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Burgerlomo:
God bless you

Amen

farano please we need you here

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Hope our mod will take it to front page to let people benefit

Laveda:
Point noted!
You should space your writing.

Thanks ma'am correction noted

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
by Maryam Habu shinga

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

Here in Katsina two hours every five five days.

Josphine4good:
I hate men I don't think I will get married to one

My Sister but all men are not the same.

IVORY2009:
You strike or u nor strike oooo, you are not useful to the economy!

bros u dey vex oooo

Hmmm obinrin igbalode

SirdimayG:
Sound cool

Thank u bro

SirdimayG:
Are you from the town?¿

No, just there for my Secondary school education

I was the product of this school 1998-1999 session. end time kids

SolaceAndexIII:

DISCLAIMER: This topic refers to the route from Warri to Kano Only please.

I travelled recently from Warri to Kano and here are my observation about the HighWays:-
Southern Part
From Warri passing through Benin by pass, Ekpoma, Auchi, Okpella and Okene straight to Lokoja
POTHOLES: About 60% of the Road is filled with potholes, very dangerous I must say.
DOUBLE LANE: Less than 35% of the Road is double laned, Not good Either.
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Northern Part
From Lokoja passing through Abuja, Niger, Kaduna and Zaria straight to Kano.
POTHOLES: Less than 20% of the Road is filled with Potholes, at least this is good.
DOUBLE LANE: Up to 90% of the Road is double laned, a laudable feat.

Thats my analysis, what's your opinion guys.
SOURCE: My Journey to the North.

Our leaders in SS SE SW are just embezzle our money although they are eating our yam here also(North), but not like the other side of the country

I will prefer that No 6. It sweet die lol.

Jazakumullahu khaira for this write up, May Allahu ta'ala continue to assist our sisters.

hollandis:
Sarakis will win and President Buhari will be impeached

U see that in your dream?

Thank you for dis article, d same thing is happening here in Katsina State, we are still buying fuel at the rate of #200 per litre without any DPR to challenge them. May God punish any body who want to add to the sufferness of Nigerians

Omo Yoruba atata ni mi emi ko deni fi owo osi ju we ile baba mi

Hmm o ga ooo

Change has come to stay

I love this movies called Saraki CCT season 1

Sexytemi:
Guys and their funny tactics o, i remember when i visit my ex boo then...he would always say we should play game(Scrabble, whot, ludo e.tc) and that the loser would kiss the winner, and from there you would hear things like babe lemme just touch....i promise i won't enter...smh ooo....but being a strong girl, i no dey gree..and he ends up always disappointed

And you think this 1 no b lie. lol

From Katsina

alakara because I dey sell bean cake then

Equalizer:
Seems the girls are enjoying it.. Smiling why you are being molested.. don't they have female officers?

I tell u, is more than enjoyment

NgeneUkwenu:
Defending the indefensible.. pathetic wailer!

U dey mind him

She no no how to cook am, that is why she pretend.

scaredy:
I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons

1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32.
2. He treats me well

He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.

I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.

U have everything but u are complaining about NOTHING, because ugliness is nothing compared to true LOVE. I am sure so many women would be willing and dying to exchange their handsome husbands for your caring UGLY husband. Reflect!!!

veekid:
Again 28 yrs?? Wetin u dey study?

He dey study cocaineology.

dani3:
Now am geting the whole drama, APC want to empty pdp so that they will have no money to sponsor their 2019 campaign. Ok let them kwontinue, siping my kunu on top mango tree.

U no wan come down from mango tree for all this while, come down joor. lolz