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nutinikole:
ok im a bit confused now. . . . .
i thought i was sure before but i don't think so now
he never iasked me outright and we never had a seroius discussion about it. . . he just used to say stuff like "see this one holy holy" and stuff like i know u havent had the experience ive had and things like i don't want to rush you or hurt u bla bla i alwyas thought like he was trully convinced.

but since nairalands repsonses i tried to ease into it by replying ohh please who told you? did i ever tell you that? even though we are now dating im not looking to jump into bed with him yet. but then i finally made it clear
{starting halfway in the conversation}

"i don't want to rush things or rush you because . . ." and i said
"because what?"
he just laughed and said "you know"
i replied "i don't know you always assume did i tell you i was a virgin?"
he said "ok no you diddnt but i don't assume it one of those things you just know . . i knew from the first time i met you because you wer shy and . . .
i interrupted but how do you know that? i never told you that thats the problem with you boys you alwys assume! so because im a "virgin" thats why you havent pounced on me yet?
he said ok[b] lets say you are really a virgin it will not still change anything.[/b]
good because i never told you i was!
we both laughed it off. _{other conversation but can't risk putting that here just incase he comes along to nairaland!}
1) i think he was just assuming but he really wasnt sure.
2) hes wasnt taking the issue as anything and he isnt really bothered about it.
3)i think hes indifferent. nothing has changed he isnt pressuring me for sex still but he still teases me by calling me "a little kid" or stuff like "you self you havent seen anything yet" i always tease back by you havent seen anything yet either.

now that ive made it clear why is he still teasing? is that just some game hes playing or did i misunderstand hes comparison of both our experiences; for him thinking i had no experience at all?
he laughed it off does that mean he knew all along or he was just trying to figure out why i hadnt jumped into bed with him yet?

Lol the whole "when i first met you, you were shy" thing turned  me off. Why are people so lame? Same way you have cl;ueless people saying garbage like "well I figured she was a virgin because she knew things virgins wouldnt/should know", i's like they think they all live under some hijab or something. Are they retarded, can they not read or are "special" people who are oblivious to their surrounding, that they can possibly know about the "ancient secret of sex", some people are so bloody clueless, it's ridiculous.

anyway in a way you did pretty much tell him, if he's smart he would have figured out just from the way you responded so the teasing could either be him implying that he'll "show you that he's the best you'll ever have', eventually or he's still clueless to your hints. Next time he makes such comments, just straight out tell him, seriously I'm not a virgin, I just don't believe in jumping from bed to bed, I believe in being in a loving and exclusive relationship before getting to that point and see how he reacts, some people jjst need the truth thrown in their faces else they'll cobntinue to live in a bubble.

preach on

Radiant:
An advice shouldn't be what you want to hear otherwise you have the answer to your problem. Everyone gives his opinion, you weigh them and decide which you choose.

Exactly. Im actually rtrying to help the ungrateful runt. Her mother's comment is "it's beyond my control", says alot and instead of her to try to find out what her mom meant by that, she's getting mad at others

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SeanT21:
at D-reloaded

??What does that mean!!

Are you sure you watched NCFOM?

finebabe:
Personally, i think the guy thought that was the right thing to say(as in he didnt mean any harm/hurt).
The lady would have looked for a better way to correct him if she didnt like how he said it.
You know we all learn everyday.

It's not too late for her to correct her guy.

Abi she wan waste 4 years of courtship?

maybe you should actuallty read thru the thread. guy apologize for lack of tact, girl apologized for overrracting. couple back together now. C'est Fini.

you think your Togolese women are better?

well I am a kissing judge and you all(the Naija males) fail.

change flash number to 425,355 and remove all the other stuffexcept for the underlined link

um why dont you "feast" on your girlfriend instead, you vampire rat

Dont worry, you and 4Play can continue the tradition of getting married at 57.

seems like some of you have issues with reading comprehension

what part of it doesnt matter what kind of job the person is doing, just don't bloody deceive people by claiming otherwise don't you understand?

Closet nazis also claim to have black friends, what is your point.

nwando:
Yes Igbos "ask questions" but I don't think we do credit checks ROFL
and it's hard when the man is here and the lady in Naija

I knew it was pretty much a Nigerian thing to do.

Not that hard, prominent family has connections na