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What do they expect, when the governor is an APC aass licker

pocohantas:
Yes, for women it is not about the eggs quality because quantity is what dips. It is about her ability to be a healthy/strong incubator as she gets older.

They know the truth, they only hate to hear it from women. Nobody convinced them anything. Search up Ned and Regi topic, then read their comments on same Ned.

May God give you your husband this year.

Willy2025:
How can he even refer to himself as a king in another man's land let alone installing a chief? This is an impunity carried too far. It is common to this particular tribe in Nigeria. I don't usually hear others committing such opprobrium or engage in acts calculated to bring the name of the country into disrepute.

Where did he claim to be a king, abi you just wake up to talk for talking sake.

He is "Eze ndi igbo" not king(igwe)

How can a 50yrs look younger than a 30yrs old woman, if not that she has been using hard substances on herself.

Those Chinese aren't aware of the level of insecurity in Benue State, otherwise they wouldn't have bothered investing in that state.

OKOATA:
Everyone isn't fulani herdsman that will invest in cows and anyone who uses these luxuries suites it for himself for whatever purpose he chooses to use it for. Me as a content creator personally wouldn't mind using this gadget since it can even give me 100 times more income with a sharp and quality recording that will propel my video.

The story is not about cow, but investing that money, instead of buying the latest iPhone

RevenuesBoost:
Marriage Is Not for the Weak, Selfish, or Irresponsible Man

Let’s speak truth:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry loyalty.
You can marry a woman with a heart of gold.

But if you’re immature, emotionally lazy, or careless with her trust—
You didn’t marry a wife. You took advantage of a gift you weren’t ready to receive.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart from the outside—
They fall when the man inside the house stops showing up fully.


1. WEAK MEN AVOID HARD THINGS

A weak man shuts down in conflict.
Avoids tough conversations.
Runs from responsibility.

He calls her “emotional” when she just wants clarity.
He calls her “too much” when she just needs effort.

A real man leads with humility, not ego.
He doesn’t just provide—he protects emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

If pressure makes you disappear, you’re not leading—you’re escaping.



2. SELFISH MEN DRAIN THEIR WIVES

Marriage is not a one-way street.

If you expect peace but bring chaos…
If you demand respect but give none…
If you want her to submit while you do nothing worth following—
You’re not a husband. You’re a tyrant in disguise.

A selfish man wants a servant, not a soulmate.
But a great man? He lifts, leads, and listens.

Marriage requires sacrifice. If you're not ready to give, don’t expect to receive.




3. IRRESPONSIBILITY KILLS SECURITY

A woman can handle tough seasons.
She can handle less money, long hours, even failure.

What she can’t handle is instability—
– Financial recklessness
– Broken promises
– No vision, no plan, no consistency

Her respect dies the moment she realizes she has to carry what you keep dropping.

Responsibility isn’t glamorous—but it’s godly.
If you can't be trusted with pressure, don’t ask her to follow your lead.




4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHARACTER—NOT JUST CHARM

Being good to her when things are easy is the bare minimum.

Real character shows when: – She’s struggling
– You’re frustrated
– Life gets hard

If your first instinct is to withdraw, blame, or cheat—
You're not ready to lead. You're not even ready to love.

Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about commitment.
And that takes more than a smooth tongue and good intentions.




Final Thought: Women Don’t Leave Because They’re Cold—They Leave Because They’re Exhausted

Fellas:
If you think love is maintenance-free,
If you treat submission like superiority,
If you demand loyalty but give instability—
You’re not ready for marriage.

Because a woman doesn’t need a perfect man.
She needs a consistent one.
One who protects, provides, and pursues—with humility and honor.

If leadership to you means dominance—not service—
You don’t want a wife.
You want a servant.

And that’s not marriage—it’s manipulation.



Marriage is for men—not boys in grown-up clothes.
Show up.
Take responsibility.
Lead in love.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.



Note: This write-up focuses primarily on men. Check out my thread for the perspective on women.

https://www.nairaland.com/8516244/wwww-marriage-not-unteachable-combative

Madam just rest, as if it is only a man that would make the marriage work.

So men should be principled and women shouldn't.

aalangel:
How can you "un-love" a child after 9 years?
I don't think it's possible.

You are talking with emotions, even after 30yrs, men walk away from paternity fraud

Kobicove:
If you have not yet married a lady you have no right to ask her not to keep her options open

So you want to string her along then after 3 years you dump her and leave her stranded?

While keeping your options open, the men keeps dumping her when they are done, because one way or the other, they will find out, that she is seeing another man.

So who is fooling who?

Kobicove:
If you have not yet married a lady you have no right to ask her not to keep her options open

So you want to string her along then after 3 years you dump her and leave her stranded?

I don't know if you are a guy, but if you are, i want to ask you a question.

When dating a girl, and you found out she is dating another guy, so will you go ahead and take her serious, by engaging her to marry you?

Kukukillus:
Inside life


Some of the people humiliating this guys are probably guilty of the same offense

Na who dem catch be thief.

Brahamimo:
You suspected that your girlfriend was cheating on you. You noticed this based on her utterances and attitude.

You asked her, she denied. For months, she kept denying. Later, your own male friend confirmed it that your babe was actually seeing someone else. Your suspicion was now confirmed.

You had an altercation, a heated argument with her, and in the process, she sent you a message telling you that she actually cheated. She went further to put the blame on you for not being emotionally absent at some point in the relationship.
She apologized, you forgave her. After a week when the dust had already settled, you brought the matter Back. You asked about the guy she was cheating on you with and she said a few things about the guy.
You asked her to choose either you or the guy and she chose you. You then asked her to breakup with same guy and show evidence that she's indeed broken up with him. She said okay. After a week, you asked if she had done so, but she said she hadn't and was yet to.

How would you handle this?

Meanwhile, this is someone you've been dating for two solid years and both parents are even aware of your relationship. She's someone you both had agreed to marry in the next two to three years from now. This is a lady you're six years older than. A lady her friend told her to dump me simply because her friends felt that I'm too handsome for her and my level pass her own. She was the one that told me this.

It is really painful hearing your own woman telling you that she cheated while having an altercation with her. It hurts deeply, especially as a man. This is a lady you have never cheated on and she is aware.

I told her, I'm not ready to share my woman with anyone else. I don't double date, so I don't expect my woman to double date either. And since she's reluctant to leave the guy, I have signed out of the relationship. I told her on WhatsApp, I blocked her on same WhatsApp and Facebook. It's being four days now, and she will not allow my phone to rest with her incessant calls. I already gave her enough time to do what I asked her to do. To leave that guy, but she downplayed it. I'm not a Simp and will never be, no matter how much I love a woman. I was even lenient enough to forgive her in the first place, but the deal breaker was her reluctance to do the needful.

I can't believe i just read this nonsense and the simp forgave her and still continued the relationship 😂😂😂😂.... Over my dead body should i continue a relationship were i find my partner cheating.

pocohantas:
What does he want to use it for and why is he forcing it into his tiny canoe? Smh!
Everything we see, we chop.
We go soon chop yemoja.

Shark is edible, and eaten in some part of Asia, Europe and America.

Hampers001:
If it's you, won't you sell off your people more?
Has there been any benefit been a Nigerian so far?

In as much as Nigeria is not getting it right, that doesn't mean i would write it off.

Nothing wey Okafor no go hear, everybody with their own opinion.

Inferiority complex has made this woman sell off her people, and to look good in the eyes of her masters.

Nigeria my country

folake4u:
You are siçk in the head and need a psychiatric evaluation if that's all you can take from this beautiful thread.

Y'all sexualize women in all professions. Give it a rest!

In fact, do you know that 50% to 70% of female nurses in the United States Of America have failed marriages?

folake4u:
You are siçk in the head and need a psychiatric evaluation if that's all you can take from this beautiful thread.

Y'all sexualize women in all professions. Give it a rest!

Your problem is, you think you are smart.

Am i the one that put the notion into people's mind?... I have read and heard, even witnessed it myself, when i worked with DEUX PROJECT, the company that built and maintains LASUTH.

Unless you are pretending not to be in the know, even my friends that are in the medical field, either as a nurse or a doctor... Even, as a matter of fact, male doctors/nurses avoid marrying their female counterparts.

FrankNetter:
Good day everyone, this thread will be used to document the stories and excapades surrounding this new phase in my life. As the name implies, I am now a travel nurse which means I go to different cities on a contract with the hospitals for a period of time to work. Follow me on this journey and don't forget to follow me on Instagram @obinetter

I heard female nurses are Nymphomaniacs on the duty, how true is this?

Antwan99:
No, thats not cricket.

Cricket is the pix below.

So what is the difference between the first and second picture?

Oga the above insect the op posted is a cricket

Funny people, they didn't tell the public that the first set of battalion sent there didn't come back alive.

The second batch that went were lucky, by building a replica of the shrine, destroying it, took pictures and sent back to Abuja, that they succeeded.

Destroying Okija shrine requires more than physical power.

Andy Ubah was behind it, everybody knows it

Putindbutt:
He's throwing stones at himself, he increased poverty in Anambra when he was Governor. He left them poorer than he met them. Your media chochocho keeps demarketing you and exposing your hypocrisy.
And no reasonable person with a working common sense will cite the present Argentina as an example. Millei recently borrowed $20billion from world bank, imagine Tinubu borrowing that kind of money, it is hypocrite like Obi that will carry vuvuzela blowing it to the world, but same person is praising Millei. As at today, Argentina is one of the most expensive countries in Latin America with one of the lowest purchasing power. Trash!

Go and look at the real data, before saying nonsense, Peter Obi is the best governor Anambra ever had.

Even with evidence of cheating, she will still deny it.

foodlum:
Whoa! Are you a mind reader?? I have been planning something similar for the past 1 year but with a slight twist....importing the Greyhound Bus models (used here in the US for Coast to Coast passenger transport) to Nigeria to ply the Lagos to Abidjan route. These buses are extremely rugged decades-tested and proven bad ass workhorses. Equipped with the unkillable V-8 Detroit Diesel engines mated with the rock solid 8-speed/10-speed Allison Transmissions, they are guaranteed to run almost 1 million miles before needing an engine overhaul.

I already purchased the first fully air conditioned 55 passenger coach bus and plan to incrementally buy more. But I have no clue where and how to get trustworthy, level headed, honest, well experienced and God-fearing drivers to drive the buses. So I have suspended plans until I can get drivers with these qualities. I concluded that getting these type of drivers is the cornerstone pillar to success of this venture. Any thing less is courting disaster from Day 1. My plan is to pay each driver N1 million a month as an inducement and encouragement to incentivize them to give their moral and professional best to the job.

If anyone has any idea how to execute this project, please reach out.

Oga this your talk be like who don drink brukutu... Even you the owner cannot make N1m in 3 months, from the business

1k for security shouldn't be your problem, it happens everywhere, in some estate, each house pays N2m annually for security

Kayberg:
Plastic surgery can fix it…
This is the kind of scenario where plastic surgery is advised...

If she does plastic surgery, she would leave him and go for another man.

2 heads are better than 1