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[color=maroon] Feminists reframe male subordination as equality, whilst allowing and even encouraging female supremacy to flourish under the same guise.

Women need men to be superior to them to be attracted to them, but out of ego do not wish to admit inferiority.

This is why you have this strange compartmentalisation where women only pursue men of superior genes, wealth and status to them, but then claim equality in all aspects in which they are inferior.

If women truly believed in gender equality as an absolute, they would be attracted to men who are objectively inferior to them.

As they don’t, we can deduce that women (even feminists) don’t really believe in gender equality, but merely use it as a tool of no real defined shape, which in all its fluidity, is utilised for no purpose other than to provide women with short-term benefit.[/color]

[color=maroon]Equality, Superiority, Feminism :

When a woman says “men and women are equal” it’s only ever in regard to something in which men are objectively superior, never in an aspect in which women are regarded superior.

Wherever a woman is regarded as inferior, culture will be blamed rather than biology. For example, women are inferior to men at mathematics – feminism will blame “lad culture” and the prevalence of “old white men in the sciences” rather than admit women have less logical and systematising brains than men.

Women have inferior musculature to men (less muscle mass) and again, the feminist approach will always take a 100% nurture position, attributing blame entirely to socialisation.

Feminists ignore the differences in the male and female brain in matters of mathematical and scientific ability, and likewise do the same in athletic matters, ignoring the anabolic nature of testosterone, a hormone men have ten times more of than women.

Now if you asked a woman who believes in gender equality which sex is better with children, almost all will say “women are better”. So when women are actually inferior, you get this equality bigotry (because feminine infantile narcissism feels unimportant when admitting inferiority), but where women excel, you get female superiority (feminine infantile narcissism likes feeling important).[/color]

dollarstays:
you are right about them.......concerning the telegram stuff..... oga(@dpsychologist) said we move ..so we move .....i'm in!!!

To make things clear. We are not moving away from this thread. The telegram is to supplement this thread. There videos, books, screenshots, audio recording etc can be shared.

[color=maroon] Infantile Narcissism as the Basis for Feminism:

The infantile insecurity quintessential of the feminine is exploited by feminism, encouraging women to compete with rather than complement the masculine.

The reason women often say “I believe men and women should be equal” and actually believe it is because of the fragile feminine ego. Many women are uncomfortable with the idea that they are the secondary sex.

The fruits of this very successful, yet deleterious propaganda has created successive generations of women who are not entirely cognisant of, and undervalue the importance inherent to their “position” – the species dependence on their nurturing of the young.

This is a woman’s calling as much as a man’s is to protect and provide, and yet feminists, like spoiled children who think they deserve better, reject their biological destiny in a quest to feel like they’re the primary sex.

Men are the primary sex because they build civilization, women are the secondary sex(helpers) because they have added and continue to add very little to civilization.

But still, even in the secondary position, there is a great deal of importance in women’s role. Nurturing the species is no small feat, and women being taught to disdain rather than embrace this role are doing not just themselves, but our species an indomitable disservice.[/color]

[color=maroon] Women Need Male Superiority:

Women are attracted to men they perceive to be superior, equals and inferiors are invisible to women. The equals and inferiors are “the creeps”.

The red pill refers to the female desire for male superiority as hypergamy, hypergamy is the fulcrum on which female attraction operates: is the man more dominant than her? If yes, he’s attractive, if not, he isn’t.

Social dominance is important to women, in fact it is probably the most significant attraction cue in a woman’s determination of whether a man is desirable or not, although thanks to feminism, you’ll scarcely hear a woman (or even man) tell you that in this day and age.

The feminine need for men to be better than them is the reason nice guys finish last and “those jerks” get all the women, nice guys behave in a manner which communicates submission and inferiority, whilst jerks behave in a manner that communicates dominance and superiority. [/color]

[color=maroon] 68.) THE MYTH OF GENDER EQUALITY



Due to feminist sociocultural influence, there has been a paradigm shift with the notion that each party is somehow “equal”. The purview that each party is equal to the other, that nobody leads nor follows, but rather that each party makes proposals to the other and that such a thing somehow works is completely delusional.

Equality is a fiction, and all romantic relationships are hierarchically based upon a leader-follower dynamic to take form and function.

It is inconceivable to think that a consensus could be reached within a democracy of two without one eventually conceding to the authority of the other.

When one does concede to the authority of the other, equality is lost. As such, true equality is a notion, not a pragmatic methodology.

It is worthy of note that without concession there is no basis for relationship, but merely a series of conflicts that lead to inevitable forfeiture and abandonment by whomever the most frustrated party happens to be.

As such, it seems foolish if not insidious to posit equality as a relationship model, for not only is equality a completely unobtainable end, but even were it obtainable, it would not yield the degree of relational satisfaction that a dominant-submissive dynamic encompasses, for equality is unsexy.

The absence of hierarchy is chaos, and thus to aim for and idealise equality is to promote and usher in chaos.
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Women don’t make it easy for men, most are not fully cognisant of what they want and will not tell boys without father how to be men , even if they themselves have some sort of idea of what “being a man” entails.

Let’s assume a magical woman exists who knows everything about being a man and is fit to educate men in the ways of manhood ; the act of this woman teaching the clueless man how to be masculine would be the very thing that makes him undesirable, assuming there was some kind of physical attraction to begin with.

A man can be attracted to a woman whose femininity he is cultivating, but the reverse is not so. A woman doesn’t want to cultivate a man’s masculinity, she wants to find a man who’s already generously endowed with it.

Sure, women will try to rehabilitate bad boys due to their primal attraction to psychopathy , but a “bad boy” has masculinity even if it’s of the negative type; domesticating the desirable and building up the undesirable are entirely disparate phenomena.

Women will more than gladly engage in the former, but scarcely if ever the latter.[/color]

[color=maroon]Many men have had their hearts crushed in youth because they were clueless, listened to the thoroughly unhelpful girl interpretation of what constitutes an attractive male, and ended up with nothing but rejection in the form of double-edged compliments.

For example:
“You’re so nice, you’re like a brother to me – I don’t want to ruin that!”

Or

“You’re a great person, I know there’s a really great woman out there for you, you’ll find her some day I just know it!”

Her statements completely disregarded the fact that, this man doesn’t want “the great women out there”, but in fact desires the woman riding him off in the kindest yet least helpful way possible.

These are the very phrases a man never wishes to hear from a woman, rejection is something men can process and learn from, but rejection disguised as encouragement simply bleeps up a young man’s mind.

A lot of men who are now red pilled were raised by women who gave them wrong advice, or sisters or peers who encourage them on the wrong path and they found nothing but misery.

However, as soon as this men discarded the notion of gender equality as an operative social model, focused on themselves and became more behaviourally dominant, their relationships with women both sexually and platonically begun improving dramatically.[/color]

[color=maroon] 67.) BAD ADVICERS

Women’s advice to men(in dating arena) is not fit for purpose, even when they mean well, their inextricable solipsism leaves them unable to give actionable advice that will yield lasting and tangible benefit.

A woman’s solipsism dictates her inability to understand how she becomes attracted. To her, attraction is “mysteriously magical”, and as such, a form of incomprehensible magnetism that a man either has or hasn’t.

One of the reasons why many women have a simultaneous disgust and intrigue for the red pill, is because among other reasons, it teaches unattractive men how to be attractive.

The mere idea that attraction is teachable implies it is mechanical, rather than mysterious and magical as a woman’s fantasy prone emotions would drive her to believe.

Rather than tell clueless men they need to be dominant, put her in place and act like more of a jerk, women will often appeal for the non-confrontational bullshit approach: “be kind and understanding, listen to her problems, and she’ll realise what a great guy you are!”

In fact rather than help a man, a woman will often use misinformation as a filtering mechanism to benefit her own sexual strategy.

Women will tell men to be kind, sweet, supplicating and deferential, and if he’s naive enough to take the advice, she’ll reject him precisely because he did what she said.

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[color=maroon] Summary
More educated women means more dissatisfied women. By employing a male strategy and seeking prestige rather than cultivating femininity, women quite literally price themselves out of the market. When society’s women become more educated/powerful than it’s men, the male aversion to hypergamy-fuelled narcissism is heightened in unison with the feminine reluctance to date down. The result? Spinsters [/color]

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If you reach the top-level as a man, you have all the women beneath you to choose from. As women’s collective hypergamic need increases, the pool of subsequent men capable of satisfying this need decreases.

If a woman can’t find a suitable mate at university, she will still graduate. Only that undergraduate men will no longer seem quite so attractive. Now only men with higher calibre white-collar degrees (eg: doctors, lawyers etc) will do for her.

And should such a woman obtain a master’s degree and fail to meet a suitable partner? The process repeats with even higher stakes until such a woman effectively prices herself out of the market, condemned to decrying men as intimidated by her financial independence rather than repulsed by it.

Repulsion you say, why would a real man™ be repulsed? Well the more educated a woman, the greater her standards and entitlement, and thus in turn, the lesser her attractiveness.

Higher status makes people behave more narcissistically, now whilst narcissism is a suit well-worn on a man, it is one ill-fitting for a woman.

Whilst women are inherently drawn to male narcissism as overconfidence is the linchpin of good masculine game, female narcissism is unattractive to the majority of men.

In women it manifests as bratty, spoiled “hot girl behaviour” and men, especially top-tier men, don’t want to feel like they’re babysitting an overgrown child.

Men seek polarity and femininity in long-term relationships. And so women seeking a misguided sense of equality through education only harm their chances at attracting top-tier men.

A woman who thinks she’s the equal of men she dates solely due to their greater status is thus, at least psychologically, unattractive

When a woman reaches the heights of professional status, such heights no longer seem all that attractive.

The balcony looks more impressive when seen from the street than when stood on, if she can’t look up to him, he can’t (with some benevolence) look down on her. Without that dynamic, there is no attraction and thus no love.
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@CaveAdullam

When i saw this thread i thought he was going to Attack theories of red pill such as hypergamy, solipsism, etc but all i see is logical fallacies based on ad hominem. He only repeated what others ignorant of what the Redpill truly is, have already been saying.

Xoly:
I was also expecting a question like this, because this is what every lazy Nigerian youth would ask.

Oh the thread is about insulting others who ask questions. Eat the thread.

Publickk:
I was expecting this kind of question, but I also decided to ignore it.
You can accept the massage or leave it, that's your choice.

My question has nothing to do with what you posted here. Just wanted knowing where you stayed in USA.
Was expecting an answer.

Publickk:
Nairaland romance section is the most active section on nairaland, because Nigerian youths are possessed with sex, all their minds can get hold of is sex.
They go into relationships, all because of sex.
When I was in USA, I discovered that their youths are more responsible than ours, yes, they have sex in relationships, but their relationship is not all about sex.
Our youths should let go of sex, and focus on the future.
Just as they said, the youths are the future of tommorow. but the funny fact is that today is the future of yesterday, so as you can see, our youths are in the future, yet they weren't so productive because they are imprisoned by sex and useless things like betting and drinking alcohol.
Make our country better, and we will be proud of you.

Note: This message is not for all the youths, some of our youths are doing great. This is rather for the lazy ones.

Which City in USA did u stay

Pstarogood0100:
If Dsychologist so wish let's move to either WhatsApp group or telegram where interested members will be properly drilled on the application and contributions to the brotherhood.
Certain things shouldn't be shared on a platform where the females has access to.

We have talked abt this before and alot of people kick against WhatsApp group. Lets try Telegram.

[color=maroon]66.) HYPERGAMY 2.0(academic and status)



Men who expect educated women to be more interesting and rational will find nothing but disappointment. It matters not how much you educate a woman, her lack of logical rigour and obsession with the petty will remain which is a symptom of solipsism. It is wise to consider it an immutable element of female nature.

Women typically seek education to acquire status and increase their access to high status men, rather than to indulge any sense of innate intellectual curiosity. With the acquisition of education, a woman’s already high expectations become ever higher.

Quite wrongfully, she believes her education increases her attractiveness to men because being an indicator of status, she finds it attractive in men.

Education and status acquisition increase male dating options, but decrease females’.

The reason for this is women date up or across, whilst men date down or across. If you are hypergamous, you’re only attracted to people better than you. If you reach the top-level as a woman, only the men at the apex will do.
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[color=maroon] Analyzing a relationship
In the beginning of a relationship, what one wants to look for during this phase are obvious contradictions and red flags in her presentation.

One of the aspects that make lies easier to determine is that most people struggle when it comes to keeping lies consistent with each other. The truth often has an inherent consistency, where lies often diverge.

This is one of the things lawyers and law enforcement are trained to look for when interviewing or questioning witnesses and defendants.

Relationship economics

In relation to economics, a woman’s positive qualities and her actions that pleases you make up her assets, whereas her negative qualities and those actions that displeases you make up her liabilities.

In the information gathering phase, you are attempting to learn her assets and her liabilities so that you can develop an internal balance sheet for that woman.
Over time you will gradually develop a better and more detailed view of her total accounts and thus the accuracy of your valuation will improve.

The major pitfall in this phase includes paying more attention to her assets rather than her liabilities , something that will destroy any attempt at an accurate valuation.

In much the same manner one must strive to establish when and if assets and/or liabilities are genuine, and that your view of them is accurate. This is the stage where most men make grave errors in that they over-estimate her assets and under-estimate her liabilities.

In many cases these are entirely subjective perspectives governed by the man’s mindset, and inherent bias. A man suffering from oneitis for instance shows an extreme level of asset over-valuation combined with an extreme under-valuation of her liabilities.

The man makes a grave error in this regard, in that the future prospects are viewed as an absolute certainty, with no heed paid to the risks, and potential pitfalls of the investment.

Summary and Conclusions

“No matter how hot she is, someone out there is sick of dealing with her shit”

The meaning behind this quote is that no matter how high a woman’s assets are, some man has grown to view her liabilities as greater than the assets.

Men are inherently prone towards putting too much weight on her assets and paying little heed to her liabilities in early relationship stages, not realizing that this may be intentional by the woman to lure him into an investment, or merely his own hopes of finally having found his unicorn coming to fruition.

Devoid of emotions, man needs to use logic to analyze the situation. [/color]

[color=maroon] Power tussle
Man must be careful, for the more he invests, the more he loves, and the more he loves, the more he is prone to holding an unworthy and toxic asset.

A man must keep in mind that during the early stages of a relationship both parties are motivated by avoiding rejection, and thus seek to suppress qualities that they perceive as negative about themselves.

The most interesting aspect of this is that those women who most expertly hide their flaws and flags are the ones who are the most destructive in nature. This early phase is often based on the sexual strategies that each person involved employs, and thus they will act in accordance with strategy, not reality.

As you are gathering information it is of primary importance to note those things you are tempted to gloss over as “ one off” or strangely out of character.

Thats why provoking to anger can lead her to expose character she has been hiding.

Power tussle can come in the form of:

Feigned Submission

This is quite common in that a woman will have a propensity to want to be seen as feminine and submissive initially, with taking control being her long term goal.

1. A woman feigning being submissive comes in the form of “ flare ups ” where you observe clear signs of narcissism or emotional reactivity .

Frequent mood changes seemingly without cause is a red flag in and of itself and should be investigated further.

2. A second sign that she is putting on an act comes in the form of a rejection schema, where she will refuse to indulge you in something you desire, and when you push back she reacts by attempting to blame you for it.

Feigned Respect

Linked with submissiveness, she may overtly agree with your decision or what appears to be a mutual decision, yet covertly undermine it through her actions and behind your back.

I remember the story of a guy and his gf. Planning on going for NYSC they both agree to serve at state A but later he found out she secretly applied to state B. He told her to redeploy but she refused giving flimsy excuses. He then redeployed from state B to state A so that they can be together. However, he noticed she was not even excited.

When they went for camp, they met on the first day and talked but she seems uninterested in the conversion. That was the last time he say his gf in that camp for the next 20 days he was unable to meet her face to face and refuse to pick his calls.

As a relationship progresses and if a legal bond has been established the covert disrespect frequently becomes overt, as she no longer has any motivation for concealment.

This can often be observed in the beta relationship life cycle, where the wife starts off seemingly in love and respectful of her future beta bucks, yet over time grows to not only disregard but openly voicing resentment for his perspectives.

Feigned Virtue
Wherein she signals a given set of virtues, yet once you start to gain more information it becomes very clear that her actions and stories are not consistent with her being an embodiment of her proclaimed virtues.

For instance she may proclaim to be financially responsible, yet has massive debts.

Most people attempt to act consistently with their values, and doing so has been viewed as a positive character trait for most of recorded history.

A woman where one can observe huge disparity between “ What She Says ” and “What She Does ” early on, is likely putting on a facade where much more is hiding beneath the surface.
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[color=maroon] A typical relationship

If you do not enjoy your single life and live independently you have no need for r/ship.

Most men who have experience from a relationship or two, can testify that women are like a new car, at first getting inside it is exhilarating but over time as the sense of new fades, so does the emotions experienced.

In many cases, performance declines as the relationship matures, and excitement is replaced by maneuvering from the woman to take control.

The first few weeks of a relationship is usually perfect, you both call each other everyday and declare your love. You both can't seem to stay away from each other. However, what follow after gradually comes as a shock.

The move for control is in many ways a typical move women make when a relationship reaches a certain stage, this stage is very relative and depends among other things on her age, her own smv, the man’s smv and cultural/social context, however it always happens unless the relationship self-destructs very early on.

To some extent this is driven by what appears to be an inherent female tendency to fall for a man who embodies certain qualities and traits, only to proceed to eradicate those traits in him, if he permits her to, should he fight back, it predictably causes the woman to increase her less than ideal behaviors.

This represents a situation wherein the value the man places on the woman is tested by the woman’s behavior over time. However, this also functions to display to the man the woman’s true self.

Both women and men misrepresent themselves somewhat during initial courtship, however, women to a larger extent engage in bait and switch behavior, thus this situation represents a true test of her idealized self and her true self.

The inherent tendency for misrepresentation and machiavellianism in women, lead to their value being somewhat questionable. [/color]

[color=maroon] Power imbalances

When one relationship partner is more emotionally invested in the relationship than the other, the less involved partner has more power in the relationship.— Waller(1938)

A relationship starts with one partner being more interested in the relationship than the other (at the beginning, partners often move at different paces in their emotional involvement with one another).

More problematic is that situation where one person is really not all that interested in a romantic relationship with the other (or has lost interest), and deep down knows this is unlikely to change. This person is the least interested (LI), and they have the power to define the relationship on their terms.

Thus LI>MI

The LI sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally, exploits the most interested (MI), who accepts higher relationship costs (e.g compromises to a no sex relationship) to keep the LI from walking away.

For example, I once knew an MI person(guy) who desired a monogamous relationship. As a condition of staying, their LI partner(female) required they accept a polyamorous relationship( she can go out with other guys) and he had no choice than to accept.

Mongeau and his colleagues (2013) found that in many cases, “friends with benefits” relationships often involved an MI partner who accepted the arrangement in the hopes it would become more serious.

Most least interested partners will play along even if they are not initially attracted for the more interested partner to give them unfettered attention.

After the MI partner is baited then the LI partner switches.

This is when the manipulation starts.

Then they deny you what you want even if you got it before. Desperation makes you to beg for what you initially got and start to compromise such as giving excess of your attention and resources to win their love.

Before you realise it your investment becomes fruitless and the damage already done. You have already wasted your time, resources, attention, commitment etc
If you find yourself in this scenario please leave, you can't recoup your investment. This will prevent further damage.(remember sunk cost) [/color]

[color=maroon] 65.) POWER DYNAMICS

When you are desperate you have no power in a relationship, that is why the red pill emphasizes on spinning plates or having an abundance mentality.—Dpsychologist

In any relationship, the person who has the least interest in continuing the relationship has the greatest power. Any of the party desperately keen on keeping the relationship has less power and thus end up compromising in the relationship
However, I go further to say that anyone who breaks up with the other has power to bring back the relationship.

Expect the best but prepare for the worst

You need to live ready, relationship has two outcomes, it either ends in marriage or end as a mirage.—Dpsychologist

In a relationship develop a walk-away position. Ensure you can leave at any time. Always put it at the back of your mind that it can end anytime. There is something i use to do. Anytime i enter a relationship i start counting when it will end.

Women are calculating, they damage the other person’s ability to walk away. This tells you why women initiate most break up in a relationship and divorce in marriage.

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TheUndercover:
@Dpsychologist, some men are taking this TRP to the extreme. I've seen some posts and comments that justify these.

They abuse even some redpilled men. They abuse those that are even in a relationship. They see relationship with women as a waste of time. The hate on women in general is too glaring which makes me question what does TRP even mean to some men?

Some men even treat women too harshly for no particular reason because of this and all these attitudes were exhibited by mostly the MGTOW group and very soon lots of men will start showing women deep hatred. If you don't want to be in relationships with women there's no problem with that but the extremism is getting beyond what I don't understand.

What do you think of these?

Yea i noticed.

Have you ever heard of the crimson pill?

It is called crimson pill because it is taking the red pill too extreme.

Remember when i discussed on the 5 stages of grief after taking the red pill. Well some men refuse to proceed to acceptance stage and instead remain in anger phase. They project all their failures, frustration, bitterness and hatred on women.

The red pill is not an excuse to treat women like animals. Women have their bad side but so do men.

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mezico96:
Very true sir, I've been sexually abused by a distant relation and my neighbor (both older than me) at first it was pleasant and sweet to be honest but as I grew up,remembering I lost my virginity that way really hurts.She (My relation) was & still obsessed with me cos I'm her "favorite twin". I can't even talk to anyone about it cos l'll so look stupid before them.

Hardluck bro, this must have been a terrible experience for you.
People think because you are a male you should handle everything even if it is sexual abuse.

I heard a biased research that male rape is only 1-8% very low compared to female. This is not true. It is only because males find it difficult to report.

Just because you don't see it in the news doesn’t mean it does not happen. Men are 70% less likely not to report a rape case or sexual assault than women. Even if they report it, society erroneously believe that it is a sweet experience and he should not complain.

If you are handsome guy or a young boy, you are more likely to be sexually assaulted.

Only a naive guy will wish to be raped. Rape is not a pleasant activity. You may be wishing to be raped because you have never had the experience of sex but believe you me when an older unattractive woman forces you to have sex with her, your psychology will not remain the same.

Watch the Nollywood Movie, "The innocent(2020)" and you will understand that its not only women that become traumatised by sexual assault and rape.

vikkimimi:
Were you impeached or you stepped down

Lol the title is funny

[color=maroon] The Fallacy of Sunk Cost



The sunk cost fallacy is a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered. It is a justification of increased investment of money, time, and resources in a decision, based on the cumulative prior investment ( "sunk cost" ) despite new evidence suggesting that the cost of continuing the decision outweighs the expected benefit.

In other words, Sunk cost fallacy is a conundrum in which we feel the need to follow through with something once we’ve invested time and/or money into it. We feel that if we don’t stay committed, the investments we made will have all been for nothing. This causes us to feel wasteful and to question our ability to make rational decisions. Even though it’s usually not the best course of action, we prefer to suffer through the negative consequences.

For example, have you ever ordered too much food at a restaurant? And did you force yourself to eat it all, simply because you were going to have to pay for it either way?

This is an example of sunk cost fallacy. You felt the need to overeat in order to get your money’s worth, even though you probably enjoyed your meal less because of it.


In the dating arena, you will see a guy wooing a lady for upto 1year. Despite knowing that he might not get the girl but he keeps pushing hard to make sure he gets the girl.

He feels that he can't spend 50k on her and not get sex so he keeps pressurizing himself, acting more needy. He end up putting himself in a dilemma.

He is now in between the devil and deep blue sea. Should he forget about her with all his investments going in vain or should he continue trying his best so that one day she will allow him to have sex.

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@Pstarogood0100, dollarstays, TheUndercover, DeusMagnus, toscolee, happyfela, and Instrumentalng.

You guys did a great job while i was away. Kudos to you all.

dollarstays:
THE GEM OF FREE WILL.....

Exactly. No body point a gun on you and force you into the Redpill it is a choice