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[color=maroon] Observing the matrix( feminine imperative)

When a man cheats on his wife people reply with men are cheats but when a woman cheats on her husband its because the man didn't give her enough attention or provide her needs. Observe that in both cases its still the Husband's fault. —Dpsychologist

Whenever illicit female sexual desires lead to illicit acts which have bad consequences, those consequences are deemed to be the fault of men, and it is the duty of men to make female sexual desires come out with good consequences for the woman, even if it means bad consequences for the man.

When women do bad things, they are treated like children morally, let off the hook, protected from the consequences, yet they are allowed to make potentially disastrous choices without adult supervision, choices that men will pay for when those choices go wrong.

A pregnant woman can abort, or give the child away, but if she decides to keep it, she can demand child support from the father and may chose to deny the child a father.

So now we have a system where pregnancy obligates men, but not women, where women make the decisions and men pay for the consequences. That is Feminine Imperative.

The underlying mechanism leading to the Feminine Imperative is that adult women are assumed to be adult, to be capable of making responsible decisions about sex and reproduction.

And when it becomes painfully obvious that they are not, then men have to pick up the pieces, without however having the power and authority to restrain women from making bad decisions.

The Feminine imperative is a result of the fact that letting women take the costs of their decisions leads to intolerably bad outcomes. So men have to take the cost of women’s decisions.[/color]

[color=maroon] 73.) THE FEMININE IMPERATIVE

For easy of understanding, the feminine imperative can be referred to as “The Matrix”.

Everything a man experiences, every social conditioning he receives from the earliest age, every accepted social norm and every expectation of him to qualify as the definition of a mature adult Man in contemporary society is designed to serve a female imperative.

Ever wondered why do society meddle in your personal affrairs. You must have oberved that you are practically told how to live your life.

The reality we see as “normal” is a fem-centric influence. Across various ethnicities, and social diversity, this influence is so insaturated into culture, laws, media, entertainment, and even to our individual psyches that we simply take it for granted as the operative framework in which we live.

The decisions of your future, your education, your career, most of your religious beliefs, even where you’ll choose to live is as a result of this feminine influence either in the present or in preparation of accommodating it in the future.

You get married, out of fear for being ostracized or from social shame for not yet having accepted your role in service to the imperative. [/color]

sweet7oyin:
I just feel
Most guys are afraid of being "alone"

They feel if she leaves then they will be alone
So they are scared ...

We should all learn to be happy by ourselves

Very true bro.

However, one of the contributing factors to this, is the guy's investment. He has already spend alot as such sunk cost becomes a key factor.

Davash222:
Try and do 5K giveaway here, you’ll understand that 98.873456% are in the category of “Omo”.

Not necessarily so. Even those in God dey category will still rush cos they are still struggling to survive. Infact do 1k giveaway and many in God dey will still rush just for the fact it is free money.

Lol

Akinbahm:
Share the link.

I shared the link

IntersexSherry:
All those saying that women are only into money and don't care how the man look like na wash oh. Yes, women like money because we have lot of needs and it requires lot of expenses to maintain our beauty but it doesn't mean we don't like better thing.

The thing is, women are very strong emotionally so can accept any kind of man even if he looks like chimpanzee. Just that we don't chase men the way men chase women because of shyness. Even if a girl likes a boy, she will want him to make the first move, if he doesn't, she forgets him. Afterall, we still got lot of chasers. Women just want everything..

Me i like fine boys oh but still i'm okay with any man with good personality but if i should between an ugly billionaire and a handsome poor boy, i will choose the ugly billionaire because i can benefit a lot with the luxurious life.
Afterall looks will fade one day and let's not forget almost all men are the same whether ugly or fine, men na men. Only sex they want..

As much as your post is conflicting i get where you are coming from.

shayyverr:
Nigeria females (our mothers at least can't say for this current generation) are still traditional. Then they made marriage something to look out for and they were the till death do us apart type. Most that divorce don't file for alimony but you see the western women make you dread marriage so much.

Yea bro.

Feminism is having a hard time in Nigeria because of our mothers that still believe in traditional roles. Women like Alakija despite being the richest woman in Nigeria still prepares and serves food for her husband.

I read on a blog, where a feminist in Nigeria was complaining that alot of influential Nigerian women are not helping matters and still Believe in traditional roles making feminism difficult in Nigeria.

But for this younger ones they seem to be more stubborn than their mothers.

virginprincess:
What is the need of this trash you wrote, when you have already said you prefer an ugly man with money to a handsome poor boy, does it make any sense to you?

Lol that is what happen when someone smokes weed before creating a post

The feminine imperative is simple term refered as the matrix.

Emmynator:
Good to know.
Hope you will finish this 50 shades redder section, I really like your pill because it follows a sequence.

I have been inundated with endless requests for a group which i recently created. However, this doesn't mean this thread will no longer function. We will still continue.

Telegram group is ready...

Red pill and game lounge


We will discuss indept on red pill and there will be sharing of red pill ebooks, videos, audio, songs etc.

Areas of interest include female nature and their wiles, self-improvement, making money, men challenges etc


This is the group link for this group chat, invite as much people as you can. The limit is 200,000 members. This is a revolution.

Liberating men is the goal:

https://t dot me/joinchat/WIy1NBx7c2dovXHB_ufvEg (replace 'dot' with '.' )

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Emmynator:
It has been long since Dpsychologist posted. I hope he is fine, is there any one who can confirm?

I am hale and hearty.
Working on the telegram group

By this we have come to the end of the self improvement section.

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If you’re not improving, you’re not growing and if you’re not growing, you’re losing. By speeding up your rate of learning, you vastly increase your chances of success. Don’t hold yourself back. —IM

This is the beauty of the digital age, if you know where to look, you can find time-saving services that would simply not have been possible before the advent of the internet.

1. Podcasts are an obvious place to begin streamlining the learning process. The only drawback with podcasts is the advertising and predominance of socialising acts. Podcasts are more semi-educational easy listening than they are concentrated catalysts for self-growth.

2. Audio summaries: an audio summary is a person summarising the key points of a text they’ve read and articulating these findings to the listener.
The advantage audio summaries have over podcasts is how the speaker directly delivers the information absent of little distraction you can expect from podcasts.

3. Video Summaries: Just like in audio summary but in form of a video. I was unable to read, The 50th law by robert greene as such i went to youtube i got a 1hour summary of the book and i must say i learn alot.

3. Text summaries. Text summaries are superior to audio summaries because audio can play in the background whilst you do other things as such you could be distracted

Text on the other hand demands your full attention to be imbibed. [/color]

[color=maroon] The Art of Summary
Rather than constantly read books, you can look for people who have gone to the effort of fully understanding a book, plucking out its gems and explaining what they mean in a summarised manner. This way, youcan profit from their time investment and learn exactly what they’ve learned in only a fraction of the time.

This is what you are benefitting from this thread. From my years of experience with the red pill, real life encounter, books, blogs and articles i have read i succeeded in summarising my red pill knowledge into sections i called the red truth. It is left for you to now to practice what you learn before the knowledge becomes power.

Books condense life, but summaries condense books, reading or at least actively listening to summaries given by people who have already fully read a text is something that will provide you with the greatest intellectual return in the shortest amount of time.

I believe very few people are doing this, and that yet this one thing alone can give a man a great edge in this game we call life.
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[color=maroon] I’m not trying to debase the necessity of experience for it certainly has value, undoubtedly a great many thing requires experience in order to be truly understood.

However, there are only so many experiences a person can have, and one’s experiences are often incomplete in the sense that they’re the byproducts of inability rather than achievement.

Likewise, people of greater mind can teach us things we don’t notice, or struggle to articulate and consciously understand.

Reading not only saves us time, but more importantly it allows us to pierce the universe more deeply than if we were to remain unlettered. It is this quality of the book that makes it irreplaceably additive to one’s time on this Earth.

This is the value of secondhand knowledge, and unlike experience, it is often undervalued owing to its indirect and vicarious nature.

I think this to be incorrect, and rather that it is the unread experience junkie who is the fool rather than the individual who complements their living with the wisdom and discoveries of men greater than they.

To give an example I’m sure most of you will relate to, a divorced man knows enough about marriage to accurately forewarn younger men of the risks inherent to the endeavour.

One need not actually go and get married and undergo the same pains, trials and tribulations that millions of other men have in order to validate the finding.

This would not only be extremely deleterious to one’s mental health, but likewise a terrible use of their time.

This notion really exemplifies how knowledge can trump experience in educating one on “what not to do”, for when a person has internalised a long list of what they shouldn’t be doing, the number of mistakes necessary to get where they want to go is reduced exponentially.

To find the answers on how to specifically do a thing, a person need merely repeatedly attempt a thing whilst altering their approach with each iteration. But to discover what not to do and decrease the odds of failure from the get go, this is where reading provides quite an advantage. [/color]

[color=maroon] Reading v. Experience :

Experience is vital in matters of the heart and the body, but it’s not the be-all and end-all. Simply put, experience is overrated, for there’s not enough time in this life to experience everything to the degree sufficient enough to master it.

This is why we have specialisation, for it is better to be a master of one trade than a layman in all.

This is also why we compress time in the form of books, for they allow us to derive the core lessons of a thing without requiring us to invest the time necessary to fully experience it.

Life is literally too short to experience everything to the degree necessary for a man to truly understand and master it, for beyond a certain level of proficiency, one falls victim to the law of diminishing returns.

The power of books lies in their ability to have us learn from those who have already invested the time to become an expert at a thing, they are almost like surrogate mentors if you will. As such, they are time-saving devices, although in the heat of immediacy many do not view books as such because they can take considerable time to ingest.

Nonetheless, irrespective of the time it takes a man to read a particularly lengthy and intricate book, it would take him even longer to live the things the writer did in order to form a conclusion of equal authority.

Personal experience is inefficient because you do a lot of things that don’t work in order to discover what does, whereas the success derived from the experience of others can be distilled into knowledge that saves you from making the mistakes necessary to arrive at the same conclusion.

Books that draw knowledge from a wide data pool can pattern recognise trends to derive principles, and these principles can in turn be used by the uninitiated to increase their odds of success such as the Red pill philosophy

It is this macro approach to knowledge which allows a person to draw inferences with a level of accuracy that would be simply impossible to derive were they reliant solely on personal experience.
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[color=maroon]72.) LEARNING


Knowledge is not power but power potential, and rather it is the application of knowledge and not knowledge itself that constitutes power .

There are so many great books to read and so many interesting topics to discover, that there simply isn’t enough time to absorb it all.

Thus, when one is voracious for knowledge they must make choices in what they learn, and then strive to absorb what they have deemed worthy of learning as quickly as they can humanly learn it.

The more time one spends learning any specific thing, the less time they have left on the Earth to learn other things. And those things you’re not learning could be, unbeknownst to you, more conducive to your personal power than the things you have chosen to learn.

Slower more accurate choices are superior to quicker and more sloppily made ones. And so in light of this there’s an even greater argument to be made: that in the pursuit of growth, it is better to simply make a decision than it is to make none at all, for even in failure there is education, whilst in stagnation there is little besides regret and the illusion of safety.
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[color=maroon] Double standards; cont

When you help a friend to quit smoking before they get lung cancer, you are considered a good-friend helping someone with a health risk behavior.

But when you tell a friend he needs to change his approach to women which is a reason for his lack of satisfaction and that he needs to change his outlook, look better and feel better, then you are a ‘shallow’ prick and insensitive to his ‘problem’.

If just being yourself is good advice why don't you just sit at home enjoying yourself and then a hot babe will come and bang you.

After all you are only being yourself and she should “love you for who you are”, right? If this were the case, the conditions that define your personality are incongruous with attracting and/or maintaining a relationship with someone whose conditions are not your own.

JBY is an operative social convention that aids hypergamy.

Women are only too happy to endorse and reinforce JBY for the conscious reasoning that it ‘sounds like the right thing to say’.

It’s an unassailable position; who wouldn’t want you to be you?

They posit that If what counts is all on the inside then anyone telling you to change must be manipulating you for their own selfish reasons.

This dovetails nicely into the popularized fat-acceptance self-acceptance mantra most women will fall back on when the impact of the Wall begins to manifest itself in their physiques and they want to be loved for “who they are” rather than what they used to look like.[/color]

[color=maroon] JBY: Double standards



Let me ask you though provoking questions.

Is the lady you see in nothing but studio pics always on FaceBook being herself?

Ok lemme ask deeper questions

Is the woman with breast or butt implants 'being herself’?

What about the woman wearing high heels because it boosts her height ?

Is the woman who applies make up everyday ‘being herself”?

What of the woman wearing a business suit that emphasizes her shoulders with pads is she ‘being herself’?

If she colors her hair does this make her less genuine?

Can you see the irony:Women are not being their selves but you are adviced to be yourself.

What you need to understand is that Personality is always malleable. Personality is not only malleable, but it can change dramatically under specific conditions.

The person you are today isn’t who you were 5years ago, nor the person you’ll be 5 years from now. Sure we may carry traits with us for a lifetime, but even these are subject to change depending upon your life circumstance. You define what being yourself is at any given moment and it’s relative to your personal conditions and environment.

You are who you believe you are, and you are who she perceives you to be.— Rollo Tomassi

So When does a genuine change of character become legitimate rather than being ‘shallow’ or ‘superficial’ or “someone you’re not?”

Those are judt terms that women (and chumps/simps) have used with success over the centuries and men have internalized as being states of perception that women think are undesirable, yet they never accurately define.



One of the hardest things for anyone, male or female, to hear is that they need to change their lifestyle. It implies that just ‘being themselves’ is in some way at fault for their present conditions.

It’s analogous to telling someone they’re not living their lives ‘correctly’ or that they’re raising their kids wrong.
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[color=maroon] Filtering mechanism

Just be yourself is in many ways also a filtering strategy for women, it makes it easier for them to separate alpha bleeps from beta bucks, as an alpha just being himself is being an alpha, and the same for a beta.

On a subconscious level, the latent purpose of fostering the JBY social convention in men is yet another sexual selection filtering mechanism.

It’s more of a filtering failsafe in that by socially mandating a genuineness in the general populace of men, women are more secure in the accuracy of their sexual assessment of men.

If all men are Just Being Themselves and are encouraged to be the person they ‘truly are’, this then aids a woman in determining which man will best satisfy her hypergamy.

JBY is a tool in maintaining the feminine imperative as the social imperative.

Furthermore JBY serves in optimizing hypergamy in aiding a woman’s sense of security about assessing which man will best suit her hypergamy.

Ironically, the JBY dynamic gets upended once a monogamous relationship is established by a woman’s anxiety over ‘fixing’ her partner once in that relationship.

What was once the pseudo-genuineness of just him being himself is replace by “I’m working on him” in order for him to become the ideal man to meet with her hypergamic approval – thus exposing the calculated nonsense JBY really is to begin with.

Those in relationship can testify that when you are in a relationship with a woman she will attempt to change you. Can you see the irony?
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[color=maroon] JBY is Misleading

For those of you interested in logic, “be yourself” is a social personification of the naturalistic fallacy, the assumption that the artificial is bad and the natural is good.

If “being yourself” means the self can adapt to a multitude of various personalities, I’m all for it, but if it means “behave in the way that comes easiest rather than the way that’ll improve your chances of winning” then I am out.

Authenticity is an indulgence of the accomplished narcissist trying to build rapport by sharing his struggles. This inspires people, quells jealousy and ultimately, makes money. It’s a good strategy – for him, but for you, it’s misinformation. There is authenticity in dedication, but beyond that, everything is political.

Those who tout the horn of authenticity are often some of the smoothest social chameleons you’ll ever meet; they had to be to get where they are. They are playing the game, they are exercising finesse, and in buying into the romance of their struggle and taking their advice on authenticity to heart, you severely cripple yourself.

One does not grow and build relationships with diverse people without trying on styles unnatural to them.

People are told to be themselves even when their selves are insufficient, because supposedly artifice is so undesirable it’s better to be a natural loser than an artificial winner. Yes, you should accept yourself, but no, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use social finesse.

Most who convincingly endorse authenticity do so from a position of power, power is rarely obtained, and is never sustained in the absence of finesse.[/color]

[color=maroon] 71.) STATIC FALLACY



Most men when asking for sexual market advice have been told “Just be yourself” at one point or another, this boils down to “continue to utilize the scripts that are not working for you, you just haven’t met the right girl yet”.

Just being yourself is simple as it requires no work to update and clean up the various scrips you have collected over time. This advice is like telling a failing business “Just keep doing what you’re doing!”.

The naive and vainglorious are big on the idea of authenticity, that a person should always behave in the way most natural to them irrespective of all else.

Strategically speaking, this advice is complete hogwash. It implies artifice is quintessentially unnecessary and that simply “being yourself” is enough to succeed.

This is a lie that everybody wants to believe, that they are innately enough, and that they don’t need to behave in ways that don’t suit them in order to succeed.

Be yourself only if you’ve given up on life, or are already a highly developed person and thus “being you” entails a capacity for finesse. Otherwise, whatever you do, do not be yourself, this is the worst advice anyone could give you.
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Emmynator:
I just finished reading from page 1 till this page.
I have to say this is the most balanced red pill teaching, I have ever come across. I have to commend the work being done here.
Dpsychologist, well done, you are a true teacher, you could become my trp mentor. Thank you.

Let me just give my background, I came across the red pill in my teenage years, so I put off myself from any relationship, I am single till date. I am still at my development stage and I hope to enter the dating arena, when I have reached certain landmarks.
Thanks to you and many other redpill input, I think I will be ready to take the dating arena by storm.

My advice "the red pill is what it is, what you make of it is up to you".

Peace and so much love from Emmynator.

Reading from page 1 till here shows how determined and dedicated you are. I admire this.

You are lucky to come accross Redpill in your teenage age. Some came accross it in their 40s when its very late.

You are welcome bro

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[color=maroon] Other activities are those that your long-term strategy are based upon, but that require long-term and large investments in terms of time and effort.

Losing weight, gaining muscle, changing your diet, implementing new habits into your life, bettering social skills, learning game and various others. These are the foundation of the new person you are changing into, and as such they must be solid, well-thought out and implemented in a manner that secures longevity.

An observation often made of many who seek out the manosphere is the desire to learn game, and adopt the red pill so that they can secure their oneitis and then move back to “ just be yourself “(we will discuss about this next).

This is reflected in every gym across the world, in January there is a sudden influx of people seeking to fulfill their New Years resolutions, only to watch their numbers slowly trickle down until few are left.

The change from the blue pill illusion to the red pill theoretical framework , for these men represent in their mind short term strategy to secure the object of their affection, so that they can go back being blue pilled. [/color]

[color=maroon] Do not get stuck in the middle

The title of this section is based on the fact that trying to do too many things at the same time often leads to mediocre performance at best.

Perhaps the classic example is the new trainee attempting fat loss and muscle gain at the same time.
While this is arguably possible, it often leads to erratic behavior in a new trainee, where one day they are focused on losing fat, the next on gaining muscle, their diet and training program reflects the goal confusion.

The most efficient route to success is to have two ideas in your head at once.

First there is the long-term strategic view dictated by your mission , second comes various forms of short term stragy that can be secured without much risk or loss to your progress towards fulfilling the strategy.

The idea of short term strategy in terms of improving sexual market value are things such as getting better haircuts, grooming properly, making small wardrobe improvements, in general things that on their own do not grant a great increase in value, but also consume very limited amounts of effort and time.

A trainee may get a whole new wardrobe to improve their style, then rapidly find it outdated as a result of either size gain or loss.

They may be on a strict diet, yet find themselves constantly exposed to dietary and alcoholic temptations as a result of spending most of their leisure time in bars and clubs to hone their game. Such constant vacillation between goals ensures that the probably of reaching them is reduced.

This is one of the reasons why many recommend cutting old friends and family members that engage in concern trolling, reward poor behavior and various other things out of your life.
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[color=maroon] A person who adopts this route must learn training, nutrition, body language, and various other things in a short period of time, and implement these successfully as part of his life.

This multi-tasking process often leads to a predictable “multi-failure”, as the person finds themselves unable to ingest, internalize and implement the new way of life at the same time.

At first, results are bound to be very much worthwhile, and motivation goes up, yet at the first setback that comes as a result of “too much, too soon” motivation crashes and the progress is often lost.

This mirrors the way startup companies often fail, in that as they grow rapidly they stay to feel the growing pains and the increased workload, which has a negative effect on motivation and progress. If they are unable to secure the necessary resources to handle the ongoing business processes, they crumble under the weight of their success.[/color]