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[quotehor=kenjudy]

My friend mechie onu there! That's how it all started. Devil is wiser than even our first parents in history which is Adam and Eve. So for him to make human do his bidden, he has subtle ways to do that which dis is one of them. In the nearest future, I bet u islam will find no wrong in allowing dem girls showcase without been all covered and so on, before we know it, na unclothedness all d way. Wolves in sheeps clothing dats what d devil does wit us humans. And u're here saying we dey criticize. After all no be those muslims dey criticize everything western? Why allow dis one since they despise and depict every western ideas as evil? Why trying to correct it by joining impiously. Odikwa egwu![/quote]


Ppl like you r the ones who provoke others to insult...tho am tempted but il pass. We said exactly d same thing altho I gave more insight as to ppl nt judgin her based on how she is dressed. And the first thing u did was to insult me...I neva even posted at u or quoted u. Next time pls read well n also let ur brain process it well before u comment. This myt require a bit of time for u tho cos we all av brains wt different operatin systems.

For once lets stop bein sentimental. I am no muslim and I do not support beauty pageants of any sorts due to my christian beliefs , but saying she is not beautiful or u cannot appreciate her beauty because she is all covered makes hypocrites out of u all.
Some few decades ago, beauty pageants were done wt women fully dressed and queens were crowned n given all due respect...we al knw abt d recently circulated pic of the first beauty queen in naija...all dressed in Iro and buba. So please...its a contest...der were some criteria, she met n probably surpassed d criteria...hence the new title.
Tho I wonder wat des ppl aim to achieve. ..sometin is either right or wrong...some yrs down d line...mayb muslim beauty queens wl start wt transparent wears, den short dresses...and mayb, bikinis...al in a bid to outshine d oda...
God help us.

Used to experience dis alot and I tot twas kinda spiritual till we were tot abt SLEEP in med schl. (A serious topic abt 3 lectures on sleep alone n comes out alot in exams).
Also during psychiatry posting wen we learnt abt hynagogic and hypnopompic hallucinations.
I actually did a survery in d female hostel one day and about 60% of us experience dis (wt varying frequency) and rest neva knew wat it was or experience it. They were even callin all of us mammy water..lol..and dey said dey wl start keepin der distance. ...lol
I believe all des predisposing factors but I think der myt be something genetic abt the experience. ...funny stuff tho

Looks like some ppl av problems readn or understandn simple english....I tot dis was gonna b a straight forward message....as in 'dont b deceived, its end times and ppl wl come up wt lots of story to decieve d gullible. ..hold on to d word of God... ur dressing wl nt vindicate u on d last day, salvation is d only way'...thats my own summary of wat I read...
Bt peeps be blinded by loads of bias for dis one man.... wen wl he eva b appreciated...peeps just b shown der hatred n contempt for him...reminiscent of wat dey did to Jesus (I am nt comparn him to Jesus o..one is God and one is man)...I knw wen dis man leaves someday...des same peeps wl start to pour encomiums...
Ejoor , leave him alone...he's yet to harm anyone...

Was a good girl all thru...hated al dos girls that had boyfriends...was almost a saddist cos most boys tot il slap dem if dey try askin me out....was a genius tho so everyone stl loved n respected me....wen I started keepin male friends...brot dem all to my house n dey became friends wt my parents one afta d oder...dint need much privacy cos nothin private to do...so my parents trusted me so much...d guys come visitn in my house...or I visit dem in der house afta bein good friends wt al der siblings so no one needs to leave wen am around...my ex really suffered sha...
Bt av changed now...stl a good girl tho...and big enof not to lie abt bein wt ma fiance cos its nt needed...
Bt my sis n her boyfriends...I was always bustin al her lies...she stl loves me so much, aw manage I no knw cos if I was her ...I wld av drowned any younger sister like me in d river in broad day light...

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I really do not think der is anything like 'curse of the ex'.
Its just natural, as humans wen we move frm one relationship to another, we carry wt us the baggages n faults frm previous relatinship n dis is subconscious.
Its very easy for u to compare, expect and assume sometins regardn her actions, comments n inactions n all des is in d background of al d ppl uv eva dated before.
I had same problem wt my fiancee....havin loved my ex so much n broken up wt him in d best interest of my future ( he neva did anything wrong)....I tried so much to settle into d new one (2 yrs had passed).
Sincerely I gave my all...did al I can but it wasnt very smooth, nt close to wat I expected...tot I was bein my best until one day he said to me...
'I think u r expectn me to b someone else, I tink u judgin me against some background n I really need u to see n take me for who I am, discover me first n den we take it frm der'
This statement hit me hard n even tho I dint tink I was doin al dat...I took time out to think back n subtly n very faintly...I found it cld be true ...
So I decided to study n discover him afresh n bliv u me, our lives has never bn same again...now we so inseparable. ..5 yrs down d line.
He came into d relationship clean (no exes)..
N was able to notice dt.
If uv eva bn in a rel b4...u can neva come out clean...we al r affected n eventually changed by d ppl we intereact wt (environment) and so u have to work really hard to ovacome dis otherwise u kp goin frm one rel to anoda further strenthening ur assumption -the curse of the exes....
My little tiny opinion tho....

Decisions like this r very delicate to make, its good to ask for advice bt u alone knw wat supportn structures u av n d inner drive/energy uv got which usu pushes ppl no matter aw hard d situation.
I had to make dis decision 2 yrs ago bt I was offered a scholarship by d schl that pays my schl fees, accomodation, stipend and also some bursary/grant for whatsoever I wanted to do to d tune of some thousands of ££ s. Luckily for me, while doin d masters I wrote al my licensing n certifying exams n passed, got registered n started lookin for a job.
When I finished my masters n ofcus scholarship funds ended too, God brot dis family my way..I do nt knw dem frm adam bt they r yorubas...I do nt even knw anybody dt knws dem...lol, bt dey took me in, gave me a room in der mansion, dey were responsible for my feeding, transport , shopping even fancy clothes n shoes, paid for all d exams n trainings I needed to do...and generally made me comfortable while I was lookn for a job
Even wen I got a job dey still paid for al ma initial expenses till I settled. Almost one yr down now...dey call me everyday to make sure am fine....and d whole family is visitn me in my new place in october to spend a weekend.
Morale; if God is in it...He wl make a way...I was alredi on my way here wen UK cancelled post-study visa...I tot it was d end of d world bt it only helped me achieve things quicker as I was on my feet thru out.
Secondly, if u av got d inner drive...it wl push u to do all u av to do such dt if der is only one job left in d US ...it wl be offered to u

Wish u all d best...altho I prob wld av ad a rethink wen UK cancelled der post-study if i was spendn my own money..

Ok...av bn follown dis thread..n each n every comment has brot tears to my eyes.
Am amazed at d kind of heart nigerians av got...home or abroad...we stl gat dt spirit dts compassionate.
Very special thanks n kudos to the organising team... u were very detailed in presentin dis case, even d 'devil' will be compelled to give....
As a medical person, i will like to advice that prayers n moral support r very important at dis stage...no matter aw experienced n professional any surgeon is in any part of d world...he/she is still afraid of a thyroid surgery...d complications can be very scary....pls make sure all preliminary tests r done...dont b too much in a hurry...folake must b in d right frame of mind n also b medically deemed stable for dis procedure because of the type of hormones involved.
The hearts where al des money came frm sure has lots of room for prayers...send dem al to God in ur closets...it shall b well.
I am in no way rounding offf dis thread...just tryn to motivate/ginger our spirits...am sure more donations r still welcomed...
Thanks NLanders

Thanks for ur response guys
Got d acct details
Sent in ma lil contribution.
God bless u TeHN

So touched by this....this is what I love to do ...motivate ppl to help others...
Abeg send me GTB acct details
Sweetyetty2000@gmail.com

Will give small for now...not much left in ma naija acct.
Thanks to u guys...more of this to come

@OP, see no one can advice u on dis...u alone know d girl in question and what u both share.
Allow me give u some details abt my relationship. My fiance and I were classmates and reading partners...we helped each oda thru schl...frm d first year to d last. We read everyday...wen he was loosing focus in 300level ( den guys were trying to show aw much of a man dey had become), I was d one who brot him back to focus n somehow separated him frm all d guys dt were influencing him badly....he is eternally grateful for dt.
Whats d big deal in sharing ur details if der is love?..I av all my bf's password to all his emails, bank cards, company acct etc...ryt frm schl its bn d case ...nothing t hide. He personally signed all his emails to my phone so I get notifications even for al d atm withdrawals he makes. I knw wen he borrows or lends people money.
This is just a test for u...its even free money..nt directly frm ur sweats...and u r like dis ...oga o...be very careful nt to lay a bad precedent cos u dont knw d future. Wen we were serving...my bf was nt paid a kobo...I was in lagos doing two full time jobs...aw did u think he survived. He had my atm and was free to make any withdrawal as far as he spends it d way he wl spend his own money. That year alone he travelled more than 5 times by air for some career things...abeg calculate d money...he did plenty certifying exams ...and ofcus feedn, housin n transport dey dia.
Wen I was doin my masters he was workin...my dear I survived on him....and now dt we r gettn married n contributing monthly towards it for a long time now...aw do u think we av coped? I will tell u....I work in d Uk as a doctor ..he works in naija as a doctor...u dont need to b a genius to understand I probably earn times 5 or more of his salary bt I advised we contribute based on percentage...and we av bn very fine.
Ppl wl say al sorts...his cousins said il leave him wen I was coming for my masters...bt he kept on saying 'she is nt dat type of girl'...we av thrived on trust n love.
Why am I preaching...u alone knw d type of girl she is...if she is worth it...dis is ur opportunity to build a life time of love n trust...d money is yearly abi?...she can probably only dupe u of a years worth...den u change password if u not ok.
Dont loose out on one of d worlds best woman because of greediness. ..and join d people who say woman r same etc

[quote author=Ishilove]
Eyah. You sound like you really loved him [/quote

Oh yeah....I did...n we really loved each oda...bt I just saw some things dt myt neva make marriage btw us work, though d relationship was great. ...he dint even bliv I wld leave him...bt I dont want to b writin negative stories in future, asking for advice...lol....
Nt to worry, am wt someone now who loves me even more...and can literally give his life for me...and my mind n soul is at peace wt him...so my best decision so far was leavn him....

Ishilove:
Na lie. If my man's name is 'Agbogunsori' 'Erinoso', 'Esubiyi', ' and the likes, well, I will critically examine the love o

Funny enof , one of it is my ex bf 's surname ( actually d worst one...lol)...mehn, d thing haunt me die...it was always a topic for discussion...me I dint even mind(so much) to bear d name...bt cldnt imagine my children bearing such a name...doh der was lot of money...bt dt contributed abt 30% to my leaving him...he promised to change his surname...I dint bliv him cos he was d only son n wt plenty of things to inherit...funny tin is last yr he changed his surname....felt bad for nt believing him mainly because changn his surname proved to me aw unsatisfied he was wt d name n I must av contributed to dt ...
Anyways...2 oda reasons I left him r stl intact..so I dont feel so bad overall...
Conclusion...names r a huge contributory factor to saying I do....

Pastor W F Kumuyi (so far bt so near to me...#mentor)
My Dad (yet to meet anyone who doesnt love, respect, adore n even fall in love wt him in minutes)
My boo of life (in dis age n time, aw a young man continously works on himself n gets better per sec is amazing...)
My sis (brave woman...wife, mother of four, student, audit manager, assistant pastor, business woman, everyone's wellwisher...she inspires me)
President barrack obama (one man thats unstoppable...yes, he is convinced in himself)

Pls allow me cheat...
Babatunde fashola... (just one good egg out of a rotten whole poultry farm...#respect)
I dint cheat afterall....obama aint naija..stil respect him tho...#african blood

Ok, so I av read thru all d posts, d thread she opened before dey married, some of the guys posts n responses to diff thread etc...I did this cos I was quite touched by the whole scenario...haba, less than one yr marriage.
One thing I noticed is d guy neva respected d girl at any point in time...he neva made her feel like she was worth anything....and he shldnt expect much frm her...cos she wont b motivated to please n satisfy him if she has lost her self esteem frm d start.
Also readn thru his response to other threads...he doesnt come across as a guy that has respect for any lady...he probably blivs women r sex objects ( so sorry but my conclusions r solely based on ur comments...u can read thru dem to refresh ur memory).
Now lady u saw all des bt u stl went ahead for reasons best known to u...mayb swags, money, infact wateva...bt I knw u r convincd now that swags dont pay bills.
Anyways...d situation as it is...its obvious u both r very young...and being that I do not subscribe to divorce...I will advice u both seek counselling...
We all learn as we grow...u both can grow n get better...u both need to swallow ur pride n be ready to salvage d situation.
Breakin up has no promises...so until u both av exhausted all possibilities in dis marriage....do not divorce
If d house is still too heated for now...dear lady, take a break but stil fight for ur marriage.
Am sorry portharcourtboy if it looks like am lashn at u..am sorry, but pls break off frm d idea dt women r plenty everywhere...its one of d things dt has brot d world to where we r now...
U do not knw wat stunt d next woman will bring along so appreciate wat u av...
Il kp prayin for u guys...bt pls...u both need to change for d better...God help u both.

Ok, I knw long distance relationship can work. I av neva had any reservations for either long or short. My relationships (just two o) av moved from long to short at diff times. So do I quit because location has changed?.what matters most is trust...in every relationship build ur trust...be committed, respect each oda n play by d golden rule...do unto others what u want dem to do to u...shikena.
Relationships r meant to b enjoyed n when location changes. ..it means its time to enjoy anoda part/aspect of ur relationship n partner.
So av bn in dis rel since 4 yrs now...d first two yrs were ultra -short distance rel..we used to see each oda almost 12 hrs every single day..lol, d last two yrs av bn ultra-long...he is in naija...me I dey uk. ...but we av only grown better n stronger...we gettn married in less than 3 months...lovely countdown...
But thing is both parties av to talk n decide wat dey want...we decided to see every six months minimum..n we av kept to dat...all in all...like someone said earlier..its nt all abt physical location but abt communication and d state of d mind.
Nonetheless, long distance has its shortcomings. ..sometimes I feel like jumpin from my window n landn in naija..bt he always reassures me its a countdown ...n one day we wl b together forever...so happy dt day is gettin closer...Baba God na ur hand we dey o...#prayermode

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I do not believe dis woman's story in anyway and I pray one day we nigerians n indeed africans wl grow beyond dis mentality...such d even if such 'powers' actually exist, our disbelief in it wl actually render it void n powerless.
That being said, until u pass thru sometins in life ... u would not knw exactly how it feels.
Came home last year n was at my sisters wen all of a sudden she started developin some symptoms. Usu it starts around 2 am after a very stressless or even sometimes event-filled day. She wl just start saying she is feeling weak...n within minutes she feels so faint n paralysed dt she wont be able to walk or even stand. We wl have to carry her off d ground n transport her to d hosp sometimes leavn d children at home (oldest was 9yrs old). Get to d hosp, pay all d deposits n by morning she is fine n fit..home n den nothin happens until d next episode. We tot it was some joke or due to stress. Dis thing cont, she even got pregnant n almost died during dt period. We started gettn worried ..took her to specialist hosp... (as a doctor I do nt bliv in al des juju plus ritual or spiritual tinz..atleast nt in relation to ur health). I started gettn worried wen non of d test was revealing anything. It all came back as normal
ECG, EEG, echocardiogram, BRAIN CT SCAN, abdominal ultrasound n CT, routine blood test, urine test, chest xray, and everytin possible. She consulted my consultants in LUTH even some in der private clinics (I used to work in luth, knew all of dem personally), cardiologist, neurologist, gynae etc...she saw some of d consultants at FMC ebute-metta. Stil nothing. All des happened last year...imagine d money n all, but by morning she wl be fine afta d whole nyt episodes.
Reality dawned on me wen I came home in january...and dis thing stl continued...see us running around in d middle of d nyt ...walkn frm home to hosp..infact on one of d nyts d doctor said he wasnt gonna see us..he thinks we r just disturbn d hosp.
I rmbr d day I was comin back to d UK, I slept ova nyt on d chair at FMC ebute-metta, I rmbr lookin in her eyes n thinkn dt was d last tym I was gonna see her...I rmbr gettn home packn al my clothes both clean n dirty n rushn off to d airport in a taxi ( no time for preparatn n d normal departure tinz), I rmbr running afta a pastor at d airport to please pray for my sis who was in d hosp (bliv u me I wld neva av done dis even if I was paid...but I ad to do it...its called reality)..I rmbr crying all thru d 6 hrs flight...I rmbr crying everyday I spoke to her afta dt...stl no diagnosis till date.
It happens dt she had one colleague at work who felt she ws more qualified for d post... n gist were spreadn frm d ppl she had confided in...
Long n short this thing continued until my sis went for d monthly prog in my parents church. ..n was prayed for...its six months now...we have nt seen or heard anything (it wl be permanent in Jesus name)...and she also left her workplace...n peace is wat she has known since then.
I do not knw wat to make of dis story myself...mayb if she was here in d UK we wld av a diagnosis...mayb she was suffering frm a very rare condition...bt d sudden onset n offset of d illness stil baffles me coupled wt al d surrounding stories...
I stll do nt believe in superstition...am stl a doctor who has got lots of respect for science and medicine. ..
But one thing is I believe in miracles...
AND REALITY IS WHEN IT HAPPENS TO US.
....I knw dis sounds like crap to alot of u..bt av just let out my mind...
And I feel u Mr morgan...esp if u are bein wrongly accused. ...#peace

ohpeyemi:


you are a fake deeperlifer,
real deeperlifers don't have boyfriends.

U make me laugh....bt I knw wat u mean....tho its wierd bt am quite comfortable calln him boyfriend...he is my fiance, we r engaged, av done introduction and d wedding date is few weeks away. It might interest u to knw am one of many few girls who neva had a bf till mayb 24yr....I just kpt lots of male friends...I do not usu wanna say this bt I respect myself a lot n do command a lot of respect frm guys.
No matter wat u call ur partner, its wat u do in a rel dt matters. He neva ad a girlfriend cos funny thing is he is a very principled guy n believe things shld be done
At d right time. We focused on ur studies n wen we wanted to start d relationship, we felt we were spiritually sound enof n do not need to be registered under any committee as we needed to be free wt each oda...aftaral no committe wl live wt us wen we get married. My mum is in d committee, n so was his aunt n so we tot we cld always ask for help wen needed.
If ur relationship is nt registered under d committee in DL no matta wat u term it...it is bf/gf in der eyes. I am happy to say he is my bf...as far as I knw wat I do in it glorifies God. We av bn five yrs together n kpin strong n cant wait to tie d knot...God has bn so faithful to us.
I am just nt into dos committee things, I try to live my christian life in rel wt God n nt follow d doctrines esp if I am nt comfortable n cant follow it to d letter.
I tried dating a guy initially n d moment I realised he wasnt really convinced abt his christian life I left him tho I loved him so much...I do nt mess wt my christian life n I do nt follow doctrines either...wt my background in d church I av been well groomed such dt even if I stop goin to d church...I stl keep my core values...my parents too trained me well....so dear weather I call him bf or not...its wat u do in a relationship dt matters...
We r both grown-ups, christians n both of us r doctors...and I think its nt out of place to be in a relationship at this point.

I was brought up in deeperlife since age 4 till two yrs ago wen I left d country. No matter wat anyone says, pastor kumuyi remains d greatest blessin to my life. Sometimes I look back wen I am prayn to God n I always thank him for bringn me up in dt church. Sometimes I cry cos I miss my pastor so much...I miss him as a father in my life...he taught mw every tin I knw...principles of success (I ws d best grad doc in my sch)...he tot me abt holiness (my boyfriend too ad a deeper life background) so chastity n holiness was easy for us..we stl say it to date dt our upbringing in dt church is one single most important common factor dt hs helped us stay strong....pastor kumuyi tot me to b very conservative n to stand out frm d crowd...I love him so much.
My parents r pastors in d church...frm d word go I av told dem I am nt marrying in d church cos me I simply do nt like it.... ( weddn comin up in 3 months, we dint av to talk abt it, dey alredi knew)...I do nt share exactly d same convictions wt my parents, so any member dt does n likes d rules shld go ahead bt if he/she now comes to my own weddin to judge if I followed one rule or d other, he /she is on his/her own.
My father wl come for my weddin , I wl glorify God wt it n I wl b moderate...bt aw ppl wl judge pastor kumuyi n d church based on dis weddn stl baffles me.....dis kind of weddin is nt new in DL churches in d diaspora... (I attended for a while in scotland) bt redeem is closer to me in england now which is why I go der...d rccg here too is diff frm in naija..if u doubt me watch d festival of life progs...so ppl shld stop talkn....if dis weddin ws done in anyoda way ppl wl stl talk...pls free dis couple.
I knw pastor kumuyi has fought a good fight, I pray God helps him to finish strong...we wl knw dt he trained his children(including me) in d way of d lord..so he wl nt answer for dem on d last day. Pastor God be wt u...I stl listen to u everytime on d church website...I love dos mssgs again n again...my next plan is to make sure I hook up regularly wt d new monthly prog tho most times it falls on my call days...I love u P.kay and God knws aw time n again I appreciate u (u may neva knw) bt I always say a word of prayer for u each time...n I knw def it touches u...oh aw I miss YOUTH REVIVAL DAYS....

Hi guys any news abt d test date...or av dey done d test?

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@OP, I am a doctor like u n truth is I av found myself in dis situation a lot of times before now. I was so scared of what il do afta graduation, dint want to get stuck doinwat I dont like....so i started to think....
Now wat is it dt u dont like in medicine....der r a lot of field/dept in medicine...its very rare for u to 'hate' all d dept...see if u can like anyone of it....just incase u really r goin to b 'stuck' in it....so I settled for paeds here...I dint make any commitment at dis stage (no primaries, nothin, just tried to dev d interest)
Next stage, I tot I needed a break frm medicine....sometimes its abt d stress u went thru so wen u eventually bcom a doc it feels like its nt worth it....not new cos we feel same way abt oda things in life....so at dis point I decided to change location (left naija) and settled for a masters in public health...now me not so cut out for oda things in life unlike u who alredi has an interest in pet eng.
Next...afta my one year masters...I looked at d public health thing...for a start I myt av to b travelling from one third world country to d oda to up ma CV n make myself relevant....at dis stage it was glaring I myt av more to deal wt here than in medicine so I said y not try medicine elsewhere, to av an idea wat clin practice is outside naija...so I wrote my licensing exams and started working as a doc here...bliv u me, life feels so diff now...d pay, so much less stress, things r workin well n everyday I see aw my actions or inactions directly affect patient care...n bliv u me, its bn worth it.
Now av said al dat just incase ur reasons r based on wat u see around u...or some fears abt ur future life as a doc where u r at d moment.
Another scenario u can learn from...
My bf is a doc also n since 300 level he has vowed neva to practice medicine so he has bn on a search for wat field to go into...he also wanted something engineering too...so at d end of d day, he settled for occupational health, safety and environment. Now wt dis u work directly wt most engineering companies esp oil n gas...u r a lil closer n u see inside things...there r a lot of certification u can get HSE I, II, III etc, he also alredi has his NEBOSH and he is getting his masters in occupational health safety n environ in d UK.
Now d choice is urs...d world has bcom so liquid dt goin for a first deg in engineering is like driving backwards...der r a lot of middle grounds des days n even heads of companies r lookin for diversified individuals ...cos it pays dem...u wl offer wat odas who av bn strictly in d field cant offer.
If u cld survive med sch..u can pretty much survive anywhere in d world...u av bn built to take over n dt mbbs cert def sets u out from d crowd.
I hope all I av said makes a lil sense n pls pray for God to direct u...dont make d decisions of a life time in a hurry.
Make Sure ur foundation in medicine is secure...as in b fully reg wt d council (mdcn, gmc etc) so dt wen u eventually venture into medicine either as a part time job ( apart frm in naija, its stl one of d highest Paying job outside, so u can b doin locums which pays more than wat oda ppl earn in 3 days for an hour) or for investment ( u myt want to invest in an hospital in d future), u go stl dey kampe

Dis topic is funny....bt d funniest food combination I av ever seen was when my nephews friend came home wt him frm school...
So I ad to prepare lunch for dem. Being UK- born naija kids...dey sometimes want naija meal so my nephew said I want 'iba' (eba) n okro soup. Afta makin d thing d oda boi said ' aunty I dont take stew, its always too hot (pepperish) for me'...na im I call d mama say wetin him go use chop d 'iba' na im she say butter....I was like what
So ryt in front of me d guy ate eba n butter....so does he eat rice/ spag wt butter....aint dt strange

I feel dis is a very simple decision to make tho d hardest to carry out. Diff between my ex and present
Ex- loves me so much, respected me, never asked for sex/kiss, knows sex before marriage is wrong bt not ready to stay by it...I wasnt sure if he wasnt gettn it frm somewhere (which actually defeats d whole purpose as he is likely to get used to cheating n continue after marriage).PS we dated for 3 yrs so he really tried...#respect
Present bf: over loves me, feels like am d most important 'thing' in his life, knows sex is wrong, no pressures, nt engagin in sex himself, bn quite convinced abt dt before I met him, I know he is nt cheatn, we av built dis big mountain of trust makes me wonder aw we got dis far in d first place....now dt everytin is sortn out ( both workn n earning well), he talks more abt sex now but first of all, he made sure he put a ring on it....we gettn married soon...gud luck to us #4yrs into dating.

Now d most important ting, breakn up wt my ex was d most difficult tin...took years cos we were very gud together tho we ad issues wen it comes to partying and general belief abt marriage (he is frm a broken home, and he does come across as someone who is sure marriage shld be for ever for better for worse)...but am so glad I left him...stil think he is a very great guy tho
With my present bf, more than d issue of sex, we av grown so strong together, very supportive, very compatible, stayn away frm sex has helped us to concentrate on oda areas n built our relationship....our greatest asset is our trust for each oda...I pray God continues to help us.
Back to OP, u guys dont av same values, beliefs n interests, pls let her be...dnt hurt her.
Its more than d virginity, its abt d values n beliefs. It myt hurt so much but pls do humanity a big favour by leavn her...God bless you

What is wrong wt us Nigerians....if dis had bn a news abt a MOG commitn a crime/scandal now, al hell wil be let loose such dt even d man who is an armed robber/murderer wl feel free to latch on him. Let us learn to appreciate gud tins...dis attitude of ours is affectn us negatively even in other aspects of our lives as a nation..and its called HYPOCRISY (pretendn to abhor evil openly n never bein able to appreciate gud).
While I do not support idolisn any pastor...we can all say dis man kumuyi has really tried in preachn d true word..even if its only 10% of his congregation that listens to him, I think he has contributed his own quota in movin d nation forward...trust me.
This man has proven himself humble n meek in dis fast changn world, believe me its nt dt easy....but I knw its bn God keepn him.
In everyway, I knw der are a lot of honest men of God out der, lets appreciate n pray for dem...dts enof encouragement to move dem forward.
Also in other areas of life...be it entertainment , family life etc...lets appreciate gud ppl....peace out

Looking beyond all of these tweet fights, its a known fact that Nigeria is a very big and unique brand that sells globally, i'll leave it to u to decide what trade to concentrate on. Having met lots of people from other african countries abroad, am always so amazed at how they know the names of each and every naija artiste (even when i am struggling with some new faces), they know almost all over various dishes and soups and even have them for family dinner, they are very conversant with our local slangs/lingos, they even attempt to speak our languages (esp yoruba) of which the only reason i knw they(countries) exist is courtesy of geography classes in SS. sometimes am like so people actually live in ?burundi, ?seychelles,?zanzibar(lol).
No serious offence to my African bros/sis, but while its good to get some int'l recognition by taking on naija, nigerians sure knw aw to have full fun at every given opportunity, we really dont take life TOO seriously cos no one makes it out alive....peace out @twas all fun while it lasted.

PAGAN 9JA:


ok Madame. . . ok. s'longas you got my point, it is fine by me. i was just being sarcastic. i have just seen a lot of unnecessary bloodshed. i dislike it and yet i dislike ignorance even further. this is why i said those things.

alright dear, sorry for bein quite touchy, jst dt 'reality is wen it happens to u'. av also seen lots of bloodshed (used to live very close to a university that was notorious for cult activities)....i hate dos situations. i dislike ignorance too, esp wen it comes to religious intolerance in nigeria. was talkn to a patients relative at work yesterday, and he was tryn to get friendly by askn wat part of nigeria i am frm, i said 'south' and he was like 'the christian south'...i ad to cut him short and left cos of the feelings i get when i rmbr d muslim/christian situatn back home.
another side of it is dat, irrespective of the constituents of a population, d people av a ryt to secured lives and mst be provided such, d lack of which in itself fans crisis as individuals are at liberty to throw caution to d wind...cheers

PAGAN 9JA:


listen here. you reply what you want. but if you are not willing to go into the root of the crisis, then keep suffering.

P.S. Pagans are not atheists. We bliv in Gods and SPiritual Forces. we are Cultured people.

your ignorance of this base fact displays your narrow-mindedness. The Gods guide you on the right path.

On a second thought....thanks for correctn me on that one...being away for a while has made me forget the word 'pagan' exist, bt i would av tot common sense demands dt during a crisis , all talks should be towards raisin awareness and gettn it touch wt relevant authorites until d situatn is under control, after dt, we can start addressin d root cause. this an a very acute phase of d crisis,its thus not ryt for u to sit down wt popcorn like r in a cinema...watchn a horror movie.