her phone. This guy then trusted her so much and can swear that she never cheated on him still yet he later caught her cheating. The simple Technique was that she had a secret 3rd sim card she use to communicate with the guy only.

Women are always two steps ahead. They keep re-inventing new cheating tricks. Even though men are of the opinion that women are prone to cheating, most of them think that very few women cheat and reckon that, unlike men, women are more discreet and thus it’s hard to catch a woman cheating. Girls are very sharp the only two ways you can get them is if they want to be Caught or they are not smart enough. She will cheat on you countless times but when you cheat just once all hell will lose.

Sometimes in order not to raise suspicion she will be cheating with a neighbor, your friend, your brother, etc. Most guys will be less suspicious when they see their Girlfriend or wife close to their friend, brother etc. Sometimes they do that to their fellow female by cheating on their sisters husband /boyfriend, friends boyfriend etc.
Women cheat for various reasons, including thrill, dash of danger, spousal absenteeism, revenge, ‘raging hormones,’ opportunity, disrespect, old time’s sake and satiating unfulfilled sexual needs.

This is a sequel to the thread
https://www.nairaland.com/5832576/masters-manipulation-dating-clinic


If you are to asked the question who cheats the most, mostly the answer will be men. Men have been known notoriously for cheating in a relationship or marriage. They can't keep their d1cks in their trousers. You will hear alot of Scandals both offline and online.

Well if you ask me who cheat the most. My answer is guys cheat more that ladies

BUT

only because they are mostly the ones being caught.
In older generations, men were much more likely to cheat than women, whereas in the current generation women and men are cheating at similar rates and are gradually exceeding men.

The truth is that women have always lied about their sex lives. Men consistently claim to have had more partners than women. While men mostly exaggerate their sexual conquests, the bigger liars are women.

When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires, men will give the same answers to both, but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous. This means ladies love secrecy.

Cuddlebugie:
If I may ask, what age were you raped?

Y d question

Men's brains are designed to spend their time figuring out how to get objects in the environment to do their bidding.
Women's brains are designed to spend their time figuring out how to get men to do their bidding.
Men manipulate the environment. Women manipulate men.
I created a thread on how women manipulate men. Here
https://www.nairaland.com/5832576/masters-manipulation-dating-clinic#89131364

Lol i am expecting this to enter frontpage

WannaHowzit:
Like different distinctions between female-on-male rape and male-on-male.

Yes those are the different kinds of male rape

ZorGBUooeh:
Yes o

Poverty don rape some men life

ZorGBUooeh:
Yes o

Poverty don rape some men life

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Blackpearlous:
Maybe after corona

So what do u want to learn from my keys to seduction thread

TheSourcerer:
Fact

Yes sir. Our constitution needs to be reviewed


Definition of rape according to Cambridge dictionary says 'To force someone to have sex when they are unwilling, using violence or threatening behaviour:'

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Myndd44 Lalasticlala Seun Dominique

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Sources

1. Rabin, Roni Caryn (23 January 2012). "Men Struggle for Rape Awareness" . The New York Times . Retrieved 13 May 2020.

2. Constantino RE, Crane PA, Young SE (2012).Forensic Nursing: Evidence-Based Principles and Practice. F. A. Davis Company. p. 123. ISBN 978-0803639126 .

3. Deborah Condon. April 4th 2014. Irish Health. Male rape 'still a taboo subject' . Comments of Dr Maeve Eogan and Deirdra Richardson in Modern Medicine, the Irish Journal of Clinical Medicine .

4. Richard Tewksbury. Department of Justice Administration, University of Louisville. Effects on Sexual Assaults on Men: Physical, Mental and Sexual Consequences. International Journal of Men's Health, Vol 6, No 1, Spring 2007.

6. Rosin, Hanna (April 29, 2014). "When Men Are Raped" . Slate . Retrieved May 12, 2020.

7. Stemple, Lara; Meyer, Ilan H. (June 2014). "The Sexual Victimization of Men in America: New Data Challenge Old Assumptions". American Journal of Public Health. 104 (6): e19–26.

8. U.S Department of Justice

I just saw a thread on front page proving that men cannot be raped based and citation of different olddefinitions of rape by different institute.


It is worthy of note that rape was widely associated with crime against women by men but as new evidence are developing, gender specificity of rape is getting blurry.

Historically, rape was thought to be, and defined as, a crime committed solely against women. This belief is still held in some parts of the world , but rape of males is now known to be possible and efforts made to be criminalized and has been subject to more discussion than in the past.


The bone of contention in rape definition had been in the use of the term " made to penetrate" or " penetrate" which seems to exclusively refer to men.

The question then is can someone be raped without being penetrated?


In 2012 the U.S. Department of Justice adopted a new definition of rape, to be used in the FBI’s Uniform Crime Reporting program, that better reflected state criminal codes and the experiences of rape victims.

By that definition,


Rape is an unlawful sexual activity, most often involving sexual intercourse, against the will of the victim through force or the threat of force or with an individual who is incapable of giving legal consent because of minor status, mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception.

For the first time ever, the new definition includes any gender of victim and perpetrator, not just women being raped by men.  

The legal definition of rape has changed substantially since the late 20th century.

The traditional definition was narrow with respect to both gender and age; rape was seen an act of sexual intercourse by a man with a woman against her will.


Research and statistics

Research about male-victim rape had only just begun to appear by 1980, focusing mostly on male children. Most of the literature regarding rape and sexual assault focuses on female victims.

Only recently have some other forms of sexual violence against men been considered.

In the 2010–2012 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) measured a category of sexual violence called "being made to penetrate" which captures instances in which victims were forced to or attempt to sexually penetrate someone (of either sex), either by physical force or coercion, or when the victim was intoxicated or otherwise unable to consent.

The CDC found in the 2012 data that 1.715 million (up from 1.267 million in 2010) reported being "made to penetrate" another person in the preceding 12 months, similar to the 1.473 million(2010: 1.270 million) women who reported being raped in the same time period.

The definitions of rape and "made to penetrate" in the CDC study were worded with extremely similar language.

CDC also found that one in 17 men (5.9%) reported being made to penetrate at some point in their lives (up from 4.8% in 2010). A 2008 study of 98 men interviewed on the United States National Crime Victimization Survey found that nearly half of the men (46%) who reported some form of sexual victimization were victimized by women.


Myths regarding male victims of rape

Males are not vulnerable
By masculine gender socialization , it is thought that males, even younger males, cannot be victims of rape, nor even that they are vulnerable. In some societies, it is considered shameful and unmanly if a male child cries, because the male stereotype depicts males as being able to protect themselves, which may not always be the case.

Young boys may be weaker and vulnerable to perpetrators, who are usually stronger. The perpetrators can use whatever they have to abuse the child , including money or other bribes. An adult male may also be helpless to fight back, or fearful of doing so because of the possibility of being arrested for assault and/or battery due to social double standards regarding the use of force in self-defense involving female.


Males always want sex
A common societal belief is that a male must be aroused if he gets an erection or has an orgasm, therefore that means that they are willing and enjoying any sexual activity. Roy J. Levin and Willy Van Berlo wrote in an article in the Journal of Clinical Forensic Medicine that slight genital stimulation or stress can create erections "even though no specific sexual stimulation is present".

An erection does not mean that the men consent to sex. Males can get erections even in traumatic or painful sexual situations, and this does not indicate consent.

Much like female erectile response, male erectile response is involuntary, meaning that a man need not be aroused for his penis to become erect; mechanical stimulation is all that is necessary. Arousal and stimulation are distinct things.

Stimulation is a physical response to a stimulus. Men can be physically stimulated without feeling aroused and thus causing an erection. Men can be scared and intimidated into an erection, especially if the person is older or an authority.

Traumatization
One notion is that males are less traumatized by the abuse experience than females are; this includes the belief that males are less negatively affected.

Studies show that the long-term effects are damaging for either sex and males may especially be more damaged by social stigma and disbelief of their victimization. It is noted by Eogan and Richardson that male victims tend to feel more intense anger than female victims, while both go through similar feelings of distress after the rape.

Frazier (1993) studied 74 male and 1,380 female rape victims. She found that the depression and hostility are more profound on male victims immediately post-rape than on female victims.

Types of male rape

Male-on-male rape
Male-on-male rape has been heavily stigmatized . According to psychologist Sarah Crome, fewer than 1 in 10 male-male rapes are reported. As a group, male rape victims reported a lack of services and support, and legal systems are often ill-equipped to deal with this type of crime.

Prison rape: Several studies argue that male-male prisoner rape , as well as female-female prisoner rape, are common types of rape which go unreported even more frequently than rape in the general population.

War rape: The rape of men by men has been documented as a weapon of terror in warfare. In the case of the Syrian Civil War (2011–present), the male detainees experienced sexual abuse such as being forced to sit on a broken glass bottle, getting their genitals tied to a heavy bag of water, or being forced to watch the rape of another detainee by the officials.

In the Democratic Republic of Congo, Many male refugees who have escaped from the civil war in Congo to Uganda have been raped. In northern Uganda, in recent years there have been ongoing attacks by rebel groups against the government forces. During these conflicts, civilian men have often been attacked, kidnapped, raped and forced to fight for the rebel groups.

Across Africa, men who are raped often face social stigmatization , accusations of homosexuality (which is illegal in many countries of the region), and being ridiculed for being "weak" and failing to prevent the rape.

Female-on-male rape
Female-on-male rape is under-researched compared to other forms of sexual violence.
Whenever rape is mentioned, what usually comes to mind is a man taking advantage of a woman. Men are expected to just remain calm and pretend as if they enjoy being abused?


"Few years ago an incident happened in Ilorin, Kwara State. Two young ladies approached an Okada man and asked him to take them to a remote part of town. It was already late, so the man initially refused to carry them through that bushy part. But he later agreed after the two promised to pay him N1,000.

On their way, one of the ladies suddenly asked him to make a stop. As soon as he parked his Okada, one of the ladies slapped him from behind, and, before he knew what was going on they had overpowered him and tied him up with a rope. They then dragged him into the bush, tore his trousers and raped him repeatedly before they finally left him there and left."


A similar case includes James Landrith, who was made to penetrate a female acquaintance in a hotel room while incapacitated from drinking, while his rapist cited the fact that she was pregnant to advise him not to struggle, as this might hurt the baby.

There are several widely publicized cases of female-on-male statutory rape such as in the US which involved school teachers having illegal sex with their underage students (for Mary Kay Letourneau and Debra Lafave).

There are drivers, domestic male staff, junior staff and agile and handsome young men who are being sexually exploited by oga madam at the top, but they suffer in silence. I have heard of male staff, who were victimised because they refused to sleep with their female bosses. Even Joseph in the bible was sexually assaulted. These are clearly cases of sexual harassments. But they prefer to be silent mostly because of stigmatisation or they fear nobody will believe them.

Where there is no law, there is no freedom – John Locke

These are just few of the numerous cases of male rape that are not usually taken seriously in Nigeria and in the world.

Just as women and girls should be protected against rape and abuse, men and boys should also be protected, in-line with gender justice and fairness.

Rape is a monster which should be stamped out of every civilized society. Whether it is female or male rape, it is an evil act that should be punished duly.

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Lalasticlala Seun

Blackpearlous:
Female

Well the answer to your question is yes

NeeKlaus:
Let me help the OP and reply you.
Don't start a conversation with a girl you just met or collected her number by introducing yourself.
Don't even start with a greeting. Let me tell you, She has A LOT OF GUYS that are greeting her at that particular moment. All their messages are flowing in and yours will just join the "queue of boring messages".

When texting a girl for the first time, try something different apart from greetings. Just start the conversation like you both had known each other for quite a long time. Start it from the middle. One conversation starter that always works most of the time is by commenting on her profile picture (if she has her picture there).

Don't say something like "You are really beautiful in your DP. You are gorgeous. You are blah blah blah". That's just lame. Comment on her hairstyle. Her makeup (women love this one), her nails, the dress she's putting on.

Here's a line if she's putting on a dress in her DP: "I swear, that dress is so fineeeee! But I promise you, it will fit me better than you. "

She will leave all the other messages and reply you. Why? Because you sent something different.

Very good.

You have done justice to it.
Whatever is normal becomes boring doing something out of the box gets her attention.

Blackpearlous:
Can you write about women too?

Are u male or female

Spman:
Good day great men here.
Pls I need advice as per say i still dey learn.

Am the type that is good when it comes to chatting with ladies on social media most especially facebook thanks to some tips i read here and other top men that give us some tips.


So this days i have gotten not more than 6 ladies number on fb and about 4 of them promised to visit me in my house..

So as the matter be i sha like sex to happen but how do i make it.

Should i discuss and let them know before arrival to be sure make dem no go dey do noo noo or i should leave it till when she comes then i make move?

Understand women
The right way to get a woman looks like the wrong way. It is not going front but going backwards, it is not going up but going donw. Sometimes it is incomprehensible by logic.

@bolded
Don't discuss with a girl about getting laid/having sex. You will get the opposite effect. If you want to kiss a girl and you sense she is attracted to you just kiss her don't ask her if she will like to kiss you. You also just make move to have sex with her you don't ask if she will like to have sex with you and you also don't tell her you are planning on having sex with her that will be a stupid idea.

If you have create a stong bond with them already they will already put it at the back of their mind that they will have sex with you when coming to visit you.

When a lady comes to your house don't be desperate for sex. Make sure you entertain her with food, if you have system play romantic movies for her, you can do pillow fight and other fun things that will make her comfortable touching you. You can do a truth or dare game. Think up any cool thing to do. If she is very comfortable you can make your move and make sure you are good in preintimacy(know how to pleasure a woman before sex) and bedmstics. If you can do that she will come back

If she didnt agree to your advances please do not force her allow her be. Never beg or force a girl for sex. It should be a mutual thing.

joeblack62:
WhatsApp. Sorry for my late reply

Nt that. Which sentence do you use to chat her up?

khingTony:
Dpsychologist

I liked what you did here (because it's obvious you are done already) you deserve few accolades, yeah, for something you are not being paid for, you spent time, uploaded images and wrote a lot. But, I have a few things to say

I stumbled upon this thread, was interested, read the first page(the story caught me), hopes were high, but I didn't see what I expected.

Well, You narrated a story about a lady, a "bad guy" and a gentleman(who has a car), and you went on to talk about Dressing, abs, grooming, status and money.

And there is a question that popped up within me, what if that gentleman was always looking good, since he has a car, that means he's doing averagely financially, has a good status, maybe where he works or something, Will the lady still take him serious? The answer is No.

So, to me, you didn't really solve any problem here, you didn't tell anyone how to be that "bad guy" you just went ahead to ask guys to present their relationship issues.

And that's what most "Alpha male Tutors" in Nairaland are doing, they just state the qualities of a "bad guy" without telling people what to do to be that "bad guy" and that's why guys will still run back with some silly questions like

"There is this girl I texted hello to, she texted me hi, what should I do next?"

So if you really do want to teach people something, do it to the extent that they would stop asking such questions and be able to teach other guys as well

I am glad you are following.
Yea if you observe you will noticed i havent finish with the keys to seduction i was actually just starting i was very busy doing something but be rest assured that there is more. I just finished talking about the basics.


The next will be

Keys to seduction 3: Understand women

Keys to seduction 4: Personality (we will talk extensively about the bad guy, gentleman, etc)

By the way thanks for your imput