₦airaland Forum

excellentmomma:
You nailed it girl.
Addition: Stop the glue to your brothers and find your square root. A romance with your brother or father will affect your own relationship and keep you glued to ur papa's house much longer. The more you keep finding fault in your brothers' wives and nose around into your brothers' relationships, the more you leave your own life unattended, and by extension your relationships might go south all the time and you are back to square one. Be wise.

And sisters, too. Both married and unmarried; senior and junior. Making them (including those that had divorced their own husbands etc) the final judge in your relationship, making their opinion your guide in matters pertaining to your relationships and even sheepishly doing things in and to your relationship that they outrightly ask or hint you to, are no-brainers!

Woged2005:
6 Reasons That Keep Nigerian Ladies Above 30yrs From Marrying. Please Avoid Them!


This is a Sista -to-Sista Talk. If you like take the advice or leave it, it won't change a thing. I listened, I found

1. Acting Immaturely: When you are above 30, you are not in the the same category with ladies below 27 anymore. Except you have things to show for your age such as solid career, fat bank account, strong investments, impressive academic accomplishment, etc the odds are stacked against you in competing with a younger lady. Men who will look for you are mostly men seeking for the above qualities and perhaps also some maturity. Therefore if you have none of the above and still behave like a teenager, you are going to stay in your papa's house for a longer time. Please be different and bring some maturity into your relationships to gain some advantage. Reduce your playing 'hard-to-get' games. If you see what you want, got for it, and nail it koi-koi! Shekina!

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

3. Talking About Your Ex: Everyone knows that at 30+ plus you probably have had a couple of failed relationships. Please can you stop bringing them up in your current relationships? Stop talking about how one Ex loved you, cherished you, spoiled you with gifts, how the relationship was a bliss, etc. The bottom line is the Ex didn't marry you; he didn't find you good enough. He left you and married another lady. So stop praising him. It's foolish to hear some ladies say "he tells me he regretted not marrying me; wishes he can get a 2nd chance" .. . Pleeaaasssee! that's an old trick for men who dumped you to get into your pants again as a side chick. Get real! he's someone's husband now.

4. Unnecessary Shakara: This one is a relationship blunder No.1 for ladies above 30. DON'T give a man any reason to believe he's only one of your options. What are you thinking? , What's the shakara for? You want to be married and you met a matured man who wants to marry without delay.You have tested him and he is good to go, then you begin shakara, like there's a long queue out there for you? Once you do that, then you give him reasons to check out other girls too. Relationships go south from there. Abeg, once he is inside your territory, lock the exit pam! .

5. "My Pastor Said..": Please leave your pastors and spiritual advisers out of your relationship. Pray to God for guidance. Nothing is as annoying as seeing a matured grown 30-something year old 'mama' going to ask her pastor to see if a man is her God-approved husband. Is your pastor God? How will he know? Pastors can counsel you and put you through marriages courses, educate you on how to be a better christian wife but not to choose a husband for you. Abeg! wise up.

6. Pay For Your Own Stuff And Be Content : At 30+ you should have your own things. Stop begging for money and gifts like you are still in school. That's for students. Stop fantasizing about celebrity cars, dresses, shoes, jewelries, houses, bling-bling like you are a teenager. It makes you look either too childish or like a cheap materialist. Serious men pay attention to all those clues. At 30+ you should have saved some money to buy things you want for yourself. But if for some reason you haven't, be modest and feel content with what you have.

I Pray May This Year Be Your Breakthrough Year On Marriage!

God bless you for this!

Pheals:
www.punchng.com/news/corruptionll-disappear-if-buhari-wins-says-amaechi/

Tell that to the Marines, bro. On Febuhari 14, GOODLUCK Nigeria!

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

@Mutter: God bless you!

Obiagelli:
They say he is to rigid, does not smile.

February of Goodluck, Nigeria!

mcdokwe:
Good News!



Not because he is the best
Not because I like his person
Not because I believe any of his lies
Not because I will vote him


But simply because from the bunch on the fray,
He is the better choice


GEJ 2015-2019
#OneNigeria
#Nigeria4usall

Goodluck Nigeria on February 14!

saaedlee:
Before Nkor,


GMB till Nigeria is repaired!
Got so annoyed yeterday when I learnt that some states(more of PDP) haven't paid civil servants salaries for months. Yet they roam about making frivilous promises; God punish them!


Meanwhile,
Vote For General Muhammadu Buhari For President
Vote For CHANGE
God bless Nigeria

Goodluck Nigeria on February 14!

boygeorge:
Nigeria’s Richest Oil Blocks Owners Exposed: Names & Details


The oil block business is so lucrative that Danjuma’s Sapetro divested of its investment in Akpo condensate for $1billion dollars. The business is second to none in Nigeria. That is why any attempt to investigate the activities in this sector will always be futile. The money is so much that they give bribes in millions of dollars. A birthday gift or child naming gift from an oil block owner to a government official could be as paltry as $2million dollars, and if the official’s father died, the condolence gift could reach mere $3 million dollars.


When they want to bribe legislators, it is in millions of dollars and any ongoing investigation ends within weeks. They are so confident that with excess money they can buy up Nigeria and they are succeeding OML 110 with high yield OBE oil fields was given Cavendish Petroleum owned by Alhaji Mai Daribe, the Borno Patriarch in 1996 by Sanni Abacha. OBE oil field has estimated over 500 million barrels of oil. In layman’s language and using average benchmark of $100 dollars per barrel, translates to $50 billion dollars worth of oil reserve. When you remove the taxes, royalties and sundry duties worth about 60% of the reserve payable over time you get about $20billion dollars worth of oil in the hands of a family.


OPL 246 was awarded to SAPETRO, a company owned by General Theophilus Danjuma, by Sanni Abacha in 1998. Akpo condensate exports about 300,000 barrels of crude daily.
NOML 112 and OML 117 were awarded to AMNI International Petroleum Development Company owned by Colonel Sanni Bello in 1999. Sanni Bello is an inlaw to Abdulsalami Abubakar, former Head of State of Nigeria.
OML 115, OLDWOK Field and EBOK field was awarded to Alhaji Mohammed Indimi from Niger State. Indimi is an inlaw to former Military President Ibrahim Babangida.


OML 215 is operated by Nor East Petroleum Limited owned by Alhaji Saleh Mohammed Gambo.


OML 108 is operated by Express Petroleum Company Limited is owned by Alhaji Aminu Dantata.


OML II3 allocated to Yinka Folawiyo Pet Ltd is owned by Alhaji W.I. folawiyo
ASUOKPU/ UMUTU marginal oil fields is operated by Seplat Petroleum. Seplat is owned by Prince Nasiru Ado Bayero, cousin to the Central Bank Governor Lamido Sanusi. This oil field has the capacity of 300,000 barrels of oil daily. This translates to $30million dollars daily at average benchmark of $100 dollars per barrel. Deducting all sundry taxes, royalties etc , this field can yield $12billion dollars daily for the owners .
Intel owned by Atiku, Yarádua and Ado Bayero has substantial stakes in Nigeria’s oil exploration industry both in Nigeria and Principe and Sao Tome.


AMNI owns two oil blocks OML 112 and OML 117 which it runs Afren plc and Vitol has substantial stakes in oil blocks. Afren plc is operating EBOK oil fields in OML 67. Vitol lifts 300,000 barrels of Nigerian oil daily. Rilwanu Lukman, former OPEC Chairman has stakes in all these named three companies.


OPL 245 was awarded to Malabu Oil& Gas Company by Sanni Abacha. Dan Etete, Abacha’s oil minister owns Malabu Oil. In 2000, Vice President Atiku Abubakar convinced Obasanjo to revoke OPL 245 given to Malabu Oil. Etete had earlier rejected Atiku’s demand for substantial stakes in the high yield OPL 245 and it attracted the venom of Ota Majesty who revoked the licence. However, in 2006, Obasanjo had mercy on Dan Etete and gave him back his oil block worth over $20 billion dollars.


OPL 289 and OPL 233 was awarded during Obasanjo era to Peter Odili fronts, Cleanwater Consortium, consisting of Clenwater Refinery and RivGas Petroleum and Gas Company. Odili’s brother in law, Okey Ezenwa manages the consortium as Vice Chairman.
OPL 286 is managed by Focus Energy in partnership with BG Group, a British oil concern. Andy Uba has stakes in Focus Energy and his modus operandi is such that you can never see his name in any listings yet he controls OPL and OML through proxies


OPL 291 was awarded to Starcrest Energy Nigeria Limited, owned by Emeka Offor by Obasanjo . Immediately after the award, Starcrest sold the oil block to Addax Petroleum Development Company Limited (ADDAX) Addax paid Sir Emeka Offor a farming fee of $35million dollars and still paid the signature bonus to the government. Emeka Offor still retains stake in ADDAX operations in Nigeria.


Mike Adenuga’s Conoil is the oldest indigenous oil exploration industry in Nigeria. Conoil has six oil blocks and exports above 200,000 barrels of crude daily.
The oil block national cake sharing fiesta could take twists according to the mood of the Commander-in –Chief at the particular time. In 2006, Obasanjo revoked OPL 246 which Abacha gave to Danjuma because he refused to support the tenure elongation bid of the Ota Majesty. In 2000, Obasanjo had earlier revoked OPL 241 given to Dan Etete under the advice Atiku.


However, when the Obasanjo-Atiku face off started, the Ota Majesty made a u-turn and handed back the oil block to Etete.
During the time of Late President Yarádua , a panel headed by Olusegun Ogunjana was set up to investigate the level of transparency in the award of oil blocks. The panel recommended that 25 oil blocks awarded by the Obasanjo be revoked because the manner they were obtained failed to meet the best practices in the industry. Sadiq Mahmood, permanent secretary in the Ministry of Petroleum endorsed the report to then president with all its recommendations . As a result of the report Yarádua revoked eleven oil blocks.


In April 2011 Mike Adenuga attempted to buy Shell’s OML 30 for $1.2 billion dollars. The Minister for Petroleum and Nigeria’s most powerful woman refused the sale of the OML30 to Adenuga citing national interest. This block was later sold to Heritage Oil for $800 million dollars eleven months later.


In the name of competitive bidding, which Obasanjo introduced in 2005, Officials bring companies overnight and through processes best described as secretive and voodooist they award blocks to party faithful, fronts and phoney companies. They collect gratifications running into hundreds of millions of dollars which is paid into an offshore account and the nation loses billions of dollars of revenue to private pockets.



http://abdulkuku..com/2014/05/nigerias-richest-oil-blocks-owners.html?m=1

Come February 14, Nigeria will have goodluck!

barcanista:
Two days after Muhammadu Buhari Campaign spokesman announced the boycott of the amiable General from the PDP sponsored NEDG Presidential Debate, ChannelsTV in partnership with ARISETV and Newspaper Proprietors Association of Nigeria announced their proposed Presidential debate between the Amiable General Muhammadu Buhari and His Excellency President Ebelemi Jonathan. Fans and supporters of the General including yours faithfully jubilated and really looked forward to the clash of the political titans. We were happy because unlike the NEDG composition where all the members have ties with the PDP and the Presidency, that of the ChannelsTV/NPAN/AriseTV carries a toga of fairness and neutrality. It came as a shock when I read the news of withdrawal by the APC strategist Mr. Dele Alake

Channels Television owned by Chief John Momoh is one of the only few unbiased broadcast station. John Momoh has dinstinguished himself as a professional Journalist right from his days in Radio Nigeria and Nigeria Television Authority. He has never held any appointment for any party neither is he known to fraternise with any political party. If any Television Station enjoy respect from among their pairs for their stand on neutrality, that station is Channels TV.

AriseTV is an international broadcast station with broadcast houses in London, Lagos, New York and Johannesburg. I am yet to see their frolicking with any Nigeria politician or government official. They are unbiased in their reportage.

NPAN is an association of all the print media owners. In other words, both the neutral, biased, political and non-political are members of this Association.

Considering the composition of the debate coordinators, one cannot help but agree that the unbias of the organisers is not in doubt. The APC should allow the amiable General to go head to head with the President, and allow Nigerians the chance to assess both candidates. Personally, I believe in the ability and administrative skills of the amiable General, I also believe in him to take on the President and floor him in the debate. This will not be the first time that the General will partiicipate in a political debate, he debated in 2007 and 2011 and was very impressive. His accent is not a problem to me as long as he passes the right message. APC should allow the General participate and stop making it look like the General is afraid of debate. The excuse of Dele Alake is unacceptable and illogical. I hope that the party will reconsider their position.

God bless the General
God Bless Nigerians

GOODLUCK this February, Nigeria!

[quote author=doctokwus post=30361883][/quote]GOODLUCK this February, Nigeria!

KwoiZabo:
Why did they Love Buhari?
Because he is one of them though illiterate you can sit in any position of your choice competent or no competent

because he has blinded them with his extreme views of Islam

because he fights for their cause whether they are right or wrong. A good example is when Buhari led a delegation to Oyo state to defend the course of Fulani clashes with Oyo state indigenes.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.nigeria/NXkNoJHqzj0,
http://thenationonlineng.net/new/how-lam-prevented-another-civil-war/

because he is the only paramount ruler and dictator still alive in the region NW & NE. IBB is an infidel because of his marriage to a christian and (Gbadamosi) which they regard as yoruba and Niger is middlebelt.

because he holds the view that their tribe is born-to-rule and superior to others.

75% of Projects he executed as PTF chair is in their region and an abysmal 25% in other parts.

He protected their people and imprisoned southerners in his kangaroo fight against corruption.

I can go on and on

He has not done anything tangible for them save the above factors

And Tinubu out of greed selected him as a 'messiah' and Amaechi is just disgusting. Rochas is a businessman.

Check my previous comments its never tribalistic but we must open our eyes as we approach the general elections.

GOODLUCK Nigeria come February 14!

[quote author=Gbawe post=30347756][/quote]Come Febuhari 14, GOODLUCK Nigeria!

olatade:
Former defence minister, Gen. Yakubu Danjuma, yesterday got a seven-day ultimatum from a group of ex-militants in the Niger Delta to withdraw his statement in which he called for the arrest of some former warlords or face their wrath.

Gen. Danjuma had, on Wednesday,  condemned last weekend’s meeting of the former warlords in Yenagoa where they threatened to unleash terror on the country if President Goodluck Jonathan loses next month’s election.

Danjuma called for immediate arrest of the war mongers including Government Ekpemupolo a.k.a. Tompolo, Asari Dokubo and Victor Ben Ebikabowei a.k.a. Boyloaf.

A group of ex-militants —the Leadership, Peace and Cultural Development Initiative—led by Reuben Wilson, issued the ultimatum to Danjuma to withdraw the ‘insult’, failing which it said he would be courting trouble.

Boyloaf, reacting separately to Danjuma’s call for the arrest of the militants, threatened yesterday to attack the general’s assets in the Niger Delta if he fails to “retrace his steps” and apologise to the former militants and the people of the Niger Delta.

The Leadership, Peace and Cultural Development Initiative, in a statement by its  President, Reuben Wilson, said that Danjuma, by calling for the arrest of the militants “has walked on the tail of the serpent.”

The group said: “As much as he has the right to free speech, Danjuma ought to know that the oil money he is enjoying today, through his ownership of oil blocs, came from our sacrifices and blood. We staked our lives to fight for the development of our country.

“We fought for freedom for our land and it pains us that people like Danjuma who have reaped bountifully from the Niger Delta, can wake up to insult our sensibilities.

“For Danjuma to call for the arrest of Asari Dokubo, then he has walked on the tail of the serpent.

“The much we know is that we the ex militants who decided to drop our guns to join forces with the federal government to develop the country, especially the Niger Delta, have never said anything or taken any action that would warrant such explosives from Danjuma.“

Restating its support for President Jonathan in next month’s election,the group said: “All we have said overtime is that our brother and president, Dr Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, a true son of the Niger Delta, deserves to enjoy the two terms in office provided for in the constitution.

“We stand by this right and we will do everything legal and legitimate to make sure that he is not robbed of that right; not by a thousand Danjumas.

“Danjuma cannot be enjoying our oil money and be insulting us at the same time. We are therefore giving him seven days from today to retract the statement he made to the media on the arrest of Asari Dokubo. We see his call as a declaration of war with the former fighters and we will like to tell him that we are ready to face him, having declared himself our enemy.

“We are well aware that he owns oil blocs in the Niger Delta. He cannot be eating from our farm and at the same time calling us stupid and wishing that we should be arrested while he continues to harvest from our farm.

“Danjuma should apologise to all the former fighters or we will assume that he has no regrets for his utterances.

“We wish to sound this note of warning to all those who think they can intimidate us and force us to abandon our struggle for the re-election of Jonathan-their joint effort aimed at denying us our right will not work. They may be in the majority but we have a minority oil and that is what is feeding this country.

“If they want to push a minority man out of Aso Rock by force, they should start thinking of where they will get money to keep their man in Aso Rock because our oil money will no more be there for them to share.

“Danjuma must retract the statement within 7 days and apologise to us.”

Ebokabowei, on his part described Danjuma’s demand for their arrest as “reckless and provocative,” and wondered why the former chief of army staff did not condemn the attack on the president’s convoy in some northern states.

His words:“What are the issues that elicited retired General TY Danjuma’s reckless and provocative call? When the motor convoy (sic)  of the symbol of our collective national sovereignty, President Goodluck Jonathan, was attacked in northern cities of Jos, Katsina and Bauchi, by hegemonic Northern establishment and their hired elements, retired General T.Y Danjuma did not grant any interview to condemn the act.

“He lost his voice because he is in tacit support of such manoeuvres to disgrace and remove President Goodluck Jonathan from office using whatever means possible.

“Nigerians should not be deceived; retired General TY Danjuma is not moved to intervene in national issues for altruistic reasons.”

He alleged that Danjuma has failed to provide for the Niger Delta communities where his company prospects for oil.

“Is this the kind of man that will now speak about the unity of Nigeria? For General TY Danjuma and his likes, the unity of Nigeria centres on the control of the oil resources in the Niger Delta.

“Our eyes are now open. Wwe are watching. Any attempt to cause any inconvenience by way of arrest or intimidation of any Niger Delta leader will be met with stiff resistance and the consequences will be grave and disproportional. This is a promise and not a threat,” he said.

However, Special Adviser to President Goodluck Jonathan on the amnesty programme, Mr Kingsley Kuku, dismissed reports that the Ijaw will go to war if President Goodluck Jonathan is not re-elected into office.

Tompolo, Dokubo, Boyloaf and other former warlords, Kuku said, only expressed concern over the way the president was treated during his campaign in Bauchi and Katsina states.

http://thenationonlineng.net/new/war-threats-niger-delta-ex-militants-give-danjuma-7-day-ultimatum/

Only Truth and Equity can heal this country: Wrong for former ND militants to make threats of war. But equally very wrong for Danjuma to react speedily to their threat but keep mum to the attacks on the President of Nigeria in Katsina and Bauchi. Even more worrisome is the fact that Mssrs. Shehu Shagari, Ibrahim Babangida, Abdulsalaam Abubakar, even Muhammadu Buhari, all former Presidents/Heads of States of Nigeria from the north all also failed to exhibit any modicum of maturity by immediately condemning the acts. They failed to show good example and to acquit themselves as good role models for the Nigeria Project. They needed to have immediately condemned the violence, not out of love for the present holder of the office but to affirm the dignity of the Office of President of Nigeria! Or, could their silence be confirming they were only Presidents/Heads of State for northern Nigeria?

Mogidi:
http://www.punchng.com/news/buhari-not-qualified-to-contest-ozekhome/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter

Just heard this.

Boy1:What do they call that month they say is lovers' month?
Boy2: Is it Fellbuhari?

FELLBUHARI?
Interesting!

[quote author=menesheh post=29803627][/quote]'Now that we begged him to come and rule ....'
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Oh, now you are begging him to 'come and rule'? Begging someone who wept profusely in 2011 at losing the election? All the others you begged to come and rule?(Balewa, Shagari, Obasanjo, Yar'Adua etc), where did they get Nigeria to? Beg him to come and rule you, maybe! Even in the heat of political hustings, people must be careful of what they say for it will come back to haunt them in future and at times they least expect!

Cwhyte:
This is not the first time they will do this about Nigeria.
I wonder what their motives are

'Still wondering?
Their motive is total destruction of Nigeria!

Jarus:
Source: http://ynaija.com/ismail-lawal-buhari-executed-my-dad-but-ill-vote-for-him-anyway/

I’m inspired.


Source: http://dailypost.ng/2012/10/28/owolabi-adenola-david-the-aluu-us/

Same way some misguided Liberians egged on Charles Taylor with their 'he killed my pa, he killed my ma, but I'll still vote for him' and Charles Taylor went ahead to also kill the future if young Liberians who he had already orphaned; and, also delivered utter destruction, unspeakable violence, mindless bestiality and unimaginable poverty to them. Charles Taylor won; Liberia not only lost, and is still counting its losses up till now!
Some Nigerians just must be very careful of what they pray for---they may just get it?

Jarus:
Source: http://ynaija.com/ismail-lawal-buhari-executed-my-dad-but-ill-vote-for-him-anyway/

I’m inspired.


Source: http://dailypost.ng/2012/10/28/owolabi-adenola-david-the-aluu-us/

Same way Liberians glamorized the evil Charles Taylor ('He killed my pa, he killed my ma, but I will still vote for him'). Charles Taylor won; but Liberia lost---UP TO NOW!!!
Nigeria(ns), beware!!!

patrickdarlins:
gej till naija wins

WORLD CUP!!!!!

These gimmicks (going to church, wearing suit etc) are SO, SO DISCOMFORTING FOR GEN. BUHARI (his mien in this picture even confirms it). Why take this man through all this nightmare?
CAN A LEOPARD CHANGE ITS SPOTS?

Firefire:
Buddy, I greet you too.

Ibi ti a ba ro wipe ama ba ogbon bi aba ba ago nibe ni yio duni. "Where you expect to meet wisdom if you meet stupidity you will be pained.

I am highly disappointed in the way some people are defending the action of Dele saying na him right to block anything he finds annoying, Yes! Na him right. But, must you abuse your right ? And this was someone thinking of becoming the President of this country

We should then give huge kudos to Goodluck Jonathan for his tolerance, allowing all sorts of insult on the social media, if it is Buhari and some APC governor many people would be in Kirikiri Maximum Prison now.

They would since have outlawed the internet and social media in Nigeria. Actually, even now their body language (of empty political gimmicks filled eith ill-concealed deception) warn they will if elected.

Firefire:
Buddy, I greet you too.

Ibi ti a ba ro wipe ama ba ogbon bi aba ba ago nibe ni yio duni. "Where you expect to meet wisdom if you meet stupidity you will be pained.

I am highly disappointed in the way some people are defending the action of Dele saying na him right to block anything he finds annoying, Yes! Na him right. But, must you abuse your right ? And this was someone thinking of becoming the President of this country

We should then give huge kudos to Goodluck Jonathan for his tolerance, allowing all sorts of insult on the social media, if it is Buhari and some APC governor many people would be in Kirikiri Maximum Prison now.

They would since have outlawed the internet and social media in Nigeria. Actually, even now their bodu language (of empty political gimmicks) warn they will if

[quote author=sheddyboy post=29627995][/quote]Your senior sister advised you to divorce straightaway, just like that?
Senior suster?
More like SENIOR DEVIL!
Don't listen to her!

krispycash:
If u read the article, you'd understand certain behavioural patterns of a cheating wife....

He doesn't have to say it... It's already very obvious she feels there is a better man than her husband whom she's seeing and all....

When u are being emotionally strangulated by your spouse... What reason could there be?

Either ways, it's pretty obvious... She's seeing another man

I know a friend in a similar situation. He was besotted with a Sierra Leonean girl he met in Ghana. She returned with him to Nigeria where they wedded; but thereafter refused to live with him in Nigeria, though they had agreed to live in Nigeria after marriage. Her reason was that light is not stable in Nigeria; there was too much traffic jam in Lagos etc. As fate would have it, she soon ran into a series of troubles in Accra which necessitated the man's physical presence. The complexity of the wife's problems turned what was supposed to have been a short 2-week rescue mission into a 3 year stay in that country. By the time he defied his wife to return to his country his apartment and all his property, including vital documents, were all gone. Out of love for his wife and a principled stand on maintaining family stability, especially because of their two under-age children, the man returned back to his wife and children. His wife who was already given bouts of violence (sometimes attacking the man with kitchen knives while boasting that she was a Sierra Leonean rebel), however, showed no compassion but rather bragged that she had prayed that the misfortune with his house should happen. About a year later, the man needed to travel back to Nigeria to get documents needed to process his residency permit to enable him live legally in the country with the family. His wife cut all communication with him since then. It also emerged that by the time the wedding took place, the woman already had a nine year-old daughter in Freetown, but who was not living with her in Accra. There were also very serious suspicion that her real reason for returning to back in Accra after the wedding was that it gave her the freedom to continue having affairs with other men, and also to market herself (she claims to be a professional marketer, by the way) from one office to another, though she is supposed to be a married woman.

papiforreal:
it hasnt bro.. Rather it goes 8 places up.. We will all be happy if corruption drops but GEJ just doesnt give a Bleep about that. www.corruption.com.ng/nigeria-moves-up-in-global-corruption-rating-index.php

'Trying to be mischievous or just plain ignorant?
When a country 'goes places up' toward the direction of Number 1 in the corruption index, it means that country is becoming less corrupt.
We can not continue to hate and lie against our own country and belittle our achievements (even if out of partisan interests), and expect others to like and celebrate us!

ireneony:
Yeye story..
I don't believe your story

'Better believe it, sweetheart!
I know a friend that the wife he's marryong now implied that condition, and whose future wife's family actually voiced that question.
I also used to know a sister who as a fellowship leader used to suggest that as a precondition women needed to make before agreeing to marriage proposals.
Truth is that making of this condition by supposedly would-be wives is becoming too rampant now.

Blockus:
Why?!



So you trust your fortunes with your kids more than with your wife who hussled with you?!

Life happens. Love is real. But the heart of man (woman) is also desperately wicked. Take this real-life story:
I know a man that was besotted with a girl. She returned with him to his country where she wedded him; but thereafter refused to live with him in his country, though they had agreed to live in the man's country after marriage, her reason being that light is not stable in her marital country. As fate would have it, she soon ran into a series of troubles in her country of choice which necessitated the man's physical presence. The complexity of the wife's problems turned what should have been a 2-week short rescue mission into a 3 year stay in that foreign country. By the time he defied his wife to return to his country his apartment and all his property, including vital documents, were all gone. Out of love for his wife and stand on principle to maintain family stability, especially for their two under-age children, the man returned back to his wife and children. His wife, however, showed no compassion but rather bragged that she had prayed that the misfortune with his house should happen. About a year later, the man needed to travel back to hid country to get documents needed to process his residency permit to enable him live legally in the country where his wife and childre are already living. His wife cut all communication with him since then.
This is a true-life story, like I wrote at the intro; and, it's still unfolding.
Doubtless, a man like this would be called all kinds of names and all kinds of negative judgements passed on him for dittering on whether or not to make or not make his wife his NOK or BOF?
If you haven't walked the road that someone had walked, or even heard their story, please don't be quick to judge them yet!

Sleekyshuga:
Please Sir.........

.........How many 21st century generational women would want to settle down with a man who cannot raise a family?

.........How many Christian women/mothers would want to be pillars of a home when she has a man who is still hale and hearty?

.........Personally, would you want to settle down for marriage when you are not ready/fit for it?

You think I also don't read the bible or a christian woman/wife doesn't have her own problems? All she is supposed to do is shoulder the problems of her family? I am a REALIST, and I say things the way they are.. Times have changed.. The world keeps developing..

"A woman was created to be a helper, and not a depender".


N/B: No matter how good a lady/woman/wife or a man/husband might be, there is still a beast inside of her/him, that will only unleash when you turn on her/his bad side...

Quite out of context.
The OP didn't say he cannot raise a family.
On the contrary, he says he earns four times what his wife earns.
He only asked her to step in and contribute to the rent on a one-off situation.
NOW ABOUT 21st century women...
These 21st century women, are they Christians? Do they want to marry? Do they want to start a family?
If it is 'yes' to the three questions, then they have no choice than to do the three as per the manual of the One who invented marriage and family.
Otherwise, they are free to invent another institution of their own, but certainly not of God'making.
When they so do, they must also be ready for the consequences thereof.
And, the last time I checked, the wages of sin is still death, 21st century or no 21st century.
One more clarification: Please, don't get it all mixed up. Reference to Proverbs 31 is not meant to cover up for men who are lazy and irresponsible; not even as a carte blanche to make men abdicate their role as providers for their families. Not when the Word of God says that a man that fails to provide is worse than an infidel.
Rather reference to Proverbs 31 is to bring balance to the discussion: Marriage is actually supposed to be between two people who can separately stand on their own 100 per cent. And when it is love that brings them together, neither party should watch the other die cave in to burdens of life when they in a position to help out. Another name for this concept is Mutuality!
That's got nothing to do with 21st century, or any other century for that matter!

miredia:
I strongly believe she doesn't want him dead, perhaps divorced. She wants him submissive to her will and most likely a penchant for subtle promiscuity which his presence stalls.

Spot on![b][/b]

miredia:
Confidently spoken in Nigeria, how about a repetition while resident in the U.S

MOST CERTAINLY THE REASON MEN PREFER TO MARRY MEN; AND, WOMEN WOMEN THERE!
AND, WHAT IS THE STATE OF THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION, AND THE FAMILY, IN YOUR US?

Sleekyshuga:
****vexing mood*****

Who the hell does she even think she is? What set of generational women are mothers producing these days? This is too much for 1 man now ..

@OP, I blame you for virtually everything..

Firstly, you dated/courted her for 2years, and you knew she had this tongue lashing mouth, yet, u went ahead and married her? What does that make you? A good guy?

Secondly, there is a saying: "The day you ever allow a woman pay your bills, that day you become her slave". Trust me... She can be all sweet and rosy, and even plead with you to let her do it, and if finally you fall for her charm, and she does it and continously do it, you are in for the worst..

Borrowing from friends, family members etc would have being more responsible, and would have kept your respect in check than dealing with your abusive wife..

Thirdly, you fought with your wife.. You dragged her, and she dragged u!! What a disgusting scenario.. Clap for yourself!! You did well by beating a lady.. There are other better ways of treating a nagging/abusive wife..

Lastly, your wife will never CHANGE.. She is in a world of her own, coupled with the support and encouragement she is getting from her people.. She has sounded it to you.. She wants a DIVORCE.. What are you still waiting for? Until she kills you? It's obvious you don't value your life..

"The shits I keep hearing about marriages keeps me on an alert daily"..

UNTRUE.
In a Christian marriage, two become one(even up to the home economy).
Now reflect on this:
Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

nodullin:
Op: pls what tribe is she

Why not race, nationality, color, religion, educational status etc..?
IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS, THEY ARE COMPLETELY IRRELEVANT.

onyichick:
I can't believe its butt pad dat is causing all this wahala.if ur wife wants to wear butt pad leave her to wear it abi is it ur body,she feels comfortable wearing it.

Yes, her body has become his in marriage. This is what it means when it is said that two shall become one. See 1 Corinthians 7: 4
1 Corinthians 7: 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.