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[color=maroon] Multi-Failing problem

This is the classic “New Years Resolution” problem, wherein a person decides to make drastic changes in a very short term.

Lifting weights, eating healthyfood, cutting back on alcohol, getting quality sleep, and maintaining a social circle are all important aspects of a quality life, however attempting to implement all these changes at once increases the risk of failing at every one of them.

This error is very closely linked to the time error covered in the preceding section, and consists of attempting to make many significant changes at the same time.

A man may find the manosphere, see the error of his ways and attempt to change everything about himself at once.

This means going from not working out at all to working out 5 – 6 times a week, from not eating right to eating right for 100% of his meals, changing his mindset, working on his posture, and body language, and many other things.
In a way this “shocks” the system, but it also creates a large workload that must be managed.

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[color=maroon] Some examples

When an old corporation with accumulated bad habits gets a new CEO, the CEO having little personal investment and no sunk cost in “How we have always done things”, finds it easy to change this and experiences few problems about doing so, however the rest of the organization finds it fifficult for they have been heavily invested in, and reliant on the old methods and processes.

This is when the CEO finds that changing old habits is like removing a tattoo, that which took a couple of hours to put on, takes weeks worth of expensive treatment to remove.

This mirrors how a person who decides to go on a low-carb diet experiences side-effects for a while until the body recalibrates to burning body fat instead of dietary carbohydrate as its fuel. Alternatively how a person who goes from not working out at all, to 5 sessions of heavy weightlifting per week will struggle to move after the first day due to delayed onset muscle soreness.

Anyone who has every gone on a diet is familiar with the fact that weight loss is not linear, and that one cannot undo decades of neglecting one’s energy balance in a few weeks.

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[color=maroon] There is no shortcut to happiness. When ever you go for fast fixes or band aids you end up stuck in the middle.

The problem of Fast Fixes

The inherent problem with attempting to correct many things at once, often with drastic measures is that nature has an inherent way of requiring a certain amount of time to be sacrificed.

Thus, expecting to rectify the mistakes made here will take deliberate practice to an extent where it at the very least represents a significant proportion of your time spent with the old habit.

However, it also appears to be an innate human tendency to want to rectify perceived grave errors rapidly, especially when one sees an upside and very little downside to doing so.

In “ Outliers ” Malcolm Gladwell outlines the 10.000 hours of deliberate practice one must allocate to a field of specialization in order to be an expert, and the fact is that after potentially decades of poor habits, you are an expert in these bad habits.

In order for your new habits to become your default system, they must be brought up to a level where they rival your previous version of system software , otherwise it’s easy to slip back into old bad habits.
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[color=maroon] 70.) STUCK IN THE MIDDLE

A Jack of all trades is a master of none.

When men find the manosphere, they find the biggest self-improvement community on the internet, that deals with self-improvement in many areas of life. What started with the simple scripts of presenting yourself as a high value male, has morphed into a community focused on constructing high value men.

Many of the men who enter this sphere find themselves wanting in multiple regards. If they are lucky there is merely one glaring issue staring them in the face, but often there are a mix of psychological, physiological and social issues that they find themselves having to resolve.

In an effort to rectify these issues rapidly, they find themselves frantically attempting to improve on every front at once, only for their willpower to run out and the inevitable backsliding takes place.

The sheer volume of red pill literature these days is so immense, and a man who is recently awoken from the blue pill illusion is rapidly made painfully aware of the many bricks that built the walls illusion and that he must now disassemble.

This wall that served him throughout his life consists of mindset, physiology, psychology, habits, principles, learned scripts, innate scripts and many other pieces that in their totality serve as the causality of his life.

His view that karma sorts out everything, that he doesn’t need to exercise and eat real food, innate issues with self-esteem, the habit of putting other people before self, or principles about how to behave all work together in synergy to create a weak, sick, submissive, supplicating man.

This wall that in some regards was constructed as a means to sequester himself within his own world.

When faced with reality that this wall obscures his view of the world, and forms a construct that leads to him undertaking actions and making choices that were at best ill-informed in an effort to remain in control of imagined risk, he often undertakes to deconstruct in a day that which was built over a lifetime.[/color]

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How do you make money

A. Skill

Life is difficult, more like survival of the fittest.

Skills can be divided into two.

1. Analog
Analog skills involves manual labour. These skills generate income although it may be tiring and time consuming as it requires use of muscles. This include brick laying, plumbing, driving etc.

2. Digital
Digital skills involves the use of information and communication technology. This might also be time consuming but when done right can generate income more than the analogue. This include copywriting, coding , Website design, Graphic design, Animation, Freelancing, E-book creation and publishing
3d Logo designs, Content creation.

I saw Pstaragood et al shedding more light on this.

B. Entrepreneurship
This involves being your own boss and employing other people to work for you using their skills(either analog or digital). It involves using other peoples time, other peoples brain and other peoples money. This can be referred to as owning a business e.g Dangote, Otedola.

C. Job

Your Network determines your networth

Good game will help you get money, you need money to build connections and get into the networks that hire and promote based on personal favouritism, nepotism and back scratching.

If you always depend on meritocracy you will be disappointed. Meritocracy has its limits as fundamentally we’re all humans seeking power and a leader at any level of the hierarchy would rather have someone on their side that they like rather than someone who’s better educated but simply annoying to work with or perceived as a threat (eg: that cliche excuse for rejection that you’re overqualified for a job.)

Alot of people during their undergraduate days can contest this thought and get into notions that meritocracy is the order of the day but they have join the bandwagon of jobless graduate thrir idealisations of meritocracy shatter and they come to see that in reality, it is not always about what you know but who you know and also who knows you.


If you’re going to university then choose your degree wisely. If it doesn’t pay or even have an at least 50% chance of paying then don’t bother doing it. Sure you may like to study tourism or creative writing and psychology is kind of cool too but if you don’t want to be jobless or working where you don't like and want to be a competitor not a survivor then you better study something that pays right or not bother at all. [/color]

IhateMyDad:
yh I did get it.
but that's just the dictionary definition
just needed a simpler term to explain to someone.

got others tho;

hypergamy- scaling
Machiavellianism- manipulative
naccissism- self centered
Solipsism- self absorption

ok

but according to your previous explanation,
has to do with a girl forming an opinion or a thought based on emotions,

This is solipsism

and looking for other logical reasons to back it up.

This rationalizaton

does that best explain solipsism/self absorption ??

Do no mix up the terms.

harry2sexy:
In my thoughts,i just knew there's no end to simphood, it's just inborn in us

I beg to differ. Its not inborn in us. Simphood is thought.

[color=maroon] 4. Money:

Money making is more external than game, game is all about your cognitive wiring, money relies on that but it also requires an external skill which others can directly benefit from. It requires something the economy will pay for because it needs it.

Money is the single most powerful non-sentient object in existence; it is a measurement of objective power which each and every life needs to continue to exist.

Philosophically it means little, as a measurement of power it means everything.

For those who have none it is everything, for those who have plenty it is nothing (because they’re already enjoying the lifestyle,)

Game leads to money and money leads to better game which leads to more and more money creating a positive feedback cycle.

More money means more opportunity, more opportunity means more growth.[/color]

Kizito2nv:
Bro I really want her to be fortunate oo , but there's this anger you feel when it looks like you have been a slave all your life and then someone frees u and also empower you more than your captors,

That's how I feel

I'm not trying to exaggerate anything, this is what is happened today.

There's this beautiful new girl around my area I used to be scared of approaching her, but after the first day read this thread I manned up like, magic she gave me her number in the presence of a guy who has been begging for the same number for i don't know how long

I followed some of the rules here like not acting too desperate for her and all that.

Today in church I found out that the fine girl is a close friend to my ex girlfriend.

Though she hasn't known we dated yet and I'm not telling her

After service , I asked her to call me we needed to see.

We met, the whole thing was like a movie to me it was just flowing no stress .

She has agreed on another proper date this time.

said she had a wonderful time with me.

I really feel like not taking her serious, but I can't punish another girl for the sin of another.

I wish I would see her face when she finds out I'm now with her friend who is way prettier and fun to be with.

I swear I never really realized how less I settled for all these while until today.

Promise to always take a dose of red pill daily no matter how tired I'm.

Until I'm fully emancipated

That is the purpose of this thread to tell the truth and nothing but the truth. I am happy this thread is changing life for the better.

Should We tell him

They will rather die than say it.

IhateMyDad:
what's the word interchangeable with Solipsism

Individualism is the word. You can also use self-centeredness(egoism)
Solipsism is Self-absorption, an unawareness of the views or needs of others.
Hope you now get it.

Kizito2nv:
Bro writing so much and talking about her brought me to this point.

I feel keeping things short and simple is the way out for starters

I'm one of those guys that loves to write epistle on woman matter but after reading uptil page 10 I realized men they are not worth that stress

I'm at page 19 and don't even know if really want her back

What are my gaining from the relationship sef mtweeee

Have even shared the link to my friends on WhatsApp guys need to wise up our mumu don do

You are welcome here bro. Some of us were once in your shoes. I Read your story.

@bolded that is a thought provoking question. From such question i can deduce that you are the one who invest more in the relationship and as such gives her more power.

You are the one investing more in the relationship. You need to know that the one who initiates break up holds 80% power. They can choose either to get back or not with their ex.

Bro, relationship is a game of power and she has all the power. Just forget about her for now. Get yourself occupied with other things. Start focusing more on yourself. You came into this world alone and you will go back alone.

Love yourself first.

Martinez39s:
Do you know Amber Heard is bisexual? Her previous relationship before Johnny Depp was with a woman.

currently i think she is also dating another lady.

JasperVII:
I'm starting to feel sorry for Johnny Depp. Man has been going through a lot because of a woman who has so much evidence against her.

Thats the power of a p*ssy. A woman can destroy a man from a king to a slave.

Last time i heard, amber heard is dating another lady.

[color=maroon] 3.Game:

This is the most important element of a man’s personal power, not just with women but with people/existence.

Game is interchangeable with “social skills.” Gaming and building attraction doesn’t just have to mean sexually but it applies non-sexually too.

It’s all about cultivating your personality and being real, not needing to act because you don’t like who you are but actually enriching who you are to be powerful and attractive. It makes people value and accept you.

This is the stuff that builds your social circles, allows you access into other social circles, allows you to network and gets you the job at the interview.

Game is developed over the span of one’s life and never becomes obsolete or irrelevant.
I will go further and subdivide game into elements which consists of:

¶ Charm/confidence – this is simple narcissism, self-confidence, self-assuredness, this is what demonstrates non-verbally that you are a high value person.

¶ Machiavellianism/sophistry – knowing how to perceive and play a situation to come out victorious, knowing what’s real and what’s not, why people are doing what they’re doing, knowing when you’re being played either as a pawn or as a theatrical fool in someone else’s game

¶ Humour – Humour is often at the expense of negativity, it produces positive energy from a negative source and communicates non-verbally that you are capable of staring at the face of failure/negativity without becoming unhinged by it. Humour is a cornerstone of power and influence and ties in closely to charm.

¶ Wit – this is what allows you to pass shit tests, essential if you ever want to get anywhere in life, everyone will shit test you when they first meet you so they can personally ascribe value based on their impression of you , your eloquence, the creativity of your communication and a successful delivery style are all elements of wit, this is the cornerstone of a strong frame[/color]

mosdii:
men get in here and read this message.
ubunja
GLYCOLYSISS
Martinez39
pansophist
Dpsychologist

Very true. The life of a man is tough.

[color=maroon]2. Looks/Beauty:

Love yourself. A man that does not care about how he looks does not love himself —Dpsychologist

This is way more important for a woman than it is a man but don’t think because you’re a man your looks are irrelevant, beauty privilege is a real thing, good looking people get favours ugly people don’t(remember the halo effect).

Sure you can get laid and be ugly in the right situations but we’re talking about power here, not simply getting laid on one random night where logistics are right and you demonstrate high enough value in other areas.

Why neglect one cornerstone of power when you can be even more powerful by giving this area its due attention? It goes without saying, go down the gym, not only does it increase your strength physically but it improves how you look.

It gives you a body you feel you can look at and respect. It increases your testosterone and your drive, mentally invigorating you as you get stronger and stronger.

Maintain your hair, facial and head hair, a badly groomed man makes an ugly man (i detailed this under SMV).

Dress well, a poorly dressed man communicates low status in the sense that he is either poor, stupid or both – people judge us very much so on our superficialities so be sure to overcome everything you have control over.

If you’re a midget or you have some chronic non-treatable condition or deformity then you’re going have to deal with it, that’s life, compensate in other ways, these things will stop you from achieving a perfectionist ideal of power because their drawbacks are significant, however, they will not stop you from being powerful if you’ve got your mind right so don’t use that shit as an excuse to give up.

If you give up on yourself then enjoy being powerless because nobody else cares. No human can love you the way you Love yourself. [/color]

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How do you build this power?

Here are fundamental cornerstones capable of granting a man his power and these are…

1. Redpill philosophy
Internalising red pill philosophy is very empowering, seeing things for what they are rather than what you want them to be is an incredible commodity in today’s society of indoctrinated and oblivious masses.
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Your twenties isn’t “your time to have fun because you’re young” but it’s your time to “build your life and become the man that you want to be”.

If you’re not going to do it now when you’re at your most energetic, when the hell are you going to do it?

Is it In your 30’s? Your 40’s? Or 50? You cannot forever be a teenager playing Xbox or PS4 and masturbating to porn streams or relying on your parents.

Plenty do and what they get to enjoy is a limited existence, you’ll never get powerful being that guy although you may find joy in the acceptance of your comfortable monotony,but greatness will be far from you.

In summation: Use your 20’s to become the man you want to be, to acquire power of all and any kind, in your 30’s enjoy the power you’ve acquired supplementing and maintaining what you have built so that you can enjoy it way into your 40’s.

The quest for power is never truly over, but a 20’s man has a long way to go before he becomes powerful enough to be in the top 5% (aim very high). Whatever you do aim for the best.

Your elders, especially the accomplished ones, may be intimidated by you out of self-preservation but play your cards right and they will mentor you with experience and resources, seeing a younger version of them, within you. [/color]

For those who wanted to reach me via NL mail here is my gmail: d.psychologist1@gmail.com

[color=maroon]69.) SELF-IMPROVEMENT (20's & 30's men)



Unlike women who should be using their youth to lock down a suitable suitor in their early 20’s (preferably an accomplished successful man in his late 20’s or early to mid-30’s) a young man of the same age should be doing everything he can to improve his position in the social marketplace, not just to get laid but to utilise his own innate potential to evolve and become better than he is.

Your entire 20’s as a man should be about self-improvement, enriching yourself and improving your skill sets, for you are free from commitment and the burden of family life, you have no huge responsibilities as such do not have a serious girlfriend if you have serious considerations for power.

Women atimes can be liabilities that they will bring drama and undue stress to your life that may hold back your efforts to improve yourself
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Lol

Self-Improvement (20's & 30's men) loading

Its time for us to enter another stage of the red pill which involves Self-Improvement.

TheUndercover:
I've been wanting to ask this question too. Is there any redpil thread or quotes too for women?

Of course there are. They are right in your face everyday.

IhateMyDad:
At last!! ��.. I've finally reached the end of the thread.
started the journey from the 1st page on 30th Oct and reached this last page today.
it's been awesome mehn, and I honestly don't mind going all over from the beginning again

thanks so much OP @ dpsychologist
the world needs more great men like you.
your ability to teach and impact knowledge is outta this world
I honestly appreciate you, more blessings and Grace on you brother.

also many others like

@pstarogood
@ undercover
@star..
etc.
thanks for all your inputs.

I'd say I'm not a simp literally
you know, reading up been cruise,like been lmao even at midnight.
what made it quite funny to me is that, I've been doing all the redpill stuff even without knowing bout redpill �.
I guess u can blame that on girls coming to me since an early age,lol

now I fully understand why girls do what they do, and know how to treat them better (being super superior)
and always keeping em on their toes with my dark triad.

thanks once again OP, u're blessed mate.

Funny enough. We have similar life experience. When i came in contact with the Redpill i was not really shocked.

dollarstays:
didnt really want to get angry this morning when my post of encouraging you to start the teaching of power dynamics was attacked .....i personally had to deviate from my knowledge of redpill to make that man accept this gender equality myth.....i didnt need to get disrespectful by calling him out direct i just had to talk to him indirectly with my follow up posts .......i just wish you can tag him to come read the full gist that is in recent posts because this guy only believes you.....I think i need to stop commenting here for a y so that i wouldnt hit a nerve.....

Sorry i didn't get you.

Yea Hypergamy is that important in Redpill

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When a man watches female behavior instead of listening to their words patterns begin to emerge. One of the most important patterns a man might notice is that the most powerful force in the universe is hypergamy(not compound interest as Einstein humorously stated.)


Women will do anything for the seed of a top dog. Just watch as they literally faint in old videos of The Beatles. Have you seen how ladies behave in Justin Bieber concerts? They turn into total whores whenever a dominant male enters the room, or orbit actors like DiCrapio.

Guys like DiCrapio look and act like douches but have the key female-attracting intoxicants: money, status, and power.

Feminism fails to account for the fact that removing money, status, and power from men will ultimately unleash chaos on society.

A perfectly equal society is a society in which women have almost ZERO attraction to men, because men in such a society would be bereft of the qualities that make them attractive to women in the first place. [/color]

[color=maroon]Even though the following information is regularly hidden in academia because it doesn’t fit cultural narratives, studies of sexual behavior have led to quite the stunning revelation that harems are quite a normal part of human history.

It seems this tendency of women to orbit dominant men while using weaker men for resources is becoming the norm once again in the 21st century world in which cultural mores designed to keep women’s sexuality from destroying society have blindly been discarded in a vain pursuit of making “a better world.”

Here are some other parts of the world in which women were in harems of a dominant man.

Egypt : Pharaohs demanded to be in the constant company of numerous beautiful girls.

Israel: King Solomon had 1000 women.

Sri Lanka : King Kashyapa had a harem that numbered 500.

Mexico: Montezuma had 4,000 concubines when he met Cortez.

China: One emperor had 2,800 concubines.

Africa: Junior wives and concubines orbited Chieftans.

Mongolia : Genghis Khan fathered so many children 1 in 200 men have his DNA today.


If nothing else, this historical fact helps show why women have such contempt for Beta males – they are not as valuable for providing material things as high status men.

So women (like men, but moreso) are driven by coding from selfish genes, women want dominant men and don’t care about the rest (incidentally this is the rule in other species as well), and they do not think about the consequences of their actions on the long term viability of the civilization they’re in.

They’d rather be in a harem with a dominant man than the “one and only” of a nice boy.

The West was unique in that it had evolved to offer males a seat at the table of the human family via culturally enforced monogamy. That offer has since been rescinded. [/color]

[color=maroon] The Selfish Gene theory of Hypergamy

If it’s been said once, it’s been said a thousand times, nice guys finish last. But why is it that women choose dominance every time over niceness, dooming notions of sexual equality to dismal failure?

The Selfish Gene theory could explain the tendency of women not only to marry up, but to completely disregard the bottom 4/5 of men as potential suitors as The Pareto Principle suggests.

Here’s a simple definition of The Selfish Gene:
A lineage is expected to evolve to maximize its inclusive fitness—the number of copies of its genes passed on globally (rather than by a particular individual).

The translation of that effete sounding definition of The Selfish Gene means: Women want to Bleep the winners, and they will Bleep over the losers .

Women have evolved to disregard and even harbor contempt for “inferior” DNA.

Women, more than men, are beholden to the influences of The Selfish Gene, and though we may lament its effects on our sexual and familial prospects as men there are sound biological reasons women have evolved to be ruthless when it comes to choosing sexual partners.

It all comes down to survival of the genes.
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