₦airaland Forum

Fourwinds:
it is a joy to them... But do you know this thing is natural instinct for parents to behave that way? Wait until you assume the role, you will find yourself doing same...

Gbamsolutely and Gbamxactly

ityP:
Yes. Better divorced, than be unhappy. No woman go kill me for this life. Any woman wey gimme stress, I go japa

I don’t agree with that.
And you would not meet a woman that would give you stress.

Shine your eyes, the signs are always there before marriage.

lielbree:
If u are a baby daddy u still pay rent, sch fees, wardrobe, utilities, car etc...

The down side is in all of thus the child still belongs to the woman's father

Does that child bear the name of the woman’s father. ?

Bros your pikin na your pikin. Forget that their stupid traditions. When the pikin grow up, he go find the Papa.

Especially when he has been a good father to that child even though he never married the mother.

So every baby daddy, take care of your responsibility and forget about useless and outdated traditions.

Ladycewhy:
Isn't that what society wants? From cultural beliefs to religious beliefs ,it all geared towards staying in marriage at all cost even if you have to fake it, society will call the woman virtuous and the man responsible .

Is Divorce a better option. ?

vickydevoka:
Lol. Especially Ladies. All my fine female friends married an old rich unattractive men. Money is de true definition of a man

Gbamxactly

While Money is the true definition of a man, he must also possess a good heart to share it with his wife and children.

Especially with the woman that stood by him when he had nothing.

ityP:
Men are actually disregarded when they get old after all. Plus, because of women's wahala, men no dey reach old age again. They die before they even clock 80. They'll be fine

I know you are speaking for yourself.

Me I must cross 100 years, woman or no woman by my side.

Since when has women turn God that determines the longevity of a man ?

It is when you allow the evil deeds of a bad woman gets to you that you fall into depression and feel like dying.

Powerfly:
it's everywhere.. Few months ago.. On this same nairaland a guy dumped his bride at the alter... I'm using a java phone..if nt i would have search and copy pasted the topics for u to see.

That guy also got a Spirit wife that would not allow him to marry

fyneboi79:
The ones that share or pay bills are desperate simple!! I have met girls like you,they are mostly empty with just sex to offer. It's not rocket science,it's emotional maturity for any Nigerian man to realize that Nigerian women are overpriced garbage.

I disagree with you.

Our mothers, sisters, daughters are not overpriced ***

But most of the time undervalued.

The same way some of our men are not Appreciated for their efforts.

fyneboi79:
women put up simply because they are depreciated physically. But the men appreciate financially and emotionally to discover the woman is a mere fixture in his house. Disgust sets in and the man is willing to let her go .

A woman that knows her worth would never feel depreciated even after 5 children.

If the man nor be Ashawo and a player why would he be willing to let the mother of his kids go ?

After 5 children, he now discovered that she is a mere fixture in the house. ?

He never truly loved her but was only using her to bring babies to the world

Niceiroko:
but they were married already

Really

Then according to her, A one hour failed marriage is better than a lifetime of marital sorry.

Anyway this is not ordinary.

Ladycewhy:
If that is so,who then are the husbands of these women who keep chanting the national anthem of " I am staying for the kids " even wives of rich men o.

There are still good men in Nigeria.

The man does not have to be Rich but he should possess a good heart.

The fact that there are demons everywhere does not mean holy angels are no more existing.

The fact that there are bad wives in Nigeria does not also mean that good women are not in Nigeria.

Ladycewhy:
On the contrary, I am a realist,I have seen both worlds and I think Nigerian women still have a long way to go.A country where there is still a case of female inheritance in court.

Nigerian women are continuously castigated on this forum daily ,but the truth is what Nigerian women tolerate here these negros will never dare try it outside Nigeria especially in first world countries.


One preacher said one time, " if you are the bread winner,go out and bring the bread for daddy to share" this is just one of the ways religion has been used to hold Nigerian women in bondage. Let's not even talk about misogynistic cultural beliefs of some tribes.It's time to change the status quo for the next generation of females.

Thank you very much.

The change begins with you and I can see you are doing a great job

xtervaganza:
tell that to yourself any time you get asked why you're not married. Deep down we know you cry yourself to sleep cos no man really wants you

This here is truly savage.

Rapsodee:
Forget that one....A large percentage of women have no where to go and only use children as excuse to stay, how many percentage of Nigerian women do you think are independent of their husbands?

I read a thread on Nairaland about an husband beating his wife everyday, yet the wife refused to leave the marriage. Such wife will claim she is taking those beatings because of children when in reality, her life is totally nothing without that man.

Even though beating a wife is not supported.

But what you said makes so much sense. How many of them can afford to go ?

They claim to be staying because of the children ? What a lame excuse.

andyanders:
When a lady don marry water spirit tete, why the spirit go allow her again to go wed person for church. The guy should thank his God that separated the demonic girl from him.

People will not understand certain powers behind some physical actions of we human beings.

Gbamsolutely. You have said it all.

Ladycewhy:
Have a heart to heart conversation with your mother and you will see that either for cultural , religious reasons your mother had to put up in that marriage.


The door to leave a marriage is now wider the reason why women are bold enough to leave and be independent. Nigeria is a patriarch and misogynistic society. It's normal for women to have to succumb.



I was talking to a group of women ,and an elderly woman made a remark " all men na the same ,na manage we dey manage am" . I felt it in my core , Nigerian women put up with marriage as a norm.


I love my wife because she is ambitious and takes care of herself ,said no Nigerian man ever!

Again I can see that you came to your conclusion from a general discussion.

Do not generalize.

Are you saying that there are no go man out there. ?

Abeg leave matter for Mathias.

There are men that would die for their wife. I challenge you to do your research on this.

Haven’t you heard of Nigerian men that donate their kidneys just to save their wife. If you have not heard, I know at least two of such people

Once again do not generalize

Rapsodee:
I totally disagree with this! The same culture and religion making women remain in marriage put men as the one responsible for a lot of things if all in marriage, so you can't claim there is no use for Nigerian men except the busy body husbands.

You Dey mind that one ?

Her comments alone, reveals her upbringing and where she is coming from.

izzy4shizzy:
my advice to men is not to let a woman support you completely, when women do that, they try to emasculate the man, men turn monsters after enduring years of emasculation, women just play the pity card afterwards

Bros forget emasculation.

A monster would always be a monster even without emasculation.

Men love your wife always, especially when she stood for you when you had nothing. - Period

Ladycewhy:
The answer lies with your grandmothers and female ancestors who only stayed in marriage "FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN". I know you have at one time heard your mother say that phrase too

Capital NO: She has never said that. Never

The fact that your female Ancestors have been singing that useless chorus for generation does not mean that every other woman is singing that chorus too.

There are women that truly love their man.

You and your female generation should sing and dance your reggae alone.

And if the men that your female generation have been coming across or giving birth to “are or were not all that” does not mean it is the same everywhere.

Do not generalize.

vickydevoka:
Please how many people marry because of love dis days. People marry for benefits

Gbamsolutely

A cancelled wedding is better than a failed marriage.

Parisian:
I hope sex takes care of y'all in your old age as well.

How many old mama Dey take care of old papa nowadays. ?

Forget that thing.

If you are old and wealthy, relocate to old people’s homes for better care or get a good nanny to tidy things in the house

Juliearth:
Baby girl, there are a few good Nigerian men. Not all of them are bad.

Thank you jare, you get sense.

Ladycewhy:
Ask your mother,your grandmother even your female ancestors , they will tell you they stayed in their marriage because of their children. Apart from children ,there has never been use for Nigerian men ,go figure.


I you to go take a survey yourself. It has never been because Nigerian men are all that, culture and religion is what has made the Nigerian woman put up with Nigerian men.

So what exactly are you saying. ?

Are you saying your grandfather, father, uncle, brothers, husband, sons and male ancestors “are or were not all that” ?

YoungLionken:
The lady is somehow sick upstairs.

The embarrassment was uncalled for. There were days, weeks, months, before that day.

The gender war is something else lately.

Everybody with I-know-it-all attitude.

In addition. Dear men, never you marry a woman, from a broken home...

What has a broken home got to do with marriage. Are people from unbroken homes better than those from broken homes ?

Most people that Divorce their partners are from unbroken homes.

amamahdaniel:
When I check the team he score against
Armenia
Andorra
Luxembourg
Latvia
Kazakhstan
Estonia
Faros island
Azerbaijan.

No hating I expect more from Penaldo

Go and tell messi to score against those same teams and break records if it’s that easy.

Like it or not, ronaldo is the real goat.

What you ate is a Lassa fever infected Rat.

firstworld:
Please I am not understanding oh. My due date is tomorrow 9th September incidentally my birthday. However, i just received an alert from MBA now. Wetin dey happen? I usually get it on the 11th. MBA I hail una oh. Meka oh

Congratulations and a Happy Birthday to you.

As you Celebrate and make progress Financially, all the enemies of MBA would continue to mourn and wallow in poverty until they die.

Enjoy your Birthday celebration and new Age.

akinonigbinde:
Shun Sir!

Congratulations Comrade, Welcome on Board.

To all the Naysayers, the battle lines are drawn.

akinonigbinde:
The landing of the eagle shattered my phone screen.
Hala MBA

Congratulations.

This your Alert would also shatter the head of every MBA hater.

firstworld:
Congrats!! Am seriously awaiting testimony from fxmanager, fxjones etc. etc.

Don’t expect anything positive from haters.

The only Testimony you should be expecting is about the burial of Fxmanager, Fxjones and every other hater that come to this thread to potray MBA as a Ponzi Scheme.

Today they are mad, tomorrow they die because they are wicked enemies of our progress.

Anything una like make una talk. My daughter don marry finish. If you are not happy, go and hug transformer.